imagine if your girlfriend started paying really close attention to the amount of time you spent playing video games.
im sure we all know that video game aren't exactly the best use of our time, even though we enjoy them.
so yes, the girlfriend would mean well by watching over you and telling you that she thought you were playing too many video games, but it would still feel like being smothered
nobody needs a second parent in a relationship
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088618]I'll give you more if you want
I don't think any girlfriend of yours needs the level of "care" that you're giving her where you think it's actually a bad thing for other guys to look at her.
girls can take care of themselves, they know what they're getting into if they walk around in skimpy clothing, and they know how to handle it, or choose not to do it at all.
they dont need some boyfriend figure watching over them and taking "care" of them.
you should be there to have a relationship with her, not be her guardian angel[/QUOTE]
It really isn't as extreme as you think it is. That's the whole problem with this argument, what I put down in words isn't the reality of it. I understand where you're coming from. I know girls can take care of themselves. My mum is strong, but that doesn't stop her wanting my dad to be by her side and look out for her. My mum personally hates if guys stare, because she says it sickens her the way she can see them mentally undressing her (again, not [I]all[/I] guys, but you do have a good bunch that do do this!) and she said she feels comfortable when my dad is there to ward off the stares.
It's just you seem to think I'm some sort of monster that refuses my girlfriend to leave the house without some sort of stamp of approval from the almighty Loopoo.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088605]Rating someone dumb is the same as calling them dumb? I was rating his post dumb, that doesn't necessarily make him a dumb user. Stop taking them to heart, it honestly doesn't make sense why you're getting so upset over a rating.[/QUOTE]
there's a disagree rating too, you know. just because you disagree with someone's opinion doesn't make their opinion less credible. of course it's just a rating but as you *just* said yourself, you're using it to tell him you think his opinion is bad because it conflicts with your own.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088637]imagine if your girlfriend started paying really close attention to the amount of time you spent playing video games.
im sure we all know that video game aren't exactly the best use of our time, even though we enjoy them.
so yes, the girlfriend would mean well by watching over you and telling you that she thought you were playing too many video games, but it would still feel like being smothered
nobody needs a second parent in a relationship[/QUOTE]
Well I wouldn't mind her telling me her concerns about it, just like I'd hope she wouldn't mind if I had an opinion if she consistently chose to dress in a certain manner that made me raise an eyebrow.
However, I'd never let that get in the way of a relationship if I was serious about the girl.
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37088642]wow wow wow, are you saying girls that wear skimpier clothing are promiscuous?[/QUOTE]
No, I don't think I said that at all.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088644]It really isn't as extreme as you think it is. That's the whole problem with this argument, what I put down in words isn't the reality of it. I understand where you're coming from. I know girls can take care of themselves. My mum is strong, but that doesn't stop her wanting my dad to be by her side and look out for her. My mum personally hates if guys stare, because she says it sickens her the way she can see them mentally undressing her (again, not [I]all[/I] guys, but you do have a good bunch that do do this!) and she said she feels comfortable when my dad is there to ward off the stares.
It's just you seem to think I'm some sort of monster that refuses my girlfriend to leave the house without some sort of stamp of approval from the almighty Loopoo.[/QUOTE]
so far every time you've made a post and somebody's opposed the opinion you expressed, you've gone back and said "no no no that isn't what i meant at all! you guys are misinterpreting it!" and never given a clear explanation of what you "actually" meant
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088646]there's a disagree rating too, you know. just because you disagree with someone's opinion doesn't make their opinion less credible. of course it's just a rating but as you *just* said yourself, you're using it to tell him you think his opinion is bad because it conflicts with your own.[/QUOTE]
No, I rated Jo's posts dumb because he was putting his own words and then basing his argument off what he said. That - to me, at least - is dumb. It would have been a disagree if he replied to [I]my[/I] post, instead of what he "thought" my post was.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088644]It really isn't as extreme as you think it is. That's the whole problem with this argument, what I put down in words isn't the reality of it. I understand where you're coming from. I know girls can take care of themselves. My mum is strong, but that doesn't stop her wanting my dad to be by her side and look out for her. My mum personally hates if guys stare, because she says it sickens her the way she can see them mentally undressing her (again, not [I]all[/I] guys, but you do have a good bunch that do do this!) and she said she feels comfortable when my dad is there to ward off the stares.
