[QUOTE=Zee Captain;37278543]Thats like getting raped in prison but never fighting back...it like you just stood there and take it.[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Zee Captain;37278543] It's like a Jewish kid that witness his parent's murder by Nazis gives Hitler a ride home.[/Quote]
So what you're really trying to say is that it's like if Bambi turned around and gave that hunter a blowjob after the patricide incident?
Unless that's not quite the caliber of emotion you're going for. It might not be high enough on the "I should be blinded by rage" meter to qualify.
[QUOTE=Zee Captain;37278638]Why would you do a nice gesture to somebody that has greatly wronged you for 2 fucking years.
It's not like somebody accidently tripping you, she fucking played him for 2 fucking years.[/QUOTE]
because cheating is a lot more emotionally and ethically complicated than how most of society perceives it to be? not saying it isn't a massive breach of trust, but it's not like this lady deserveres to be vilified - it's not like she didn't love him, and she obviously knew what she did was wrong.
[QUOTE=Muggy;37278966]One of them, I [I]have[/I] gotten to date, but the problem is she falls for ANYONE that just looks at her![/QUOTE]
In saying this are you implying that she would likely cheat on you? Seems like it would be rather risky to go for her if you truly mean what you typed.
Yelling at people is not in my nature, Honestly, it was the best relationship i'd been in, besides the whole cheating part. We've parted ways, i won't be holding a grudge, i sure as hell am sad but that isn't going to change my attitude.
I'm not going to leave a girl standing alone on a beach, it's not in my nature it really isn't yeah sure she broke my heart but shit happens. You move on you know?
A major point you guys seem to be missing is not only is paying for her cab the right thing to do, it is a much larger slap in the face than anything like getting mad at her. She would expect madness a cold shoulder and heres you rode home is a lot more effeftive.
And can you all please stop being so fucking paranoid of being non alpha for a moment in your life jesus. Its a completely dumb concept to think doing something nice for someone like that makes you a pushover. I doesnt, it makes you compassionate. Generally considered a positive trait in those who are comfortable with theor standing in life.
Edit: pretend i dont suck at typing this is practically impossible to fix on my phone.
[QUOTE=Zee Captain;37278732]Just because you still have feelings for somebody after they fucked you up doesn't man you should still baby them.
If you had a child and care about them doesn't mean you are never going to get mad at them for doing something bad, it also doesn't mean you can spoil them after doing something bad.[/QUOTE]
Dude no matter who it is I would never leave a girl without a way to get home
It's the right thing to do, regardless of what they've done, you're making silly comparisons and it doesnt scream submissive person it screams "genuinely nice person". He took a stand by leaving but he did it in a way that makes her away of what she's done and what she's lost, while still being morally clean - the best way to do it, easily.
In fact the only people caught up with the idea of being 'submissive' or 'alpha' are the kind of people who throw themselves at the concept in order to address their low levels of self-confidence.
girl told me she likes me a lot, just asked her out *fingers crossed*
edit: She said yes. First girlfriend.
[QUOTE=PistolKid;37287339]girl told me she likes me a lot[/QUOTE]
It's basically how far a girl can go without asking you out (which is for some reason unacceptable). I don't think you had to cross your fingers a lot :v:
Congratulations!
[QUOTE=PistolKid;37287339] edit: She said yes. First girlfriend.[/QUOTE]
thatta boy!
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[QUOTE=killerteacup;37281544]Dude no matter who it is I would never leave a girl without a way to get home[/QUOTE]
Okay so what if it was the guy the girl has been cheating with? What if that guy was your friend that did something as bad as his girlfriend did? Why does it matter if she is a girl huh? Why don't you treat them equal instead being kinder to the girl?
I don't know why you guys are so hung up over the cab fare thing. It's his relationship and he chose to be the better person. Let it go, sheesh. Also BDA you have inspired me to live like Julius Caesar.
66 new posts!!!!! too bad bda's attempts to make you guys realize what you were arguing about was intensely stupid was the only thing worth reading in all of it!!
