Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

Oh, Gosh. She's going on about this shit on Facebook, now. Huge rants. I want to reply, but I know it'd be a bad idea. There's no point in arguing about this. She's already painting herself as the victim of some massive sleight, and me as some delusional nutjob who smothered her with unrequited love. I guess if that's what she needs to feel better about this ordeal, then whatever, but I can't believe how massively crazy she got in such a short period of time. It's like a fuckin' magic trick! I don't understand why she's so intent on hurting me? She's been spitting venom like this were a life and death struggle, when all I said was, [I]I don't understand why you're upset, can we please talk about it?[/I] I haven't been in a relationship in a long time, so maybe I'm just a bit rusty, but this seems like a [I]special[/I] kind of crazy. The one good thing about this break-up is that she's so clearly over the moon that it's a lot harder to take her poison seriously. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] I know I keep writing about it, but it's like she keeps finding new ways to surprise me with the depth of her malicious wackiness.

sorry to hear that BDA, that sounds like a pretty unpleasant situation to be in, and not one that's even your fault! [img]http://www.thatcutesite.com/uploads/2010/11/cute_corgi_puppy.jpg[/img]

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37417951]Oh, Gosh. She's going on about this shit on Facebook, now. Huge rants. I want to reply, but I know it'd be a bad idea. There's no point in arguing about this. She's already painting herself as the victim of some massive sleight, and me as some delusional nutjob who smothered her with unrequited love. I guess if that's what she needs to feel better about this ordeal, then whatever, but I can't believe how massively crazy she got in such a short period of time. It's like a fuckin' magic trick! I don't understand why she's so intent on hurting me? She's been spitting venom like this were a life and death struggle, when all I said was, [I]I don't understand why you're upset, can we please talk about it?[/I] I haven't been in a relationship in a long time, so maybe I'm just a bit rusty, but this seems like a [I]special[/I] kind of crazy. The one good thing about this break-up is that she's so clearly over the moon that it's a lot harder to take her poison seriously. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] I know I keep writing about it, but it's like she keeps finding new ways to surprise me with the depth of her malicious wackiness.[/QUOTE] She's having a serious problem in her life and she's latched onto you as the cause. It's an easy thing to do. I've done it myself, actually. You're just functioning as the scapegoat right now. She WILL realize the mistake she's made later on, but it's going to take time. Just move on.

Thank you for the lil' corgi puppy, that makes things much sillier. How can you not find the silver lining with lil' corgi puppies around? I get what she's doing and why she's doing it, I'm just surprised, is all, because I never knew how deeply her emotional issues really ran. Chicks like that should come with a warning label.

[QUOTE=G3rman;37397402]In other words, soft breakup so she can lay you down easy when she finds a new guy.[/QUOTE] I guess? But I don't really mind since I'm having fun for now.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37418120]Thank you for the lil' corgi puppy, that makes things much sillier. How can you not find the silver lining with lil' corgi puppies around? I get what she's doing and why she's doing it, I'm just surprised, is all, because I never knew how deeply her emotional issues really ran. Chicks like that should come with a warning label.[/QUOTE] If only

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37418120]Thank you for the lil' corgi puppy, that makes things much sillier. How can you not find the silver lining with lil' corgi puppies around? I get what she's doing and why she's doing it, I'm just surprised, is all, because I never knew how deeply her emotional issues really ran. Chicks like that should come with a warning label.[/QUOTE] Intelligent, sane, attractive. Choose 2.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37417951]Oh, Gosh. She's going on about this shit on Facebook, now. Huge rants. I want to reply, but I know it'd be a bad idea. There's no point in arguing about this. She's already painting herself as the victim of some massive sleight, and me as some delusional nutjob who smothered her with unrequited love. I guess if that's what she needs to feel better about this ordeal, then whatever, but I can't believe how massively crazy she got in such a short period of time. It's like a fuckin' magic trick! I don't understand why she's so intent on hurting me? She's been spitting venom like this were a life and death struggle, when all I said was, [I]I don't understand why you're upset, can we please talk about it?[/I] I haven't been in a relationship in a long time, so maybe I'm just a bit rusty, but this seems like a [I]special[/I] kind of crazy. The one good thing about this break-up is that she's so clearly over the moon that it's a lot harder to take her poison seriously. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] I know I keep writing about it, but it's like she keeps finding new ways to surprise me with the depth of her malicious wackiness.[/QUOTE] Why is she being so harsh?

