I find it hard to believe that she would do that to you after 2 years of being in a relationship. That must suck.
I feel pretty much like your avatar man.
It was hard for her to talk to me about it. I think she really wants to get back together, but it's still hard to stay optimistic.
And now everyone at the school knows I'm single. My friends keep pulling the "dude u okay" thing and all the bitches be flockin.
True. She's always been one to enjoy parties. Personally I can't stand drinking. Or large groups of people really haha. I guess it makes it harder for me to understand because I fail to see the appeal in it.
I'm not really in a position to dole out relationship advice, but from what I can tell it all kinda boils down to a lack of communication. You guys should sit down and talk about this, and be completely honest with each other... she needs to cut the crap and tell you what she's feeling, and you should do the same. It's the only way you'll be able to fix it, it's just going to get worse if you wait for it to get better.
Maintaining a semi-long distant relationship at the moment with my girlfriend of nearly 10 months. Both at university and agreed we wanted to keep dating; seeing her every other weekend. Tough so far but I think I'll get used to it; still skyping with her and stuff but very different to seeing her every day of summer. :P
Just thought I'd say my situation seeing as I do enjoy lurking this topic.
[QUOTE=Garfy;37817350]Maintaining a semi-long distant relationship at the moment with my girlfriend of nearly 10 months. Both at university and agreed we wanted to keep dating; seeing her every other weekend. Tough so far but I think I'll get used to it; still skyping with her and stuff but very different to seeing her every day of summer. :P
Just thought I'd say my situation seeing as I do enjoy lurking this topic.[/QUOTE]
I've had a long distance relationship from the very beginning now, 500km between us from the start. Now I moved a bit closer, still 150km between us and we see every weekend. Moving together in spring, yay!
8 months full in 2 days. I'm almost proud of myself.
Okay, so my ex-girlfriend broke up with my a month ago because I didn't have a job. I just got one and I start on Sunday. The situation is, her job was handed to her by her mother and I had to earn mine with my enthusiasm and using the right words in the right questions. I really want to rub it in her face, but indirectly through another friend that speaks to the both of us. Was told this was a bad idea, but, do you guys think so?
[QUOTE=NoobieWafer223;37819973]Okay, so my ex-girlfriend broke up with my a month ago because I didn't have a job. I just got one and I start on Sunday. The situation is, her job was handed to her by her mother and I had to earn mine with my enthusiasm and using the right words in the right questions. I really want to rub it in her face, but indirectly through another friend that speaks to the both of us. Was told this was a bad idea, but, do you guys think so?[/QUOTE]
Bad idea. Grow up, move on.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37815258]she's keeping you on a line
aka she wants to shag around but if it doesn't work out she wants you to be her backup plan
[editline]27th September 2012[/editline]
ok maybe not shag around but she def wants to see if she can't get someone else[/QUOTE]
I think she's basically doing this. At the moment she thinks that she'll always have you even if she messes with you around, she needs to know that isn't the case. You need to put your foot down and not be taken for granted, don't let her treat you like the backup plan, you deserve respect and if she doesn't show you any don't make the effort.
[QUOTE=Jerzy;37818570]I've had a long distance relationship from the very beginning now, 500km between us from the start. Now I moved a bit closer, still 150km between us and we see every weekend. Moving together in spring, yay!
8 months full in 2 days. I'm almost proud of myself.[/QUOTE]
I'm good friends with a couple that got together on the internet, and after maintaining a long distance relationship for five years they got together. Its really amazing how they seem to fit together so nicely, like two matching puzzle pieces- maybe its all the time that they had to think things through.
As whimsical as it sounds, I reckon I do believe in the whole "two puzzle pieces" thing you're talking about. It's just a matter of time til you find your other piece.
At least I [I]like[/I] to think that's the case.
Orgasmed during sex for first time. Win.
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37826929]Orgasmed during sex for first time. Win.[/QUOTE]
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s__rX_WL100[/media]
Girlfriend just paid for both of our flights and accommodation for a trip to Amsterdam over the new years. She says it's my Christmas present but I'll give her the money back.
Still, wife material or what?
[QUOTE=Rhenae;37826929]Orgasmed during sex for first time. Win.[/QUOTE]
Are you a guy or a girl?
