[QUOTE=loopoo;37391568]How do you know she's down to fuck? I mean, honestly, if she's sat and talked to you about these things, then it kinda gives the impression that her long-distance relationship with her current boyfriend isn't exactly serious. And you've said you've tried persuading her, so it seems like she's allowing you to attempt it, which is another sign that perhaps her relationship isn't as serious.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, as I just said, none of my business. But assuming she wants to fuck, that implies that either
1) She gets around and is disloyal, so it probably would have happened anyway. Which doesn't justify it being any less of a dick move I suppose, but it would settle her issues with needing other Males and kind of makes my actions understandable (regardless of whether my intentions were to assist her needs or not).
2) She's DOESN'T get around, but instead has an arrangement with her boyfriend that lets her get with other guys if she wants, and she just feels guilty about doing it.
3) The relationship isn't in her best interests and is making her unhappy one way or another.
THE POINT IS, I do want to fuck this girl, but if it comes to the act of justifying it ... I'm probably going to end up asking what the fuck is going on with her and her relationship with this guy.
how long distance are we talking about here
like, they never see each other, or just in another town and they get together every so often
[QUOTE=dorkson0;37391852]But assuming she wants to fuck[/QUOTE]
based on what?
[QUOTE=Mobon1;37391916]how long distance are we talking about here
like, they never see each other, or just in another town and they get together every so often[/QUOTE]
They don't live together when he is in town, but they live close, and he's on a year long backpacking trip or something.
I know for sure he's gone for a year with 'visits in between', but I don't actually know when this backpacking trip started.
[QUOTE=Autumn;37391933]based on what?[/QUOTE]
We've literally talked about fucking, but the boyfriend bit gets in the way. So regardless of the fact that she has claimed she wants to have sex, I can't be sure or not what she is really on about.
edit: so I guess that really turns my 'down to fuck' into a 'definite maybe' situation
How long have they been together? I mean, it's understandable if she's having second thoughts about the relationship if they've only been together a couple of months then he's decided to go off on a year-long backpacking trip, but if they've been together for a long time, I think you should just leave it as it'd be a bit sleazy. I get where you're coming from when you say she'll probably end up sleeping with another guy, but her boyfriend seems like a bro (I might be a bit biased because he's a backpacker... gotta love hiking!) so don't screw him over.
hmm, sounds like a risky ordeal to me
i wouldn't do it
[QUOTE=loopoo;37391996]How long have they been together? I mean, it's understandable if she's having second thoughts about the relationship if they've only been together a couple of months then he's decided to go off on a year-long backpacking trip, but if they've been together for a long time, I think you should just leave it as it'd be a bit sleazy. I get where you're coming from when you say she'll probably end up sleeping with another guy, but her boyfriend seems like a bro (I might be a bit biased because he's a backpacker... gotta love hiking!) so don't screw him over.[/QUOTE]
Yeah I mean, I don't really want to fuck some guy over.
What I might do is go get details on their relationship, see if they've made compromises and what's going on between them etc.
[editline]25th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Autumn;37391997]hmm, sounds like a risky ordeal to me
i wouldn't do it[/QUOTE]
I agree, but I want to treat it with care rather than just 'Yes' or 'No'
[QUOTE=dorkson0;37392036]Yeah I mean, I don't really want to fuck some guy over.
What I might do is go get details on their relationship, see if they've made compromises and what's going on between them etc.[/QUOTE]
Is there literally no other girl you could possibly hook up with? Seems like you're willing to go through an awful lot of trouble for what appears to be more than likely a one-night stand.
[editline]24th August 2012[/editline]
You're like a bloodhound. You've caught on to the scent (of the pussy) and you're not gonna get shaken off easily, huh? :v:
[QUOTE=loopoo;37392048]Is there literally no other girl you could possibly hook up with? Seems like you're willing to go through an awful lot of trouble for what appears to be more than likely a one-night stand.[/QUOTE]
It's not really an awful lot of trouble, because essentially I can just meet up with her and discuss it for a while. I think the way we've discussed it here makes it seem expanded.
My nickname in highschool was pussy-magnet, so yes, I'm a badass.
I think Lady is trying to dodge me. Phone's turned off, she hasn't been on Facebook in days, she leaves the second I get to work without making eye contact. I don't think she wants to give me the opportunity to talk to her, but I can't just break up with her without giving us both a chance to air what's on our minds.
