Been having bad dreams every single night for the past week since I broke up with her. I wake up every couple hours most nights. All of them include her in some major capacity. Yesterday's was a sex dream though. Or an intimate dream. I just remember skin and how she smelled and her telling me that she was alright. It was much needed comfort, despite only being a dream.
She texted me today saying that she missed me. Told her that I missed her too. Everything is nostalgic after a break-up if this one is anything to judge by. I told her about my nights and she told me that she would like me to never speak to her again and that she will soon be "on the field" as far as relationships go and that she'll likely be taken. I assume Eric would be that guy to be with her.
It aggravated me that she would tell me that. I told her that is she ever changes her mind about the whole vow of silence thing, I would be happy to talk to her. She never responded, so I assume we're not talking anymore for a very long time... She was not a good girlfriend a lot of the time, but I genuinely love this person still. Now she says that she loved me. Past tense. Okay. Bye.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
The weather and the things I ate and the songs in my car and the time of day- everything reminds me of good things with her. I'm going through the missing-her-so-much phase if there are actually phases to this.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;37683701]Been having bad dreams every single night for the past week since I broke up with her. I wake up every couple hours most nights. All of them include her in some major capacity. Yesterday's was a sex dream though. Or an intimate dream. I just remember skin and how she smelled and her telling me that she was alright. It was much needed comfort, despite only being a dream.
She texted me today saying that she missed me. Told her that I missed her too. Everything is nostalgic after a break-up if this one is anything to judge by. I told her about my nights and she told me that she would like me to never speak to her again and that she will soon be "on the field" as far as relationships go and that she'll likely be taken. I assume Eric would be that guy to be with her.
It aggravated me that she would tell me that. I told her that is she ever changes her mind about the whole vow of silence thing, I would be happy to talk to her. She never responded, so I assume we're not talking anymore for a very long time... She was not a good girlfriend a lot of the time, but I genuinely love this person still. Now she says that she loved me. Past tense. Okay. Bye.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
The weather and the things I ate and the songs in my car and the time of day- everything reminds me of good things with her. I'm going through the missing-her-so-much phase if there are actually phases to this.[/QUOTE]
There's always the future to look forward to. You say she was a bad girlfriend most of the time so at least now you have the chance to get a girl that's a good girlfriend most of the time. You're just gonna have to push through this phase and go onto the happiness phase, where you realise that this might not be as bad of a situation as it seems. If you feel this is a phase, then it is. Perhaps you could analyze your dreams and see what you feel you need to change. It doesn't sound like she was a particularly good girlfriend anyway, so you could think about the bad things that she did to you and realise that you can always do better.
[QUOTE=MindMuncher;37683701]Been having bad dreams every single night for the past week since I broke up with her. I wake up every couple hours most nights. All of them include her in some major capacity. Yesterday's was a sex dream though. Or an intimate dream. I just remember skin and how she smelled and her telling me that she was alright. It was much needed comfort, despite only being a dream.
She texted me today saying that she missed me. Told her that I missed her too. Everything is nostalgic after a break-up if this one is anything to judge by. I told her about my nights and she told me that she would like me to never speak to her again and that she will soon be "on the field" as far as relationships go and that she'll likely be taken. I assume Eric would be that guy to be with her.
It aggravated me that she would tell me that. I told her that is she ever changes her mind about the whole vow of silence thing, I would be happy to talk to her. She never responded, so I assume we're not talking anymore for a very long time... She was not a good girlfriend a lot of the time, but I genuinely love this person still. Now she says that she loved me. Past tense. Okay. Bye.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
The weather and the things I ate and the songs in my car and the time of day- everything reminds me of good things with her. I'm going through the missing-her-so-much phase if there are actually phases to this.[/QUOTE]
Im going through the same thing. I've been broken up with my ex for 3 weeks and a few days ago I had a nightmare where my ex lost her virginity with some random guy.
