[QUOTE=madnath619;37074358]I fucking hate it when you lost friends because of love. My friend likes a girl, but wont date him because she doesn't want to hurt her friend who also likes her. He's changed for the worst. He pretends to be depressed, and he is literaly obsessed with her. His iPhone wallpaper is a picture of her face, taken straight from Facebook, which of course, following what most 15 year olds do when they take pictures, is filter raped to hell. He says the picture is beautiful and will get pissed off if you disagree about the littlest thing. I just want my old friend back.
Oh yeah, something else. Dating somebody thanks to peer pressure is the worst thing ever. In short, I liked a girl lots for about a year, and some people peer pressured her to date me. I, of course, was the happiest guy alive.
She left me 3 days later, told me she never actually liked me and pretty much left me in the dust. I'll never forget that day, because it happened on the day that Meet the Medic was released.[/QUOTE]
it sounds like you're in high school or something
[QUOTE=Haxxer;37074447]it sounds like you're in high school or something[/QUOTE]
[quote]15 year olds[/quote]
probably
Sorry in advance if this is a double post, its getting late here and it looks like my last attempt to post didn't work.
I'm not going to be chased out of the thread with pitchforks and angry village people if I'm 15 am I? I don't want to cause any trouble.
[QUOTE=madnath619;37074693]Sorry in advance if this is a double post, its getting late here and it looks like my last attempt to post didn't work.
I'm not going to be chased out of the thread with pitchforks and angry village people if I'm 15 am I? I don't want to cause any trouble.[/QUOTE]
Don't be silly, you won't. But a few people might crack a few jokes or find it hard to believe that a 14 year old girl you're potentially dating is doing funky things with you.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
When I was 15, the peak of my relationships was [I]holding hands.[/I] 15 year olds nowadays, damn.
I'm actually single, and its going to be like that for a long time. Girls here prefer looks to personality, and most beat me in both catagories anyways.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37074950]i am sorry for your loss[/QUOTE]
I'm not man. Seriously, at 15, it just ain't right to be doing anything more. I enjoyed my time as a 15 year old, kids were kids. Nowadays, kids know way too much and it's just crazy.
[QUOTE=madnath619;37074358]I fucking hate it when you lost friends because of love. My friend likes a girl, but wont date him because she doesn't want to hurt her friend who also likes her. He's changed for the worst. He pretends to be depressed, and he is literaly obsessed with her. His iPhone wallpaper is a picture of her face, taken straight from Facebook, which of course, following what most 15 year olds do when they take pictures, is filter raped to hell. He says the picture is beautiful and will get pissed off if you disagree about the littlest thing. I just want my old friend back.
Oh yeah, something else. Dating somebody thanks to peer pressure is the worst thing ever. In short, I liked a girl lots for about a year, and some people peer pressured her to date me. I, of course, was the happiest guy alive.
She left me 3 days later, told me she never actually liked me and pretty much left me in the dust. I'll never forget that day, because it happened on the day that Meet the Medic was released.[/QUOTE]
Oh the sweet 16! :v:
[video=youtube;ClxXDfvtoj0]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ClxXDfvtoj0[/video]
Dude. Your friend's problem is his age and how overwhelming the idea of love (or what he thinks love is) is.
There's nothing you can do unless wait until his feet get on the ground.
And it's not the fact of it being peer presured. It's the fact that you're still experimenting and learning to cope with things. It's not by chance that 15/16 are the years of heartbreaks. You're just learning how things really are. The reality is everybody at your age is going through that. And your heartbreak was nothing more nothing less caused by another teenager experiencing the idea of "love" with you just to realize you weren0t what she really thought and wanted. It happens to everybody at some point so don't take harsh conclusions about love and relationships so soon.
No wonder even Billy Idol wrote a song about it.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37074996]I'm not man. Seriously, at 15, it just ain't right to be doing anything more. I enjoyed my time as a 15 year old, kids were kids. Nowadays, kids know way too much and it's just crazy.[/QUOTE]
How old are you anyway loopoo?
