Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

[QUOTE=Autumn;37052570]also good luck with trust with your new girl, since she knows you'll cheat. "but baby, i only cheated so i could get with youu <333" doesn't work. [/QUOTE] Well, she is my ex-girlfriend and we both have still so strong feelings that I never had with any girl before. But we got seperated through distance, now things are better and she is more awesome than ever. I cheated on my girlfriend and it was a bit to fast to be honest. But we both know eachother for 3 years and had a great relationship, knowing what kind of shit I took to get this relatinship going is enough evidence for my love, besides she had a rough time to. Now I just need to tell all my friends and family about it which makes me feel very unpleasant.

[QUOTE=SparkDog;37059344](happy) vent time! So I've been in a e-relationship (since the summer of 2011) until about 2 weeks ago when I finally drove up (about 20 hours of driving) to see her. As much as I fell in "love" (to deflect any criticism about using the L word) with her through Skype or whatever, it was nothing compared to what I felt when I actually spent time with her. The good (and possibly bad) things about seeing someone for the first time after you've been in an e-relationship with them for a while is that it takes all the guess work of what kind of person they are with regards to their sense of humor, values, nuances, and most other aspects of their personality. Needless to say we ended up getting busy about an hour after we first meet. We get along absolutely swimmingly, I'm my awkward self in public and she loves it. We're so wrapped up in each other that both of us pretty much ignore what we hate about PDA and get incredibly mushy in public, which was a huge guilty pleasure. On day 2 of 8, she starts her period, but somehow we end up having sex about 12 times total in those 7 days. We were both very iffy about period sex, but our instincts got the better of us. I actually didn't mind it as much. Do a lot of people completely rule out sex at that time of the month? Granted it was the only week I could see her for a while, so I may have been extremely biased.[/QUOTE] i'm way happy for you. i'm in basically the same situation as you - met my bf online last spring, met him irl for the first time this may. people always say stuff like "if you're in an online relationship you don't know what the other person is like in real life", but when you talk through voice chat constantly you do pick up a lot about their personality. i'm usually incredibly shy, but immediately felt comfortable with my bf when i met him for the first time because i was already so used to his personality and conversational habits. he was exactly the same in person as he was online for me. but yeah, it's awesome to hear about someone else in a similar situation to me. it's hard to talk about LDRs because a lot of people make assumptions about them being illegitimate relationships, so i'm glad to hear i'm not alone on it.

best of luck with your long distance relationship both of you i worked hard at mine for 2 years, drove one weekend a month to see her 7 hours away, skype calls, phone calls, texts, the whole works having someone in person is a totally different experience, a much different dynamic to it edit: single now, but it was for the best, i can never go back to doing another LDR

[QUOTE=djshox;37060265]having someone in person is a totally different experience, a much different dynamic to it[/QUOTE] can't argue with that. i'd imagine that in a lot of cases, internet-based relationships don't translate well to real life, seeing as many people behave differently in person than they do online. luckily my bf's extremely social and good at making people feel comfortable around him so that definitely helped with our first real-life interactions as well.

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37058817]instead of trimming i shaved down there this morning[/QUOTE] once you start [I]you don't go back[/I]

[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37058817]instead of trimming i shaved down there this morning, it was my first time actually shaving my genitals and i was worried i'd slip in the shower or something! im very proud of my work it looks v beautiful [editline]3rd August 2012[/editline] i would post my artwork in here but im sure nobody wants to see it[/QUOTE] When it starts to grow back it's going to be the worst

[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37060202]i'm way happy for you. i'm in basically the same situation as you - met my bf online last spring, met him irl for the first time this may. people always say stuff like "if you're in an online relationship you don't know what the other person is like in real life", but when you talk through voice chat constantly you do pick up a lot about their personality. i'm usually incredibly shy, but immediately felt comfortable with my bf when i met him for the first time because i was already so used to his personality and conversational habits. he was exactly the same in person as he was online for me. but yeah, it's awesome to hear about someone else in a similar situation to me. it's hard to talk about LDRs because a lot of people make assumptions about them being illegitimate relationships, so i'm glad to hear i'm not alone on it.[/QUOTE] Yeah, I remember saying I was in the same situation as you a while ago when you posted about it. It really takes a certain type of personality for LDRs to work. I'm clear minded enough to understand all of the concerns that may come with e-relationships and long-distance shit but for some reason it all feels right for me. I'm shy as hell too, but the whole time I was up there I felt completely myself, just not any bit shy at all because I was with someone I could trust completely. On a sexual side note, she was a virgin before me, but she's broken her hymen from playing around and/or from being a horse rider (which, btw, makes for amazing sex). She wasn't all that tight the first time around but became tighter. Not sure if that has anything to do with the period, but I'm pretty sure she's never felt tighter before. I remember lasting about 45 minutes the first few times and by the end I was done in 7 because it felt incredible. Not sure if this is a common phenomenon, we were both intrigued.

