Guys, I need some help.
about 4 weeks ago, i got my first girlfriend, a girl that i talk to quite often, and had been interested in for a while, it was great
until a week later she left me (over facebook), but not because of an argument or anything, so we kept talking. eventually i asked her if she wanted to go out (not girlfriend/boyfriend, as in "wanna come and chill out at the park") and she said she was busy for the whole week.
[i]2 hours later[/i] i found she had posted a video of her, out with other freinds (Who i don't know to well) on facebook, so i gave up, she was avoiding me, and obviously didn't want any of it, and we haven't spoken since
today one of her freinds asked if i wanted to go watch a film with them, and the ex and her are really close, so the ex will probably be going as well, +At least 1 male (the friend's boyfriend) who i know quite well
should i go, and try to work things out with the ex?, or should i not bother?
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;37316342]Suprisingly, No. Actually since I came to rehab girls REALLY like me. Its weird and im not sure how to deal with it half the time[/QUOTE]
Dude take the initiative
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37318597]if she broke up with you after a week odds are it's not worth your time
also how old are you, or at least she[/QUOTE]
both 16, and I have social anxiety disorder, so it was tough to ask her out, even tougher to get dumped
So you guys remember how I said my girlfriend was having troubles with her pancreas and spleen and it almost killed? And remember how I said my grandpa has pancreatic cancer which has an almost 0% chance of survival?
Guess what the results from my girl's checkup said!
:suicide:
[QUOTE=MightyMax;37318803]So you guys remember how I said my girlfriend was having troubles with her pancreas and spleen and it almost killed? And remember how I said my grandpa has pancreatic cancer which has an almost 0% chance of survival?
Guess what the results from my girl's checkup said!
:suicide:[/QUOTE]
Your girlfriend has pancreatic cancer...?
kind of weird to call a girl you went out with for a week an "ex"
maybe she just changed your mind about you, or you were acting really clingy during the time you were "together" or something
[editline]19th August 2012[/editline]
actually yeah you sound a little clingy. give the girl some space, don't be too dramatic about it.
related to sex so i guess i'll just share
i haven't jacked it for 3 weeks and so i'm guessing this might have to do with increased hormones or something, but just recently i noticed i've been picking up on people's emotions via smell
i thought i was crazy but it's a real thing, however it seems i've only got a 50/50 shot when it comes to strangers [url]http://jezebel.com/5553330/couples-smell-emotion-through-sweat-signals[/url]
it's pretty cool
[QUOTE=Yourself;37318567]Dude take the initiative[/QUOTE]
welll... all the girls who like me live far away and being in a program its quite difficult to meet girls here
[QUOTE=djshox;37319216]related to sex so i guess i'll just share
i haven't jacked it for 3 weeks and so i'm guessing this might have to do with increased hormones or something, but just recently i noticed i've been picking up on people's emotions via smell
i thought i was crazy but it's a real thing, however it seems i've only got a 50/50 shot when it comes to strangers [URL]http://jezebel.com/5553330/couples-smell-emotion-through-sweat-signals[/URL]
it's pretty cool[/QUOTE]
Last time I didn't jack it for three weeks (family visit, didn't have enough time to myself, had to share my room with a cousin) I got aggressive and felt so cock-sure (heh, excuse the pun) of myself. It was a really great feeling. I didn't feel social anxiety, I felt way more confident and a lot manlier. Family picked up on it as well and asked me why I was so aggressive. Aggressive in the sense that when we'd go out, I'd be staring guys down and just the way I'd act about the house: squared shoulders, clenched jaw, gruff voice.
I gotta admit, feeling that way was nice. I realized I got the same way when ever I'd be intimate with my ex or have sex. One time this guy walked by me and my girlfriend kissing on the stairs and said some douchebag comment to us. I told him if he didn't keep walking, I'd throw him down the stairs and just locked eyes with him and smiled, daring him to say something else. He ended up losing his smile and walking off. I'm usually a really nice guy and I shocked myself, as that is something I'd never say to anyone. Luckily though, the guy was a scumbag, so I didn't really care much about him.
-snip-
you don't
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37320030]My girlfriend won't masturbate because she thinks it's gross.
How do I convince her otherwise?[/QUOTE]
Do it for her. With your mouth.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37320049]she doesn't like it
force her to do it is like forcing her to play a game or watch a show she doesn't like but even more intimate[/QUOTE]
Or like forcing her to masturbate to a show or game she doesn't like. It's just rude, okay?
