Sex, Girlfriends and Shit III - General

haven't posted here in a while, but me and my girlfirend have a cat now [img]http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/8072_10151976308335363_1483742354_n.jpg[/img]

[QUOTE=Doozle;37571858]haven't posted here in a while, but me and my girlfirend have a cat now [img]http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/8072_10151976308335363_1483742354_n.jpg[/img][/QUOTE] That is an adorable cat! What's her name?

Lady. She's been a bit of a pain and managed to catch fleas despite never leaving the house and being deflead. Turned the whole house upside down spraying stuff everywhere. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] But she is lovely and very affectionate. But also likes mischief, we've managed to stop her climbing the curtains most of the time

Played intramural coed-dodgeball today. I got knocked out by a ball to the dick from a girl Why didn't I catch that damn thing

Wow, okay guys. I mention laser tag and you ask if I'm 12, but he does and suddenly its awesome? :v:

[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37572143]Played intramural coed-dodgeball today. I got knocked out by a ball to the dick from a girl Why didn't I catch that damn thing[/QUOTE] I don't know, but she obviously wants at your dick.

[QUOTE=insane taco;37566437]Seeing my girlfriend for the first time in three weeks tomorrow. I can't wait.[/QUOTE] Are you me? This is the exact situation that I am in.

[QUOTE=Doozle;37571858]haven't posted here in a while, but me and my girlfirend have a cat now [img]http://a5.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc6/8072_10151976308335363_1483742354_n.jpg[/img][/QUOTE] Your cat has cow colors. That's no cat at all. It's just an itty bitty cow. A bovine!

So my GF texted me while ago at work saying she wants a baby. At first I was like woh is this a joke, but no she really does want a baby. We have been together for like 3 years now and I do love her I just don't know if I want a baby before we get a place together. I have spoken and said that to her and did tell her I do want to have children with her and that I would prefer to have a place first but she doesn't see it as a big deal as I would just move in with her. However that is a whole other kettle of fish because I am unable to do everything at her house (as in stuff I do to relax) and on top of that her sisters can give me the shits. Mainly I am not sure what to do or say I said we should wait till next year at least before we do anything what she agreed too but at the same time doesn't want to talk to our folks about it even though with her plan we would be mooching off them.

When to have children is kind of one of the single most important decisions you'll make in your entire life. Seriously, [I]everything[/I] will change. That goes beyond relationship advice, you're looking at the rest of your life as a father. Whatever you decide, you need to make sure you think about it long and hard in order to make the best decision possible!

[QUOTE=Chevron;37573498]So my GF texted me while ago at work saying she wants a baby. At first I was like woh is this a joke, but no she really does want a baby. We have been together for like 3 years now and I do love her I just don't know if I want a baby before we get a place together. I have spoken and said that to her and did tell her I do want to have children with her and that I would prefer to have a place first but she doesn't see it as a big deal as I would just move in with her. However that is a whole other kettle of fish because I am unable to do everything at her house (as in stuff I do to relax) and on top of that her sisters can give me the shits. Mainly I am not sure what to do or say I said we should wait till next year at least before we do anything what she agreed too but at the same time doesn't want to talk to our folks about it even though with her plan we would be mooching off them.[/QUOTE] Stop trying to please her and tell her exactly what you think. If she decideds to breakup with you because you're being reasonable.... then so be it. Unless, you want to have a baby because you couldn't handle the pressure.

[QUOTE=Seith;37573587]Stop trying to please her and tell her exactly what you think. If she decideds to breakup with you because you're being reasonable.... then so be it. Unless, you want to have a baby because you couldn't handle the pressure.[/QUOTE] That is what I am half scared of, I don't want to loose her over it but I want to be prepared for my family. I'm 19 at the moment. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] But I might be fore the best if I just say it plainly.

You probably aren't ready yet, if you're 19, but stranger things have happened. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] Hell, my parents were 24, and my dad turned down a lucrative job offer because of me being born.

