shut up stereolab is sad music
it sounds upbeat sure but laetitia is lamenting the fact that the internet relegates people to spectators
it's a sad song
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37352669]also your environment isn't "false" like you claim it is, it's just another side of society.
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yeah, this is the part that worries me.[/QUOTE]
So when I feel like playing a game
or feel like listening to a band its worrying?
Its more like when Im in the mood for it
And im not saying my enviroment is false im saying that the way that a lot of people view the world is a bit false because they like to ignore that bad things are happening.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=thisispain;37352757]if it's a compulsion then you might have a compulsive disorder
i'll take an excuse to post music, especially if it's relevant:
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nXRL2etsV6I[/media][/QUOTE]
A compulsion disorder? you're making it seem like I have to watch these videos even though I don't want to and can't help myself
you just compared watching someone get slaughtered to playing a video game. do you realize how sick that is?
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37352919]except you're watching people die[/QUOTE]
Just because someone watches videos where people die doesn't mean they have a mental disorder, everyone reacts to things differently and finds different things interesting
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37352945]you just compared watching someone get slaughtered to playing a video game. do you realize how sick that is?[/QUOTE]
No I didn't, I was illustrating how when you say you feel like doing something you don't mean you feel compelled or strangely forced to do something, it just means you decide you are going to do something.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37352869]shut up stereolab is sad music
it sounds upbeat sure but laetitia is lamenting the fact that the internet relegates people to spectators
it's a sad song[/QUOTE]
To my plebeian self, it sounds like happy music. So as far as I'm concerned, it's happy music. Laetitia (funky name) could be mourning about the way goats produce disgusting milk, but if it's got an upbeat, vibrant sound to it, it's happy to me.
Leave me and my sugar-coated world alone.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37352949]To my plebeian self, it sounds like happy music. So as far as I'm concerned, it's happy music. Laetitia (funky name) could be mourning about the way goats produce disgusting milk, but if it's got an upbeat, vibrant sound to it, it's happy to me.
Leave me and my sugar-coated world alone.[/QUOTE]
they make suger-coated sad music too:
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkaJ5z9QBZQ[/media]
and laetitia is a french name
Are you guys thinking I go out and watch torture videos for fun or something? I mainly just watch the videos where its current affairs kinda stuff like fighting in syria, what the syrian army is doing, raids by the taliban shit like that which i really dont think is a deranged thing to do.
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I was gonna clarify my meaning but that seems a little pointless now, so snippity.
[QUOTE=Stormcharger;37352980]Are you guys thinking I go out and watch torture videos for fun or something? I mainly just watch the videos where its current affairs kinda stuff like fighting in syria, what the syrian army is doing, raids by the taliban shit like that which i really dont think is a deranged thing to do.[/QUOTE]
Those aren't snuff films, silly! That's okay. Sorry, the way you said it, it made it seem like you went and watched beheading videos and all that jazz. The current affair videos I watch as well, unless it's too graphic. Free Syrian Army ones make me sad.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[video=youtube;yxwWDw8Q2hA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxwWDw8Q2hA[/video]
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
King Charles, you so silly. You don't paddle in a car, silly, that doesn't work. Also, ridiculously catchy chorus.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37353014]Those aren't snuff films, silly! That's okay. Sorry, the way you said it, it made it seem like you went and watched beheading videos and all that jazz. The current affair videos I watch as well, unless it's too graphic. Free Syrian Army ones make me sad.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[video=youtube;yxwWDw8Q2hA]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxwWDw8Q2hA[/video]
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
King Charles, you so silly. You don't paddle in a car, silly, that doesn't work. Also, ridiculously catchy chorus.[/QUOTE]
Oh see thats what I was trying to clarify when I was asking the meaning of a snuff film, it was to avoid something like this! I just watch the current affair kinda stuff to see what the plight of the people is, because they are often the ones who are putting the videos out there, they want them to be seen.
We've all sorely misunderstood each other <3 Now let's change the subject and talk about sex, girlfriends and other assorted shit.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37353001]I think the part people are having trouble with is that you choose to regularly watch something gruesome, which makes you sad, and people dont regularly choose to do things which have a negative emotional effect on them.[/QUOTE]
I guess I kinda don't mind being made sad because I'm actually happy all the time and I find its good to have powerful emotions brought out in me. My favourite books and movies are ones that make me sad, my favorite movie is requiem for a dream and I have seen it about 20 times and each time it still brings a tear to my eye.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=loopoo;37353105]We've all sorely misunderstood each other <3 Now let's change the subject and talk about sex, girlfriends and other assorted shit.[/QUOTE]
Indeed! I met a cute girl at a party the other day who added me on facebook and went on to say the whole party was obviously cool because of us two and we have been flirting ever since, I think Im gonna ask her out to coffee at the beach in a couple of days.
Also she is bisexual :v:
Th-th-th-threesoooooome! Also, honestly, coffee is like the best invention ever. If there's a girl I like that I want to get to know better, all I have to say is "Hey, you up for grabbing a coffee later?" and then boom, a good hour or so to just chat and get to know each other.
