Yesterday I broke up with my girlfriend
Actually she was the best of all. She was quite special and somehow fitted the picture of my ideal girlfriend that I created in my mind after dating girls before. She was not ideal. At times she was egoistic and really annoying, but most time she was very cute.
We got to know eachother on the internet. I never believed a good relationship could come out of the web, I was wrong. She was participating in a beauty competition (that she won later ), she found me and couple of my friends on my and her friend's list and asked us to vote for her. I started a conversation with her and we found out that we have a lot in common. I asked if she wants to come meet me and my friends, she agreed.
Our relationship started when she came from another town to my town to meet with me and my friends. She had nowhere to stay for the night and I suggested my flat. She agreed. When we were alone in my home, she cooked the food and we had some fun. I thought: "No fucking way I am sleeping tonight ". I suggested playing a game where people ask eachother sex -related questions. We played it for some time and then I kissed her. After that we moved to bed.
Hard to describe what was so good about all that. Everything was perfect for 2 months. It's not just sex (actually not sex in the full meaning, only fingers and... something else,because of reasons ) what was great. I felt confident and good around her, I liked to make her feel good. Strange but near her I behaved like a real man and a perfect lover. She gave back as much love as I gave her, which never happened during other relationships.
Then it all basically died. She lost the interest after the "impulse " was over. The reason was simple - she didn't love me. Before that I didn't believe in love. Now I do. By that moment I felt that we lack something between us - love. I could do without it, I could still make her happy, but I felt that we didn't love eachother, but refused to admit it. She couldn't do without love. We talked it over and decided to become friends.
I don't even feel bad. Yes, I would like it to last for longer. But I feel like it was necessary, like I have done no mistakes and did whatever was possible. Like I finished a chapter of a book and understood everything.
[QUOTE=Evenios;36875707]if you are lucky enough to have a hot girlfriend who puts out for you should be happy a lot of us here dont. if i was you if to any hot guys here . get as many girls as you can. seriously. dont fall into the trap of needing to "fall in love" hell. dont even stick with one girfriend,. most "hot women" today are all the same and theres really no point to waste your time for months and years with just one of them. i think the trap that many guys get into today is they get married way too young. then their wife because a total so and so or lets herself go after she has a kid and then what are you going to do? your stuck. if you leave her when you have a kid then you end up looking like a bad father. Id say just dont be exclusive. meet as many women as you can. do as many hot women as you can. hell best thing to do is to not even waste your sperm on them. get two girls together and make them have sex with each other as you watch. thats the real thing. if your hot. and hot girls want you. why settle for just one? there all pretty much the same these days. if your hot. dont for a second think the girl your with is with you for your deeper self. they want you for your looks, period. and guys who arnt so hot? i would stay away from these" hot girls" most of them are incredibly shallow and incredibly insecure and not worth the time or effort you put into trying to woo them when they could care less.
id go for a women who maybe not "hott" but at least is a little cute. maybe the shy girl maybe the cute girl who doesnt party and all but who is nice someone like that.
the problem with really hot girls who party all the time is they constenatly want to be entertained if they are not. they get bored and like a child will run and find the next thing that excites them.
personally i think todays hot women are best left to porn and not worth messing with . its like fine art. its nice to look at for a while but hands on experience will just ruin everything.
but if you can get girls. and if you better yet have girls who ask YOU out. go for it. if they really want you that bad make them make out and do each other for you. be in control make them do things for you they never though they would. if they like to be the slut then lets make it then.
and for the record i personally think that any hot guy who has not had a three some with 2 girls or at least has not personally seen two hot women make out with each other
is a moron.
thats just my thought because thats what so what i would do.
but if you ask me too some of these guys today need to keep their shit in their pants. like when i lived with my ex gf for a few months she had a underage sister (sadly her sister was hotter then she was but then if she was she would have never dated me lol) and her stupid sister woud have sex in the living room each night with her boyfriend who would stay over and suprise suprise they ended up having a baby.
but i dont care personally i think most women today are complete wastes of time and are only good for one thing. I know that sounds mean but seriously. look at the way the world is today.
so all i say is go for it guys while it lasts.[/QUOTE]
mario why
[QUOTE=MuffinZerg;36883586]Yesterday I broke up with my girlfriend
Actually she was the best of all. She was quite special and somehow fitted the picture of my ideal girlfriend that I created in my mind after dating girls before. She was not ideal. At times she was egoistic and really annoying, but most time she was very cute.