[editline]17th August 2012[/editline]
Seriously though, how does someone paying cab fare for someone that [B]they love(d?)[/B], even if they cheated on them affect you [B]at all[/B]?
[QUOTE=Muggy;37278966]I'm going to break this one up with a question...
Alright... I am stuck in what normal people never have to see...
Currently there are 2 girls that I really care about right now... One of them, I [I]have[/I] gotten to date, but the problem is she falls for ANYONE that just looks at her... So, I turned to girl #2 which I have never really dated... Over Time I developed feelings for her as well as she has feelings for me but, she distances herself from dating..
What Am I supposed to do?![/QUOTE]
Literally my exact situation.
Went out with super hot girl for like a week, she was still all flirty with everyone, then she broke up with me for no reason. So now I'm falling back on my second girl who I was talking to at the beginning of summer. I'm probably not going for the super hot one which is unfortunate because she's super hot, but I'd rather have the second one who isn't such a flirt whore and probably will like me more than a week.
Guys, he made a choice. His own choice. I don't see the reason to whine and bitch about what YOU would do, considering what he has done, is his own business. It doesn't matter if you'd act differently or the same, he acted that way. All he needs is respect for his actions and/or support in regards that he is alone now.
[QUOTE=PistolKid;37287339]girl told me she likes me a lot, just asked her out *fingers crossed*
edit: She said yes. First girlfriend.[/QUOTE]
Not directly at him, but hey - you can't ask a girl out for fun of it nowdays?
Does anyone ever feel that they never get hit on by people, more the other way round?
Alright, I know I'm late to the whole SSB party, but I [B]have[/B] to put my two cents in on this, being the relationship guru I am (sarcasm mmmm)
What he did is [B]exactly[/B] what he should've done, and here's why. First of all, I'm assuming he drove her to the beach, if that's the case, he just did something that defines what kind of person he is throughout the [I]entire[/I] relationship. When you break up with someone/end the relationship, how you do it will not only define how your future relationships go, but it will also define how people see you. When women hear about how you broke up with your last relationship (which they will) it w ill affect how they view you as a potential boyfriend (this works for both gender btw). What SSB basically did was to say "Hey, you ruined everything, but I'm the bigger person here so here's your money, I'm leaving". Now that'd be normal as normal can be, if it weren't for the fact that not only did he do this, but he also [I]completely[/I] cut off contact with her afterwards, which means there was no drama, no awkwardness, just a message to future relationships:
"If you fuck this up, I'm gone."
That's the best thing he could've done for himself out of anything. He didn't put himself out there, he didn't try and stretch for something out of desperation. He made it about himself and he did it courteously, and that's what matters.
I'm proud of you SSB and I'm proud that you know that your happiness and your dignity come first, that's something that will save yourself and your future relationships for a long time.
There's also the fact that he heard her out all of the way, and told her he wished her happiness, that's about the bravest damn thing you can do! When you show anger and rage in a situation like that, you're not only opening yourself up for ridicule for how you acted, but you're reacting to the situation before thinking, something we all regret in the aftermath.
There's my two cents, disagree or agree, I think that's the best breakup I've heard of in a long time.
I know. I'm not saying what he did was wrong, I never said that. All I was trying to say he could have brought some McDonalds or something with that cab fare money. Also nobody would really know about the part of you making her walk home. That walk of shame would have made her fear worse of herself.
I'm not saying there's a problem with what the guy did but it could've been done better.
buying fast food versus being a gentleman
tough call there!
is it weird to be dating someone for roughly a week and you've felt like you've been dating for a lot longer ? at one point prior to the relationship (roughly 3 months) we made out and from then hung out until i decided that 'hey, i would like a significant other' and asked her out (on facebook no less - AND ONLY BECAUSE i didn't want to wait, and neither did she)
i want to know this simply because it's been a while since my last relationship and i don't wanna be that guy that falls too hard too fast, which happened the first time (currently, counting this one, this makes three)
[QUOTE=djshox;37288950]buying fast food versus being a gentleman
tough call there![/QUOTE]
At least it doesn't betray your trust and you can enjoy every part of it greasy tasty goodness while the asshole that cheated on you find her own way home as punishment. You guys are too damn nice, man up.