I just went through some of our really early Facebook conversations and I still dont understand how she just lost all her feelings for me after 7 months of bliss
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37681895]Challenge: start a conversation with the "wanker" hand gesture in front of your pelvis and not getting punched in the face by the girl's boyfriend.[/QUOTE]
This is Israel, not America... Even though, I am willing to try that for the sake of showing it's possible to strike a conversation.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37684219]Im going through the same thing. I've been broken up with my ex for 3 weeks and a few days ago I had a nightmare where my ex lost her virginity with some random guy.
I just went through some of our really early Facebook conversations and I still dont understand how she just lost all her feelings for me after 7 months of bliss[/QUOTE]
I assume it's because you didn't make the move and sleep together earlier if you were together for 7 months and you didn't sleep together. She probably still likes you but was concerned that it had be so long, most of the time it's up to the man to make the move. At least you can learn from this experience just as long as you spend no time thinking about why. It's probably right in front of you. If you're really concerned you could ask her.
[QUOTE=Anthrax713;37684318]I assume it's because you didn't make the move and sleep together earlier if you were together for 7 months and you didn't sleep together. She probably still likes you but was concerned that it had be so long, most of the time it's up to the man to make the move. At least you can learn from this experience just as long as you spend no time thinking about why. It's probably right in front of you. If you're really concerned you could ask her.[/QUOTE]
Were both virgins and we did plenty of foreplay stuff. She wanted to hold off on things because I was the first dude she kissed at 19. Its just one of those things where you dont wanna see your ex with someone else, so I had a nightmare about it.
She's made it clear to me that her feelings just went away. I've been (mostly)avoiding contact with her but its still so damn hard because my heart is the one that got affected most. Now I'm just trying to find myself before dating again.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37684534]Were both virgins and we did plenty of foreplay stuff. She wanted to hold off on things because I was the first dude she kissed at 19. Its just one of those things where you dont wanna see your ex with someone else, so I had a nightmare about it.
She's made it clear to me that her feelings just went away. I've been (mostly)avoiding contact with her but its still so damn hard because my heart is the one that got affected most. Now I'm just trying to find myself before dating again.[/QUOTE]
Ahh sorry, I should know better, it's wrong to assume. :v: Trying presupposes failure, you're in the process of finding yourself. I'm glad to see that you're helping yourself along. It certainly seems like you're on the right path.
My friend is trying to hit on Caucasian chicks, he says the local ones suck.
Any tips for him?
tips?
I think he meant if he should approach them differently
Because most caucasians here are either expats/tourist
depends on where they live and where they come from obviously
[QUOTE=shian;37684859]I think he meant if he should approach them differently
Because most caucasians here are either expats/tourist[/QUOTE]
no
[QUOTE=Shugo;37682843]tings[/QUOTE]
No offense, but that sounds like the sort of girl who always going to give you problems. They're always going stay in contact with an ex and hang around with guys who want to be with her, but scorn you if so much as look at other girls. So getting out of there would be a wise decision, but well I know it's not that easy.
Personally what I would do, would be to back off and stop making all the effort, she can contact you when she's ready to put the effort into the relationship and start seeing the issues mentioned from your perspective. She could be taking you for granted thinking that a little coldness and seeing her ex wont drive you away, she needs to know that isn't the case and that she can lose you.
[QUOTE=shian;37684859]I think he meant if he should approach them differently
Because most caucasians here are either expats/tourist[/QUOTE]
yes, he should approach them with a cowboy hat and say "Howdy partner!" in a redneck accent
[QUOTE=D3TBS;37682736]what he said is true, but it would apply for people with common sense[/QUOTE]
I know. I was just kidding.
