I think you shouldn't bother yourself with what other people might think of you, especially because you can't control what goes in on their minds... It's a losing battle. Besides, you sound very likable, enough at least to not care.
He shoots, he guesses wrong.
sad state of mind to be in, I used to flip burgers at Mc Donalds to help pay for uni, I was taught by a few mates some basic Urdu just so I could gather what the guys were saying about the bosses.
Once the paranoia levels stepped up they plastered english only signs around the place. Got tired of taking bullshit (you must do this customers are present seemed to be the reason for everything)
So switched to night shifts for 2 years (long ass 2 years)
today i was at the clinic (In montreal) and the nurses would be nice and speak english to me, but then turn to each other and start making faces and speaking french and i felt weird because they were talking about me
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37629569]today i was at the clinic (In montreal) and the nurses would be nice and speak english to me, but then turn to each other and start making faces and speaking french and i felt weird because they were talking about me[/QUOTE]
They couldn't have been saying anything that bad, most people here are bilingual-ish so Frenchies cant really get away with that very easily.
I wish I could have learned Korean though, we have a lot of Korean exchange students here and they would usually just speak in Korean to each other and mostly just hung out in groups of Koreans, always wondered what they may be talking about.
no they really were because they weren't very good nurses.
basically they were convinced that there was a severe wax buildup in my ear (which there wasn't, later confirmed by a doctor) so they kept spraying me with water
and they'd be like "alors!! blah blah blah francais blah blah oh la la!!" really loud and surprised about how much wax they thought i had
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37629569]today i was at the clinic (In montreal) and the nurses would be nice and speak english to me, but then turn to each other and start making faces and speaking french and i felt weird because they were talking about me[/QUOTE]
Obviously it's because making faces is part of the French language. Each face is a character or a "sound" implied by the way it is presented.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37629624]They couldn't have been saying anything that bad, most people here are bilingual-ish so Frenchies cant really get away with that very easily.
I wish I could have learned Korean though, we have a lot of Korean exchange students here and they would usually just speak in Korean to each other and mostly just hung out in groups of Koreans, always wondered what they may be talking about.[/QUOTE]
我学中文 for that very purpose
[QUOTE=Disseminate;37630711]我学中文 for that very purpose[/QUOTE]
I would have tried at Chinese too, but we only had one or two Chinese students ever, so they spoke English.
That and Korean is 20 times easier :v:
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37632107]My girlfriend is mad at me.
She says she doesn't like the way I've been acting, she said i'm in a "I don't care about anything" mood all the time unless it comes to her, which then i'm not.
She says I act like an idiot and i'm dumb around my friends. I don't mind that, I know people will act different with their friends but she expects me not to, while she does it all the time? What do you guys think about this.
Also she's on her period and I HATE to blame that, but this shit NEVER happens when she's off of it.
Also when I hang with my friend, she acts out really bad. She'll act preppy and pissy toward me and get really violent, the definition of bitch.
AND EVEN IF I AM WRONG and I have been acting different, she could have asked me one day "Why are you acting different?" instead of holding it up like she always does and releases it in bitch mode.
(Bitch mode is an elite skill transformation that causes bleeding on self for 5 days and causes confusion on all targets, AOE spell)[/QUOTE]
Damn. I just had a flashback reading this. This is like my ex in a nutshell.
And no it's not because of her period. She thinks about it all the time it seems, and when she's more sensitive or more keen on getting irritated (such as in her period), you're gonna keep hearing from her.
It's only normal that you have a different or special behaviour around your friends. I mean, nobody is the same with different people and your friends have been around longer than your girlfriend, therefore you feel more comfortable around them than her.
And there you go, she feels this. She feels you're something she doesn't know when you're with friends, you're a more open person and she wants that too, because other times she feels you're quiet. She doesn't feel satisfied in the relationship and therefore looks for that "friends side" of you for her too.
It may be a little case of she being jealous of your friends. (Don't tell her this last phrase. She'll kill you).
