Dropbox is being a dick on the mobile version.
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lol just use imgur
What is the general consensus on long distance relationships anyways?
Both Facepunch and society.
The societal view always seems negative - as if having no physical contact demeans a relationship. I don't really understand this, as it's always been much more direct and open. I have a faux-shield of semi-anonymity which allows me to be a little more bold than I would feel comfortable with in real life. I also don't have to show off that I'm dating someone to my family and friends. My mother's always been the one to insist that everyone on the internet is a rapist.
Yet, after a few years of dabbling with long distance relationships (and some really naive, shaky trials,) I'm finally in one that's been perfectly stable for three years. Even me going off to basic training didn't phase things one bit. We've visited once, for a week, and have another planned in a month or two. We Skype practically every day, every hour we have together. Sure, there's been a few tussles and rough moments, but we always knuckle down and work through it. The distance of Texas to Canada doesn't really do anything, and the cultural differences give us a fun topic and thing to joke at. All in all, I just fail to see how this has any less merit than a 'real' relationship. Yeah, we don't get actual sex as much, nor physically hang out, nor see each other's families, nor go to clubs together - but we still manage to have a great time just by talking to one another. I feel that has at least some amount of worth.
I'm sorry for rambling a bit, it just bothers me. I still don't feel comfortable telling anyone (in real life) about it because I'm afraid of their reactions. My few friends in the area might not care, but it could loop back to my parents. And considering my parents are my only option of housing until I pay off some college debt, build up some money and finish college itself - I can't play hardball with them. The relationship thing wouldn't be too terrible, I guess, except for the fact it's with another man and that's the utmost terrible thing in the eyes of the American South. :v:
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37438099]what's the cheapest way of transporting a piano 1500 miles across the country?[/QUOTE]
I recommend you find a way to fit it in your car, or get in a weatherproof container and tie it to the top. If the car is big enough, there may be a way to rent/buy a cheap trailer for it (and other things.) The shipping for that distance, that weight, is going to devour your wallet. It'd probably would be cheaper to buy another unless it was incredibly expensive/rare.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37438099]so this has almost nothing to do with the thread (aside from the fact that i talked to my mom about moving out and she's cool with it so my plans to move in with the bf in december are just about set in stone at this point), but i've got a bit of a dilemma
what's the cheapest way of transporting a piano 1500 miles across the country? it's electric, weighs about 90 lbs total, and can be disassembled and fit into a box that is somewhere around 60"x30"x20" (guesstimating here). i'm going to be driving but i don't think i'd be able to fit the box in my car. all ups has told me is that i'd be better off buying another piano (and would apparently save enough money for a second one by not shipping from there).[/QUOTE]
tell me the brand and type.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37438198]lol just use imgur[/QUOTE]
Whaddya know, there IS an app for that.
VA to TX here, bf and i met online and have been long distance since last summer. moving in together this winter.
it took me a while to admit to my family that i was in an online relationship, i told them sometime around this april and they were completely okay with it and happy for me. it was surprising to me that they didn't panic or have the mentality that everyone on the internet is a pedophile like older people are stereotypically expected to have. instead, they were happy i had found someone and seemed to recognize that it was serious due to the fact that i was pursuing the relationship with him in spite of both of us understanding how difficult an ldr would be from the start.
the biggest problem with ldrs is that physical contact is an enormous part of communication and it's very easy for a couple to fall apart when they don't have that available to them. when i was with my ex, we got along "fine" in person, but online we were hardly able to talk at all because we would both misinterpret everything the other said and get into arguments before realizing we were arguing the same point. with primarily online communication, it's easy to cut off other aspects of communication as well - i've known couples that almost exclusively talked through IM, which means you're basing conversation entirely on words and missing out on inflections in the others' voice, body language, *and* physical contact. words alone are rarely enough to go on.
in the case with my current bf, we had both recognized from the start that we had incredible communication between us. neither of us have ever misinterpreted anything the other said; we've always had an immediate understanding of the other's feelings. we were also both extremely cautious about pursuing an ldr but ended up together because we recognized the usually difficulties of an ldr barely affected us specifically.
i definitely don't agree with people thinking less of others who are in ldrs. an ldr can be pretty painful at times, and if someone's willing to endure all the complications of long distance to continue a relationship, the relationship they're in is probably worth keeping. however, when you're in a relationship where you never physically interact with your partner, it can sometimes be hard to perceive them as a human being.
though i do take a person a bit less seriously when they say they're in a relationship and in love with someone they've never physically been with before. no matter how intimate your relationship is, you should still at least have met in person before you decide you feel like spending the rest of your life with them.
