Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

So I started dating this girl six months ago. Currently I'm in Paris because it's been a trip I planned since last summer and I realize that a month might be a long time to be away from her. She's this tiny Ukranian girl that seems to always be horny so I get all kind of sexy pictures of her while I'm sleeping and my phone keeps going off at night waking me up. It makes me really regret going for an entire month because I really dig this chick.

Just had my girlfriend round for the week, she told me she loved me :3:

[QUOTE=cyclocius;37250167]Just had my girlfriend round for the week, she told me she loved me :3:[/QUOTE] Did you feel awkward as hell and obliged to snap back and reply with the same or did you smoothly transition it to you agreeing?

[QUOTE=j00tgasm;37250124]So I started dating this girl six months ago. Currently I'm in Paris because it's been a trip I planned since last summer and I realize that a month might be a long time to be away from her. She's this tiny Ukranian girl that seems to always be horny so I get all kind of sexy pictures of her while I'm sleeping and my phone keeps going off at night waking me up. It makes me really regret going for an entire month because I really dig this chick.[/QUOTE] It will make seeing her when you get back all the more special :smile: Especially after a month, that's a really long time to not see someone you care about. [editline]11:23[/editline] I don't remember the exact length of time me and my ex-girlfriend were apart from each other the longest, but I think it was roughly a week. And that was during the summer, so it was really difficult to not think about her a lot. She did send me a postcard that she kissed and left lipstick on about halfway through the trip, though. I kept that in my wallet for nearly a year.

[QUOTE=kidwithsword;37250222]It will make seeing her when you get back all the more special :smile: Especially after a month, that's a really long time to not see someone you care about.[/QUOTE] Well the thing is she's had tons of emotional problems growing up and general bullshit abuse so she has trouble getting attached to people. Before I left she spent 3 nights over at my house and we just hung out a lot. We were having sex a few nights before I left and I guess she felt something because she said she loved me. It was awesome.

[QUOTE=Clunj;37250211]Did you feel awkward as hell and obliged to snap back and reply with the same or did you smoothly transition it to you agreeing?[/QUOTE] I grinned and told her I felt the same way, which is the truth.

[QUOTE=cyclocius;37250301]I grinned and told her I felt the same way, which is the truth.[/QUOTE] Then everyone's happy, unless she's got a stalker who now feels super left out and stab happy.

[QUOTE=j00tgasm;37250295]Well the thing is she's had tons of emotional problems growing up and general bullshit abuse so she has trouble getting attached to people. Before I left she spent 3 nights over at my house and we just hung out a lot. We were having sex a few nights before I left and I guess she felt something because she said she loved me. It was awesome.[/QUOTE] That's great (the part where she said she loved you)! That has to be one of the best feelings in the world, when you know someone for so long and you understand just how much it would mean for them to tell you they loved you, and then you finally hear them say it. I may be assuming that she hadn't told you that before, but had she said that before? Had you told her that you loved her?

[QUOTE=Seith;37245862]So you are willing to stay frustrated for romance or is it maybe because you've become accustomed to her and it (the situation) that you just can't fathom a sudden change to your life, thus making said above sacrifices? [/QUOTE] I appreciate the semi-advice but it's the former.

[QUOTE=Clunj;37250344]Then everyone's happy, unless she's got a stalker who now feels super left out and stab happy.[/QUOTE] Nothing tears a couple apart like a stalker with power tools.

[QUOTE=j00tgasm;37250124]So I started dating this girl six months ago. Currently I'm in Paris because it's been a trip I planned since last summer and I realize that a month might be a long time to be away from her. She's this tiny Ukranian girl that seems to always be horny so I get all kind of sexy pictures of her while I'm sleeping and my phone keeps going off at night waking me up. It makes me really regret going for an entire month because I really dig this chick.[/QUOTE] Give her the dick.

[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;37260545]So, last few days my gf started saying she wants romance. It's making me feel really terrible, I must be one damn awful boyfriend if she has to say it And I have no clue of what I'm supposed to do either Today she came over, because I was feeling sick, and things got awkward, she left earlier than usual and stuff ugh[/QUOTE] when's the last time you: went for a walk went out for dinner danced together did something outdoors like hiking or rock climbing made her dinner surprised her with flowers just because wrote her a poem sang her a song left her a lovely voicemail and this last one is pretty uncommon but i would consider it pretty intense: taking a shower together with the lights off, in total blackness. your other senses will thank you for it.

