[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37835567]In my honest opinion, in those matters, typing messages is worthless and impersonal. It brings no emotional comfort whatsoever.
Instead of being all over her in the form of text messaging. Why don't you go meet her in person?
I think that would be a great idea since she was afraid to lose you due to the awkwardness of her secret. By meeting her, you'll show her that you are there in person and you didn't run away as she feared.
It would be a very kind thing to do and I bet she'll remember it.[/QUOTE]
i just got back from meeting her, i calmed her down and assured her that i'm never going to leave and stuff, i actually got her to laugh.
i actually forgot to lock the door to my house because i had to run the whole way to get there within 30 mins
You did good!
[QUOTE=A1t;37835822]i just got back from meeting her, i calmed her down and assured her that i'm never going to leave and stuff, i actually got her to laugh.
i actually forgot to lock the door to my house because i had to run the whole way to get there within 30 mins[/QUOTE]
I'm proud of you.
Anyways I've been lurking this thread for a few days and thought it was time to give back. I'll try to keep it a bit short. I just started as a freshman in high school about 3 or 4 weeks ago and decided it was time to man up and start talking to as many girls as I could. I was extremely successful and got quite a few girls numbers. Go to about a week ago I spot this nice 8/10, maybe 9 redhead. I knew I h ad to talk to her and instantly start hitting on her to make my intentions clear. She plays hard to get and I don't get her number, this only gets me more determined. This week I meet up with her again at lunch and there's a lot of physical touching between me and her. Finally, I get her number. Meet up with her again today and we go off to a coffee store with some of my friends and her. We hold hands the whole time and once we get back we start getting really close, i'm talking hands on her hips and her head resting on me close. End of the day we kiss, and we are now declared boyfriend and girlfriend. Now she's telling me she wants to last with me for a long time. I have no resistance against that because I think she's super hot. Tomorrow is also my birthday. Best week ever.
[QUOTE=DoctorRictofen;37838389]I'm proud of you.
Anyways I've been lurking this thread for a few days and thought it was time to give back. I'll try to keep it a bit short. I just started as a freshman in high school about 3 or 4 weeks ago and decided it was time to man up and start talking to as many girls as I could. I was extremely successful and got quite a few girls numbers. Go to about a week ago I spot this nice 8/10, maybe 9 redhead. I knew I h ad to talk to her and instantly start hitting on her to make my intentions clear. She plays hard to get and I don't get her number, this only gets me more determined. This week I meet up with her again at lunch and there's a lot of physical touching between me and her. Finally, I get her number. Meet up with her again today and we go off to a coffee store with some of my friends and her. We hold hands the whole time and once we get back we start getting really close, i'm talking hands on her hips and her head resting on me close. End of the day we kiss, and we are now declared boyfriend and girlfriend. Now she's telling me she wants to last with me for a long time. I have no resistance against that because I think she's super hot. Tomorrow is also my birthday. Best week ever.[/QUOTE]
Sounds like a keeper, although most redheads I've known have been sort of batshit crazy.
There are a shitload of SUPER hot read heads out there though.
[QUOTE=Deadman123;37838400]Sounds like a keeper, although most redheads I've known have been sort of batshit crazy.
There are a shitload of SUPER hot read heads out there though.[/QUOTE]
She said she's a natural blonde so haha, maybe I'm safe there.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37838718]I'm going to teach my girlfriend how to play chess so we have something to do.
I'm kinda exited for it.[/QUOTE]
Chess is the best time of my life on a rainy day
[editline]28th September 2012[/editline]
too bad I have nobody to play with
[QUOTE=Meatloaf;37839127]Chess is the best time of my life on a rainy day
[editline]28th September 2012[/editline]
too bad I have nobody to play with[/QUOTE]
working out how to counter certain common maneuvers on your own is apparently the Pro Way to get good at chess.
I never won a chess game in my life. :v:
i used to play for my county when i was 9 - 11 :v:
[QUOTE=DoctorRictofen;37838389]I'm proud of you.
