[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;37397612]jack off until you die?[/QUOTE]
If you mean call your girlfriend for sex, well yeah.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37397576]Next weekend, my parents are going on vacation and I'm home alone.
[I] You know what that means! [/I][/QUOTE]
i have no idea!
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[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37397718]Me and my girlfriend, naked all day.[/QUOTE]
I once thought it'd be a great idea to get naked and sit my girlfriend on my lap. Worst decision I ever made, skin is like fucking plastic wrap. Every time she'd move, my skin would pull and it'd hurt like a bitch. So we just spooned instead :smile:
So how can I tell if a girl is actually not interested versus just expecting me to make moves? I've been off the market for so long I don't remember how to do nuthin no more. I broke up with my GF after almost two years because the "spice" wore off for me and I found she's not really that compatible.
[QUOTE=ice445;37397874]So how can I tell if a girl is actually not interested versus just expecting me to make moves? I've been off the market for so long I don't remember how to do nuthin no more. I broke up with my GF after almost two years because the "spice" wore off for me and I found she's not really that compatible.[/QUOTE]
If you are looking for someone wouldn't you be interested in knowing if they want you, instead of not wanting you? Its generally pretty easy to tell when someone isn't into you.
Guys almost always make the first move, you aren't going to change that.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37397819]seriously my gf's skin is like velvet if she moves around on my lap it feels so titillating[/QUOTE]
I guess it was cause we were sweaty or something. My ex's skin was like velvet too, but after we'd been at it for an hour, I guess the sweat made us sticky. I'm pretty sure squeaks were audible (I'm joking).
[QUOTE=G3rman;37397923]If you are looking for someone wouldn't you be interested in knowing if they want you, instead of not wanting you? Its generally pretty easy to tell when someone isn't into you.
Guys almost always make the first move, you aren't going to change that.[/QUOTE]
It's hard to know what qualifies as a move, and what is crossing the line. I like to get to know women before I ask them on a date, but in certain cases it doesn't seem possible without me being "creepy".
[QUOTE=ice445;37397959]It's hard to know what qualifies as a move, and what is crossing the line. I like to get to know women before I ask them on a date, but in certain cases it doesn't seem possible without me being "creepy".[/QUOTE]
Well the only way you are going to seriously get to know them is by going somewhere with them. Just invite them to go somewhere with you and friends, or just you.
You are only going to come off as a creep if they are oversensitive to guys trying to pick them up or if you suck at talking to women.
It's really not that difficult to make a move on a woman without coming across as a creep, unless you're a spaghetti-monster.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37397976]Well the only way you are going to seriously get to know them is by going somewhere with them. Just invite them to go somewhere with you and friends, or just you.
You are only going to come off as a creep if they are oversensitive to guys trying to pick them up or if you suck at talking to women.[/QUOTE]
I suppose this doesn't make any sense without context. Let's just say there's a co worker of mine that I want to get to know better. We've had a few minor chats in person, she knows who I am, etc. I even did something nice for her (and beneficial for me) by picking up a shift she didn't want. In the process of the exchange she ended up texting me (I'm assuming she looked up my number on the employee tables or w/e). So, taking the opportunity to chat her up, I sent her a few texts later in the evening. She didn't seem off put by it at all, but at the same time she was pretty casual in terms of responses. I asked her some generic question about her major and then didn't get anything back after that.
So therein lies the problem. It was pretty late (post midnight), so I can't tell if she just had stuff to do or what. I also don't feel like trying to strike yet another text conversation because to me it would just be weird and awkward. I don't have any other "text icebreakers" (I used a joke regarding the shift I took the first time).
But yeah, I feel stuck. I don't really feel comfortable jumping to the next universe with a random "hey, lets go somewhere" question.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37398125]If you don't feel comfortable yet, talk to her more at work.[/QUOTE]
We never work the same shifts. If I see her, she's either getting ready to work or going home. I only have like 5 minutes tops to talk to her between a shift change on one day of the week. It sucks. The whole situation kinda does. I'm not even crushing on her. I am just interested to learn about her more.
Well you could start with texting/talking to her at a more reasonable hour.
[QUOTE=G3rman;37398302]Well you could start with texting/talking to her at a more reasonable hour.[/QUOTE]
How do I break the ice though? Just saying "hey" at a random time with no context seems awkward to me. I'm probably just thinking way too hard about this, but as I said, I've been out of the loop for years. Its all alien again lol
No, you are right. If you guys aren't really friends and don't talk on a regular basis, just sending a text saying "hey" might seem a bit awkward. At the end of the day, you know your situation better than we ever will. All I can recommend is trying to become friends, but judging by what you said, it seems to be very difficult, what with her work hours being completely different to yours.
The only thing I could recommend is trying to become friends with someone she knows, and perhaps organizing a get together of work colleagues. Throw a barbeque, something like that would be great. Organize a BBQ then invite a bunch of people and invite her. Then get to know her at the BBQ.
