[QUOTE=Ghost101;37087167]I'm fairly old fashioned like you are, you just have to let other people live the way they want to live, then they'll let you live the way you want to live.[/QUOTE]
yeah. imo, if someone's happy and they're not causing any harm, it's nobody else's business to tell them how to live their life.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37087174]is this a playdate or are you guys taking it slow[/QUOTE]
I originally thought we were taking it slow, but he's been resting his hand on my lap a lot lately. So who knows where this'll end u-- fuck guys, this is my dad. What am I doing.
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[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37087194]yeah. imo, if someone's happy and they're not causing any harm, it's nobody else's business to tell them how to live their life.[/QUOTE]
This girl I knew at my school was a lesbian and the amount of shit she got for it was horrible. She was the nicest person you could ever hope to have as a friend, and she had a really awesome name too (Isabel, her nickname was Izzy, how cool is that?). She was adorable and a great friend to have, and whenever I'd be walking through the park on my way to lunch, she'd run up and hug me and ask how my day was. People who gave her grief are such assholes because there was literally nothing you could fault her for, and who gives a shit what her sexual preference is. Solid friend for a good two years, makes you realize just how lovely human beings can be.
serious question loopoo: are you an islamic fundamentalist?
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or any kind of fundamentalist for that matter
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;37087465]serious question loopoo: are you an islamic fundamentalist?
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or any kind of fundamentalist for that matter[/QUOTE]
Nope. I'm Agnostic, but I've had a somewhat religious upbringing. My mother is British (not Pakistani British, she's British British. Her dad owned a pub, she was a Protestant, but converted to Islam, to the horror of her family, but they supported her) and my father is Middle-Eastern.
Haven't really grown up around my father, since he was always working abroad, so that just left me with my three sisters and mother. My mother is really religious, and up until about a year and a half ago, I used to be as well. But then something clicked in me and I realized it was a load of rubbish (religion, at least. Believing in a higher being isn't rubbish though). So I've had Islamic upbringings but I don't believe or follow them any more.
I know this is gonna make it easier for you guys to shit all over my opinions, but my religious upbringing (which wasn't really religious, my parents weren't fanatics and they never really bothered teaching us to be honest) doesn't affect my stance on how to treat women (I say treat women because I know this was asked due to the past few posts I've made on the whole "How would you feel if your girlfriend posted a picture of her ass on the internet") or my opinions on it either.
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Part of the reason my ex left me is because she was a Muslim, and she said I was too "open-minded". At the end of the day, I still loved her, I still treated her well, I still cared for her, but I guess it showed that I didn't believe in the stuff she did. We'd always argue about our images of God. She always portrayed him as something to be feared, someone who punished easily and was unforgiving. In my head, I think of him completely differently.
in my head god's basically kim jong-un
except not as adorable
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37087607]dude chill he just asked if you are a fundamentalist[/QUOTE]
Come on, if I answered just a yes or no to that question, I wouldn't be doing myself any justice. It's not a solid "No" answer, because, like I said previously, I have had religion in my life.
Just figured I'd answer him to the best of my ability buddy. No harm done.
if youre so confident in your own views, then why are you being so defensive about them?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088163]if youre so confident in your own views, then why are you being so defensive about them?[/QUOTE]
That's a pretty retarded comment. Everyone has different opinions, so of course people will challenge other's opinions. Hence why I was defending mine. Why are you giving such a shit about it anyway?
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37088401]why do you keep giving dumbs instead of disagrees, that just seems disrespectful to me in an argument
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good job seith you're a hero of the people you sure showed me[/QUOTE]
Why are you so anal about ratings? Ratings mean jack-shit. I rate dumb because I think it's dumb, I'll rate it disagree when I disagree. Most of what Jo says is pretty dumb.
I really miss being intimate, not necessarily sex but just physically and emotionally in general. Whenever I think back to an ex I'll get a memory like that which makes me feel really loved. Like when I was around my ex's house her dad combined our second names as a joke - implying marriage - and she just turned around with a huge smile and these big loving eyes and just kissed me, I melted.
I had a nice moment recently that reminded me how much I missed it. I was out with a bunch of friends and one of the girls came over and hugged me to 'keep me warm' as I was shivering, but we ended up with arms wrapped around each other, holding hands, hugging and all that jazz for the rest of the night.
Cuddle me.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37031701]You are right, but the term 'Shit' can be pretty general. [B]Tighten it up boys, tighten it up.[/B][/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=E1025;37088456]I really miss being intimate, not necessarily sex but just physically and emotionally in general. Whenever I think back to an ex I'll get a memory like that which makes me feel really loved. Like when I was around my ex's house her dad combined our second names as a joke - implying marriage - and she just turned around with a huge smile and these big loving eyes and just kissed me, I melted.
I had a nice moment recently that reminded me how much I missed it. I was out with a bunch of friends and one of the girls came over and hugged me to 'keep me warm' as I was shivering, but we ended up with arms wrapped around each other, holding hands, hugging and all that jazz for the rest of the night.