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Cause right now you sound 40 + :v:
[QUOTE=madnath619;37074358]I fucking hate it when you lost friends because of love. My friend likes a girl, but wont date him because she doesn't want to hurt her friend who also likes her. He's changed for the worst. He pretends to be depressed, and he is literaly obsessed with her. His iPhone wallpaper is a picture of her face, taken straight from Facebook, which of course, following what most 15 year olds do when they take pictures, is filter raped to hell. He says the picture is beautiful and will get pissed off if you disagree about the littlest thing. I just want my old friend back. [/QUOTE]
oh man, i remember when i was 15..
had this female friend who would latch onto any guy she got a crush on and stalk him for months on end. i remember hearing about how she managed to get my male friend's phone number without his knowledge, no idea how. she told me she liked this new canadian guy we hung out with, a week later he asked me out and i said yes. so as soon as she found out - again, not sure how she knew - she messaged us both on facebook (this is a girl i was good friends with for 3 years prior) and called me a series of rather colorful names for going out with him when she liked him (never mind the fact he wasn't remotely interested in her). he got a similar treatment.
never received an apology, the next day she resumed her routine of sitting behind us on the bus and trying to talk to us, following us to whatever secluded part of the school we tried to hide away in, and in general not giving us a moment of alone time. we stopped dating three weeks later.
regarding your actual post: this is something everyone does in high school. when somebody gets their first boyfriend/girlfriend they're overcome with infatuation and end up abandoning the group they regularly hang out with. he'll get over it, he's not in love and eventually the infatuation will wear off and he'll forget her.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37075092]oh man, i remember when i was 15..
had this female friend who would latch onto any guy she got a crush on and stalk him for months on end. i remember hearing about how she managed to get my male friend's phone number without his knowledge, no idea how. she told me she liked this new canadian guy we hung out with, a week later he asked me out and i said yes. so as soon as she found out - again, not sure how she knew - she messaged us both on facebook (this is a girl i was good friends with for 3 years prior) and called me a series of rather colorful names for going out with him when she liked him (never mind the fact he wasn't remotely interested in her). he got a similar treatment.
never received an apology, the next day she resumed her routine of sitting behind us on the bus and trying to talk to us, following us to whatever secluded part of the school we tried to hide away in, and in general not giving us a moment of alone time. we stopped dating three weeks later.
regarding your actual post: this is something everyone does in high school. when somebody gets their first boyfriend/girlfriend they're overcome with infatuation and end up abandoning the group they regularly hang out with. he'll get over it, he's not in love and eventually the infatuation will wear off and he'll forget her.[/QUOTE]
There must be one of those girls in even group of friends... Except the one I knew had a thing for English guys cause we live in Canada and get a fair amount of English immigrants.
If I'm really honest, it doesn't bother me as much as it should. It's literally been drilled into my head I'll never get a girlfriend.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
Please auto merge. I can't reply on a phone. Sorry!
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37075045]How old are you anyway loopoo?
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Cause right now you sound 40 + :v:[/QUOTE]
Haha, I'm 19. I don't mean to sound like an old grandpa but really, when I was 15 it was really rare to see a bunch of kids showing PDA's in one of the main shopping streets of my town. Now, walking around as a 19 year old, you've got 15(maybe younger!) year olds snogging in view of everyone and it's just weird because me and all my friends at 15 knew what sex was, knew what love was, knew where babies came from but to our 15 year old heads, we weren't interested in all the intimate stuff. Like I said, holding hands was enough for us, and for the girls we dated :p
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37075071]yeah you're like what 18? because in my day you still had earlybloomers and latebloomers, just like now and just like every generation, maybe in the more christian day it was a bit rarer but still.
you ain't THAT old[/QUOTE]
Yeah I totally agree with early bloomers / late bloomers stuff, and I know for a fact that at 15 I was definitely no late bloomer. I dunno how to explain it, just to all of us, we knew better than to get intimate because we knew we were still kids. At 15, you still are a kid. I remember when I was 15, I used to think I was the shit. Now when I see a 15 year old, I think "What the fuck, was I really that small at 15?"