Are you circumcised?

oh and towels are a god send for period sex. I lived at her dad's house for the whole trip and I remember carrying the bloody towels and sheets past him to the washing machine. he gave me a brow [editline]2nd August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=loopoo;37060490]Are you circumcised?[/QUOTE] No

[QUOTE=SparkDog;37060516]oh and towels are a god send for period sex. I lived at her dad's house for the whole trip and I remember carrying the bloody towels and sheets past him to the washing machine. he gave me a brow [editline]2nd August 2012[/editline] No[/QUOTE] Wow man, that's insane. How did the dad not get mad at you or anything? That's like the biggest slap in the face lol "Oh hey, not only am I boning your daughter, but I figured it'd be a good idea to carry soggy, blood-stained towels past you just to cement the thought in your mind. I hope you're not thinking of us during messy period sex!" [editline]3rd August 2012[/editline] I personally wouldn't do that cause I just find that quite disrespectful.

[QUOTE=SparkDog;37060437]Yeah, I remember saying I was in the same situation as you a while ago when you posted about it. It really takes a certain type of personality for LDRs to work. I'm clear minded enough to understand all of the concerns that may come with e-relationships and long-distance shit but for some reason it all feels right for me. I'm shy as hell too, but the whole time I was up there I felt completely myself, just not any bit shy at all because I was with someone I could trust completely.[/QUOTE] yeah, i definitely agree it's not for everyone. it's easy to underestimate the difficulties going into an ldr and there are a lot of obstacles that can lead to a breakup. my boyfriend and i were both extremely cautious going into it. before we got together we basically decided to date other people for a while since we wouldn't be able to be together in person, and after a while we realized we both had no interest in other people whatsoever. as for what you said earlier about pdaing in public - i've always been adamantly against pdaing but i think when you're in an ldr you're more than entitled to do that sort of thing. when my bf was here i could hardly stand being out of physical contact with him at any point in time - usually i don't like holding hands etc but it's a lot more important when you've only got a few days per season with each other. (also, i'd love to talk to you on steam sometime, if you don't mind! it's nice to hear from someone in the same sort of situation)

[QUOTE=loopoo;37060541]Wow man, that's insane. How did the dad not get mad at you or anything? That's like the biggest slap in the face lol "Oh hey, not only am I boning your daughter, but I figured it'd be a good idea to carry soggy, blood-stained towels past you just to cement the thought in your mind. I hope you're not thinking of us during messy period sex!"[/QUOTE] Well he's a hippy dad who just tells me and my girlfriend that he's done shit he shouldn't have done when he was a teen, and he said that if he were in our position he'd probably have done the same thing. That and our room was about 10 feet away from his, and he was comfortable with us sleeping together. I think. I absolutely love him, and not just for being "okay" with all of it. [editline]2nd August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=loopoo;37060541] I personally wouldn't do that cause I just find that quite disrespectful.[/QUOTE] I felt completely awful, but she insisted on it being okay with him and I suppose it sort of was. I thought we were being obvious but my gf said he was clueless. I guess being a dad who isn't a helicopter parent you learn to look the other way when it comes to these things. He's helped us a ton with regards to trying support us in our relationship, and trust me, the last thing I would do is to offend him.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37060820]sparkdog considering yourself lucky because i can't so much make her moan slightly or her mom enters her room like a goddamn warhawk[/QUOTE] when my bf visited for the first time he stayed in a nearby hotel because my parents weren't totally comfortable with having someone we'd never met before residing in our house for a week, so we were able to get a lot of privacy. don't really know where we'll go if he comes to visit me again though, haha. my room's right across from my parents'..

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37060908]i'm not allowed to stay over past 8pm, her mom p much just kicks me out BUT OF COURSE I AM A GODLESS HEATHEN AND HER PRINCESS MUST BE SHIELDED FROM ME[/QUOTE] i pretty much told my mom i was sexually active when i was 16 or 17 so she knows and doesn't care. no idea how my dad feels about any of it though, he tends to be pretty unobservant so i wouldn't be surprised if he hadn't noticed i wasn't really home for 4 or 5 days when my bf was here it's mostly just awkward to do stuff in the house while they're there, haha. i've been walked in on before etc

yeah that's weird like i heard there was some big building all those catholics were into in like italy or something

I can't wait to get a girlfriend and meet her family, it's gonna be awesome.

you wanna get a girlfriend so you can meet her family? that's weird

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37060955]yeah, like i've mentioned before i think, her mom is like the ubercatholic, i didn't even know they still existed in europe[/QUOTE] Depends on where in Europe. Every state still has a predominant religion, but there is a good percentage of Atheist/Agnostics that are accounted for. (33-36% in Germany IIRC)

i don't think my bf's parents speak much english could be awkward

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37060999]but that's southern europe FINE ILL SPECIFY THE AREA OF EUROPE I PERTAIN TO (the low lands)[/QUOTE] catholisme is het grootste religie in nederland, shouldn't that be true for belgium as well?

i'm sorry i thought you just meant catholic

je bent mijn kleine konijntje i should learn to speak dutch again, i was good enough to the point where dutch people didn't correct me