Anyways I've been lurking this thread for a few days and thought it was time to give back. I'll try to keep it a bit short. I just started as a freshman in high school about 3 or 4 weeks ago and decided it was time to man up and start talking to as many girls as I could. I was extremely successful and got quite a few girls numbers. Go to about a week ago I spot this nice 8/10, maybe 9 redhead. I knew I h ad to talk to her and instantly start hitting on her to make my intentions clear. She plays hard to get and I don't get her number, this only gets me more determined. This week I meet up with her again at lunch and there's a lot of physical touching between me and her. Finally, I get her number. Meet up with her again today and we go off to a coffee store with some of my friends and her. We hold hands the whole time and once we get back we start getting really close, i'm talking hands on her hips and her head resting on me close. End of the day we kiss, and we are now declared boyfriend and girlfriend. Now she's telling me she wants to last with me for a long time. I have no resistance against that because I think she's super hot. Tomorrow is also my birthday. Best week ever.[/QUOTE]
So you want to stay with her just cause she's hot? :v
This reminded me of something I wanted to ask, why is it most generally non-social guys (at least in this thread) when they decide "I need to be more social" they just go for "I'm gonna talk to and get numbers from tons of girls!" Not just generally any people?
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;37838718]I'm going to teach my girlfriend how to play chess so we have something to do.
I'm kinda exited for it.[/QUOTE]
I'm always amazed when I meet people who don't know how to play chess. One of my favourite games to play, even if I suck at it. But no one else ever wants to play with me because they don't like it.
Well, let's be honest, being beautiful, hot, or whatever is physically attractive is a great determinant in a relationship. Also due to the fact that the notions of "hotness" are different from people to people. But I'm sure he feels attracted to her not only by her looks.
What are you trying to say, Rhenae? Is it that it's equally important to have the contacts of other people other than girls?
If that's what you're trying to say then I see your point of view and I ask the same question.
Being anti-social and suddenly trying to change that by reserving yourself socially only for people from the opposite sex is not a very good strategy.
If you're anti-social and you're reserving yourself to a group of people, in this case, the opposite sex, you're still being anti-social.
I think it's pretty important to talk to everyone equally if we're to be noticed by the opposite sex. Otherwise we'll be seen as kind of a silent creeper who doesn't talk to guys but suddenly has interest in the girls around him.
In my honest opinion I think talking to everyone, even if it's to start a conversation it's the most healthy thing to do. You only become attractive when you're discrete in your own way and socially noticeable to everyone in your area.
I'm not saying to put a spotlight on yourself, but letting others put the spotlight on you, I mean look at you. And this is determined not by what you say but by what you are, what you do and how you act.
[QUOTE=DoctorRictofen;37838389]I'm proud of you.
Anyways I've been lurking this thread for a few days and thought it was time to give back. I'll try to keep it a bit short. I just started as a freshman in high school about 3 or 4 weeks ago and decided it was time to man up and start talking to as many girls as I could. I was extremely successful and got quite a few girls numbers. Go to about a week ago I spot this nice 8/10, maybe 9 redhead. I knew I h ad to talk to her and instantly start hitting on her to make my intentions clear. She plays hard to get and I don't get her number, this only gets me more determined. This week I meet up with her again at lunch and there's a lot of physical touching between me and her. Finally, I get her number. Meet up with her again today and we go off to a coffee store with some of my friends and her. We hold hands the whole time and once we get back we start getting really close, i'm talking hands on her hips and her head resting on me close. End of the day we kiss, and we are now declared boyfriend and girlfriend. Now she's telling me she wants to last with me for a long time. [b]I have no resistance against that because I think she's super hot.[/b] Tomorrow is also my birthday. Best week ever.[/QUOTE]
Don't fill her up with hopes if you're not up for it. There are enough sexually attractive women to go around...
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37844308]Well, let's be honest, being beautiful, hot, or whatever is physically attractive is a great determinant in a relationship. Also due to the fact that the notions of "hotness" are different from people to people. But I'm sure he feels attracted to her not only by her looks.
What are you trying to say, Rhenae? Is it that it's equally important to have the contacts of other people other than girls?
If that's what you're trying to say then I see your point of view and I ask the same question.
Being anti-social and suddenly trying to change that by reserving yourself socially only for people from the opposite sex is not a very good strategy.
If you're anti-social and you're reserving yourself to a group of people, in this case, the opposite sex, you're still being anti-social.
I think it's pretty important to talk to everyone equally if we're to be noticed by the opposite sex. Otherwise we'll be seen as kind of a silent creeper who doesn't talk to guys but suddenly has interest in the girls around him.
In my honest opinion I think talking to everyone, even if it's to start a conversation it's the most healthy thing to do. You only become attractive when you're discrete in your own way and socially noticeable to everyone in your area.