Glad the party was good man, she's clearly into you. Hope it kicks off into some fiery hot action for you <3
my girlfriend of 5 months just dumped me cause i'm a negative person.... what do, fp? :(
speaking of threesomes, how do you guys feel about them? like, for those of you in relationships, would it seem weird to you to add another girl to the mix?
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=NoobieWafer223;37353203]my girlfriend of 5 months just dumped me cause i'm a negative person.... what do, fp? :([/QUOTE]
stop being negative
Thanks man! yea at the party I was chilling on a couch and she sat next to me and like starting snuggling up to me and shit, only reason i didnt try anything there was cause her best friend told me not to try anything at the party while we are both drunk and because i am good friends with her best friend I listened to her.
And yea its great over here because almost every good kinda area with shops is right next to the beach so I can take a girl to get coffee and we'll just get a takeaway coffee/frapuccino/whatever and drink it at the beach and then maybe walk along the beach.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37353170]Th-th-th-threesoooooome! Also, honestly, coffee is like the best invention ever. If there's a girl I like that I want to get to know better, all I have to say is "Hey, you up for grabbing a coffee later?" and then boom, a good hour or so to just chat and get to know each other.
Glad the party was good man, she's clearly into you. Hope it kicks off into some fiery hot action for you <3[/QUOTE]
Would I be a horrible person for wanting a threesome with two girls but not with two guys and one girl?
-ninjas-
[QUOTE=slayer20;37353234]Would I be a horrible person for wanting a threesome with two girls but not with two guys and one girl?[/QUOTE]
nothing wrong with that, i'm pretty sure most guys would feel weird in a sexual situation with another guy. [sp]i can't stomach the idea of being with two guys, either[/sp]
[QUOTE=slayer20;37353234]Would I be a horrible person for wanting a threesome with two girls but not with two guys and one girl?[/QUOTE]
nope
One of my friends had a threesome where it was him a dude and a girl but he said the only reason it happened was because he was on cocaine :v:
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37353209]speaking of threesomes, how do you guys feel about them? like, for those of you in relationships, would it seem weird to you to add another girl to the mix?[/QUOTE]
of course it's weird, but sometimes it's fun to be a little weird
personally i think it's too much work to accomplish
[QUOTE=Stormcharger;37353294]One of my friends had a threesome where it was him a dude and a girl but he said the only reason it happened was because he was on cocaine :v:[/QUOTE]
Was this friend your avatar perchance?
I'm starting to get a bit worried. My girl won't sleep with me, and I don't understand what the problem is. A couple weeks ago, we had a night where things escalated pretty far. Our clothes stayed on, but otherwise we got very intimate. Since then, she's been a lot more physically distant. I tried to advance things again tonight, but she pushed me off almost before we even started the kissing. I don't understand it, and it's starting to make me feel very bad. The only time she'll let things progress a bit further is just as she's walking out the door, ensuring that we can't go too far.
I tried to talk to her about it tonight, but she seemed distant, even a little annoyed. She said that she wouldn't sleep with me because she liked me, and that she was scared that things between us would somehow be cheapened if we had sex. That she just wants to "test the waters" a bit more. It's how I felt during the first week or so, but she and I have been dating for a month now. Shouldn't we be at the point where we're more comfortable to being open with each other? It makes me feel like she's just going through the motions, and that she and I are on completely different levels as to what we want from this relationship. It's kind of scary, and it makes me feel just rotten.
Each time she turns it off, I tell her that I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she's not ready for, but she reacts like she doesn't trust me about it, and that stings. I wouldn't hurt her, you know? The result of all this is that she's making me scared to try and make advances, which only means that I'll start making them less and less. At what point would I just stop trying?
Sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship, and I feel like her anxiety about it is a sign that she's not happy with ours.
there might be something in her psyche that's keeping her back. i wouldn't be too quick to assume there's something wrong on your end, though i understand why you would.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37353706]I'm starting to get a bit worried. My girl won't sleep with me, and I don't understand what the problem is. A couple weeks ago, we had a night where things escalated pretty far. Our clothes stayed on, but otherwise we got very intimate. Since then, she's been a lot more physically distant. I tried to advance things again tonight, but she pushed me off almost before we even started the kissing. I don't understand it, and it's starting to make me feel very bad. The only time she'll let things progress a bit further is just as she's walking out the door, ensuring that we can't go too far.
I tried to talk to her about it tonight, but she seemed distant, even a little annoyed. She said that she wouldn't sleep with me because she liked me, and [b]that she was scared that things between us would somehow be cheapened if we had sex. That she just wants to "test the waters" a bit more.[/b] It's how I felt during the first week or so, but she and I have been dating for a month now. Shouldn't we be at the point where we're more comfortable to being open with each other? It makes me feel like she's just going through the motions, and that she and I are on completely different levels as to what we want from this relationship. It's kind of scary, and it makes me feel just rotten.