I think you must first take some time to think about if there's anything worth changing in you. Remember. Do this without feeling pressured to please her. Without feeling her pressure in the things she feels you must change. If you do this, you'll feel unhappy. and let's be frank, you shouldn't change who you are and what you like just because someone wants it. A relationship is a peaceful coexistence of mutual respect.
Second, tell her you're feeling pressured by her. Tell her you don't understand what there is to change or if there's anything in you worth changing. You should be straightforward. Sometimes you have to say "no, I don't see that there's anything I want to change".
The way I see it, and if you want my sincere opinion, you can't allow her to make you the idea of boyfriend she has in her head. She wants you to be something you're not and it's pressuring you, right?
And finally, is there any recent ex-boyfriend in her life, or something close to that?
It's just that, the way I see it, and I don't want to scare you, that relationship is going downhill. When both people become entrenched in their views inside a relationship (not saying it's anyone's fault), it can only go downhill from there, man.
And that is a sign. Do you actually feel comfortable around her? Doesn't that bitchy state makes you lose the will to be with her? And finally, what do you want to do?
You should speak to her and put the card on the table. You shouldn't change into something you're not because of something you don't understand. You must tell her what you want.
She told you this, or did you assume it?
and you, do you feel she's what you want?
Renegadecop, how long have you guys been together?
[editline]11th September 2012[/editline]
just curryus
I am absolutely terrible at small talk, especially with someone whom I don't know, and even more-so with someone I'm interested in. I'm used to some girls piping up and talking to me themselves, starting a conversation, but this person is super-shy and unlikely to do so.
And I'm shy.
So starting a meaningful conversation is pretty much impossible.
Tips?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37630729]I would have tried at Chinese too, but we only had one or two Chinese students ever, so they spoke English.
That and Korean is 20 times easier :v:[/QUOTE]
It was the same for my high school until I hit university, and then the percentage of Chinese students rose to about 20% of the 20000 undergrads.
[QUOTE=EvilMattress;37635817]I am absolutely terrible at small talk, especially with someone whom I don't know, and even more-so with someone I'm interested in. I'm used to some girls piping up and talking to me themselves, starting a conversation, but this person is super-shy and unlikely to do so.
And I'm shy.
So starting a meaningful conversation is pretty much impossible.
Tips?[/QUOTE]
Start talking, then if you can, go through small talk as fast as possible. questions like "oh whats your favorite movie? or you also like sushi?" are hardly of any interest because they won't bring you much. What you can do is develop from those simple questions into something a lot more interesting a create a bond. For example, I'll take the usual question "Where are you from?", then she says oh I'm from xxx. And instead of moving to another topic just like that, you can still push in and find out a lot more about her. Questions like "Were you also born there?" or "How is it there?" are ok follow up questions, which then leave room for even more conversation.
Me and my girlfriend argue a lot and its always stupid things like she thinks I don't listen or she thinks I make her feel stupid, she also always blames us having sex for us arguing all the time and we do it maybe every 2 months. She Is always talking about getting married though. What can I do
or instead of arguing and then acting condescending by pointing out how stupid the argument is, you could just.. not fuel the argument to begin with and respond calmly
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37645584]or instead of arguing and then acting condescending by pointing out how stupid the argument is, you could just.. not fuel the argument to begin with and respond calmly[/QUOTE]
I do so but sometimes she just yells at me anyways.
[QUOTE=TheDestroyerOfall;37647282]I do so but sometimes she just yells at me anyways.[/QUOTE]
I think you should breakup with her if you can't help but being so helpless.
Guys, I finally found a girl that might become my girlfriend.
Well, yesterday we kissed and hugged, it was a perfect evening. But now I'm in kind of dilema because I'm not quite sure what to do from here on. Should I call her or wait a day? I'll see her tomorrow, because we are going to play some paintball. So I was thinking that maybe I shouldn't really call her today, so that she won't think that I'm somekind of a freak. Calling her everyday and shit.
Also can I tell my friends what happened? Or should I wait to see if this works out? I would really need someone to talk to and facepunch is only place to seek for help.
