I'm guessing her "feelings" fizzled out or she just lost infatuation or something like that
Literally nothing bad happened, it's just the switch labelled "awesome girlfriend" was turned from on to off
[QUOTE=werner;37512012]my gf doesnt like that i smoke weed[/QUOTE]
Well too bad for her, I don't see the problem as long as you don't smoke it around her if she doesn't like the smoke.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;37508858]i dont really understand why everyone thinks australia is racist. we are an incredibly multicultural and progressive place i never see any real racism[/QUOTE]
You obviously don't get out much then, did you not hear about how only 2 people in the entire federal government voted to not fuck asylum seekers harder? Have you not seen how the future PM Mr "I'm threatened by gays and browns" Abbott is a racist, homophobic piece of shit?
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37512937]I'm guessing her "feelings" fizzled out or she just lost infatuation or something like that
Literally nothing bad happened, it's just the switch labelled "awesome girlfriend" was turned from on to off[/QUOTE]
I kinda understand how you feel, same thing happened with my ex-gf.
6 weeks ago she wanted some space to sort stuff out/to figure herself out, a week later broke up 'cause the feelings faded away or something. And as far as i knew nothing bad happened either.
It sucks so much to be left behind like that, with many questions unanswered.
[QUOTE=larosc;37513404]I kinda understand how you feel, same thing happened with my ex-gf.
6 weeks ago she wanted some space to sort stuff out/to figure herself out, a week later broke up 'cause the feelings faded away or something. And as far as i knew nothing bad happened either.
It sucks so much to be left behind like that, with many questions unanswered.[/QUOTE]
Then this will make you feel superior. :P
I had the same thing, in the space of 12 hours... with my fiancée.
Who then a week later ran off with another man.
I posted about it here around christmas. :P
Yeah...
fun
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37512937]I'm guessing her "feelings" fizzled out or she just lost infatuation or something like that
Literally nothing bad happened, it's just the switch labelled "awesome girlfriend" was turned from on to off[/QUOTE]
I know how you feel, some women are just a natural flight risk. They get out the first sight of something being off. All you can do is move along and find someone better.
[QUOTE=TM Gmod;37516426]Then this will make you feel superior. :P
I had the same thing, in the space of 12 hours... with my fiancée.
Who then a week later ran off with another man.
I posted about it here around christmas. :P
Yeah...
fun[/QUOTE]
Jesus christ....
i'm no longer a single man
[IMG]http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a70/djeros/1238020450083.jpg[/IMG]
[QUOTE=djshox;37516603]i'm no longer a single man[/QUOTE]
You're now a... double man?
[IMG]http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a70/djeros/1238020450083.jpg[/IMG][IMG]http://i9.photobucket.com/albums/a70/djeros/1238020450083.jpg[/IMG]
Congrats buddy!
Went to a concert with my girl last night, had a fucking blast. But today I just feel so blue for no reason at all other than not being able to see her..
Why is it that the more I hang out with her the more I miss her? :(
because you dont want the fun times to end duh
I guess.
And school starts soon :( which means less time to hang out with her..
I guess I'll see her every day in the halls and stuff though, so whatever!
[QUOTE=Bredirish123;37516464]I know how you feel, some women are just a natural flight risk. They get out the first sight of something being off. All you can do is move along and find someone better.[/QUOTE]
Yes, women just do that. They're to blame. Emotions "just" turn off, no reason.
seith i can't even tell if you're being serious or just being sarcastic
have i become the robot, beep boop?
[QUOTE=thisispain;37519284]seith i can't even tell if you're being serious or just being [b]sarcastic[/b]
have i become the robot, beep boop?[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=TM Gmod;37516426]Then this will make you feel superior. :P
I had the same thing, in the space of 12 hours... with my fiancée.
Who then a week later ran off with another man.
I posted about it here around christmas. :P
Yeah...
fun[/QUOTE]
I can't even begin to comprehend how that must feel..
And it's impossible to feel superior, as we all lost something.
Raise your head, both women were pissing themselves just at the thought of the response you two would have so they had decided to run. Superior ones, are you.
My girlfriend's cat died. A few days ago she told me the cat was sick, but it looked like she was getting better.