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[QUOTE=thisispain;37438215]tell me the brand and type.[/QUOTE]
casio px-800
[QUOTE=Doom14;37438200]get in a weatherproof container and tie it to the top.[/QUOTE]
i'll see if i can do this, thanks.
i'd feel bad spending money on shipping, we still need to worry about furniture etc.
Long distance is in its core no different from dating sites. It just takes longer to meet up.
no, it's completely different because you should never be actively searching for a long distance relationship. an ldr is not something you should ever want or choose over a normal close-distance relationship. there are so many difficulties that come with it. the only reason anyone should pursue an ldr is if the person they're with is worth all of those problems.
once you and your girlfriend have met in person and have to say goodbye at the airport, you are going to understand what i mean.
I'd be pretty terrible with LDR's. The lack of intimacy would make it very difficult.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37438468]no, it's completely different because you should never be actively searching for a long distance relationship. an ldr is not something you should ever want or choose over a normal close-distance relationship. there are so many difficulties that come with it. the only reason anyone should pursue an ldr is if the person they're with is worth all of those problems.[/QUOTE]
Yeah, you're right... sorry.
And yes, she's worth it.
[quote]
once you and your girlfriend have met in person and have to say goodbye at the airport, you are going to understand what i mean.[/quote]
Fuck... I didn't even think of that...
Why do I have a feeling I'll end up missing the plane?
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37438313]
casio px-800
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ah it's a digital piano
a thing like that would run you about a thousand and i'm not too sure it would cost you a thousand to ship it.
you don't think you could maybe strap it to your roof, or even uhaul it?
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37438494]I'd be pretty terrible with LDR's. The lack of intimacy would make it very difficult.[/QUOTE]
Yeah same here. I also find that to be a big part of a relationship[ and when that's missing I see long distance as being not as good as a relationship as a normal one. I just don't think you would kn ow your partner as well.
But that's just my view on it.
[QUOTE=loopoo;37437838]Just a heads up: keep yourself in check when you talk about computers / modelling and all that. I know how easy it is to get really into what you're talking about, whether it's PC games or what-have-you, and it can be a turn-off for [B]some[/B] girls. My ex wasn't ever really into gaming, so I never really spoke about it to her. Just thought I'd give you the heads up, so you don't seem like those guys who are way too into computers (never a good thing).
But if your girl is interested in computers and all that, lucky you :)[/QUOTE]
I thought about this before. The only time I'll talk about them again is when they actually tie into photography (ex., she mentioned using Photoshop Elements and I mentioned how amazing it is to be able to edit pictures in such a way, but that was really it).
Thanks for the reminder though, I make sure I try to be interesting. Cool thing is, she's into retro game emulation as well.
how often are you with your special someone?
i spend time with my girlfriend almost every day, with a few days of being alone/with someone else once or twice every month. when we've spend a whole week together we start to grind each others gears, but it's not really that bad.
[QUOTE=/B/rother;37439882]how often are you with your special someone?
i spend time with my girlfriend almost every day, with a few days of being alone/with someone else once or twice every month. when we've spend a whole week together we start to grind each others gears, but it's not really that bad.[/QUOTE]
We spend our evenings together and sleep together but spend our days apart.
Seems to be working fine. If I want to go elsewhere or do other things then I just say so, she's fine with that.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37438494]I'd be pretty terrible with LDR's. The lack of intimacy would make it very difficult.[/QUOTE]
The only lack of intimacy (or capability of) has been physical or when there's company hanging around near my computer (and same on the other end.) It's really not that bad if you can live without the physical part.
[QUOTE=Badballer;37439165]Yeah same here. I also find that to be a big part of a relationship[ and when that's missing I see long distance as being not as good as a relationship as a normal one. I just don't think you would kn ow your partner as well.
But that's just my view on it.[/QUOTE]
I just went through a speel about how they're on par or so (in my opinion.)
The worst skewing is the part about not knowing my partner. I could name things about him that I'd be surprised if other couples can; and we can often complete each other's sentances. It's brutal when we play a game together because we often don't have to say anything to know what the other is doing. Two years ago, a TF2 server I was on actually banned us from trying to get on the same team, to give you an idea. The only aspect I feel that I'm a little short-of-knowledge on is how he feels about going certain places in public; he's outgoing and curious, but I'm always afraid I may be boring him at the military surplus or something. :v:
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37437865]Yuh, nothin' more awkward than going on about something you're really passionate about, just to realize that you're boring the hair off somebody!