It's just you seem to think I'm some sort of monster that refuses my girlfriend to leave the house without some sort of stamp of approval from the almighty Loopoo.[/QUOTE]
that's fair enough, i dont really think of you to that extreme
its just that when you started getting super defensive about the whole thing, it changed from seeming like an innocent comment with a little bit of negativity to an actual bad line of thinking about relationships
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088662]No, I rated Jo's posts dumb because he was putting his own words and then basing his argument off what he said. That - to me, at least - is dumb. It would have been a disagree if he replied to [I]my[/I] post, instead of what he "thought" my post was.[/QUOTE]
i still dont really see where i did that beside saying you wanted advice.
i was wrong about that, but seeing as this is an advice thread I would think that you might be able to tell it was an honest mistake
it also wasnt really the basis for my argument
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088658]so far every time you've made a post and somebody's opposed the opinion you expressed, you've gone back and said "no no no that isn't what i meant at all! you guys are misinterpreting it!" and never given a clear explanation of what you "actually" meant[/QUOTE]
I've gone over in a previous post why I do that, it's seriously hard putting your own thoughts and emotions into a proper, coherent, understandable reply. Especially to people over the internet who have vastly different views. I can tell you right now, if we were all sitting next to each other having this conversation, it'd be different, cause you'd get me.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088675]I've gone over in a previous post why I do that, it's seriously hard putting your own thoughts and emotions into a proper, coherent, understandable reply. Especially to people over the internet who have vastly different views. I can tell you right now, if we were all sitting next to each other having this conversation, it'd be different, cause you'd get me.[/QUOTE]
alright now this actually bugs me
when i word something wrong or slightly misinterpret your post, I am dumb for putting words into your mouth
but if you mess up the wording on your post, its simply a case of "we need to be talking face to face and THEN you'd see it my way!"
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37088683]itt an emotional maelstrom over a completely pointless subject[/QUOTE]
i like good arguments/discussions and i dont think anyones really getting emotional over it
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37088683]itt an emotional maelstrom over a completely pointless subject[/QUOTE]
Something to keep us all occupied and I'm pretty sure we're mature enough to take this and not cry about it.
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088684]alright now this actually bugs me
when i word something wrong or slightly misinterpret your post, I am dumb for putting words into your mouth
but if you mess up the wording on your post, its simply a case of "we need to be talking face to face and THEN you'd see it my way!"[/QUOTE]
The difference between what I do and what you do is the fact that you go ahead and quote a post from me, then reply to it by removing some things I've said and replacing them with your own words or thoughts on the matter, then you base your argument on the post you just made.
All I say is "I've worded my post completely shit, it doesn't accurately capture my view on the topic, sorry for typing like a monkey and not getting my view across". I feel a bit hopeless when people are picking apart my poorly-constructed post and I realize "well, shit. if you put it that way, then yeah, it sounds quite bad, but I didn't mean it that way."
i mean no offense by this, i'm just wondering based on your difficulties expressing yourself - is english your first language?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088743]i mean no offense by this, i'm just wondering based on your difficulties expressing yourself - is english your first language?[/QUOTE]
Haha yeah it is. Here's a little story, I felt like a complete fool when I said it:
My principal invited me into her office, I had to get some reference for the college I wanted to attend. On this reference, it had a number of boxes, that ranged from "Not good" to "Very good". When the principal read out a question to me that said "The student's English skills" I said, in a real smug tone, "Well, I've lived in England for fifteen years of my life." The principal looked at me as if I was thick and said "You can live 30 years in a country, but that doesn't necessarily mean you've got any skill when it comes to writing or reading".
So yeah, English is my first language, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm the business when it comes to writing essays or what have you.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088568]oh apparently he got me it so i could link him more BDA posts[/QUOTE]
you're a lucky gal to find a guy that considerate
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088756]Haha yeah it is. Here's a little story, I felt like a complete fool when I said it:
My principal invited me into her office, I had to get some reference for the college I wanted to attend. On this reference, it had a number of boxes, that ranged from "Not good" to "Very good". When the principal read out a question to me that said "The student's English skills" I said, in a real smug tone, "Well, I've lived in England for fifteen years of my life." The principal looked at me as if I was thick and said "You can live 30 years in a country, but that doesn't necessarily mean you've got any skill when it comes to writing or reading".