Apparently not. :smith:
[QUOTE=werner;37512012]my gf doesnt like that i smoke weed[/QUOTE]
Too bad for her, mate.
Don't change your passions and the things you like for anybody. That's the path towards misery inside a relationship.
[QUOTE=Bredirish123;37516464]I know how you feel, some women are just a natural flight risk. They get out the first sight of something being off. All you can do is move along and find someone better.[/QUOTE]
yeah, silly women. a man would never do something ridiculous like leave a relationship he isn't happy in!
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37524328]I think if you leave someone, they have the right to know why. How else would they improve themselves for the future?[/QUOTE]
Yes they have. But there's something called introspection that works charms too.
you can't just consciously change most aspects of your personality because someone tells you they don't like something about you. most people will deny/ignore it if someone else tries to tell them what their flaws are, anyway.
if you're ending a relationship it's usually because you've given up on it. there's no reason for someone who just broke up with you to stick around and evaluate your performance as a romantic partner.
oh fuck, in the process of having 'that pre-breakup' conversation I got my best friend involved; she was making out like the whole degeneration of our relationship was my fault, and, being the coward that I am played the apologetic card and said that someone had told me she wasn't bothered about the relationship either, she asked who and I stupidly said.
Soo it's now at the point where we know for sure it's over even if we're not saying it (which I guess will be better for me in the long run, it was a pretty shit relationship and to be brutally honest I was in it for the chance that we might make out once in a while) but have managed to severely piss of my best friend and potentially expose him to a load of drama and possibly have a toll on his relationship (his gf's and my ex's family are very close) not to mention we go back to school on Wednesday and I'll be with everyone.
I'm considering getting drunk, going into a field, and screaming, but I know that won't really help anything and is way over the top, as I'm well aware this is pretty insignificant teenage angsty drama.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37524336]Yes they have. But there's something called introspection that works charms too.[/QUOTE]
I agree, but i feel like introspection sometimes raises more questions than it gives answers, whereas the perspective of the other person in the relationship might give more definite answers.
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37524422]you can't just consciously change most aspects of your personality because someone tells you they don't like something about you. most people will deny/ignore it if someone else tries to tell them what their flaws are, anyway.
if you're ending a relationship it's usually because you've given up on it. there's no reason for someone who just broke up with you to stick around and evaluate your performance as a romantic partner.[/QUOTE]
For me, it wouldn't be about consciously wanting to change something, but rather being aware of things.
Now i wouldn't go running around telling people what their flaws are, but i wouldn't see harm in coming clear about the reasons you call it quits when people ask for it (as long as they're not desperately begging for it). Especially if it's in a relationship that lasted for a few years.
Sometimes it's better if a relationship just ends by itself and you move on, rather than making an "appointment" to make the breakup official. Basically you're just getting yourself into a bombardment of relationship ending cliches. You'll feel some closure, yeah, but you'll feel stupid too.
Look, the other person isn't going to tell you what you flaws were because most of times it isn't personal. Things just don't work out. Yes, I agree that people should meet during a breakup and get everything out in the open.
You just don't have to expect other people to tell you what went wrong in you, nor should you admit it. That's up for you to decide. And really. Just because a relationship went wrong, does it mean you must change into prince charming for your next princess?
When your girlfriend's on her period and she's feeling paticularly bad what do you guys usually say or do? It's kinder easier when they're just having the blues, or a headache you can hold them, maybe give them a massage but I never really know what to say or do when she's on, she's seems a little too tense for too much attention and without being able to relate to the pains I never really know what to say.
[QUOTE=JohnnyGoGo;37530491]When your girlfriend's on her period and she's feeling paticularly bad what do you guys usually say or do? It's kinder easier when they're just having the blues, or a headache you can hold them, maybe give them a massage but I never really know what to say or do when she's on, she's seems a little too tense for too much attention and without being able to relate to the pains I never really know what to say.[/QUOTE]
I stay away, for the sake of my balls.
