Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

Finally grew balls and told the ex to go away and that we gotta stop talking. Sweet freedom.

[QUOTE=Doozle;36723707]you answer your phone during sex? that's stupid [editline]11th July 2012[/editline] and rude[/QUOTE] usually for me it rings and they are all why dont you answer that ???? then im like 'shit this is awkward'

I love hitting on old bitches, I got like 6 sexy gmilfs locked in my phone.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36705553]I tell my girlfriend I don't want her to drink, and she loves beer. She doesn't drink because I tell her I worry about what could happen and I don't want her to get addicted to it and she tells me she'll never drink unless she's with me, because then she knows she'll be safe. Yay, compromise! I mean if your going to cut your leg off, and your girlfriend said "No! Don't!" You're not being a bitch, and neither is she. She's just looking out for your well being.[/QUOTE] I have the same issue with my girlfriend. I much prefer it when I'm with her when she's drinking but she won't give up drinking when I'm not there, and it concerns me because she's with people who will do really stupid things. She's smart enough and I trust her not to do anything to really fuck herself over but if there's ever a situation where she makes a stupid decision, no one's going to be there to tell her it's stupid

if my girlfriend told me to not drink, smoke or do drugs in general, i would tell her to shut up. i love her, but it's my own choice.

Honestly, it sounds like all those girls that forbid you to do certain stuff are still pretty young. All my girlfriends in the past also called me an "alcoholic" when I drank some beers at the pub. Now at the university everything is pretty chill, my girlfriend and I drink both and such. Although she is not into drugs that much, like me. Although a good hookah is great from time to time.

[QUOTE=junker|154;36740373]Honestly, it sounds like all those girls that forbid you to do certain stuff are still pretty young. All my girlfriends in the past also called me an "alcoholic" when I drank some beers at the pub. Now at the university everything is pretty chill, my girlfriend and I drink both and such. Although she is not into drugs that much, like me. Although a good hookah is great from time to time.[/QUOTE] yeah, i've been thinking the same thing. forbidding to your partner from doing such stuff is childish.

[QUOTE=/B/rother;36740474]yeah, i've been thinking the same thing. forbidding to your partner from doing such stuff is childish.[/QUOTE] No one is forbidding anything. They just want to make sure they partake in alcohol in a safe environment, they aren't people like you who apparently don't make mistakes when drinking. :rolleyes:

It is really okay if they state their opinion about a certain topic. Drinking and doing drugs all the time is really bad and honestly I wouldn't want that either. Something like "Yeah, I really dislike all that drinking, could you stop for a while. I am worried about you" etc. Although my past girlfriends have been really childish and dumb. Well in those matters anyway.

I've told my girlfriend my opinions on things. I told her that I hate cigarettes, dislike weed, and indifferent about alcohol. She didn't even ask me if I wanted her to stop with the cigarettes, she flat out quit. She still smokes pot but makes an effort not to be high around me, and she drinks socially, with or without me, which doesn't bother me. I think it's less about telling someone what you want them to do and more about expressing your opinion and letting your partner decide what to do with it. I wouldn't, in good conscience, be able to tell my girlfriend to stop doing something that I didn't agree with, it's really her choice. The only exception would be some serious shit like meth or heroin, but even that would be less of a "I want you to stop" and more of a "I feel incredibly uncomfortable with this and I don't like you doing it"

If your partner is somewhat sensible, she/he will probably stop if she knows that it is bothering you. Well if she/he is actually dedicated to the relationship.

there's a difference between moderation and addiction, but it's hard to tell until you are experienced with that sorta thing

How is it hard to tell?

Most people don't realize they were addicted to something until after they've quit (or significantly reduced usage)

So my ex asked me if I want to get lunch sometime, but the thing is I'm in an awesome relationship with a girl at college right now and were currently doing long distance until college starts back up. I want to see my ex, but only AS FRIENDS. Yet, I'm seeing my ex who I dated for 2 years and it feels kinda wrong. Thoughts?

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36744315]So my ex asked me if I want to get lunch sometime, but the thing is I'm in an awesome relationship with a girl at college right now and were currently doing long distance until college starts back up. I want to see my ex, but only AS FRIENDS. Yet, I'm seeing my ex who I dated for 2 years and it feels kinda wrong. Thoughts?[/QUOTE] Do 'em both. EDIT: Come on, Somebody had to say it.

I had the similiar situation few months ago, I met with her. Although she went to a psychatric hospital for a while because of depression and suicidal tendencies. She doing fine though, so we met and went out for a while. We chatted about loads of stuff, I told her about my girlfriend. She was a bit surprised but it went fine. Also she changed a lot since we last met, so did I. So there weren't much feelings involved. Your girlfriend might be unpleased if you do such a thing, depends on the person. I would keep it a secret. There is nothing wrong to it if you do not make a move or such.

No man ya see, doing that would effectively tarnish my reputation with maybe around a group of 10 or so girls that are friends with my girlfriend. When that happens the 1 friend of my girlfriend would tell MY friend about it who would then tell everyone on the basketball team that we play for and BOOM I am now a scumbag to a shitload of people. Curse you morality response to the one above you

I am seeing my ex-girlfriend probably this holiday when I move back home, I do not know what awaits me though. Because when I think about her I always have those fond nostalgic memories of our great time, but the situation changed a lot and it is not so beautiful as it once was. I made that mistake a few times. When you think about your ex, it is always in a good way or an extremly bad. I always tend to think in flowery memories, which is really not the case anymore.