Help me facepunch, I'm in love and I don't want to lose it.
You can send her a text saying 'hey, how are you?' and add on some smiley faces like this :)
Bitches dig smiley faces.
But seriously, nice work!
[QUOTE=lotusking;37598866]i think it's just like a dick move to leave someone stranded at some random bar. especially if they're drinking heavily.[/QUOTE]
ladies and gentlemen please keep in mind this is someone who has never been in an actual relationship and whos girlfriend is a massive whore who cheats on him 24/7, if you take dating advice from this man you might as well put a gun to your significant others head because thats basically what you're doing.
[QUOTE=mr kjerr;37648840]ladies and gentlemen please keep in mind this is someone who has never been in an actual relationship and whos girlfriend is a massive whore who cheats on him 24/7, if you take dating advice from this man you might as well put a gun to your significant others head because thats basically what you're doing.[/QUOTE]
Regardless of how bad his experience may be, the post you quoted there is does have some merit.
[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;37648903]Regardless of how bad his experience may be, the post you quoted there is does have some merit.[/QUOTE]
the post i quoted is common sense
[QUOTE=Greendead;37648585]Guys, I finally found a girl that might become my girlfriend.
Well, yesterday we kissed and hugged, it was a perfect evening. But now I'm in kind of dilema because I'm not quite sure what to do from here on. Should I call her or wait a day? I'll see her tomorrow, because we are going to play some paintball. So I was thinking that maybe I shouldn't really call her today, so that she won't think that I'm somekind of a freak. Calling her everyday and shit.
Also can I tell my friends what happened? Or should I wait to see if this works out? I would really need someone to talk to and facepunch is only place to seek for help.
Help me facepunch, I'm in love and I don't want to lose it.[/QUOTE]
Only tell your friends after you're going steady with her and giving her the dick.
But seriously friends can ruin relationships sometimes if they know about things too early. I've had my friend sabotage a potential relationship by bringing up old shit that I wanted to kill him for.
[QUOTE=wuddlyspud;37649021]Only tell your friends after you're going steady with her and giving her the dick.
But seriously friends can ruin relationships sometimes if they know about things too early. I've had my friend sabotage a potential relationship by bringing up old shit that I wanted to kill him for.[/QUOTE]
Can't decide between agree, informative, heart, or funny.
[editline]13th September 2012[/editline]
Alright, rant mode activate.
Friend/coworker a couple months ago asked out a girl who had just joined the company. Okay, cool, whatever, dating someone in the workplace is risky but I don't care about that, nor do I care that he got to her before I did.
what I [I]do[/I] care about is how after they start dating, 4 weeks, pass, (she'd been there for 4 weeks) she gets a promotion. WHAT? I've been there for 10 MONTHS and I don't get SHIT but you get a promotion? You don't even get to have the payraise that comes with it because the temp agency that we got hired through says you haven't been there long enough to be allowed one. FFFFFFOKAY FINE. WHATEVER. I got a pay raise right after that anyway, and I actually get to use it.
tickticktick 4 weeks go by. I check my mail, "Congrats to -newgirl- on getting employee of the month!"
Wait. WHAT? Now you're the standard we're supposed to hold ourselves to? The fuck? Goddamnit woman I refuse to believe that in 2 months you not only caught up to, but succeeded everyone else in the company. The shit I put up with at that company because I think some kind of career can come out of it and you pull this bullshit. Goddamn.
/rant
What kind of position does your friend/her bf hold? Could he be to do with it?
[QUOTE=Mort and Charon;37650982]What kind of position does your friend/her bf hold? Could he be to do with it?[/QUOTE]
I'm in T1 support, He's in T3, she got upped to T2
I know that one of the management dudes got her the job at first and the promotion, but he's in a different department entirely.
Years ago I never wanted to invite my girlfriend whenever I do something with my friends, I always split them up. My girlfriend and my friends, I always felt bad when friends where around when my girl was there. I do not know why, I was afraid of it.
Now everything is fine and we do stuff all together, which is amazing. Guess I am more mature now or simply less dumb :v:
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