[QUOTE=Anthrax713;37683939]There's always the future to look forward to. You say she was a bad girlfriend most of the time so at least now you have the chance to get a girl that's a good girlfriend most of the time. You're just gonna have to push through this phase and go onto the happiness phase, where you realise that this might not be as bad of a situation as it seems. If you feel this is a phase, then it is. Perhaps you could analyze your dreams and see what you feel you need to change. It doesn't sound like she was a particularly good girlfriend anyway, so you could think about the bad things that she did to you and realise that you can always do better.[/QUOTE]
No, she wasn't bad most of the time. She just did stuff that is a serious no-no as far as being a girlfriend and then didn't do other things that are fairly essential to relationships. Communication when it was most important primarily. Then later the whole exchange of emotion thing stopped and I felt really cut off. Now she's going to go off and be with Eric, who's been a prick about us being together, but she still gives him so much of herself, even while we were together at one point. For the second time ever, I'm actually mad at her. I shouldn't be..
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37684219]Im going through the same thing. I've been broken up with my ex for 3 weeks and a few days ago I had a nightmare where my ex lost her virginity with some random guy.
I just went through some of our really early Facebook conversations and I still dont understand how she just lost all her feelings for me after 7 months of bliss[/QUOTE]
I found some facebook conversations that were really sweet. Then bumped into one that was a long time ago and concerned the exact same shit that we broke up for. She never fixed it. I gave her so many chances and talked to her about how I felt about that stuff whenever it came up and she would never open up about it. She'd get mad at me sometimes for expecting her to be as open with me as I was with her.
Girls are weird.
So guys, around a week or two ago, if you guys remember, I asked this girl on a date and yes ever since our first date it's gone official.
Since high school is a bit chill for now, we both decided to go out more frequently before the hell of university applications and exams closing in.
Of today, I've been going out on five outings with her.
My first outing was going to an ice-skating rink with her. This was real special since I never ice-skated in my life before and I felt that it was a great way to bond further since we were constantly falling and we had to hold each other's hands to not fall onto the ice, etc.
My second outing was a equally exciting. We decided to go shopping. Amusing thing was when we went, she pretty much felt comfortable. It was funny how one of the first things she took me to was a bra shop. I found it awkward and weird but funny at the same time. Rest of the day we went shopping and hopping around buying snack food to fill our lunch stomach.
My third outing, I went biking with her in a local garden park where we could rent bikes. Since the park is huge, it took us around 3 hours going from one end to another. It literally took us the whole day just biking. It was fun since I did mini-races with her, etc. We both at packed lunches. Since the park is located near a river, I teased and tossed abit of water at her and eventually we got into some sort of water fight.
My fourth outing was going shopping again in a different mall. The usual stuff. She wanted to buy cosmetics, blah blah blah. I actually found it kind of boring but it was amusing when I put a sample of lip gloss on her face. We were acting really playful and childish but oh well, it was something fun at least.
Our fifth outing was going to see a movie at a local theatre and going out to eat a nice dinner. I talked about things with her. This outing was more towards taking time to know her even further.
During my third outing, I managed to make out with her in the park, lying down in long grass. Since her clothes were wet, I could see her tits through her bra which made it all too interesting too. I managed to go along to second base and make out a lot after too.
Thing is, I don't know where to take her in dates anymore. Things are escalating quite quickly and I'm okay with it but thinking of where to go is a painful task since I need to plan it out. Any tips here?
Also, as you've seen in the previous paragraph, things got a little intense. I'm worried about sex.
a) I'm still a virgin. She's not but I don't give a damn about that.
b) I'm Asian so I have quite a smally down there which worries me about basically sex and whether I can keep up and satisfy her.
Every date doesn't need to be a magnificient outing, Just take her home, chill out at your house and watch movies.
and then fuck
The girl I decided to meet up with was actually weird as fuck, went out with her for a week and realised that she wasn't the girl for me so I broke up with her. Now she won't leave me alone.
She also told all her mates that I'm a player, a 'druggie' and I only want a 'druggie' girlfriend that a can have sex with all the time? WTF?? Apparently smoking weed makes you a 'druggie'.