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36744315]So my ex asked me if I want to get lunch sometime, but the thing is I'm in an awesome relationship with a girl at college right now and were currently doing long distance until college starts back up. I want to see my ex, but only AS FRIENDS. Yet, I'm seeing my ex who I dated for 2 years and it feels kinda wrong. Thoughts?[/QUOTE] I wouldnt go if i were you. You're in a great relationship now, and there's no need to bring up the past.

Altough digging in the past makes a guy curious and is always a pleasure, a temptation.

My girlfriend told me today that she's probably going to buy an apartment with her straight, single guy friend because they both need to move out from their parents' house (she graduated high school last may, he did two years ago) and can afford it together. She says she can't live with another girl (she had a roommate for about five months who was a real cunt) She told me that they've been super close for a while now and I know that but he's a pretentious douche and I don't like/trust him at all. I trust her, but I don't trust him. She got upset when I told her that no matter who it is, no guy is comfortable with his girlfriend living with another guy, says I'm getting too controlling (especially since I told her last night that I'm uncomfortable with her drinking). I'd save up to buy an apartment with her too but I don't turn eighteen until I finish my senior year a year from now. Can you guys give me one good reason I shouldn't be uncomfortable with this? I can't seriously be the bad guy here, can I?

Dude, whether she says so or not SOMETHING is going to happen if she is with a straight, single male. I hate to give you bad thoughts now, but you are definitely right in not wanting this to happen. Nothing good can come from this. Although, I suppose this is the risk you get with an older woman while you are in HS.

The thing is, she views all of her friends as her "family" because her real family isn't there for her, and me thinking that this guy is a piece of shit offends her. I've had a worse feeling about this guy recently than any of her other guy friends, and now when I hear this about them living together, I'm just absolutely stunned that she won't see from a boyfriend's perspective. Not MY perspective per se, but any fucking guy that will ever date her. It's like she says that if she cheats there'll be signs beforehand, but it's not always premeditated. Had a bad day, pissed at my boyfriend, this guy's there for me, he makes a move and she goes through with it. Were I to say "what if I bought a place with this girl", she's the type of stubborn girl that would say she'd be okay with it, she won't admit that she's wrong in this situation. I'm thinking I should just talk to one of our mutual best friends and make it clear that it's a really ignorant and fucked up thing to do. Hopefully the next time she gets upset with it she'll turn to them and have her second opinion side with me.

Sounds like she isn't honest with you. I'd tell her to do whatever the fuck she wants. Thinking, getting pissed, sad is unhelpful. You told her you don't like her moving to an apartment with another guy and she tells you you're too controlling.... well....

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36748700]You know, even if the worst happens, you'll get to say "I told you so." If she's worth keeping, she'll stay faithful. Sounds like she hasn't even considered how you feel about the situation, just how she feels. You should tell her to try to see it through your eyes, how, to you, this guy is a sex-craving stranger living with the person you care most about.[/QUOTE] The problem is that she insists that they're such close friends and is legitimately offended by the thought of me seeing that way. By the way, they got to know each other because they smoked pot together all the time. That's the way to quality friendships. She quit a few months back and just now started talking to him again recently. I do trust her and have faith in our relationship but she's just so immature about this and won't see eye-to-eye with me, and I don't know what to do to get her to do that

Tell her you don't care. That's also to see eye-to-eye.

[QUOTE=Handsome Pete;36748550]My girlfriend told me today that she's probably going to buy an apartment with her straight, single guy friend because they both need to move out from their parents' house (she graduated high school last may, he did two years ago) and can afford it together. She says she can't live with another girl (she had a roommate for about five months who was a real cunt) She told me that they've been super close for a while now and I know that but he's a pretentious douche and I don't like/trust him at all. I trust her, but I don't trust him. She got upset when I told her that no matter who it is, no guy is comfortable with his girlfriend living with another guy, says I'm getting too controlling (especially since I told her last night that I'm uncomfortable with her drinking). I'd save up to buy an apartment with her too but I don't turn eighteen until I finish my senior year a year from now. Can you guys give me one good reason I shouldn't be uncomfortable with this? I can't seriously be the bad guy here, can I?[/QUOTE] They're living in separate rooms or int he same room? I doubt that they're gonna do anything in your back, but I think your girl isn't being straightforward with you nor even caring about reassuring you. You should seriously talk to her. I understand how that can be really frustrating for you but it could work out for the best. Either way I understand your concern. Personally I used to be best friends with another guy's gf. He hated my guts because I was with her all the time and used to have dinner and lunch a lot in her place (and she used to come by my house too) but nothing ever happened between us, nor was I interested in having anything romantic with her. But whenever her boyfriend had some problem with both me or her we would usually talk with him, we had nothing to hide and there was nothing to hide. I kinda became friends with the guy. And there's one thing you should be on the look out for: If he or she start getting all evasive about what's going on, you should worry about it, cause there's definitely something fishy going on. If you're not happy with her evasive attitude you should break up. Personally I hate when people don't have the balls to be straightforward enough to tell you what's happening in the face. Let's hope it doesn't come to that. Just be calm and avoid getting paranoid. Be as rational as possible.

Went on a rant about religion today. Was talking about why I liked being an atheist when my girlfriend told me that she's an atheist too. Win?

Who gives a crap anyway? I hate this atheism fanaticism.