I'm not saying to put a spotlight on yourself, but letting others put the spotlight on you, I mean look at you. And this is determined not by what you say but by what you are, what you do and how you act.[/QUOTE]
Yes, basically that. It seems just as important to me to make guy friends, not just get girls and try to find a girlfriend.
I also always wonder when someone says they got tons of numbers, and found one girl they are really interested in, do they just stop talking to the other girls? Since they initially approached them for gf reasons.
His initial reason was "maning up".... I find approaching women for the reason above super weird......
Knowing people from the same sex and socializing naturally other than preying for phone numbers of potential sexual partners, it's what in the long run makes you attractive and lovable.
Phone numbers, nights out ending with sex... that's just for fooling around... That's too immediate for a long term relationship.
for fucks sake
she had another breakdown, i don't know what to do, and i can't go and see her because i'm out of town
:suicide:
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37845375]i'll instantly tell you this, it's not your job to fix her and the chances are you are going to be shit about it, but what can you tell her to fix this? you've never been through shit like that. the only thing you can do is get her to seek professional help because besides being a shoulder to cry on you can't do shit.[/QUOTE]
i still feel like it's my fault, because she was fine until she told me, now she's just been crying and shit
i feel fucking terrible
You don't need to. You did the right thing.
Also, she isn't crying about telling you. You've done nothing wrong. The way I see it, as much as you feel for her, she has a problem that she must deal with by herself. And about that, there is only so much you can do.
You can be the best friend ever, but you can't constantly hold her hand. Don't try to fix her or change her. It doesn't work like that. Be her best friend but don't let yourself be the one thing she depends upon. That's not even how romance works.
Give it some time. She has to cry it out of her for a while and she needs space. Would she need anything from you, she knows she can count on you.
[QUOTE=A1t;37845586]i still feel like it's my fault, because she was fine until she told me, now she's just been crying and shit
i feel fucking terrible[/QUOTE]
You did enough by listening her and letting her share all that with you. Sure she's feeling horrible now, but telling someone is always worth it in the long run.
Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend.
I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love.
It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet.
But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm?
Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing.
And that might be true. I dont really know what to think..
Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion.
(Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.)
I dont even know if this post has a specific purpose.
Came home for the weekend and my friends on her period again like last time so she's all moody again
Anyway, she basically tells me I'm not a good listener and I don't pay attention enough to her sometimes. Like tonight she was going tons concert that I thought was tomorrow or how we were supposed to hang today at 10am but I woke up at 10:30 because I forgot. Granted its her time of the month and all but she makes good points. She broke up with her last boyfriend because he was a total kiss ass (among other stuff) but I don't wanna kiss her ass all day but I'm trying to find a good middle ground
I'm scared she'll just stop liking me. Then again she must like me enough to wait to only see me like twice a month
[editline]29th September 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847829]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend.
I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love.
It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet.
But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm?
Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing.
And that might be true. I dont really know what to think..
Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion.
(Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.)
I dont even know if this post has a specific purpose.[/QUOTE]
It's really good that you can find happiness without a girlfriend but when you actually find someone, trust me its great.
I don't know what you want us to say to you about it. You're not missing a thing. Well, not necessarily. You're talking about something that will come to you in it's due time.
I can only give you my personal input on the subject. I've always been like that before I lost my virginity. I had my first girlfriend when I was 16/17 but we never had sex. Honestly ad that time I was more into the dating and relationship thing just out of curiosity. I found a person that looked suitable at the time and thought "hey, why the fuck not?". It's something you have to see for yourself.
After like 2 months I gre tired of it, felt pressured and jumped of the boat.
Then I've been in an endless cycle of disastrous relationships untill I ended up stoping to pursue that. Despite them being auful or ending badly, they made me look into myself and being enable to fix some flaws about my behaviour in a relationship. I learned that most things that went bad were due to me being insecure and sometimes that "nice guy" desperate for acceptance for the partner. Some times I even became obcessed. Well this doesn't happen to everyone, of course, but relationships are a great way to learn about yourself too.
Having a relationship for me at the time sounded glamorous, and the thought to have the first girl to ever like me romantically was exciting as hell. It will happen to you too at some point.
Now after my last relationship I kinda stopped pursuing relationships. I meet people, talk to people enjoy a night out, I flirt but nothing more. Right now I'm comfortable with whatever priorities I've established for myself, and finding a girlfriend now is not one of them.
That said, I mean you too will find your balance through experimenting.