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37417951]Oh, Gosh. She's going on about this shit on Facebook, now. Huge rants. I want to reply, but I know it'd be a bad idea. There's no point in arguing about this. She's already painting herself as the victim of some massive sleight, and me as some delusional nutjob who smothered her with unrequited love. I guess if that's what she needs to feel better about this ordeal, then whatever, but I can't believe how massively crazy she got in such a short period of time. It's like a fuckin' magic trick! I don't understand why she's so intent on hurting me? She's been spitting venom like this were a life and death struggle, when all I said was, [I]I don't understand why you're upset, can we please talk about it?[/I] I haven't been in a relationship in a long time, so maybe I'm just a bit rusty, but this seems like a [I]special[/I] kind of crazy. The one good thing about this break-up is that she's so clearly over the moon that it's a lot harder to take her poison seriously.[/QUOTE] If I may ask, what exactly is she writing?

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37417951]Oh, Gosh. She's going on about this shit on Facebook, now. Huge rants. I want to reply, but I know it'd be a bad idea. There's no point in arguing about this. She's already painting herself as the victim of some massive sleight, and me as some delusional nutjob who smothered her with unrequited love. I guess if that's what she needs to feel better about this ordeal, then whatever, but I can't believe how massively crazy she got in such a short period of time. It's like a fuckin' magic trick! I don't understand why she's so intent on hurting me? She's been spitting venom like this were a life and death struggle, when all I said was, [I]I don't understand why you're upset, can we please talk about it?[/I] I haven't been in a relationship in a long time, so maybe I'm just a bit rusty, but this seems like a [I]special[/I] kind of crazy. The one good thing about this break-up is that she's so clearly over the moon that it's a lot harder to take her poison seriously. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] I know I keep writing about it, but it's like she keeps finding new ways to surprise me with the depth of her malicious wackiness.[/QUOTE] She just sounds like she's awful at human relationships. You probably didn't do anything wrong. sad BDA story -> dicks and vaginas -> back to sad BDA this thread is interesting

[QUOTE=JohanGS;37418910]If I may ask, what exactly is she writing?[/QUOTE] "Do you view love as overtly manipulative, as a burden to fulfill the desires of another person who has decided to take it on themselves to adopt a victim complex? Cause that's how I view it." and " It's a disgusting hormonal response only meant to tie us to another person long enough to reproduce and it's just another obligation." Were probably the most "what?" selections in her rambling expression of distaste and distrust. I feel kinda like I was eating a really yummy apple, but then I found out that there were bugs in the core.

at least you only took 1 or 2 bites before you found out there were bugs in the core much better than eating nearly the entire thing, right?

yes good thing bda is only a slight cannibal

I'm going to break up with my girlfriend of 8 and a bit months, our relationship is just so stale- I think we haven't made out in about 6 months or even just kissed in a few weeks (I know there's much more in a relationship and we've been busy with work/holidays but I don't really think we had any of that properly)- I could have broken up in March and not missed a thing. I don't even really feel hurt, I'm at the stage where I just feel totally apathetic towards us. Guess I'm pretty pathetic and 'beta' as it is, but the number of times I lied to myself about what basically felt like neglect of me, out of fear I was being a controlling attention whore. I could count the number of times she's texted me initially on my fingers probably, and some days together at school it was like I was completely invisible to her. Some freinds of mine messaged her about it, and I saw the messages and agreed with them but kept on her side in the hope that 'things might improve' I should have ended it then. This probably sounds really self-righteous, but it's not me that's the (main) problem, it's her. Fairly sure most guys would have ended it long before I did. But my best mate has said she wants to break up too, so whatever, first relationship good as over, and I can be single and hedonistic for my 18th birthday. /vent

uh yeah if your own girlfriend ignores you in the halls then there is something amiss

my girlfriend cheated on me. i truly forgave her, only condition i asked was she never talks to him again. just yesterday she lied to my face and blew me off while we were in a phone call so she could CALL and talk to him. I told her I was tired of this shit, every time i try to confront her about it she gets all... cold and.. calculating? and doesn't seem to give a shit or just ignores me until i start fucking screaming into the phone. god she used to be so kind and compassionate, she actually WANTED to talk to me instead of feeling obligated...