[QUOTE=madnath619;37075243]If I'm really honest, it doesn't bother me as much as it should. It's literally been drilled into my head I'll never get a girlfriend.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
Please auto merge. I can't reply on a phone. Sorry![/QUOTE]
Oh shut up.
You will.
One day you'll be married, have a huge belly and kids all over you house. Then you'll be asking "how the fuck did I get into this mess?"
Savour the teenage years, the highschool years while they last. Some things may be frustrating but the ones that will mean something to you, will mean a great deal for your heart.
Soon enough you'll be on college or university away from you current friends. And trust me, it will be harder to connect anew with someone like you do right now in highschool.
Just be yourself and you'll do fine. Don't be afraid of girls and never think you won't get any.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37075468]i think you're and your friends' overestimating your and your friends' maturity[/QUOTE]
Uh, no? I grew up in a small town, where all of us attended the same primary school / secondary school. The girls and guys I grew up with, I grew up with through both primary and secondary school. Everyone knew everyone. It was a smallish town where all the families got to know each other due to the vicinity of the school. We were like a big family. I'm not overestimating anything. We were all damn good friends who knew each other's family's very well and it just didn't occur to us to want to get intimate with girls we genuinely cared for.
[QUOTE=madnath619;37075243]If I'm really honest, it doesn't bother me as much as it should. It's literally been drilled into my head I'll never get a girlfriend.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
Please auto merge. I can't reply on a phone. Sorry![/QUOTE]
Yeah you will. Just not yet, but it will happen when you meet the right person.
The problem with people in high school is that they don't understand relationships, and I don't think you should enter into something you don't fully understand. Mostly in high school, relationships are treated as some sort of institution that two people have to maintain and the idea of "having a girlfriend" is some sort of construct that gives you social standing in high school. That's not what a relationship actually is, but the media glorifies relationships so much to people who are too young to understand that a 'relationship' as Hollywood describes it is generally a self-destructive mechanism.
The best kind of relationship is the one where you meet someone and you both hang out and talk enough that things naturally progress until you awkwardly admit to each other that the fact that you're in what most people call a relationship is pretty much a de facto thing. And even then not much feels different. Like when the fact that it's a relationship becomes completely irrelevant and the person becomes the most important thing. And that shit happens all too rarely in high school, if ever. In my high school, there were dozens of relationships and only one has lasted beyond high school. If you'd rather stand outside it then good on you in my opinion. But if you think you're never going to meet a girl to date then you're an idiot. of course it's going to happen.
every girl who i have spoken to in recent memory was exceedingly dumb (or felt the need to act like it to the extent that it overrode whatever attractive aspects of her personality remained) save for this one girl i was talking to for hours at my friend's graduation party. unfortunately she's somewhat taken and my only real connection to her is through the stupid girl who i let myself get used by, and we're no longer on speaking terms. so essentially the one girl who was an intellectual challenge to me is cut off from me entirely by external factors.
and i don't mean to come off as one of those people who come on here all, "ugh everyone is so much stupider than i am! no point in wasting my time with these girls," but really of the people beyond my immediate friend group who i've contacted lately, the vast majority were really stupid.
very frustrating because i'm dying to see this girl again but it's just not feasible. moreover, i'm leaving for college in ten days so it's kind of pointless anyway. but ugh, i'm longing for the legitimate back and forth intelligent conversation that i had with another female human being.
this has been a rant. i'm mildly intoxicated so please pardon any errors that occurred on count of that.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;37076136]
and i don't mean to come off as one of those people who come on here all, "ugh everyone is so much stupider than i am! no point in wasting my time with these girls," [/QUOTE]
sry but you do
especially after you referred to a girl as an "intellectual challenge"
according to all the smart women i've spoken to, being smart gets you treated in a negative way compared to acting dumb.
of course that might just be smart women being stuck-up, smart people are 100 times more likely to be bitter and angry about things.