I'm going to be quite sad if we break up, especially if we break up like [I]this.[/I] Is she really so afraid of exposing herself that she won't even give me the opportunity to talk to her in an attempt to save our relationship? If so, that's really unfortunate for her.
Oh well. I guess all I can do is mope about it for a while and move on. If I can't have this talk with her, then this is going to be a really rotten end to what was otherwise a great thing. It's a damn shame she couldn't have just trusted me.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37392087]I think Lady is trying to dodge me. Phone's turned off, she hasn't been on Facebook in days, she leaves the second I get to work without making eye contact. I don't think she wants to give me the opportunity to talk to her, but I can't just break up with her without giving us both a chance to air what's on our minds.
I'm going to be quite sad if we break up, especially if we break up like [I]this.[/I] Is she really so afraid of exposing herself that she won't even give me the opportunity to talk to her in an attempt to save our relationship? If so, that's really unfortunate for her.
Oh well. I guess all I can do is mope about it for a while and move on. If I can't have this talk with her, then this is going to be a really rotten end to what was otherwise a great thing. It's a damn shame she couldn't have just trusted me.[/QUOTE]
wat
What happened? I remember reading about your relationship just starting and whatnot like two weeks ago.
Started dating about a month ago, and things were going exceedingly well until last week! Sudden start, sudden end.
Let us know what happens, hope everything turns out well. A guy with a personality as great as yours? You'll find someone in no time, someone just as lovely as you. But here's to hoping you settle your differences and work things out, because you guys seem like a great couple <3
so, went from being in a 2 year relationship to not being in a relationship almost a week ago now
dunno what to think of all this tbh
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37392441]Started dating about a month ago, and things were going exceedingly well until last week! Sudden start, sudden end.[/QUOTE]
girls are weird
And girls think that guys are weird.
[QUOTE=dorkson0;37392076]It's not really an awful lot of trouble, because essentially I can just meet up with her and discuss it for a while. I think the way we've discussed it here makes it seem expanded.
My nickname in highschool was Cronedog, so yes, I'm a hound.[/QUOTE]
My nickname in highschool was "Handsome Coolboy," or "Strongchest Goodteeth," to my lady friends.
[editline]24th August 2012[/editline]
"Sexdude McGetsum"
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37392087]I think Lady is trying to dodge me. Phone's turned off, she hasn't been on Facebook in days, she leaves the second I get to work without making eye contact. I don't think she wants to give me the opportunity to talk to her, but I can't just break up with her without giving us both a chance to air what's on our minds.
I'm going to be quite sad if we break up, especially if we break up like [I]this.[/I] Is she really so afraid of exposing herself that she won't even give me the opportunity to talk to her in an attempt to save our relationship? If so, that's really unfortunate for her.
Oh well. I guess all I can do is mope about it for a while and move on. If I can't have this talk with her, then this is going to be a really rotten end to what was otherwise a great thing. It's a damn shame she couldn't have just trusted me.[/QUOTE]
Wow, what happened since you last posted here? Sounded like there was just a bit of upset and now this!
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37392087]I think Lady is trying to dodge me. Phone's turned off, she hasn't been on Facebook in days, she leaves the second I get to work without making eye contact. I don't think she wants to give me the opportunity to talk to her, but I can't just break up with her without giving us both a chance to air what's on our minds.
I'm going to be quite sad if we break up, especially if we break up like [I]this.[/I] Is she really so afraid of exposing herself that she won't even give me the opportunity to talk to her in an attempt to save our relationship? If so, that's really unfortunate for her.
Oh well. I guess all I can do is mope about it for a while and move on. If I can't have this talk with her, then this is going to be a really rotten end to what was otherwise a great thing. It's a damn shame she couldn't have just trusted me.[/QUOTE]
There's only one reasonable explanation for this. She read this thread.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37392087]I think Lady is trying to dodge me. Phone's turned off, she hasn't been on Facebook in days, she leaves the second I get to work without making eye contact. I don't think she wants to give me the opportunity to talk to her, but I can't just break up with her without giving us both a chance to air what's on our minds.