Well I've learned my lessons, don't ever have relations with a fucking weirdo who can't compliment/flirt for shit.
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;37690543]She also told all her mates that I'm a player, a 'druggie' and I only want a 'druggie' girlfriend that a can have sex with all the time? WTF?? Apparently smoking weed makes you a 'druggie'.[/QUOTE]
The truth hurts, aye
[QUOTE=JohanGS;37690637]The truth hurts, aye[/QUOTE]
Unless you're referring to me being a druggie because I smoke weed then I know I am what most girls would class as a player, but the truth is I would love to be in a long lasting, loving relationship but all my ex girlfriends have cheated on me. Fair enough I have cheated before but that gives them no excuse especially when I am just beginning to actually get attached to them, it knocks me back and makes me think that I shouldn't be looking for a long term partner because I can't trust them not to cheat.
If you're on about the druggie thing don't be silly, paracetamol is a drug too. (The word is stoner)
lol if you're getting cheated that often, then you're the one doing something wrong
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;37690724]Unless you're referring to me being a druggie because I smoke weed then I know I am what most girls would class as a player, but the truth is I would love to be in a long lasting, loving relationship but all my ex girlfriends have cheated on me. Fair enough I have cheated before but that gives them no excuse especially when I am just beginning to actually get attached to them, it knocks me back and makes me think that I shouldn't be looking for a long term partner because I can't trust them not to cheat.
If you're on about the druggie thing don't be silly, paracetamol is a drug too. (The word is stoner)[/QUOTE]
I was mainly referring how to you got rid on a girl you didn't want to spend time with by cheating on her instead of telling her.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
That's wrong in every book.
[QUOTE=D3TBS;37691225]lol if you're getting cheated that often, then you're the one doing something wrong[/QUOTE]
I might be in with the wrong crowd.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=JohanGS;37691284]I was mainly referring how to you got rid on a girl you didn't want to spend time with by cheating on her instead of telling her.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
That's wrong in every book.[/QUOTE]
Hmm, true yes but I am a nice guy to girls I actually like since the ones I had a good relationship with still speak to me
[QUOTE=JohnnyGoGo;37686045]No offense, but that sounds like the sort of girl who always going to give you problems. They're always going stay in contact with an ex and hang around with guys who want to be with her, but scorn you if so much as look at other girls. So getting out of there would be a wise decision, but well I know it's not that easy.
Personally what I would do, would be to back off and stop making all the effort, she can contact you when she's ready to put the effort into the relationship and start seeing the issues mentioned from your perspective. She could be taking you for granted thinking that a little coldness and seeing her ex wont drive you away, she needs to know that isn't the case and that she can lose you.[/QUOTE]
Thanks, this is probably the best response I've gotten from anyone so far. I'll keep your advice in mind.
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;37690543]The girl I decided to meet up with was actually weird as fuck, went out with her for a week and realised that she wasn't the girl for me so I broke up with her. Now she won't leave me alone.
She also told all her mates that I'm a player, a 'druggie' and I only want a 'druggie' girlfriend that a can have sex with all the time? WTF?? Apparently smoking weed makes you a 'druggie'.
Well I've learned my lessons, don't ever have relations with a fucking weirdo who can't compliment/flirt for shit.[/QUOTE]
Damn. All that crazy shit over 1 week? Where did she come from? A convent school?
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37691479]aren't you the douche that cheated on his gf to be with a teen mom and then cheated on the teen mom[/QUOTE]
imo he deserves most of the shit he gets from relationships, since he's pretty much exactly what his avatar describes
I am that guy yes, I know I was wrong to do it but I've been cheated on so many damn times too.
[editline]16th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37691634]imo he deserves most of the shit he gets from relationships, since he's pretty much exactly what his avatar describes[/QUOTE]
Aha, yes I probably did deserve it but I am looking for redemption with a nice girl now but my last one was plain ass crazy
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