Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

[QUOTE=Doozle;34619130]You can't really stop them even if you don't like it. In other news my girlfriend is coming to see me, she just got on her train. Not here for another 3 and half hours. Rather excited.[/QUOTE] Be one.

[QUOTE=overpain;34592948]I just broke up with my girlfriend... Yea, i know, i'm smart. Just before valentine's day.[/QUOTE] Don't feel bad; February 14th would have been my one year with my first girlfriend (also a year since my first time). Just remember that you got out of the relationship for a good reason (I would assume) and that you are better off without her.

I just found out the girl I was gonna ask out got back together with her ex. And she only likes the hot looking douchebag types. :(

Deciding I'm just going to flat out ask her what she thinks of me and whether she's really interested or wants to just be a friend.

[QUOTE=kaine123;34629172]Deciding I'm just going to flat out ask her what she thinks of me and whether she's really interested or wants to just be a friend.[/QUOTE] No bueno. That tends to not be a good idea.

[QUOTE=Shovelpass;34629518]No bueno. That tends to not be a good idea.[/QUOTE] Don't listen to this guy. Keep the, "Get it done," attitude.

[QUOTE=Shovelpass;34629518]No bueno. That tends to not be a good idea.[/QUOTE] Ignorance is bliss.

[QUOTE=Phsykotik;34629793]Don't listen to this guy. Keep the, "Get it done," attitude.[/QUOTE] Yes, that's the right attitude. Going up to a girl and asking her what she thinks of you is not a good way to go about that, though. Nobody likes being put on the spot like that. That's what asking people out is for, if they say yes they like you, if they say no they don't. Going "So do you like me or not?" is just rude and likely to sway her towards the "not" side.

[QUOTE=kaine123;34629172]Deciding I'm just going to flat out ask her what she thinks of me and whether she's really interested or wants to just be a friend.[/QUOTE] That may be too sudden question for her, and even if she liked you she would maybe say something else. I dunno, but if someone came up and asked me that I think I would feel pressure. If I were you, I'd just casually ask her out, but do whatever you want to do, it's your choice.

Here's one of those stories- So I like this girl I work with, huge crush on her, we go to school pretty close to one another so I asked her out to lunch on Wednesday (like two days ago), but she said she was sick and barely making it through class. I really can't tell if this girl has any interest in me. I'll be standing at work and look over at her for a bit and sometimes she's looking my way too. I don't know if it's coincidental though and I"m just forcing myself to think this. Anyways, I don't really want to come on too strong, that's what I was trying to do lunch for. I think I'm going to ask her out to coffee soon in person. She's out of my league, but fuck leagues mayne. I really like this girl and want to get to know her and her to get to know me. I feel like she doesn't really know me since at work I have to take on a different discourse in front of the customers. Appreciate any advice.

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;34633465]Here's one of those stories- So I like this girl I work with, huge crush on her, we go to school pretty close to one another so I asked her out to lunch on Wednesday (like two days ago), but she said she was sick and barely making it through class. I really can't tell if this girl has any interest in me. I'll be standing at work and look over at her for a bit and sometimes she's looking my way too. I don't know if it's coincidental though and I"m just forcing myself to think this. Anyways, I don't really want to come on too strong, that's what I was trying to do lunch for. I think I'm going to ask her out to coffee soon in person. She's out of my league, but fuck leagues mayne. I really like this girl and want to get to know her and her to get to know me. I feel like she doesn't really know me since at work I have to take on a different discourse in front of the customers. Appreciate any advice.[/QUOTE] You have to show that youre obviously interested in her. Text her and let the conversation flow and if it ends, let it end and do not text back. Wait to text her back until she texts you or a while has passed (like a day). You want to show active want for a relationship and you won't come off too strong unless youre texting her constantly. Also keep compliments to a minimum but when you do compliment be very specific like "oh your haircut looked pretty today!" etc. Look her in the eyes and be confident etc.

I just realized something. I know this girl from work and we used to go to High School together and she's alright so I text her once in awhile and she was telling me about how this guy she liked was a dick to her and she got kicked out of her house so I complimented her to make her feel better. Than while I was getting Valentines gifts I got her something because I figured it'd be nice to get something considering all the stuff and boy troubles she had. I'm like 90% she's not interested and she's not my type but did I make a mistake? I thought I was just being nice but will women see this as like an advance or something?