Each time she turns it off, I tell her that I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she's not ready for, but she reacts like she doesn't trust me about it, and that stings. I wouldn't hurt her, you know? The result of all this is that she's making me scared to try and make advances, which only means that I'll start making them less and less. At what point would I just stop trying?
Sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship, and I feel like her anxiety about it is a sign that she's not happy with ours.[/QUOTE]
My best guess would be that she's not sure whether you would like to take this relationship a bit further than sex.
[QUOTE=Stormcharger;37353111]I guess I kinda don't mind being made sad because I'm actually happy all the time and I find its good to have powerful emotions brought out in me. My favourite books and movies are ones that make me sad, my favorite movie is requiem for a dream and I have seen it about 20 times and each time it still brings a tear to my eye.[/QUOTE]
Being sad can be a great way to release emotion, it's actually healthy to have a good cry every once in a while.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37353706]I'm starting to get a bit worried. My girl won't sleep with me, and I don't understand what the problem is. A couple weeks ago, we had a night where things escalated pretty far. Our clothes stayed on, but otherwise we got very intimate. Since then, she's been a lot more physically distant. I tried to advance things again tonight, but she pushed me off almost before we even started the kissing. I don't understand it, and it's starting to make me feel very bad. The only time she'll let things progress a bit further is just as she's walking out the door, ensuring that we can't go too far.
I tried to talk to her about it tonight, but she seemed distant, even a little annoyed. She said that she wouldn't sleep with me because she liked me, and that she was scared that things between us would somehow be cheapened if we had sex. That she just wants to "test the waters" a bit more. It's how I felt during the first week or so, but she and I have been dating for a month now. Shouldn't we be at the point where we're more comfortable to being open with each other? It makes me feel like she's just going through the motions, and that she and I are on completely different levels as to what we want from this relationship. It's kind of scary, and it makes me feel just rotten.
Each time she turns it off, I tell her that I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she's not ready for, but she reacts like she doesn't trust me about it, and that stings. I wouldn't hurt her, you know? The result of all this is that she's making me scared to try and make advances, which only means that I'll start making them less and less. At what point would I just stop trying?
Sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship, and I feel like her anxiety about it is a sign that she's not happy with ours.[/QUOTE]
This may sound like the most ridiculous and obvious answer, but trust me, it does work. Simply talk to her about it in a non-confrontational way. If she truly cares about you she won't get extremely defensive and throw the "All you want is sex" card. Though sex is a huge part of a healthy relationship you also want to remember that so is communication. In fact, that might be her only problem, she may just want you two to have a deep conversation about things like this every now and again.
I know you said you tried talking to her about it that night, but try another time when you aren't trying to get her in the mood; that way she feels less like she's being pressured into divulging her feelings. She most likely didn't feel like talking about it because she felt you were only bringing it up because you wanted her to sleep with you that night rather than truly discuss the matter. Not saying that is the case on your end, but she isn't a mind reader.
In my case a few pages back about me getting jealous with my girlfriend what I ended up doing was having a deep and serious conversation about how I felt, she opened up just as much and we both discussed how difficult a long distance relationship can be, but when it comes down to it this is all worth it and any sense of jealousy is simply that "want" to be together.
Ultimately we got a lot of confusing feelings off our chests and grew closer as a couple.
BDA its only been a month as well, often girls want to wait longer than that
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37353706]I'm starting to get a bit worried. My girl won't sleep with me, and I don't understand what the problem is. A couple weeks ago, we had a night where things escalated pretty far. Our clothes stayed on, but otherwise we got very intimate. Since then, she's been a lot more physically distant. I tried to advance things again tonight, but she pushed me off almost before we even started the kissing. I don't understand it, and it's starting to make me feel very bad. The only time she'll let things progress a bit further is just as she's walking out the door, ensuring that we can't go too far.
I tried to talk to her about it tonight, but she seemed distant, even a little annoyed. She said that she wouldn't sleep with me because she liked me, and that she was scared that things between us would somehow be cheapened if we had sex. That she just wants to "test the waters" a bit more. It's how I felt during the first week or so, but she and I have been dating for a month now. Shouldn't we be at the point where we're more comfortable to being open with each other? It makes me feel like she's just going through the motions, and that she and I are on completely different levels as to what we want from this relationship. It's kind of scary, and it makes me feel just rotten.
Each time she turns it off, I tell her that I don't want to pressure her into doing anything she's not ready for, but she reacts like she doesn't trust me about it, and that stings. I wouldn't hurt her, you know? The result of all this is that she's making me scared to try and make advances, which only means that I'll start making them less and less. At what point would I just stop trying?
Sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship, and I feel like her anxiety about it is a sign that she's not happy with ours.[/QUOTE]Just wait a bit longer until you're ready. Some people take time.
[editline]22nd August 2012[/editline]
Just don't pressure her into anything. Girls are complicated beings.
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