We got to know eachother on the internet. I never believed a good relationship could come out of the web, I was wrong. She was participating in a beauty competition (that she won later ), she found me and couple of my friends on my and her friend's list and asked us to vote for her. I started a conversation with her and we found out that we have a lot in common. I asked if she wants to come meet me and my friends, she agreed.
Our relationship started when she came from another town to my town to meet with me and my friends. She had nowhere to stay for the night and I suggested my flat. She agreed. When we were alone in my home, she cooked the food and we had some fun. I thought: "No fucking way I am sleeping tonight ". I suggested playing a game where people ask eachother sex -related questions. We played it for some time and then I kissed her. After that we moved to bed.
Hard to describe what was so good about all that. Everything was perfect for 2 months. It's not just sex (actually not sex in the full meaning, only fingers and... something else,because of reasons ) what was great. I felt confident and good around her, I liked to make her feel good. Strange but near her I behaved like a real man and a perfect lover. She gave back as much love as I gave her, which never happened during other relationships.
Then it all basically died. She lost the interest after the "impulse " was over. The reason was simple - she didn't love me. Before that I didn't believe in love. Now I do. By that moment I felt that we lack something between us - love. I could do without it, I could still make her happy, but I felt that we didn't love eachother, but refused to admit it. She couldn't do without love. We talked it over and decided to become friends.
I don't even feel bad. Yes, I would like it to last for longer. But I feel like it was necessary, like I have done no mistakes and did whatever was possible. Like I finished a chapter of a book and understood everything.[/QUOTE]
It seems like the honeymoon phase wore off and then you noticed that there wasn't much else between you.
Or like my best friend calls it: The eye of the storm (the ending of the honeymoon).
[QUOTE=Sunday_Roast;36884021]It seems like the honeymoon phase wore off and then you noticed that there wasn't much else between you.
Or like my best friend calls it: The eye of the storm (the ending of the honeymoon).[/QUOTE]
I always knew that's not gonna last, but I didn't want to admit it.
Still was the best relationship I've ever had.
Although, this is not about a girlfriend, it's about my boyfriend, I hope it's alright.
So, my boyfriend really loves hentai and anime characters. He finds them very very sexy. I don't mind him watching hentai, since I think that everyone has an equal right to watch they find arousing. The problem is.. that it makes me feel like I'll never be sexy enough, since I (obviously) don't look like a hentai girl.
What to do? Should I just start dressing up like an anime to make him want me more or is that just too much?
[QUOTE=Stonem;36884394]What to do? Should I just start dressing up like an anime to make him want me more or is that just too much?[/QUOTE]
waywayway too much
porn is just a release. pretty much all guys watch porn, whether they're in a relationship or not, and some girls do too, and no one should ever take offence at it. i'm glad that you're not. no one should ever be [i]compared to porn[/i] though. that's degrading. if you feel you are being compared to pornography, hentai pornography at that, then your boyfriend has some serious issues distinguishing a physical and emotional release of hormones that is purely fantastical, to real-life. if that's the case then he probably shouldn't be with someone
it could all be in your head though. i watch porn occasionally, usually when my girlfriend is away, and she does the same. i know she must be watching stuff where guys have 10" dicks and she must know i'm watching stuff where the girls have perfect figures and whatnot. we don't compare each other to these things though. that'd be crazy
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;36884441]waywayway too much
porn is just a release. pretty much all guys watch porn, whether they're in a relationship or not, and some girls do too, and no one should ever take offence at it. i'm glad that you're not. no one should ever be [i]compared to porn[/i] though. that's degrading. if you feel you are being compared to pornography, hentai pornography at that, then your boyfriend has some serious issues distinguishing a physical and emotional release of hormones that is purely fantastical, to real-life. if that's the case then he probably shouldn't be with someone
it could all be in your head though. i watch porn occasionally, usually when my girlfriend is away, and she does the same. i know she must be watching stuff where guys have 10" dicks and she must know i'm watching stuff where the girls have perfect figures and whatnot. we don't compare each other to these things though. that'd be crazy[/QUOTE]
I don't think it's all in my head, unfortunatley. He get's very attracted to girls in cosplay and that generally look like something out of an anime. I just.. makes me feel like I'm not good enough. Like he would enjoy me more if I looked like that. Sure,I have some cartoonish features, but I'm guessing it's not enough.