Well I think the longest I've not seen my bf was 2 weeks when he went on a pre-planned family vacation. Sucked sorta but that was earlier in relationship so we werent as clingy as we are now. I was gonna be away for about a week a little while ago and I just dragged him along with me instead :v: [editline]15th August 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;37260545]So, last few days my gf started saying she wants romance. It's making me feel really terrible, I must be one damn awful boyfriend if she has to say it And I have no clue of what I'm supposed to do either Today she came over, because I was feeling sick, and things got awkward, she left earlier than usual and stuff ugh[/QUOTE] Just ask her what she wants you to do, in a non confrontational way like "I want to make you happy but I don't know exactly what you want me to do, could you explain" type way. Esp if it's making you uncomfortable. Even just talk about your feelings and if it's concerning you how she left early. That is romantic also :) In a less superficial way really, Its nice to hear what your partner thinks.

So, my gf is away for about a week and coming back and she really wants to see me. i want to see her too, but not as much as she to me, and she will be coming over to my house (inside with family around n shit) when she gets back. I feel slightly nervous having her over because she is much more in love with me than i to her. I still love her dearly, but she is just much farther. that sounds weird because it sounds like it shouldn't be a problem eh. It's just i like being on my own but i think it'll be nice for her to be with me. Shes more comfortably sexually than me, im starting to get more comfortable just talking about sex n whatnot. Shes had sex, i have yet to, i just feel nervous about the whole thing but im pretty sure its going to happen. we've only kissed a few times and shes already talking about having sex, i feel rushed. should i tell her to slow down for me or should i just go with it and see what happens?

[QUOTE=AEIOWNYEW;37264114]So, my gf is away for about a week and coming back and she really wants to see me. i want to see her too, but not as much as she to me, and she will be coming over to my house (inside with family around n shit) when she gets back. I feel slightly nervous having her over because she is much more in love with me than i to her. I still love her dearly, but she is just much farther. that sounds weird because it sounds like it shouldn't be a problem eh. It's just i like being on my own but i think it'll be nice for her to be with me. Shes more comfortably sexually than me, im starting to get more comfortable just talking about sex n whatnot. Shes had sex, i have yet to, i just feel nervous about the whole thing but im pretty sure its going to happen. we've only kissed a few times and shes already talking about having sex, i feel rushed. should i tell her to slow down for me or should i just go with it and see what happens?[/QUOTE] You probably don't love each other differently, she is just clingy and you aren't like that. Just talk to her about it and explain your concerns. If you have a good relationship then she will take it well and slow down. If not, well you learn something new.

alright, well we were just talking and i told her that i would like to slow things down a wee bit. She totally gets it and actually wants to give this some time and not rush it, as do i.

[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;37260545]So, last few days my gf started saying she wants romance. It's making me feel really terrible, I must be one damn awful boyfriend if she has to say it And I have no clue of what I'm supposed to do either Today she came over, because I was feeling sick, and things got awkward, she left earlier than usual and stuff ugh[/QUOTE] Making you feel terrible. Stop making yourself think that way of yourself and just get out and do something for her if you think that's legitimate.

Facepunch I need me some reassurance. I've never been the jealous type of boyfriend, in fact I really don't recall ever getting jealous over small things. Recently though I started dating a girl that I've been talking to for a year; all seems great right? Well the problem is that I currently live on the island of Crete, Greece and she is back home in Georgia. Now, I am originally supposed to come home July of 2013 but I am aiming to come home as early as January, partly for her and partly for my career. The problem I'm having is that I have never been one to really cope well with long distance relationships, the saving grace of this one is that I know I'm coming home. The things I get jealous about is knowing that she's a social girl and I just wish I could be home to spend time with her; we regularly Skype and text but it's not the same as physically being there. So I'm curious as to how I should handle this; I've done a good job at turning it into motivation and such but I just don't want it affecting our relationship.

Admittedly, ignoring jealousy is often a conscious choice for me. You've just got to remind yourself that it's a matter of trust, and that in a relationship you have to give as much as you get. More, even! I mean, imagine how your girlfriend must be feeling! You're in Greece! She probably worries about you meeting some fit Greek girl. Greek girls are fit, right? I'm sure some of them are, at least. Anyway, trust is a two way street. Maintain that by not treating her like a suspect, you dig?

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37267948]Admittedly, ignoring jealousy is often a conscious choice for me. You've just got to remind yourself that it's a matter of trust, and that in a relationship you have to give as much as you get. More, even! I mean, imagine how your girlfriend must be feeling! You're in Greece! She probably worries about you meeting some fit Greek girl. Greek girls are fit, right? I'm sure some of them are, at least. Anyway, trust is a two way street. Maintain that by not treating her like a suspect, you dig?[/QUOTE] That's true, I mean it must be a bit of a back and fourth type of thing. In fact, I need to consider how she might feel; the same battle might be raging on in her head. Should I at least talk to her about it and possibly help us both reassure that things are ok? I just don't want to risk being the only one who is worried and her feeling like she needs to take a step back.