Well is there anything necessarily "wrong" with going the alpha male route and just being semi aggressive about it? Or direct, rather. I don't really want to freak her out with a direct date request, but at the same time in my mind it doesn't seem like that big of a deal.
Just talk to her, if its not easy enough to get a topic going or if you can't find good times to hang out then chances are its going to be just as difficult to date.
I was going to say invite her somewhere or go to some work function and talk then, small talk. Its not automatically a date just by asking to go somewhere, but you need to get pleasantries out of the way and preferably not through texting. If you can't meet her in person then its just a waste of time.
"did you just fart, because you blew me away!"
[QUOTE=G3rman;37398485]Just talk to her, if its not easy enough to get a topic going or if you can't find good times to hang out then chances are its going to be just as difficult to date.
I was going to say invite her somewhere or go to some work function and talk then, small talk. Its not automatically a date just by asking to go somewhere, but you need to get pleasantries out of the way and preferably not through texting. If you can't meet her in person then its just a waste of time.[/QUOTE]
Well that much I know. I guess my only problem is knowing when to "pull the trigger' so to speak. I don't want to wait too long and mess it up, or not wait enough time and mess it up. I also have an irrational fear of people at work finding out if I do indeed mess it up, and that would be rather annoying.
I guess I'll just text her tomorrow "ey bitch les fuck". Seems like a decent compromise.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37398614]as long as you're having that I DONT WANNA FUCK UP mentality you'll get no where
sometimes you dun goof'd, learn from it and move on. as long as you don't like rape her i'm sure you have nothing to worry about, especially considering you don't even have shifts together[/QUOTE]
The mentality is only in place because I can't remember the proper customs of "the game". This presents a problem, because if I do "dun goof", I most likely will never even know what exactly I dun goofed at.
Yup, gotta break up with Lady. Accidentally showed up an hour early to work tonight, and could barely get her to talk at all. It was just the two of us, and very quiet, so it became a bit awkward. Small talk was the most I could get her to commit to. When I asked her about the next time we could go out, she just said, "I don't know."
It was nothing like this before, and I don't know what changed. I tried to let her inside, and asked her to do the same, and then she just disengaged.
We could have really been good for each other, I think, but relationships are a two-way street.
If you can't trust, how can you be trusted?
I'm thoroughly bummed out about this. I don't even know how I'm going to talk to her about it yet. I have to do it face to face, just to give her that one last-ditch chance to give me [I]something[/I] that would let me know she actually cares about us.
I'm sorry, I know I've been writing about this a lot on here lately! Writing is just how I clear my head, and I'm semi-hoping somebody will tell me I'm just being silly and that I have it all wrong and that I should just stop worrying and give things some time to see what happens, but I guess that's not likely.
sure you didn't open up too early? maybe it scared her off
BDA think back and ask yourself whether there were any signs of her being so emotionally closed
it might help you out in the future
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37398786]Yup, gotta break up with Lady. Accidentally showed up an hour early to work tonight, and could barely get her to talk at all. It was just the two of us, and very quiet, so it became a bit awkward. Small talk was the most I could get her to commit to. When I asked her about the next time we could go out, she just said, "I don't know."
It was nothing like this before, and I don't know what changed. I tried to let her inside, and asked her to do the same, and then she just disengaged.
We could have really been good for each other, I think, but relationships are a two-way street.
If you can't trust, how can you be trusted?
I'm thoroughly bummed out about this. I don't even know how I'm going to talk to her about it yet. I have to do it face to face, just to give her that one last-ditch chance to give me [I]something[/I] that would let me know she actually cares about us.
I'm sorry, I know I've been writing about this a lot on here lately! Writing is just how I clear my head, and I'm semi-hoping somebody will tell me I'm just being silly and that I have it all wrong and that I should just stop worrying and give things some time to see what happens.[/QUOTE]
don't worry about it dude. you did everything you could, you went above and beyond what most guys would do to salvage your relationship. you tried to comprehend and understand her issues while she couldn't admit to them.
i'm sorry you're bummed out, but really, she couldn't handle a great man
if she comes back and explains everything, good for both of you. but for now, good for only you, since you did the right thing and stopped waiting on her to explain what was wrong.
maybe you should be in a relationship with djshox
i am single after all
lets do this baby
[QUOTE=thisispain;37398827]maybe you should be in a relationship with djshox[/QUOTE]
...Dj, I...
:blush:
i cant fight these strange feelings any more
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[QUOTE=ice445;37398679]The mentality is only in place because I can't remember the proper customs of "the game". This presents a problem, because if I do "dun goof", I most likely will never even know what exactly I dun goofed at.[/QUOTE]
I've got to ask, how old are you? Because you're saying a lot of things my 49 year old dad would say. "Pull the trigger" "the game". Sorry, just curious, because an awful lot of what you're saying has a "dad figure just trying to fit in with the kids" feel to it :v:
note to self: cut myself off when it comes to drinking whiskey alone while posting
Whiskey me up; this hotel can manage itself without me. I read [I]The Shining[/I], the ghosts will take care of everything. Never quite got to the end, but I'm sure it all works out.
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