I'm going to be quite sad if we break up, especially if we break up like [I]this.[/I] Is she really so afraid of exposing herself that she won't even give me the opportunity to talk to her in an attempt to save our relationship? If so, that's really unfortunate for her.
Oh well. I guess all I can do is mope about it for a while and move on. If I can't have this talk with her, then this is going to be a really rotten end to what was otherwise a great thing. It's a damn shame she couldn't have just trusted me.[/QUOTE]
Oh how I know that feel. save for some timeframe differences its like... identical.
I sure as hell hope she doesn't dump you the way I was dumped.
Ow. Thinking about that all of the sudden made my head [I]really[/I] hurt.
[editline]24th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=CheeserCrice;37393395]There's only one reasonable explanation for this. She read this thread.[/QUOTE]
Or she has serious trust issues stemmed from God only knows what in her history and she hasn't addressed them either out of fear or uncertainty.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37393301]Wow, what happened since you last posted here? Sounded like there was just a bit of upset and now this![/QUOTE]
It was sort of a pretty big deal. She said some things that you can't really take back, and they've just been hanging in the air. I don't think she wants to address them.
But again, I don't know really know for sure yet! I can't start drawing any solid conclusions until I've had the opportunity to talk to her about it. If I get all suspicious and worried, it's just going to make me blow things out of proportion. Could just be that I totally misunderstood what she was saying. Communication is key, you dig? She might not have even intentionally dodged me; could've just let her phone die by mistake, or maybe she wasn't feeling well. This is why I've got to talk to her. Dialogue a bit, see what's actually what.
What did she say that has been hanging in the air? I'm not entirely sure if I saw the post, or perhaps I read the post and forgot about the post.
[QUOTE=Mr_Razzums;37390000]Got a text last night from a girl that at one time was all over my dick in hs, but never gave it to her because I had stupid high standards. She's gotten hotter and she just got in town the other day and wants to go out tonight. She's not going to be in town very long do she obviously isn't looking for a relationship. I'm figuring just picking her up and out for coffee and icecream or something. Then probably making a move on the drop off.
If anything goes wrong I don't give a fuck because I'll probably never see her again.
What does fp think of the plan?[/QUOTE]
Decided on going to the movies. All went to plan, up until we opened the door to her house only to find her parents inside. She apologized and I settled for a hug and made my departure.
Ok, so this girl, she made up her mind about what she wants to do. She says she wants to keep seeing me when she goes to college, but she's not promising anything long term, and that if I find anyone else, she doesn't want to hold me back.
So i can't help but feel it's my fault that we broke up. I mean, i must have been doing something wrong to warrant cheating am i right? Sorta mad at my self, thinking if maybe i did somethings differently things would've been better off.
[QUOTE=Sir Spicy Buns;37397204]So i can't help but feel it's my fault that we broke up. I mean, i must have been doing something wrong to warrant cheating am i right? Sorta mad at my self, thinking if maybe i did somethings differently things would've been better off.[/QUOTE]
don't even start
did she say anything she wished you would do differently? did she open up to you and share anything that was bothering her that could be made better? did she try to communicate and make the relationship stronger? if not, then you can't hold the blame for anything, and she will never find a man like you ever again
[QUOTE=djshox;37397241]don't even start
did she say anything she wished you would do differently? did she open up to you and share anything that was bothering her that could be made better? did she try to communicate and make the relationship stronger? if not, then you can't hold the blame for anything, and she will never find a man like you ever again[/QUOTE]
Winner, winner, chicken dinner.
Sir Spicy Buns, you're a great guy. Types like you are few and far between. She's gonna end up realizing that and wishing she never betrayed you or lost you. Best thing for you is to drop thinking about it, because it's done and nothing you do can change that. At the end of the day, it was best for you, as you found out her true personality. You deserve to meet someone better than her, someone who will appreciate you for the person you are. You might think it's terrible right now, but things will look up. Best of luck man, you'll see, you'll meet a girl who will make you ten times happier than she did.
[QUOTE=shatteredwindow;37396902]Ok, so this girl, she made up her mind about what she wants to do. She says she wants to keep seeing me when she goes to college, but she's not promising anything long term, and that if I find anyone else, she doesn't want to hold me back.[/QUOTE]
In other words, soft breakup so she can lay you down easy when she finds a new guy.
jack off until you die?
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