[editline]19th August 2012[/editline]
If I've learned anything, it's that when a girl says, "I don't want to masturbate to this," she probably doesn't want to masturbate to it.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37320030]My girlfriend won't masturbate because she thinks it's gross.
How do I convince her otherwise?[/QUOTE]
You don't. As has been said. There is no reason to get to do that, it won't really benefit her either.
Girls are sorta trained to think doing that is gross. Honestly I still feel bad doing it sometimes. (doesn't stop me, but I feel guilty)
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37320512]The first time I tried that, I found out she was on her period when I was done. Didn't do that again for a few weeks :v:[/QUOTE]
For a while after I started my current birth control, I would be bleeding for multiple days after any time we had sex :v: fun times.
[quote]Girls are sorta trained to think doing that is gross. Honestly I still feel bad doing it sometimes.[/quote]
i'm not a girl and i feel guilty doing it
that's that trademark british sexual suppression.
-snip- I had a brief stupid moment.
edit;
Sshhhh I need sleep.
Btw it says your from US on my flag thing? Are you not american?
i'm not a girl or canadian???
It says you're from Windows on my icon thing.
[QUOTE=TheFilmSlacker;37321041]I'm crying right now.
The girl I loved for 2 years, but never got with is trying to get with me now that I have a girlfriend. I'm just starting to get over her, and she fucking comes back. I want her, but I need to stay faithful to my girlfriend or I'll hate myself.
I know that she had her chance for 2 years, but the opportunity never arose for me to get with her because she was always with someone.
I can't take this shit.[/QUOTE]
Fucking.
This.
When I had my girlfriend, some of the other girls were trying to go out with me.
I think they're trying to test you or something.
[QUOTE=TheFilmSlacker;37321041]I'm crying right now.
The girl I loved for 2 years, but never got with is trying to get with me now that I have a girlfriend. I'm just starting to get over her, and she fucking comes back. I want her, but I need to stay faithful to my girlfriend or I'll hate myself.
I know that she had her chance for 2 years, but the opportunity never arose for me to get with her because she was always with someone.
I can't take this shit.[/QUOTE]
hang in there dude, it's never worth it
if you two are meant to get together, you'll cross paths later on in life
be faithful now and keep your focus on your woman, because if you end up single after this current relationship, you have your whole life to make all those possibilities a reality
[QUOTE=DustySheep;37321057]Fucking.
This.
When I had my girlfriend, some of the other girls were trying to go out with me.
I think they're trying to test you or something.[/QUOTE]
Its programmed into humans to want the one thats taken. If others want them then obviously they are a viable mate, etc.
Not very convenient for todays standards is it?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37321098]Its programmed into humans to want the one thats taken. If others want them then obviously they are a viable mate, etc.
Not very convenient for todays standards is it?[/QUOTE]
Wait, Envy?
Go to the seconded girl.
If you was really in love with the first girl you would never fall for the second.
Then again tell me more of the second girl. Sounds fishy how she wants you right after you got a GF and after she rejected you.
[QUOTE=Zee Captain;37321115]Go to the seconded girl.
If you was really in love with the first girl you would never fall for the second.[/QUOTE]
Nooooo. Priorities dude, priorities.
If he dumps now for her, not only does he risk screwing up the chances with this second girl, he'll have burned the bridge for the first one.
Stick to your guns and stay with the girl you're with. Only time will tell if you are meant to be with one or the other, but right now you need to stay the course, and she needs to back off.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37320871]
Btw it says your from US on my flag thing? Are you not american?[/QUOTE]
i was born in our great kingdom of sussex, under her majesty's rule, but i live in america
[QUOTE=TheFilmSlacker;37321191]Long, 2 year story short...[/QUOTE]
Stay with the girl you're with. While the girl you loved before is now trying to get you, I feel that if she had [I]really[/I] wanted it, she would've tried before. If you're someone she actually wants to be with, and you don't think your current relationship will last, you can always try after. But there's no point destroying a relationship you're happy in.
Good luck. :)
You will like a jerk if you drop the second girl just to get with the first girl anyway.
If you really don't think you're happy in the current relationship, and you're completely sure about this, I'd try talking to your girlfriend. Happiness is just about the most important thing, and it's gotta be there.
Talk it over with your current girlfriend. In case bridges are burned, it's likely she'll do it herself. If she still wants you to stay with her, do stay with your current girlfriend, though. All things considered, she might notice/might be afraid if she already knows that you liked the second girl, so the best way to get through this, is directly.
[QUOTE=TheFilmSlacker;37321650]How will I tell her, though?[/QUOTE]
Come up to her, tell her that you are having problems, and tell her about the gal and everything you told us?
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