if you're feeling you're not enough for your boyfriend only based on aesthetic features then this could be simply because you're very insecure, in which case i don't know what advice to offer you other than "suck it up", or it could be your boyfriend's fault. this could either be because he's obsessed with unrealistic ideals that he sees in japanese animations and animated porn, as you say, or maybe you don't feel adequate for him for some other reason? like maybe he's just not a very touchy-feely person or he doesn't compliment you often or make you feel loved?
i think you probably need to talk to him about it and/or move on and see if you find someone who doesn't make you feel so insecure. see if you can express to him why you're feeling insecure
It's not bothering me enough too do something about it. Which I guess is good.
I am pretty insecure, and always have been, and it's pretty hard to break out of that. And yeah, he isn't the ''touchy-feely'' type of person.
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[QUOTE=Stonem;36884519]I don't think it's all in my head, unfortunatley. He get's very attracted to girls in cosplay and that generally look like something out of an anime. I just.. makes me feel like I'm not good enough. Like he would enjoy me more if I looked like that. Sure,I have some cartoonish features, but I'm guessing it's not enough.[/QUOTE]
Well, try looking into cosplay. As long as it isn't uncomfortable with you and he is interested, it can just spice up your normal routine.
[QUOTE=G3rman;36886858]Well, try looking into cosplay. As long as it isn't uncomfortable with you and he is interested, it can just spice up your normal routine.[/QUOTE]
I don't know anything about cosplay since I'm not into that kind of stuff. I'm thinking of buying a small japanese school uniform, putting on anime-ish makeup and surprising him with that.
[QUOTE=Stonem;36886893]I don't know anything about cosplay since I'm not into that kind of stuff. I'm thinking of buying a small japanese school uniform, putting on anime-ish makeup and surprising him with that.[/QUOTE]
Just do whatever is comfortable for you.
[QUOTE=G3rman;36887046]Just do whatever is comfortable for you.[/QUOTE]
Oh, if I only knew what I'm comfortable with.
Find out then.
[QUOTE=Seith;36887126]Find out then.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, I guess I'll have to do that.
Don't guess, do.
you must become an anime
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;36887529]you must become an anime[/QUOTE]
Yeah. Only way to go.
[editline]22nd July 2012[/editline]
Ironically speaking
You must pray to Jesus to transform your flesh into that of an Anime.
[QUOTE=Seith;36887165]Don't guess, do.[/QUOTE]
are you a parody of yourself
[QUOTE=The Mighty Boat;36887648]You must pray to Jesus to transform your flesh into that of an Anime.[/QUOTE]
Dear Jesus. Turn me into a fucking anime so that i can fullfill my boyfriends sexua fantasies and fuck him sensless. Thank you fuckface.
Got those huge fucking anime eye things and surprise him by saying "am I Kawaii uguu-San?"
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;36887802]Got those huge fucking anime eye things and surprise him by saying "am I Kawaii uguu-San?"[/QUOTE]
Haha, dear god. Desu desu desu
I'm halfway serious too
[QUOTE=Stonem;36884394]Although, this is not about a girlfriend, it's about my boyfriend, I hope it's alright.
So, my boyfriend really loves hentai and anime characters. He finds them very very sexy. I don't mind him watching hentai, since I think that everyone has an equal right to watch they find arousing. The problem is.. that it makes me feel like I'll never be sexy enough, since I (obviously) don't look like a hentai girl.
What to do? Should I just start dressing up like an anime to make him want me more or is that just too much?[/QUOTE]
sever
[QUOTE=gra;36888126]sever[/QUOTE]
Never.
[QUOTE=Stonem;36888163]Never.[/QUOTE]
blow him more
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;36888601]Everytime I try sex I always almost accidentally do anal.[/QUOTE]
what a scrub
[QUOTE=gra;36888489]blow him more[/QUOTE]
I blow him everytime he asks for it as well as when I feel like I really want to.
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