At the end of September, I'm flying out to Ireland, gonna be living alone again and starting uni. Can't. Fucking. Wait. Sad thing is that the place I'm going to is pretty secluded (as it's like some small little town that has a programme for the medschool I want to join) so I don't know what the social life down there will be, but I can't complain.
Living alone is the best. Can't wait to get my chef on.
cooking has got to be one of my favourite reasons for moving out!
i appreciate having meals cooked and sitting around eating together with my family, but the complete freedom you have when you move out is unbeatable.
are you living alone alone, or in shared halls/house etc?
Alone alone. Honestly, coming from a 19 year old guy, this might seem a tad bit pathetic, but the joys of my weekend were going down to the farmers market and buying stuff all fresh, knowing I'd turn it into an amazing beef stew or whatever. Planning the night before what I'd be making for dinner the next day, you can't beat that feeling.
Then having it all cooking in the kitchen while you're sitting down watching tv, anticipating the amazing meal on the way? You know what I'm talking about, Autumn! :v:
[QUOTE=Chocolate.;37423578]This girl who I was 99% sure liked me and wanted me to ask her out is now texting me saying "I don't feel I'm ready for another relationship because of how things went with my ex" .
I mean, I know she likes me. Or I used to at least, maybe shes just saying this as a way to say shes over me?
I don't know, urgh.. What should I do? I really like her![/QUOTE]
I had this issue, but the girl I was seeing was too good to pass up we'd shared a bed, cuddled and shit, but no kissing that was the barrier as she wasn't quite over her last relationship of 2-3 years. I had to break some rules to keep seeing her, like iniating meet ups or phonecalls when she should have, the big one was asking her if she wanted me to come to her birthday getting the reply "I don't mind" I still turned up despite the long journey. The important thing was though I wasn't needy or desperate about it, eventually she realised there was no point losing someone she liked because of her last relationship, she's now my girlfriend of 3 years.
I would sort of lay off a little and give her some time if I were you, but just be there if she needs you and keep in contact. At the same time, she's got to know that you're not someone who can be taken for granted, she might just lose someone she likes messing around like that.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37426040]Alone alone. Honestly, coming from a 19 year old guy, this might seem a tad bit pathetic, but the joys of my weekend were going down to the farmers market and buying stuff all fresh, knowing I'd turn it into an amazing beef stew or whatever. Planning the night before what I'd be making for dinner the next day, you can't beat that feeling.
Then having it all cooking in the kitchen while you're sitting down watching tv, anticipating the amazing meal on the way? You know what I'm talking about, Autumn! :v:[/QUOTE]
i'm very glad someone else feels this passionately about food and cooking!
did you know we have a cooking forum? it's not the most active of places, but i'm sure you could find some places to post in there when the time's right!
[url]http://www.facepunch.com/forumdisplay.php?f=388[/url]
[editline]27th August 2012[/editline]
sorry, a tad off topic!
I go there often, but the place is a bit of a ghost town. I've wanted to make a thread for a while, but I don't have a camera, so it'd be a bit boring without any pictures.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37411630]Well, that break up went about as terribly as any break-up possibly could. She forced it through text, by not letting me talk to her in person, and not returning my calls. Finally, I sent her, "I don't understand this distance you're trying to put between us. I'll be awake tomorrow, please call me or stop by so we can talk about it."
She sends back "Just calm down and don't tell me when I must communicate with you."
I reply, "See, this is what I'm talking about. I'm not trying to fight you, Ashe, I'm just confused. Please, just give me a call tomorrow so we can work this out."
Apparently, she harbored a lot of resentment. Went straight for the throat, used all the secrets I'd shared and trust I'd given against me. Eight pages of insults and accusations. It was so brutally awful, how completely she shredded things, that it left absolutely no chance of working anything out.
After they stopped coming in, I sent, "Wow, I just wanted to talk, but you really went for the throat. We could've worked this out, Ashe."
She sends a few more pages about how broken and bad I am, and then finishes with, "[B]I hope we can still be friends[/B]."
Um... Yeah, I'm sure we'll be good buds after this, Ashe. You used everything I'd ever confided in you with against me, just for wanting to talk to you about our relationship. Clearly, we're gonna hang out and watch Doctor Who again.
Oh well, what can you do? I feel about as terrible as I'd expected, but not as bad as I'd feared. I'll pick myself up before long.[/QUOTE]
In the words of my mate when I told him about me and my girlfriend's break up
"[B]Fuck that bitch![/B]"
(few pages late, sorry)
Never engage with a girl that says they're "confused".