[QUOTE=djshox;37288950]buying fast food versus being a gentleman
tough call there![/QUOTE]
Be a fast gentleman.
[QUOTE=djshox;37288950]buying fast food versus being a gentleman
tough call there![/QUOTE]
Cook, even better!
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37289512]My girlfriend never believe my compliments, and it pisses me off when she goes "234235 Said i'm pretty! He made my day!" when I told her the exact same thing moments before.
I know she expects it from me, but damn don't do that makes me feel like shit.[/QUOTE]
Tell her what you feeeeeeeel man.
murder her f0r her insolence
suffer not the unclean to live
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37289512]My girlfriend never believe my compliments, and it pisses me off when she goes "234235 Said i'm pretty! He made my day!" when I told her the exact same thing moments before.
I know she expects it from me, but damn don't do that makes me feel like shit.[/QUOTE]
Probably because you are complimenting her excessively like a supplicating clingy retard. Stop it.
Compliments lose their effect if you do it all the time, which is probably why random guy #34444 telling her she's pretty is much more effective then you telling her she's pretty for the 1000th time in 10 days.
[editline]18th August 2012[/editline]
this thread makes me sad, I came here hoping it would be like r9k
That place literally has me crying from laughter on a regular basis. They are so misogynistic and bitter about their experiences with girls and gfs cheating on them their perception of the world has become so warped and they try to justify it all the time
[QUOTE=JaegerMonster;37293474]Probably because you are complimenting her excessively like a supplicating clingy retard. Stop it.
Compliments lose their effect if you do it all the time, which is probably why random guy #34444 telling her she's pretty is much more effective then you telling her she's pretty for the 1000th time in 10 days.
[editline]18th August 2012[/editline]
this thread makes me sad, I came here hoping it would be like r9k
That place literally has me crying from laughter on a regular basis. They are so misogynistic and bitter about their experiences with girls and gfs cheating on them their perception of the world has become so warped and they try to justify it all the time[/QUOTE]
Please keep cynical opinions to yourself.
[QUOTE=JaegerMonster;37293474]Probably because you are complimenting her excessively like a supplicating clingy retard. Stop it.
Compliments lose their effect if you do it all the time, which is probably why random guy #34444 telling her she's pretty is much more effective then you telling her she's pretty for the 1000th time in 10 days.
[editline]18th August 2012[/editline]
this thread makes me sad, I came here hoping it would be like r9k
That place literally has me crying from laughter on a regular basis. They are so misogynistic and bitter about their experiences with girls and gfs cheating on them their perception of the world has become so warped and they try to justify it all the time[/QUOTE]
okay
thanks for sharing?
[QUOTE=Muggy;37293505]Please keep cynical opinions to yourself.[/QUOTE]
He's JagerMonster. Being an asshole is just what he does. Quite pathetic really.
[QUOTE=JaegerMonster;37293474]Probably because you are complimenting her excessively like a supplicating clingy retard. Stop it.
Compliments lose their effect if you do it all the time, which is probably why random guy #34444 telling her she's pretty is much more effective then you telling her she's pretty for the 1000th time in 10 days.
[editline]18th August 2012[/editline]
this thread makes me sad, I came here hoping it would be like r9k
That place literally has me crying from laughter on a regular basis. They are so misogynistic and bitter about their experiences with girls and gfs cheating on them their perception of the world has become so warped and they try to justify it all the time[/QUOTE]
Please leave, your post contains no sex, no girlfriends, and far too much shit :)
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37294024]Please leave, your post contains no sex, no girlfriends, and far too much shit :)[/QUOTE]
Okay.....
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