I assume she's a girl...
Men often can't if they're nervous too, so it wasn't a completely stupid question :v:
Just found out not too long ago after posting that stupid question that she has a new boyfriend. Not even a month after we broke up. We dated for 6 months, she's dating the dude she said was "Just a friend" and "Wasn't her type"... Wow.
[QUOTE=NoobieWafer223;37832580]Just found out not too long ago after posting that stupid question that she has a new boyfriend. Not even a month after we broke up. We dated for 6 months, she's dating the dude she said was "Just a friend" and "Wasn't her type"... Wow.[/QUOTE]
Happened to me a few years ago after I was with her for a year and a half, sucks man.
[QUOTE=Mr Flexi;37832591]Happened to me a few years ago after I was with her for a year and a half, sucks man.[/QUOTE]
The catch is, this is the 2nd time this sort of thing has happened to me. And she even stated at the beginning of the relationship that she wouldn't do that sort of thing if me and her ever broke up. Good to know she's a liar and possibly was cheating on me.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37832662]a wise man said:
"Girls don't have platonic friends, they have dicks in a glass box. Break in case of relationship breakup"
-Chris Rock~~~~[/QUOTE]
IKR? Those [I]feeeeemales[/I] are entirely incapable of forming honest friendships, they're not to be trusted!
lighten up, he was just having a giraffe
[editline]28th September 2012[/editline]
i thought calling chris rock a wise man was a dead give away :v:
Well I'm going to see a school counselor/pyhscologist so I can figure myself out and how to be happy without a girlfriend
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37833523]step 1: stop crying
step 2: you really don't need a girlfriend
think of it this way, your life is your own voyage. Having someone with you is fun, but not required. Even without bfgfso whatever the fuck the kids these days call it, you have your friends, family and loads of other people that like to be around you and like to have fun with you[/QUOTE]
Im pretty sure when I have thoughts of me wanting to hang myself outside my ex girlfriend's dorm room or thinking about shooting myself in the middle of campus I need to see a professional.
We all handle breakups differently and Im tired of just suppressing my thoughts
[editline]28th September 2012[/editline]
Plus its a free service provided by the school so why not ya know?
[QUOTE=Autumn;37833167]lighten up, he was just having a giraffe
[editline]28th September 2012[/editline]
i thought calling chris rock a wise man was a dead give away :v:[/QUOTE]
Sorry, I'd been on Reddit earlier and I kind of forgot that not everyone was this stupid.
for a while i've been talking to a girl (as you might know) and she has been wanting to tell me a "big secret" about her that she didn't want to tell me incase i though of her differently or ran away or something like that
today she had a breakdown and told me everything
when she was younger, she was forced to lose her v, and was raped analy and oraly by the same guy, who she felt obliged to let do these things because he asked nicely
i'm choking down tears trying to type her a message, trying to help her calm down and chill out
i'm not sure what to do, honestly.
:suicide:
Just to clarify for anyone who didn't know (I thought this thread must know me by now :D) I am a girl, for that last post to make more sense.
Anyway I miss this thread, since I grew up and got a job and such I don't seem to have any time to post, i've been stuck to lurking.
I miss you guys!
We missed you too Rhenae. :v: Been swamped with University too these days. Haven't had time to come her as often as I'd like too.
[QUOTE=A1t;37835115]for a while i've been talking to a girl (as you might know) and she has been wanting to tell me a "big secret" about her that she didn't want to tell me incase i though of her differently or ran away or something like that
today she had a breakdown and told me everything
when she was younger, she was forced to lose her v, and was raped analy and oraly by the same guy, who she felt obliged to let do these things because he asked nicely
i'm choking down tears trying to type her a message, trying to help her calm down and chill out
i'm not sure what to do, honestly.
:suicide:[/QUOTE]
In my honest opinion, in those matters, typing messages is worthless and impersonal. It brings no emotional comfort whatsoever.
Instead of being all over her in the form of text messaging. Why don't you go meet her in person?
I think that would be a great idea since she was afraid to lose you due to the awkwardness of her secret. By meeting her, you'll show her that you are there in person and you didn't run away as she feared.
It would be a very kind thing to do and I bet she'll remember it.
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