Cross posting:
Okay, so I just got back from going out with that girl I talked about a page or so back. It seemed to go really well. We just kinda walked around a bit, sat on a wall, and then on the floor in an alleyway (it was raining )
My only worry is that she might've thought it was just a friendly thing? I didn't really make as much physical contact as I probably should have, and she just hugged me at the end. We also bumped into her grandparents and uncle, she introduced me as her friend (which I'd expect anyway), but she didn't want to tell her mum about me... So I guess that means she didn't see it as just a friendly thing?
We went into a coffee shop and she got a drink, she didn't really give me the chance to offer to pay so I dunno
She was in a rush at the end to meet her mother (they were going to see a play), she we just hugged. I'm gonna ask her later if she wants to go to the cinema tomorrow. The film on really is the new Bourne film... Is that too action-y?
I met the most amazing girl. I can literally be completely myself around her. She's amazing and although we've only been talking properly for a few days, we both like one another and I [I]really[/I] like her.
[QUOTE=Tennisball;37428368]I'm gonna ask her later if she wants to go to the cinema tomorrow. The film on really is the new Bourne film... Is that too action-y?[/QUOTE]
Some girls like action films. I saw The Expendables 2 with a lass.
Me and my girlfriend watched Hard Boiled on DVD. Some girls like them, some don't.
[QUOTE=Tennisball;37428368]Cross posting:
Okay, so I just got back from going out with that girl I talked about a page or so back. It seemed to go really well. We just kinda walked around a bit, sat on a wall, and then on the floor in an alleyway (it was raining )
My only worry is that she might've thought it was just a friendly thing? I didn't really make as much physical contact as I probably should have, and she just hugged me at the end. We also bumped into her grandparents and uncle, she introduced me as her friend (which I'd expect anyway), but she didn't want to tell her mum about me... So I guess that means she didn't see it as just a friendly thing?
We went into a coffee shop and she got a drink, she didn't really give me the chance to offer to pay so I dunno
She was in a rush at the end to meet her mother (they were going to see a play), she we just hugged. I'm gonna ask her later if she wants to go to the cinema tomorrow. The film on really is the new Bourne film... Is that too action-y?[/QUOTE]
Certainly doesn't sound too action-y to me :D I love that series of films and I'm looking forward to seeing that one.
Maybe just ask her with an amendment of "if you want to see that one" and if not go to a different movie.
my girlfriend's favourite childhood films were starship troopers and predator
yeah this isn't the victorian ages where women were expected to faint at the sight of violence or excitement
[QUOTE=thisispain;37429309]yeah this isn't the victorian ages where women were expected to faint at the sight of violence or excitement[/QUOTE]
Yep! Surprise! girls have likes and dislikes too! They're not defined by gender.
I'm a boy and I don't like beer, shitting in the woods and fist fights with chainsaw wielding bears. Sometimes I like to cry into a box of chocolates and watch Mean Girls.
[QUOTE=thisispain;37429309]yeah this isn't the victorian ages where women were expected to faint at the sight of violence or excitement[/QUOTE]
I think he was aiming for "My girlfriend is awesome because as a kid, she liked the same shows as me" rather than "How absurd! My female attaché spent her childhood liking masculine shows. That is beyond belief, and should be corrected at once!"
[QUOTE=loopoo;37429457]I think he was aiming for "My girlfriend is awesome because as a kid, she liked the same shows as me" rather than "How absurd! My female attaché spent her childhood liking masculine shows. That is beyond belief, and should be corrected at once!"[/QUOTE]
I believe he was referring to the original post, asking if a movie was too action-y.
Oh right :v:
[QUOTE=loopoo;37429457]I think he was aiming for "My girlfriend is awesome because as a kid, she liked the same shows as me" rather than "How absurd! My female attaché spent her childhood liking masculine shows. That is beyond belief, and should be corrected at once!"[/QUOTE]
I gotta say I completely dismissed the possibility that TIP's post was aimed at me, haha
but you hit it on the head - besides, that comment wasn't really aimed at anyone, usually I quote people if I wanna make it clear
I thought he was replying to Turnips. And to that guy saying if the movie is too action-y, I think he meant for a date, as his post made it seem that he wanted to show the girl that he wants to be more than a friend, and decided to ask for advice on whether the film - being too actiony - would keep him as a friendly figure to the girl.
[editline]27th August 2012[/editline]
I'm just gonna head to bed :v:
yeah, leaving asinine ideas of gender roles aside, there may be types of films which aren't really conducive to a good date
then again... my first proper "date" with my girlfriend involved watching 13 assassins in a makeshift cinema with my uni's film society, lmao
[img]http://i.imgur.com/O4b9M.jpg[/img]
[img]http://i.imgur.com/zcZ72.jpg[/img]
this film was laughs. all in all I conclude that I don't have the experience or knowledge to tell someone what's a good or bad film for a date. just fucking enjoy your date
How common is for chicks to (ab)use you for a car?