[QUOTE=lotusking;37419887]my girlfriend cheated on me. i truly forgave her, only condition i asked was she never talks to him again. just yesterday she lied to my face and blew me off while we were in a phone call so she could CALL and talk to him. I told her I was tired of this shit, every time i try to confront her about it she gets all... cold and.. calculating? and doesn't seem to give a shit or just ignores me until i start fucking screaming into the phone. god she used to be so kind and compassionate, she actually WANTED to talk to me instead of feeling obligated...[/QUOTE] dumb her. she is probably fucking around with that dude.

it's basically turned into some dumb quasi-friends with benefits. I told her I was breaking up with her, it didn't even phase her? she said she doesn't care about the relationship, but she said she cares about me (???) she literally laughs at me when I'm upset about something, i don't think she takes me seriously at all. i wouldn't have gotten upset about anything if she just like fucking told me at the start it would just be like, friends and benefits.

[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37419931]Leaavvee her.[/QUOTE] everytime i do it's just like, i can't fucking do it. i don't have anything else. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] i give her so many fucking chances to tell me the truth. she lies through her FUCKING teeth like it's nothing she can't just swallow her pride and admit fucking remorse for what she did.

i think you're better off with nothing than with something like her, lying to you to call some guy she cheated on you with, after she agreed to not talk to him again is terrible. it doesn't seem like she has any remorse if she keeps lying to you, etc you deserve a lot better than that

she literally fucking lied to me for a month, i always knew she was fucking around with the other dude. but i really wanted everything to work, i fucking lied to myself, I convinced myself i was just a fucking paranoid boyfriend-type with trust issues. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] every night i fucking went to bed with tears in my eyes and my heart beating out of my fucking chest, thinking i was a horrible human being for even doubting her, or getting angry at her.

[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37419597]"Do you view love as overtly manipulative, as a burden to fulfill the desires of another person who has decided to take it on themselves to adopt a victim complex? Cause that's how I view it." and " It's a disgusting hormonal response only meant to tie us to another person long enough to reproduce and it's just another obligation." Were probably the most "what?" selections in her rambling expression of distaste and distrust. I feel kinda like I was eating a really yummy apple, but then I found out that there were bugs in the core.[/QUOTE] If I saw somebody spouting shit like that on Facebook I'd block them and feel sorry for the poor wanker that "caused this". Best just ignoring her, you don't want to kick up trouble in a public place as you'll look like an ass no matter what you say. I've read a lot of your posts over the years, you're a nice guy, you'll move on. Don't let it get you down.

the only reason i ever found out is because the DUDE WHO SHE WAS fucking around with had more moral integrity then her, he didn't want to be a fucking cheater. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] im sorry for like fucking venting and rambling but i haven't talked to anyone about this.

no reason to be sorry, that's what these threads are here for [quote]I told her I was breaking up with her, it didn't even phase her? she said she doesn't care about the relationship, but she said she cares about me (???)[/quote] did you just do this? or was this sometime else

[QUOTE=Nikeos;37420092]no reason to be sorry, that's what these threads are here for did you just do this? or was this sometime else[/QUOTE] yesterday. I never can really break up with her, I always just like fucking fall back into it, she's just like... all I have

at least now you guys aren't together delete her from everything if you already haven't

[QUOTE=lotusking;37420057]the only reason i ever found out is because the DUDE WHO SHE WAS fucking around with had more moral integrity then her, he didn't want to be a fucking cheater. [editline]26th August 2012[/editline] im sorry for like fucking venting and rambling but i haven't talked to anyone about this.[/QUOTE] That isn't moral integrity if she's talking to him again. That's him bragging, no matter the presentation. You've got two options. Option A is don't break up with her, get cheated on again and eventually get dumped and feel terrible for about a year and have tons of sleepless nights because you let this chick hurt you again. Option B is you dump this girl, she gets over it because she's no longer invested anyway, and you walk away from this a better person that has learned something valuable. I've done option A. Please don't copy my mistake.

[QUOTE=Nikeos;37420154]at least now you guys aren't together delete her from everything if you already haven't[/QUOTE] i cnat fucking do it i just cant the last 8 months of my life were basically centered around her.

[QUOTE=Agoat;37420168]Option A is don't break up with her, get cheated on again and eventually get dumped and feel terrible for about a year and have tons of sleepless nights because you let this chick hurt you again. Option B is you dump this girl, she gets over it because she's no longer invested anyway, and you walk away from this a better person that has learned something valuable. I've done option A. Please don't copy my mistake.[/QUOTE] yes, this when you hopefully do delete her from everything, it'll hurt for awhile, but one day you will wake up and you will feel amazing not deleting her from your life will only postpone that

[QUOTE=lotusking;37420176]i cnat fucking do it i just cant the last 8 months of my life were basically centered around her.[/QUOTE] Seriously, you have nothing to gain by keeping her in your life. Except for pain.