My girlfriend got drunk enough to throw up eight times, made out with two seperate dudes, one of whom she'd been sleeping with for a week. I found this out the night I proposed to her. We went our separate paths. I've been trying to fill the void with whatever girl I can. The girl I'm "with" now is super fucking afraid of commitment 'cause she's had her heart broken, and I think she's starting to fear she's getting too close to me 'cause she's started to distance herself. To add on top of that, my best friends girlfriend told me she wants to fuck my brains out, and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do with all this insecurity and uncertainty. This shit sucks.

[QUOTE=Hoboiam;37270954]My girlfriend got drunk enough to throw up eight times, made out with two seperate dudes, one of whom she'd been sleeping with for a week. I found this out the night I proposed to her. We went our separate paths. I've been trying to fill the void with whatever girl I can. The girl I'm "with" now is super fucking afraid of commitment 'cause she's had her heart broken, and I think she's starting to fear she's getting too close to me 'cause she's started to distance herself. To add on top of that, my best friends girlfriend told me she wants to fuck my brains out, and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do with all this insecurity and uncertainty. This shit sucks.[/QUOTE] Well if you want to stay with the girl you have you should re-assure here and talk to her about that. You can let her know you have been hurt too so she shouldn't worry so much etc. Also I would tell your best friend he is dating a whore. Just break each problem down separately and deal with them individually or bits of them individually it makes things a lot easier. Other than that just keep truckin' and remember to do stuff for yourself sometimes :)

[QUOTE=Hoboiam;37270954]My girlfriend got drunk enough to throw up eight times, made out with two seperate dudes, one of whom she'd been sleeping with for a week. I found this out the night I proposed to her. We went our separate paths. I've been trying to fill the void with whatever girl I can. The girl I'm "with" now is super fucking afraid of commitment 'cause she's had her heart broken, and I think she's starting to fear she's getting too close to me 'cause she's started to distance herself. To add on top of that, my best friends girlfriend told me she wants to fuck my brains out, and I don't know what the fuck I'm supposed to do with all this insecurity and uncertainty. This shit sucks.[/QUOTE] Fuck, looking at your situation I feel that this is how I fear mine will turn out. All I can do is say at least you got bros thinking about you.

[QUOTE=Rhenae;37270989] Just break each problem down separately and deal with them individually or bits of them individually it makes things a lot easier. Other than that just keep truckin' and remember to do stuff for yourself sometimes :)[/QUOTE] This shit doesn't work for me 'cause every time I'm alone, all I think about is the girl I'm chilling with now. And when she doesn't text back, all I think about is my ex. I can fuck up by texting my ex, I can fuck up by not giving the girl I'm with right now the time she needs, and I can fuck up by having sex with my best friends girlfriend. If the chick I'm with now flat out told me "yo I'll date you if you just give me time" I'll be fucking fine. But the not knowing if all this effort is going anywhere is what scares me the most.

[QUOTE=Hoboiam;37271178]This shit doesn't work for me 'cause every time I'm alone, all I think about is the girl I'm chilling with now. And when she doesn't text back, all I think about is my ex. I can fuck up by texting my ex, I can fuck up by not giving the girl I'm with right now the time she needs, and I can fuck up by having sex with my best friends girlfriend. If the chick I'm with now flat out told me "yo I'll date you if you just give me time" I'll be fucking fine. But the not knowing if all this effort is going anywhere is what scares me the most.[/QUOTE] The concept is your just gonna have to not do the stuff which you consider fucking up, and decide if you want to commit the time to this girl if it might not work out?

so which piece of furniture did you actually cum on

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37274441]Some girl at school lied, said we had sex, and that during our sex I came on a lamp.[/QUOTE] [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO0JlpJWa4A&feature=player_detailpage#t=2s[/url]

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37274441]Some girl at school lied, said we had sex, and that during our sex I came on a lamp.[/QUOTE] What why would she even.?

so, lets say theres this guy and he dated a girl for 2 and a half years. And on the night he proposes she tells him shes been cheating on him with another guy for 2 years, i told her that i fell in love with her and that means i want her to be happy, wether that involves me in the picture or not. Did i do the right thing?

[QUOTE=Sir Spicy Buns;37275304]so, lets say theres this guy and he dated a girl for 2 and a half years. And on the night he proposes she tells him shes been cheating on him with another guy for 2 years, i told her that i fell in love with her and that means i want her to be happy, wether that involves me in the picture or not. Did i do the right thing?[/QUOTE] if you're the guy that proposed, time to remove all ties to her if you're the guy she cheated with for THAT long, you're an asshole