Cuddle me.[/QUOTE]
Move on and get a new girl?
look, you came into this thread to ask for advice to do with your situation, but when people called you out on the way you were acting, you simply hid behind the defense of "they're my own views" (and calling people dumb/rude)
of course they're your own views, but what we were trying to do was get you to realize why those aren't the best views to have, so maybe you could begin to change for the better
now you can sit here and say "I will act the way I want to act" or you can actually listen to advice
[QUOTE=E1025;37088456]I really miss being intimate, not necessarily sex but just physically and emotionally in general. Whenever I think back to an ex I'll get a memory like that which makes me feel really loved. Like when I was around my ex's house her dad combined our second names as a joke - implying marriage - and she just turned around with a huge smile and these big loving eyes and just kissed me, I melted.
I had a nice moment recently that reminded me how much I missed it. I was out with a bunch of friends and one of the girls came over and hugged me to 'keep me warm' as I was shivering, but we ended up with arms wrapped around each other, holding hands, hugging and all that jazz for the rest of the night.
Cuddle me.[/QUOTE]
You :( Why'd you throw in the "Cuddle me." at the end, it got me right in the heart :(
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[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088475]look, you came into this thread to ask for advice to do with your situation, but when people called you out on the way you were acting, you simply hid behind the defense of "they're my own views" (and calling people dumb/rude)
of course they're your own views, but what we were trying to do was get you to realize why those aren't the best views to have, so maybe you could begin to change for the better
now you can sit here and say "I will act the way I want to act" or you can actually listen to advice[/QUOTE]
Are you sane? You have a tendency to think things that aren't true. This whole "debate" situation is down to the fact that when this guy:
[QUOTE=phobia-_-;37085185]What would you guys do if your girlfriend posted a picture of her ass online. I just found out one of my friends broke up with his girlfriend over her doing it.[/QUOTE]
said that, and I replied with:
[QUOTE=loopoo;37085389]I wouldn't break up over it, but I'd tell her I'm not okay with it. The thought of hundreds of fat neckbeards jacking off to it is really not nice. Plus, I'd want my SO to have a little bit of modesty. I don't get these guys that post pics of their girlfriend's tits and stuff online (with the girlfriend consenting to it as well), cause if you loved her, you wouldn't do that knowing that other guys will just be looking at her like a piece of meat.
That's just how I feel on the subject though, I'm sure everyone has different views.[/QUOTE]
which opened up a whole can of worms and led to this debate. I didn't ask for any advice in the beginning. Stop replying to things you think happened, because this is the second time you've had a rail at me for something I didn't even say.
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And I'm sorry, but if someone is trying to get me to change my views from respecting my SO and looking out for her, to being okay with her posting nude pics online, I'm gonna stick with my views thanks. The type of girl that posts nudes of herself online isn't really the type I'd wanna get involved with. Just cause I don't conform to your own views doesn't make mine wrong. To each his own, stop feeling like you're on the moral high-ground because everyone is of the same opinion as you.
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And in this entire shitty argument, I haven't called anyone dumb. Again, you're going off and imagining things that didn't happen. I've rated dumb. Stop getting so upset over a pixellated image. It's you and Yahnich that have been getting in a frenzy over the fact that "Oh no he rated dumb, how rude".
[QUOTE=G3rman;37088462][editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
Move on and get a new girl?[/QUOTE]
I'm not stuck on my ex at all, I moved on a while back. I'm just saying I miss little moments like those because me feel all lovey dovey
[QUOTE=E1025;37088524]I'm not stuck on my ex at all, I moved on a while back. I'm just saying I miss little moments like those because me feel all lovey dovey[/QUOTE]
You shouldn't miss them if you have moved on and gotten a new girl to make 'lovey dovey' moments with.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37088528]You shouldn't miss them if you have moved on and gotten a new girl to make 'lovey dovey' moments with.[/QUOTE]
What's wrong with missing an ex, as long as you don't act on those feelings? You don't have to shut off all emotion to an ex to be "moved on". I've moved on from my ex, but that doesn't mean I still don't care about her or miss her, and - to a certain extent - even love her. I am moved on because I know I won't ever get back with her, and I'm totally okay with that.
alright i guess I'm insane for thinking that someone who posted a slightly messed up situation in an advice thread might need advice
it wasn't the response to the nude thing that seemed off, it was your next comment about literally not wanting her to go out in public in her choice of clothing. that's not a healthy relationship
but your whole response to the fundamentalist thing really spells it out for me
you said it yourself, a simple yes or no wouldn't suffice, you [i]needed[/i] to spend all that effort justifying your own lifestyle to us
doesn't that sort of strike you as odd? instead of trying to justify everything, why not instead just be open to some feedback?
well this is strange
my bf got me gold status lol
all i said was blue members didn't have a search function and then a minute later he says "okay you should have gold within 24 hours!"