[QUOTE=HeatPipe;37429808]How common is for chicks to (ab)use you for a car?[/QUOTE]
One of my friends dumped his girlfriend of 4 years because she only spoke to him when she and her friends needed a lift somewhere.
Ok, so I seem to be stuck in a bit of a rut.
My girlfriend is on holiday, and she brought a friend too. She has a boyfriend. I keep in contact with my girlfriend through our phones, but she told me something I didn't want to hear. She said her friend had kissed another boy. This got me worried, because I am not good with secret shit like that. Then she told me later, that after her friend kissed that boy, he tried it on with my girlfriend, asking if it didn't work with her friend, that if she would like to. This has me pissed off like a fucking madman. She didn't go through with it thankfully, but I feel like insanity.
The only satisfaction I am getting from this is the fact that I found out that he's pissed off that he found out they had boyfriend's after he kissed her friend.
Fuck, how do I calm myself down? And should I keep that shit secret?
[QUOTE=cyclocius;37430201]One of my friends dumped his girlfriend of 4 years because she only spoke to him when she and her friends needed a lift somewhere.[/QUOTE]
took him a long time to feel abused....
I saw a girl with orange hair today. Orange Hair Girl. After my nasty break-up, I'm eager to meet new people. New people with orange hair.
[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;37430321]Ok, so I seem to be stuck in a bit of a rut.
My girlfriend is on holiday, and she brought a friend too. She has a boyfriend. I keep in contact with my girlfriend through our phones, but she told me something I didn't want to hear. She said her friend had kissed another boy. This got me worried, because I am not good with secret shit like that. Then she told me later, that after her friend kissed that boy, he tried it on with my girlfriend, asking if it didn't work with her friend, that if she would like to. This has me pissed off like a fucking madman. She didn't go through with it thankfully, but I feel like insanity.
The only satisfaction I am getting from this is the fact that I found out that he's pissed off that he found out they had boyfriend's after he kissed her friend.
Fuck, how do I calm myself down? And should I keep that shit secret?[/QUOTE]
Eh, is there really anything to gain from divulging this information to the friend's boyfriend? I mean your girlfriend turned him down (points to her), and we have very little context and info from that situation with the other girl. Telling the boy might do more harm than good.
As for stress relief, loud music and either a violent video game or a favorite show helps with me. So does cooking. Hot damn do I love to cook. Making a chicken casserole and a meat loaf this week for dinners on 2 different days for the fam...
[QUOTE=CWalkthroughs;37430321]Ok, so I seem to be stuck in a bit of a rut.
My girlfriend is on holiday, and she brought a friend too. She has a boyfriend. I keep in contact with my girlfriend through our phones, but she told me something I didn't want to hear. She said her friend had kissed another boy. This got me worried, because I am not good with secret shit like that. Then she told me later, that after her friend kissed that boy, he tried it on with my girlfriend, asking if it didn't work with her friend, that if she would like to. This has me pissed off like a fucking madman. She didn't go through with it thankfully, but I feel like insanity.
The only satisfaction I am getting from this is the fact that I found out that he's pissed off that he found out they had boyfriend's after he kissed her friend.
Fuck, how do I calm myself down? And should I keep that shit secret?[/QUOTE]
You have nothing to be angry about surely?
Unless you hang a big sign around your girlfriends neck with "TAKEN" written on it, other guys aren't going to instantly know she's not single, you have to rely on her to turn them down (as she has) instead of being angry you should probably look on it as a happy thing that you have a girlfriend who is loyal to you and you can clearly trust to do the right thing. The guy left her alone after she turned him down, why worry?
Your seemingly unreasonable anger will only drive a wedge between you and your girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Tennisball;37428368]Okay, so I just got back from going out with that girl I talked about a page or so back. It seemed to go really well. We just kinda walked around a bit, sat on a wall, and then on the floor in an alleyway (it was raining )
My only worry is that she might've thought it was just a friendly thing? I didn't really make as much physical contact as I probably should have, and she just hugged me at the end. We also bumped into her grandparents and uncle, she introduced me as her friend (which I'd expect anyway), but she didn't want to tell her mum about me... So I guess that means she didn't see it as just a friendly thing? [/QUOTE]
Depending on the sort of girl you think she is, I would just ask her. These situations can really make you look bad, but coming out honest about it is the best you can do, that can't be held against you. Girls I find don't see that good ingredients for friendship could be good ingredients for a relationship if the attraction is there. Making a move on them could offend them and they'll judge your motives for seeing them, but talking to them about it is different, it would say a lot about them if they try to scorn you for an innocent crush.
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