[QUOTE=JohnnyGoGo;37530491]When your girlfriend's on her period and she's feeling paticularly bad what do you guys usually say or do? It's kinder easier when they're just having the blues, or a headache you can hold them, maybe give them a massage but I never really know what to say or do when she's on, she's seems a little too tense for too much attention and without being able to relate to the pains I never really know what to say.[/QUOTE]
bring her chocolate and flowers!
(also orgasms help with menstrual cramps. just saying)
I posted this in another topic but had no feedback so here goes:
Cautionary tale ahoy!
I usually go out with this girl every summer.
It's not quite dating, never came to that, she's studying abroad and we barely see each other in person.
We just arrange something nice to do during summer when she's here. Last time we went for lunch, visited some nice places in the mountain near the coast and went to the beach. At the end we went for ice cream and had a pretty nice day.
As date-ish as it may seem we do this to catch up and talk about everything.
We are friends, and I do care for her (I think the feeling is mutual because this time she was the one who came up with the initiative to seek me out to have this program). And frankly these "every year lunch and beach" thing is kind of becoming a tradition since we've been going out like this for 2 years, this being the second.
Now, I never had any intentions with here, mainly because we just don't see each other, but sometimes I think about it. And to be honest I once, like years ago, maybe 5 or so, I told her I liked her. Obviously she told me she didn't feel attracted to me, it was pretty awkward back then and I moved on. Funny thing is, she kept talking to me and we became friends.
5 years have passed now and we still like to see each other and she kinda wishes she could see me more often.
Now the real thing is this: She's studying, I'm studying. She's 1 year older than me (irrelevant), we pretty much enjoy each other's company (so it seems) but this is the kind of girl that is keen, and i mean an EXPERT on having relationships with the wrong guys. It's a thing that I see in most girls (not trying to be sexist here, cause I'm sure girls see some guys the same way, I'm just talking from the guy's perspective), and really disappoints me in her.
And when I say the wrong guys, it's not just from my point of view. I'm talking about from real fucked up people to guys that suddenly lost interest in her. I'll give you examples: during the time I've been friend with her, she's been with some guys that used her. She's been with an idiot she met during a metal concert that some months later was threatening to hit her (this was at the time I told her how I felt back then). Then, she's been with this skin-head guy who was having open relationships with other girls other than her, and she wasn't able to break up with him, then she passed on to a more normal guy, he seemed nice, hard working, they went for vacations a lot and travelled a lot together and then he just lost interest in her.
And now, last time we talked she told me about the breakup with this last guy. However she's been abroad and met some foreign dude, and I don't know how, they're into a relationship and it's serious. And I mean, she's with a guy she met during a week or two and it became a serious relationship at a very long distance. She won't be able to see him. And I mean, a distance from Spain to Holland, i guess.
Frankly I'd like to be with her more often, she's nice, smart, good looking... And yes, her business is her own, but I can't help but feel a little frustrated for her, because she seems to rush in to that "mysterious elusive guy who she may not see again because he makes her work for it". And seeing girls pursuing that thing makes me feel disappointed because that idea is attractive. I mean who wouldn't feel crazy about someone nice they may lose, right?
However she's rushing in. As a friend I advised her about it, but didn't want to say she was doing something wrong. She is not thinking and she's leading herself solely from emotion. It kinda frustrates me because she's a real intelligent and rational girl... except when it comes to the pursuit of love.
This frustration obviously comes from me, because knowing she has a boyfriends, even if it's someone she'll have a slim chance with, and this irrational attraction towards "bad boys" and "mysterious people" makes me lose a little interest in her and quit my pursuit of getting to know her.
I really don't know if she has even the slightest feelings for me. I'm attractive too. I moved on, been with my share of crazy girls myself, girls are interested in me.
But really, this frustrates me. I don't know. I'd love to spend more time with her, but right now romantically her head's on the clouds and It sucks. Should I call her to meet, or should I focus on my life and move the fuck on. I really don't know.
[editline]4th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37530604]
(also orgasms help with menstrual cramps. just saying)[/QUOTE]
Tried that orgasm thing once during her period. It ended into a bloody mess. Looked more like a murder scene than sex.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37531118]Tried that orgasm thing once during her period. It ended into a bloody mess. Looked more like a murder scene than sex.[/QUOTE]
gotta put towels down beforehand
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