Just don't over think it.
If you're comfortable being single then keep on going. Romance comes wether you're looking for someone or not.
Any more questions or things in specific you wanted to know?
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847829]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend.
I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love.
It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet.
But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm?
Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing.
And that might be true. I dont really know what to think..
Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion.
(Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.)
I dont even know if this post has a specific purpose.[/QUOTE]
There's no rush man. If you're happy just now then that's awesome, if you ever become lonely or unhappy then do what you have to do to change it.
I wouldn't say it's particularly abnormal.
All these people getting in relationships on in their first highschool weeks :V
Either way, would you guys say confidence or looks are more important/effective/etcetera for social situations/'getting girlfriends'/etcetera? I know looks contribute a bit, but this is assuming you look 'average.'
well they're connected
if you look nice you feel more confident and if you feel more confident people think you look better
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847829]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend.
I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love.
It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet.
But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm?
Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing.
And that might be true. I dont really know what to think..
Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion.
(Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.)
I dont even know if this post has a specific purpose.[/QUOTE]
It's a bit like how I see drugs I suppose, there is nothing like the experience of taking them, that feel when you're really chilled and your brains just churning out the wierdest shit and it's wonderful. I hate the idea I could have missed out on that. Like drugs, love has lows and it can shit you out so bad you wonder if it was ever worth it. I like to think love and lust are worth it, the excitement and warmth when you're really into someone. Long term relationships teach you a lot about yourself, you find someone you really trust and adore, aslong as you have them you will always have someone to confide in or seek support from. Oh and sex is pretty neat too. Sometimes I wish I didn't need relationships, that I could just take that piece out of my brain, but when I really think about it, no I couldn't. I couldn't imagine my world where I didn't appreciate and enjoy the female form or couldn't have feelings like that again.
If I were you, my main concern would be regret. You'll have regrets no matter what, but you might end up hating yourself for not experimenting with girls in your youth, it might also trip you up when there is a girl that you genuinely want and end up making silly mistakes. For me really I never really go looking for girls, it will always be certain girl I'll going after or looking for. So maybe wait until you meet someone and see if it feels right, just don't let the oppertunity pass. To feel like you don't need relationships and sex is a blessing, but to pass it up is denying yourself quite a lot.
Minty blowjobs are the one
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847829]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend.
I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love.
It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet.
But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm?
Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing.
And that might be true. I dont really know what to think..
Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion.
(Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.)
I dont even know if this post has a specific purpose.[/QUOTE]
I'd say this is pretty normal, I'd never had much desire to be with anyone till I was about 19. I'd been with he odd girl here and there but things were never serious, until I met my girlfriend. Fancied the pants her for a while so saw her almost everyday for a couple of weeks just me and her and told her that I liked her, turned out she liked me too. Haven't looked back, makes me feel how no one has done before.
It's okay now, but once you find someone you wonder how you lived without them for so long.
[QUOTE=pansarkurt;37847829]Im 17 and i have never ever felt the need of a girlfirend.
I just think there are so many other ways to enjoy life and love.
It can be the love of a great friend, or the love of a pet.
But the thing is, people find it strange im not interested in meeting a partner. Since when did searching for a partner become the norm?
Hell, one might even say i would rather stay single. This is the part where people say i have never had a girlfriend and therefore dont know what im missing.
And that might be true. I dont really know what to think..
Can you guys lecture me on the subject? I feel i need more perspectives to form an opinion.
(Im speaking more towards older men who has gone through the phase of confused emotional teenager.)
I dont even know if this post has a specific purpose.[/QUOTE]
Having a gf and having a serious gf you love will sway what you hear.
I think, eventually, you'll want to find someone you can settle down with and come home too every day. Having someone in your life for a constant period time can make life so much more enjoyable (if you're in a good relationship!). When you're older, friends will have families, friends will have jobs, friends will move away but (hopefully), your partner will be there through it all.
[QUOTE=hiimpaul123;37852472]Having a gf and having a serious gf you love will sway what you hear.
I think, eventually, you'll want to find someone you can settle down with and come home too every day. Having someone in your life for a constant period time can make life so much more enjoyable (if you're in a good relationship!). When you're older, friends will have families, friends will have jobs, friends will move away but (hopefully), your partner will be there through it all.[/QUOTE]
he's way too young for that, though. 17 year olds don't need to get tied down to a long-term relationship. i'm sure his attitude will change once he's older and has met someone worth committing to.
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