[QUOTE=Chevron;37573629]That is what I am half scared of, I don't want to loose her over it but I want to be prepared for my family. I'm 19 at the moment. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] But I might be fore the best if I just say it plainly.[/QUOTE] Being nineteen and having a child will put a hell of a lot of strain on your parents (not to mention yourself). You said your girl wants to mooche off of them, I'd advise against it. Not only will you put your parents in a tough spot (they won't [I]not[/I] help, they're your parents and love you at the end of the day), but you'll be relying on them for a lot of things. As a father and husband, this wouldn't be good. I say wait a few years, get a degree, get a stable job (anything, it doesn't have to be something amazing, just as long as you can work and provide for your family) and then think about having a child. If your girlfriend is serious about having a child, why don't you both work like crazy and save up money of your own to perhaps move out and get a place of your own (where you can make sure you'll have your things that help you relax), or better yet, both aim at doing well in college and graduating. You could move in together now, I just think having a child will really make your life tough.

[QUOTE=WastedJamacan;37573702]You probably aren't ready yet, if you're 19, but stranger things have happened. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] Hell, my parents were 24, and my dad turned down a lucrative job offer because of me being born.[/QUOTE] Well the thing is I am already in a good job, I'll be on $40-45K next year and I did not even finish year 12 or go to uni, only tafe. And where I am going next year my pay can go up to $75-90K in the next 3-4 years. So it is not like I do not have a career or anything, but at the same time I want a house first. I am in Australia, houses are expensive here. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] I should say I do have quantification's and will have more by the end of the year.

It's a relationship, not a dictatorship. Tell her what you think. Also, I recommend you read Rich Dad, Poor Dad... it will widen your horizons and give you the ability to possibly make better choices, even in that regard.

no don't read self-help books especially not ones that everyone knows are terrible

[QUOTE=Chevron;37573629]That is what I am half scared of, I don't want to loose her over it but I want to be prepared for my family. I'm 19 at the moment. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] But I might be fore the best if I just say it plainly.[/QUOTE] You may not read any of this at all, but you might find it interesting if you do: it's a memoir/journal/biography that my dad wrote about dealing with having a kid when he was eighteen. It tells about the struggles and challenges he faced in trying to deal with being a poor teenage dad, and the sorts of hurdles he had to get over to be a good parent. You're young too, so you might find it useful in weighing your options: [url]https://docs.google.com/document/d/1d4rf-51tmScfLuMKa6QCcawO2_8iEz4uqhXMpUAhCOI/edit?pli=1[/url] Disclaimer: this is not a short read. Dad writes like I do: all at once and without taking a breath.

BDA that has restricted access you cannoli!

Oh. My. God. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] THERE, I fixed it. Jeez. Get off my case, old man.

[QUOTE=thisispain;37574333]no don't read self-help books especially not ones that everyone knows are terrible[/QUOTE] I see you haven't read it, as it's not a self-help book...... Your arrogance is misleading. You don't have all the answers, so stop playing the cards as if you're not ever going to lose.

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[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;37574343]Oh. My. God. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] THERE, I fixed it. Jeez. Get off my case, old man.[/QUOTE] that's the problem with you youngsters never setting the proper permissions on your docs before sharing them [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=Seith;37574391]I see you haven't read it, as it's not a self-help book......[/QUOTE] [quote]Kiyosaki will tell you some things you don't want to hear. He is controversial. So is Donald Trump. Rich people are always controversial, but who are the people that make Kiyosaki and others controversial? Certaintly it's not the wealthy. The wealthy agree with Kiysosaki becuase that is how they became rich.[/quote] k [quote]You don't have all the answers, so stop playing the cards as if you're not ever going to lose.[/quote] have you ever played poker? it's based on bluff heheh

Jesus christ i am 19 and the thought of having children at this age is not a possibility. I guess people have different perspectives and shit, i don't think i want children anyway but even if i did i think that right now is too early for me. If you want to do it, then go for it. You're in a pretty good job but to be honest if you even have a shred of doubt i wouldn't. Personally i would want to live my life a little more.