[QUOTE=CodeMonkey3;34657894]I just realized something. I know this girl from work and we used to go to High School together and she's alright so I text her once in awhile and she was telling me about how this guy she liked was a dick to her and she got kicked out of her house so I complimented her to make her feel better. Than while I was getting Valentines gifts I got her something because I figured it'd be nice to get something considering all the stuff and boy troubles she had. I'm like 90% she's not interested and she's not my type but did I make a mistake? I thought I was just being nice but will women see this as like an advance or something?[/QUOTE] omg be careful, you wouldn't want her to think of it as an advance, that might get you killed!

I just don't want her to get all awkward at work. And I'm pretty sure if she came to the conclusion I was hitting on her, and I tell her the truth she wouldn't believe me at that point. She'd just assume I was covering my ass. Granted I don't see her very often but I'm really dense so I didn't really understand the implications when I threw an extra valentines in my cart. I texted her tonight to told her I got her one but I wasn't sure when to give it to her since our shifts are different and than I realized "well shit, this seems a lot more incriminating than I meant it to be"

I'm curious, I had a girl mention to me now twice that no one had ever gotten her flowers for Valentines day. Me being the dumb-ass that I am asked her directly, "So you want flowers?" She replied "No." So what should I do?

No seems like a pretty clear instruction.

[QUOTE=Mlisen14;34660145]No seems like a pretty clear instruction.[/QUOTE] Yeah, it was the way she told me that had me go what? No is a clear instruction indeed.

[QUOTE=Vobra;34658874]I'm curious, I had a girl mention to me now twice that no one had ever gotten her flowers for Valentines day. Me being the dumb-ass that I am asked her directly, "So you want flowers?" She replied "No." So what should I do?[/QUOTE] Buy some flowers. Girls almost never answer straight in cases like this.

[QUOTE=Vobra;34660194]Yeah, it was the way she told me that had me go what? No is a clear instruction indeed.[/QUOTE] Just get her some fucking flowers, (I don't mean fuck you, I mean "fucking flowers, of all things"). Worst case scenario: you wasted a few bucks.

Yoga pants are so fun.

[QUOTE=CAPSMAN!;34661995]Worst case scenario: you wasted a few bucks.[/QUOTE] or she could be severely allergic to the flowers and die you wouldn't want that, now would you vobra??

Girlfriend has gone back now, had a lovely few days and good sexy time. Back to mundanity for a few weeks.

Sounds like she is all you have in your life. God help you if she broke up with you.

It's not too bad, boredom creeps in when I'm not at work or don't have plans though.

[QUOTE=Oxu365;34661977]Buy some flowers. Girls almost never answer straight in cases like this.[/QUOTE] Pretty hard to misinterpret a straight-up "no".

[QUOTE=Mr. Smartass;34669091]Pretty hard to misinterpret a straight-up "no".[/QUOTE] depends on the vocal tone mang.

Unless they have a fling, which I didn't see, I should think "no" meant no.

I'm honestly not all that unhappy about being alone on Valentine's Day. I mean my life has been very swiftly improving on many different levels lately and just not having a girlfriend isn't exactly that big of a deal to me in the grand scheme of things.

So I'm a freshman in college and there's this high school girl who I'm trying to get with who so SO evidently is dtf with me. However, I can't find a good time to get together. I can be home pretty much whenever, but there's an online feature in the school district that lets parents check absences and the like so she can't skip a day without her mom being able to see. It blows hard. Plus, at least one of my parents are ALWAYS home in the evenings. It really sucks. Can't think of any way to get around it.

[QUOTE=Juice_Layer;34671159]So I'm a freshman in college and there's this high school girl who I'm trying to get with who so SO evidently is dtf with me. However, I can't find a good time to get together. I can be home pretty much whenever, but there's an online feature in the school district that lets parents check absences and the like so she can't skip a day without her mom being able to see. It blows hard. Plus, at least one of my parents are ALWAYS home in the evenings. It really sucks. Can't think of any way to get around it.[/QUOTE] Call in saying you are her dad and she has a stomach virus. Her mom will drive her up to the school and drop her off then leave. You pick her up and drive off at some point where no one will see her. Drop her off before school lets out and she walks to the spot where her mom picks her up. She will not check the absence thing since she dropped her off at the school and if she is never absent then she wont have to make up hours and so no notification will be given to her mom.