I hardly know anybody that I can dork out with about cool architectural projects and interesting TED talks I've seen.[/QUOTE]
It's actually healthy as well, i've been in relationships where they're so obviously not interested that you feel bad for being passionate about it, and you start to pay less attention to it. My current girl forces me to go to the record store whenever we're in the area, it rules
[QUOTE=Doom14;37440391]I just went through a speel about how they're on par or so (in my opinion.)
The worst skewing is the part about not knowing my partner.[/QUOTE]
you're contradicting yourself
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37441090]are you saying your gf forces you to do stuff you don't want, but eventually have grown to like or that she forces you to do the stuff you like anyway? kinda confused on this[/QUOTE]
She knows he has a passion for music (vinyls, I guess?) so she nurtures that passion, instead of not giving a damn about his feelings and ignoring it completely. Completely awesome in my books.
[editline]28th August 2012[/editline]
And "forces" is a strong word, I think encourages would have been a better choice by killerteacup, cause I'm sure it isn't a bad thing when she forces him :v:
its sorta annoying being a software engineer because literally just telling people you're in software engineering will turn them away from you half the time
i understand it though based on the other 2 software engineers ive met so far....
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37441250]its sorta annoying being a software engineer because literally just telling people you're in software engineering will turn them away from you half the time
i understand it though based on the other 2 software engineers ive met so far....[/QUOTE]
To be honest, anyone who turns away from you for being a software engineer is a bit of a douche. Just saying you work as a software engineer is understandable, talking on and on about it thought might warrant being turned away from (which I'm sure you're not doing). So I think it's safe to say you're better off without the people that turn away from you. Pretty immature of them.
Yahnich, a whole bunch of my friends are studying Physics and they are amazing individuals. Where do you guys live? Come to where I live, people would love you regardless of what you work as!
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37441305]same here but with physics, it's like "hey what do you do"
"i am currently studying physics"
"oh"[/QUOTE]
hey I get that
it's vaguely enjoyable to get that five seconds of acknowledgement - "oh, that's a pretty hard subject" - but then the conversation usually segues into "how's uni life" because generally nobody (including other physicists) will want to hear about torsional oscillators or second order differential equations
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pictured: not a great conversation topic
however, people sometimes respond more positively to talk involving space, and if someone asks me to tell them something cool about physics, that's usually my go-to area
[editline]28th August 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37441360]sometimes i read this thread when i'm bored and tbh i think loopoo should get a "the nicest of guys" title of some sort[/QUOTE]
he does seem like a good person
[editline]28th August 2012[/editline]
if I had three pieces of polaroid filter just lying around, I'd explain polarisation and then do the three polaroids trick - that fucking blew my mind when I first found out about it
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37441360]i know i am an amazing individual and generally people are quite 'interested' but generally they go so what do you do and i'll have to quip with something like "science and stuff"
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When people ask me what I want to study at Uni, and I say Geology, nobody has clue what it's about really, half say "Oh cool", the other say "wtf rocks are boring". It's such a wide and interesting subject when you actually get to learn about it properly too.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37438074]architecture and green technology get me [I]stoked[/I].[/QUOTE]
[url=https://www.google.co.uk/#hl=en&gs_nf=1&tok=rsF1If0RM0aBiGOvFC6seg&cp=5&gs_id=33&xhr=t&q=vertical+farm&pf=p&safe=off&output=search&sclient=psy-ab&oq=verti&gs_l=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.&fp=5b119c90b7e6cfa6&biw=1280&bih=872]vertical farms[/url]. get on it
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hanging gardens of babylon for the information age
[QUOTE=Turnips5;37442019]hey I get that
it's vaguely enjoyable to get that five seconds of acknowledgement - "oh, that's a pretty hard subject" - but then the conversation usually segues into "how's uni life" because generally nobody (including other physicists) will want to hear about torsional oscillators or second order differential equations[/QUOTE]
I don't even want to hear about those
If it isn't a coupled system of non-linear PDEs I don't care about it!
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37441305]same here but with physics, it's like "hey what do you do"
"i am currently studying physics"
"oh"[/QUOTE]
most interesting response i've gotten
"hey what are you studying?"
"biochem"
"oh i can't talk to you anymore"
I had sex for the first time in a car. It was really exciting, my car is pretty small but you can push the the seats so easily that you have enough place for anything. On the way home we stopped at a rest area and started making out.
[QUOTE=junker|154;37443180]I had sex for the first time in a car. It was really exciting, my car is pretty small but you can push the the seats so easily that you have enough place for anything. On the way home we stopped at a rest area and started making out.[/QUOTE]
how does that like.. work? and how big is your car? was it uncomfortable?
i'm just collecting data here
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