[QUOTE=thisispain;37574486]that's the problem with you youngsters never setting the proper permissions on your docs before sharing them [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] k have you ever played poker? it's based on bluff heheh[/QUOTE] I bet jokes and your cynicism will be your ticket to rich town. Same approach with Simplepickup, same with the book; you have no answers besides disguised self-pessimism of your future in the form of useless smart-ass comments. Stop misleading people.

[QUOTE=Seith;37574577]I bet jokes and your cynicism will be your ticket to rich town. Same approach with Simplepickup, same with the book; you have no answers besides disguised self-pessimism of your future in the form of useless smart-ass comments. Stop misleading people.[/QUOTE] He gives better advice than you!

[QUOTE=metallics;37574592]He gives better advice than you![/QUOTE] When did this become a playground nitpicking fight? They both give decent advice. They both have their faults (as do we all). Why do I feel like I'm five again. Carry on and neither of you guys will be coming to my birthday. [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] Also, thisispain, you're not my best friend any more.

[QUOTE=Seith;37574577]I bet jokes and your cynicism will be your ticket to rich town. Same approach with Simplepickup, same with the book; you have no answers besides disguised self-pessimism of your future in the form of useless smart-ass comments.[/QUOTE] self-help books and "simple pickups" are snake oil pure and simple you're free to post whatever silly thing you want, but i just want people to not fall into the same trap i fell in and BDA? [quote]Later, when she goes to work, I cry for two fucking hours. Why? For a lot of reasons. Because I realized your life had changed, and now you’d be spending more hours with teachers than you would with me. I cried because the last look you gave me before the teacher took you from me was fear. You were afraid I was leaving you alone. I knew that was natural, but I cried because you were a lot more alone than most of the kids in that classroom. Most of the would have moms to pick them up and hug them and take home to make brownies, or whatever baked good it is that women instinctively seem to know the occasion requires. I cry because even though I took a sick day at the university, I have to be in at the night job only an hour after you get home. I cry because I’ll be leaving you with Cheryl when I go. I don’t want to, but I’m helping her through nursing school and I can’t afford a babysitter. I cry because without you there I feel so goddamn alone.[/quote] this hurts a lot for me to read, i can't even imagine what it does to you [editline]7th September 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=loopoo;37574605] Also, thisispain, you're not my best friend any more.[/QUOTE] jeez why don't you just shoot me

You fell into a trap? You're beyond pathetic. Seriously, you fell into a trap because you bought a book that gives you a different perspective on how to make money? ..... How does Kiyosaki even dare.... In my eyes, you're free to give whatever opinion you want on the subject, just make it legitimate (solid proof and not pure emotions (i.e they sell cheesy pickup lines / Kiyosaki is... you didn't even gave a reason here....)) Don't make me the devil here just because I hate unbased liars.

admitting failure isn't being pathetic, it's being honest seith i've tried self-help books and even dabbled in so-called "PUA", just out of sheer curiosity for both. it's a waste of time and effort. self-help books just tell you what you want to hear, then blame you for failing, sending you into an even deeper hole because you don't have self-confidence. if you did have self-confidence you wouldn't be reading a self-help book!! and PUA is just ugggh maybe it's my mum speaking through me, but i want to make interaction between the sexes a pleasant and open experience for both sides, i think i owe humanity that much at least all PUA does is dehumanize human interaction to the point of detached concepts and "biotruths". it's in the language, calling it their "game", needing to improve it by "practicing" on people they don't have any interest in, and confining all women into one neat box. worst of all, it's all just designed again to extort people who have problems with self-confidence. can't i do better? i think i can do better, by not giving these pricks my money or by dehumanizing women. i think everyone here can do better without PUA or self-help books. how dare you call me a pessimist or a cynic! you have the exact same problem that maverick had! you blame everyone else for your own perceived insecurities! Maverick called people pathetic and said that he couldn't admit failure, but you know he was miserable right? he said how he could never be with the one woman he truly loved or how he had to overcompensate for his own perceived flaws, just like Tucker Max did. snap out of it dude!! if you have advice to give speak from your own experience and emotion instead of quoting or saying random shit! do you think we call you a robot for shits and giggles?