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the gold font makes me feel regal
[QUOTE=G3rman;37088528]You shouldn't miss them if you have moved on and gotten a new girl to make 'lovey dovey' moments with.[/QUOTE]
Well why not? Those are great memories and I'll treasure them, and I look forward to having nice moments in the future.
oh apparently he got me it so i could link him more BDA posts
btw i really dont care if you rated me dumb, someone else brought that up.
but you did in fact call me retarded, and called me insane,
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088541]What's wrong with missing an ex, as long as you don't act on those feelings? You don't have to shut off all emotion to an ex to be "moved on". I've moved on from my ex, but that doesn't mean I still don't care about her or miss her, and - to a certain extent - even love her. I am moved on because I know I won't ever get back with her, and I'm totally okay with that.[/QUOTE]
Nothing is inherently wrong, but its not always that great of a habit. I'd much rather reminisce on memories made with my current girl than my last one.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088553]alright i guess I'm insane for thinking that someone who posted a slightly messed up situation in an advice thread might need advice
it wasn't the response to the nude thing that seemed off, it was your next comment about literally not wanting her to go out in public in her choice of clothing. that's not a healthy relationship
but your whole response to the fundamentalist thing really spells it out for me
you said it yourself, a simple yes or no wouldn't suffice, you [i]needed[/i] to spend all that effort justifying your own lifestyle to us
doesn't that sort of strike you as odd? instead of trying to justify everything, why not instead just be open to some feedback?[/QUOTE]
You do realize I'm single right now, yes? Also, this is the comment you're talking about, I take it:
[QUOTE]by that logic: it's okay for her to walk around in a skimpy skirt and bikini bra strap all day long through the mall. it's not a matter of "it's her body she can do whatever she wants with it", it's more a matter of "I really care about her and I don't like the thought of my significant other walking around in clothes like that where guys will look at her like a piece of meat"[/QUOTE]
Firstly, that was a rather extreme example, secondly, I addressed this crystal clear later in the post:
[QUOTE]I'm all for letting my SO wear whatever she wants, but at the end of the day, I care about her as well.[/QUOTE]
That isn't me saying "I care about her so I'll stop her going out", that was just me cementing my whole point together that I care about her and what she wears, but at the end of the day, it's her choice. If only you knew what my relationship was like, it [I]was[/I] healthy. I never restricted her from doing anything. There was such a high level of trust in our relationship, we both perfectly understood what we each wanted.
And with the whole fundamentalist thing, someone asks me if I'm an Islamic fundamentalist. Knowing how half of Facepunch is with their views on Islam, you're blaming me for treading carefully? I've had a lot of abuse in my life over religion, I didn't want to receive more over a forum. Hence why I took so long to spell everything out, so I wouldn't have people jumping at my throat. Also, what "lifestyle" am I trying to justify? I'm just like anyone else in this thread, so what if I've got a few different views, isn't that what makes us human at the end of the day? So no, it does not strike me as odd.
I'm open to feedback, hit me with it. What's your feedback Jo The Shmo?
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37088588]ok so oldie55 is your bf good to know[/QUOTE]
yeah he just joined so he could see the posts i was linking him, haha. apparently he decided to investigate the automotives section of the site since he's a car geek.. after a few minutes he said something like "i do not belong here" and probably won't be coming back
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37088588]ok so oldie55 is your bf good to know
btw: i still find it extremely rude to call other people's opinions dumb but hey you're still doing it so whatever[/QUOTE]
Rating someone dumb is the same as calling them dumb? I was rating his post dumb, that doesn't necessarily make him a dumb user. Stop taking them to heart, it honestly doesn't make sense why you're getting so upset over a rating.
Guy Mannly, what are BDA posts?
I'll give you more if you want
I don't think any girlfriend of yours needs the level of "care" that you're giving her where you think it's actually a bad thing for other guys to look at her.
girls can take care of themselves, they know what they're getting into if they walk around in skimpy clothing, and they know how to handle it, or choose not to do it at all.
they dont need some boyfriend figure watching over them and taking "care" of them.
you should be there to have a relationship with her, not be her guardian angel
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088610]Guy Mannly, what are BDA posts?[/QUOTE]
art
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088605]Rating someone dumb is the same as calling them dumb? I was rating his post dumb, that doesn't necessarily make him a dumb user. [/QUOTE]
funny doesnt seem like it to me
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088446]Most of what Jo says is pretty dumb.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088618]I'll give you more if you want
I don't think any girlfriend of yours needs the level of "care" that you're giving her where you think it's actually a bad thing for other guys to look at her.
girls can take care of themselves, they know what they're getting into if they walk around in skimpy clothing, and they know how to handle it, or choose not to do it at all.
they dont need some boyfriend figure watching over them and taking "care" of them.
you should be there to have a relationship with her, not be her guardian angel[/QUOTE]
While I am not for overlording a girl, there is a line between feeling good and dressing fun and then being a Schlampe.
But chances are you can see the difference before you even think about dating. Otherwise you can only blame yourself by trying to change someone who obviously doesn't mind being promiscuous.
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