So yeah, English is my first language, but that doesn't necessarily mean I'm the business when it comes to writing essays or what have you.[/QUOTE]
if it makes you feel any better, i stutter and trail off into incoherent mumbled rants trying to correct trivial errors in things i just said aaaall the time. basically i make myself looked mentally handicapped in front of anyone i'm not familiar with because i panic whenever i'm prompted to speak and my mind goes blank.
i like to think i'm fairly coherent online, but i don't think most people understand a word i say out loud since i can't edit as i go
so yeah, i guess we're opposites!
im pretty wordy and longwinded, and a lot of the time my arguments are just sort of a string of consciousness instead of an actual well thought-out structured post
most of the time i trim my posts to be as concise as possible. i tend to ramble unnecessarily if i don't watch myself.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088777]if it makes you feel any better, i stutter and trail off into incoherent mumbled rants trying to correct trivial errors in things i just said aaaall the time. basically i make myself looked mentally handicapped in front of anyone i'm not familiar with because i panic whenever i'm prompted to speak and my mind goes blank.
i like to think i'm fairly coherent online, but i don't think most people understand a word i say out loud since i can't edit as i go
so yeah, i guess we're opposites![/QUOTE]
Ah, don't worry, you must be hella cute when you stutter (I hope this isn't the wrong thing to say, I'm just trying to be nice, because it is kind of cute, but I understand it can be difficult, so I'm not trying to make a difficult problem seem lighthearted). I get that sometimes. Like I'll be walking out of my apartment and my neighbour will say good morning and ask me how I am, and I'll get all flustered and say "good afternoon" and then keep thinking in my head "damn it, it's morning, not afternoon" and it just gets worse if I keep making mistakes. Thankfully I don't stutter, but I get a lot of silly mistakes that make me look mentally handicapped as well.
Hooray for opposites! :v: If we were friends, we'd be unstoppable.
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37088784]im pretty wordy and longwinded, and a lot of the time my arguments are just sort of a string of consciousness instead of an actual well thought-out structured post[/QUOTE]
Oh God, don't ever friend me on Steam. I literally type whatever comes to my mind, and I don't clump it all together either. I just write a line, press enter,write a line. By the end of what I say, you'll have about a hundred lines to scroll down.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088817]Ah, don't worry, you must be hella cute when you stutter (I hope this isn't the wrong thing to say, I'm just trying to be nice, because it is kind of cute, but I understand it can be difficult, so I'm not trying to make a difficult problem seem lighthearted.[/QUOTE]
lmao i see what you mean by wording things badly
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
most awkward sentence
i was leaving the optometrist once and while i was halfway out the door the girl at the friend desk said "have a nice day" and i stopped in the middle of my stride and said "sure" then turned to look at her like "we both acknowledge that was a bit awkward" and then backed out of the door and left.
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
i no longer go to that optometrist
i accidentally called my dad "bro" once
[QUOTE=Kopimi;37088850]i was leaving the optometrist once and while i was halfway out the door the girl at the friend desk said "have a nice day" and i stopped in the middle of my stride and said "sure" then turned to look at her like "we both acknowledge that was a bit awkward" and then backed out of the door and left.
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
i no longer go to that optometrist[/QUOTE]
Every time I go to a fast food chain, [B][I]every time[/I][/B] they say enjoy your food, I say "You too" and then I facepalm.
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088857]i accidentally called my dad "bro" once[/QUOTE]
I once called my teacher mum... I was 17.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37088857]i accidentally called my dad "bro" once[/QUOTE]
i sometimes call my gf bro :v:
[QUOTE=loopoo;37088874]I once called my teacher mum... I was 17.[/QUOTE]
i called my girlfriend 'mum'
it wasn't funny
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
she called me 'dad' once too
[QUOTE=G3rman;37088574]Nothing is inherently wrong, but its not always that great of a habit. I'd much rather reminisce on memories made with my current girl than my last one.[/QUOTE]
your memories are gonna be there whether you want them to or not, and there's no point in trying to push away the nice ones. life is short, lots of bad and painful things happen; one can't have too many good memories.
it's not like you'd be mentally cheating on your partner or something if you fondly remembered something nice that happened with someone else before
it sounds almost like trying to erase evidence of past relationships - that's not really what moving on is about. besides, the nice moment you shared with someone is just as much yours as it is theirs.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37090461]i called my girlfriend 'mum'
it wasn't funny
[editline]5th August 2012[/editline]
she called me 'dad' once too[/QUOTE]
holy shit lol, how do u even do this
ive never called anybody something they werent
i've called rusty dad but its ok because he is
you once called me mom i was very insulted i am your father not your mother
[QUOTE=Rusty100;37090721]holy shit lol, how do u even do this
ive never called anybody something they werent[/QUOTE]
it's a pretty common thing people do. usually happens in school though with people mistakenly calling teachers "mum" or something similar. probably to do with tiredness and thinking about something else just before you talk
I love how you can tell by the amount of new posts, how idiotic someone is being in the thread
i call people dude entirely too much.
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