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37061148]nobody uses konijntje as an affectionate term, not here anyway and you really shouldn't bother, the language isn't really useful and it's not even that pretty[/QUOTE] Dutch is like our ugly cousin where they add j's everywhere.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37061148]nobody uses konijntje as an affectionate term, not here anyway[/QUOTE] they did in holland [QUOTE=Yahnich;37061148]and you really shouldn't bother, the language isn't really useful and it's not even that pretty[/QUOTE] i wouldn't mind living there again i'm sure belgium's nice too

[QUOTE=loopoo;37060987]I can't wait to get a girlfriend and meet her family, it's gonna be awesome.[/QUOTE] tbh i miss my ex's family a lot. he had an amazing mom who cared about him immensely, i really hated how he took it for granted. his sisters were really cool, too. also holy shit my boyfriend has superhuman abilities when it comes to remembering small details to get me gifts

[QUOTE=G3rman;37061164]Dutch is like our ugly cousin where they add j's everywhere.[/QUOTE] dutch is far sexier than german lol not to mention easier to say things with, german has some complex structures and pronunciation.

[QUOTE=Yahnich;37061173]no screw you, you are the ugly cousin[/QUOTE] :( [IMG]http://i729.photobucket.com/albums/ww299/ocpetersen/GermanSmiley.gif[/IMG] </3 [IMG]http://freesmileyface.net/smiley/flags/holland-flag-44.gif[/IMG] [editline]2nd August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=thisispain;37061203]dutch is far sexier than german lol not to mention easier to say things with, german has some complex structures and pronunciation.[/QUOTE] Ha, if it were another language maybe. We are both equally ugly in the sex department. Ohne dich kann ich nicht leben. (I can't live without you) Du bist mein Engel. (You are my angel)

[QUOTE=thisispain;37061000]you wanna get a girlfriend so you can meet her family? that's weird[/QUOTE] No, that's retarded. I meant more along the lines of I'm looking forward to getting a girlfriend, meeting her family, making a good impression, hopefully getting along. The thought of having a second home and second family is just really great. I'd love to be able to stop off on weekends and just be able to feel at home there. Also, I'm a hopeless romantic sort of guy. I once walked 7.5 miles at 12am on a school night (it was Thursday and I had school the next day) to go and apologize personally to my girlfriend. We'd just been in an argument and I was a dick. She got upset, told me good night, hung up, wouldn't answer my calls. I sent her a text saying if she didn't answer I'd have no other choice but to walk to her house and tap at her window and say sorry. She didn't pick up, tried to call my bluff. I walked there. Best night of my life, was such an amazing feeling. To be fair, she didn't pick up because it's a 30 minute car drive / 60 minute bus drive to her place and she lives up in these hills. I said fuck it and just walked. Was a crazy night. [editline]3rd August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37061184]tbh i miss my ex's family a lot. he had an amazing mom who cared about him immensely, i really hated how he took it for granted. his sisters were really cool, too. also holy shit my boyfriend has superhuman abilities when it comes to remembering small details to get me gifts[/QUOTE] Yeah, this is why I look forward to it :) a lot of the girls I already know have amazing families, with really down-to-earth and caring parents. I figure I'm gonna end up dating one of them (due to my ex, I didn't get too friendly with the girls I knew out of loyalty) cause quite a few were really nice and clicked with me.

[QUOTE=loopoo;37050533]Rhenae, are you a girl? Cause I can assure you lol girls legs aren't thin and shiz, they're just as coarse, or even coarser than guys hair. Same goes with armpit hair. And female razors are designed to give a smooth shave, whether it's your pubes or your legs, but it's a general rule of thumb to wax your vagina rather than shave it, cause shaving it cause it to itch like hell. [/QUOTE] Yes I am a girl and I do not know what girls legs your stroking. ohgod try to look up image example public lice nononono. Anyway when it is growing in both feel rough but if you actually look at the hairs compared public hair is thicker. I would probably wax anyway if it didn't hurt like fuck, and was readily available to me. Mostly if it just didn't hurt like fuck. Oh and was easier to do myself... [quote] Guy, fuck razors? Do you mind waxing? Cause seriously, waxing must be a bitch. I went and got my blood taken a few days back and the tape they put over the cotton wool (to cover the needle's point of entry) was fucking horrible. Taking it off was like waxing. It hurt like a bitch. How do you do it? Do you trim then wax, or just wax the jungle in it's natural form? Do you tame the beast before killing it [/quote] Quite the opposite actually it is necessary to have it generally at least a 1/4 inch in length before each wax, so the hair actually gets pulled out. Would trim it if it is a lot longer though. Edit: You people talk too much! I break to go to my bfs and actually have a relationship and I come back and this happens! I can't have a life if i want to efficiently talk about having a life XD Oh well, I need a new clock. [editline]2nd August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=G3rman;37061220] Ohne dich kann ich nicht leben. (I can't live without you) Du bist mein Engel. (You are my angel)[/QUOTE] Hawt.

[QUOTE=loopoo;37060987]I can't wait to get a girlfriend and meet her family, it's gonna be awesome.[/QUOTE] Not for me. I've no real problems with her parents, but her father likes to talk and talk and talk about absolutely nothing.