@jo: fair enough, but in my defense challenge was probably not the best word. what i meant was that i held conversation with her that wasn't just small talk and it was very refreshing, and that all the other girls i can remember talking to have been at parties and drunk.
so maybe i'm just not a big fan of the party scene.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
and i remember when i was a middle schooler, and not to say i have matured incredibly since then, but i honestly thought i was king shit and everyone else was at fungal levels of intelligence back then. i look around myself now and realize i am no dumber or smarter than most people around me, that there are people both smarter and dumber than me, but despite that i can't grapple with the whole attitude of the women in my town that really dumb = attractive.
is this because i'm still dealing with high schoolers?
i'm trying so hard to not act superior and such
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;37076246]@jo: fair enough, but in my defense challenge was probably not the best word. what i meant was that i held conversation with her that wasn't just small talk and it was very refreshing, and that all the other girls i can remember talking to have been at parties and drunk.
so maybe i'm just not a big fan of the party scene.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
and i remember when i was a middle schooler, and not to say i have matured incredibly since then, but i honestly thought i was king shit and everyone else was at fungal levels of intelligence back then. i look around myself now and realize i am no dumber or smarter than most people around me, that there are people both smarter and dumber than me, but despite that i can't grapple with the whole attitude of the women in my town that really dumb = attractive.
is this because i'm still dealing with high schoolers?
i'm trying so hard to not act superior and such[/QUOTE]
You [I]might[/I] have a superiority complex. Or maybe you just lack humility.
It's not high school, its just adolescents.
I think he's just drunk and he's not picking his words well enough.
-Snip-found the super friendly social and love advice thread.
Guys lemme ask you guys, how long did it take for you to say "I love you" to your partners?
[QUOTE=egghead1991;37082101]Guys lemme ask you guys, how long did it take for you to say "I love you" to your partners?[/QUOTE]
Most adolescent relationships confuse love with infatuation, so it doesn't take too long. Not saying that there aren't cases where they really do end up having a successful relationship, but generally speaking its rushed.
It took a few months for me to be able to justify using the words, but we said them earlier on.
I've been with my girlfriend for two months now, but we dated for a month before that. Mostly just hanging out etc, nothing too intimate. I'm not sure if I should say it, sometimes I feel I should but then I wonder if I'd regret saying it, if it'd be too soon etc. But I definitely feel something for her, something strong. Not sure if it's love though.
[QUOTE=egghead1991;37082101]Guys lemme ask you guys, how long did it take for you to say "I love you" to your partners?[/QUOTE]
about 6-7 months, though we weren't actually in a relationship together until a month later.
there isn't a set duration for how long you should wait to say it or anything. just say it when it seems right, not because you feel obligated to
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;37076246]@jo: fair enough, but in my defense challenge was probably not the best word. what i meant was that i held conversation with her that wasn't just small talk and it was very refreshing, and that all the other girls i can remember talking to have been at parties and drunk.
so maybe i'm just not a big fan of the party scene.
[editline]4th August 2012[/editline]
and i remember when i was a middle schooler, and not to say i have matured incredibly since then, but i honestly thought i was king shit and everyone else was at fungal levels of intelligence back then. i look around myself now and realize i am no dumber or smarter than most people around me, that there are people both smarter and dumber than me, but despite that i can't grapple with the whole attitude of the women in my town that really dumb = attractive.
is this because i'm still dealing with high schoolers?
i'm trying so hard to not act superior and such[/QUOTE]
Sounds like it's because high schoolers /adolescents If your going to university or college you should be able to meet some better girls there :), or more specifically more grown up.
My boyfriend and I waited about 2 months I think? We meant it though both of us had discussed before then when you first meet someone it's physical attraction and it doesn't count until love till you know each other a lot better. Besides we had been courting quite some time before then so it was past the supposed 4 month thing, although i don't like that concept very much.
Really just say it when it feels right.
I've been with my current girlfriend officially for about 3 months but we've been talking and seeing each other since about march and we still haven't said it. It takes a lot with some people but its not a big deal
What would you guys do if your girlfriend posted a picture of her ass online. I just found out one of my friends broke up with his girlfriend over her doing it.
i would say "that's nice" and hope nobody starts stalking her using ass comparison technology
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