so, friend's ladyfriend goes away to uni, says she wants a break, made friends with a dude she's close with. I've been that dude someone's close with in situations, so I feel like I know exactly how this is going to go but my friend still thinks he can pull it around. does anyone have any last ditch advice I could give him, because I'm obviously not going to tell him she's sucking dick up there.
[QUOTE=strayebyrd;37877028]so, friend's ladyfriend goes away to uni, says she wants a break, made friends with a dude she's close with. I've been that dude someone's close with in situations, so I feel like I know exactly how this is going to go but my friend still thinks he can pull it around. does anyone have any last ditch advice I could give him, because I'm obviously not going to tell him she's sucking dick up there.[/QUOTE]
Let him learn.
[editline]2nd October 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Branflakes;37874955]I meant to say towards a person that I've never talked to before and that I'm interested in, not a general conversation starter towards people that already know me.[/QUOTE]
First thing you need to do, is stop acting so hesitant. Two reasons; one, it's irrelevant ("what might she think", "this is so weird") and will disturb you from devoting to what you want to do which is talk to the person. Two, is a derivative of one, which is if you're constantly busy with what is good or bad in a situation or how you should act, you will not be able to keep the conversation up, interesting or even have it at all.
Second thing you should do, is be creative. Once you've figured out one, you understand you can talk about anything. Become interested in her, thus making your message itself interesting enough for her to respond back. Pretty vague, I know, but this isn't something I am going to provide. Trial and error; "Nice hat, it reminds me when........" and tell your story, make it funny/interesting and she'll love it.
I was sat around last night after work feeling shit and about to write some long post over a minor issue on here about my relationship (she has a habit of changing her plans and not bothering to mention it to me and has done so repeatedly in the past few days) but then she invited me round last night and had made me cakes to cheer me up and it's kinda like fuck it, she's good to me really.
Have a nice day everyone :)
Glad you're in that happy place man, cherish those moments.
Does annyone have any experience with porn related ED?
There are an absolute shitload of sites about this problem, one of the main ones:
[URL="http://yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-ed-start-here"]http://yourbrainonporn.com/porn-induced-ed-start-here[/URL]
They claim 20 to 40% of the 18 to 30 year old western men suffer from this in some way of another.
Knowing the average FP users relation to porn that percentage could be much higher here without the user knowing it.
Why the interest, are you addicted?
[QUOTE=Seith;37881063]Why the interest, are you addicted?[/QUOTE]
Not annymore. Used to blame shit like that on the girl or me being drunk stoned then I found this.
A lot of religious and christian groups claim this to be true, well mostly for their propaganda.
Anyway I do not think that this is entirly true, although I had times where I wanked like 6 times in the morning/midday and at night I slept with my girl, I was not entirely in the mood for it and it was harder for me to actually ejaculate.
[QUOTE=junker|154;37882501]A lot of religious and christian groups claim this to be true, well mostly for their propaganda.
Anyway I do not think that this is entirly true, although I had times where I wanked like 6 times in the morning/midday and at night I slept with my girl, I was not entirely in the mood for it and it was harder for me to actually ejaculate.[/QUOTE]
I understand what you mean, I had a problem with the site because next to its thousands of personal (real?) stories it doesnt have a whole lot of proof for this. (Some is there though)
They do explain this as being part of the recent internet high speed boom, allowing more and more teens to get acces to a shitload of HQ porn. Hence the relative low ammount of news you hear about this.
[editline]2nd October 2012[/editline]
Also it really does make sense and this definitely isnt religious bullshit.
(According to them): You need a relatively long time to develop this, as in 2-3 years of 7+ times a week. And escalating porn content.
So, there's this super hot redhead in my math class. The first time I saw her, I fell in love. Today, she caught me looking at her, so I quickly turned my head away. I'm afraid she thinks I'm a stalker, what do
you are one
either ask her out or stop ogling her
I don't have any experience with girls, and also I don't know her name as she moved into the school 3 weeks ago, so I need to prepare first
Any tips?
just talk to her. "hi, i'm __, what's your name". idk
it's pretty creepy to stare at her constantly and never introduce yourself
Well, she's always with her other friends, and the only times I really see her are lunch, math, and the hallway. I can't talk with her in math however, in lunch she's always sitting with friends, and in the hallway there's really no time to talk
This is the only time she's seen me staring at her btw
[QUOTE=ForDaNords;37891456]Well, she's always with her other friends, and the only times I really see her are lunch, math, and the hallway. I can't talk with her in math however, in lunch she's always sitting with friends, and in the hallway there's really no time to talk
This is the only time she's seen me staring at her btw[/QUOTE]
Hey teapadong we told you a million ti-
wait, nvm
So my roommates had some girls over and we all played super smash bros together.
It bugged me that they sucked at it and didnt know any of the pokemon
I showed no mercy and I made it a point to target my roommate who was considerably better than the girls
I kept it inside though and made a little bit of small talk
im more annoyed when my roommate smokes and doesnt invite me but whatever if thats what upsets you
[QUOTE=ForDaNords;37891344]I don't have any experience with girls, and also I don't know her name as she moved into the school 3 weeks ago, so I need to prepare first
Any tips?[/QUOTE]
Do you have experience with people? because girls are those, intercept her after class and introduce yourself.
what are people's opinions on first date etiquette?
my latest experience follows in quote tags because it's kinda long:
[quote]I met two girls in-between classes when they sat at my table because the place was crowded. One was an adorable, talkative, blonde, quick-fuse friend, and the other a cute Peruvian brunette. the latter and i found out how we both loved the strokes and the black keys, amongst other things.
the next day i'm walking to the parking lot and see her. we chat, turns out her friend won two tickets to a black keys/Foo fighters/Neil young concert on Saturday. her friend can't make it and she asks me if I want to go.
so we trade numbers and Saturday we meet in the city. we get chipotle and the concert's great (srsly, great), and
afterward, spend a while walking together until we meet quick-fuse blonde-friend and one of her guy friends at a downtown pub for drinks. we stood and walked for so long that when we get in a cab to the pub, we take off our shoes and sit cross-legged. when we get there, we don't even have to worry about carding because blonde girl used to work with the bartender.
so i relax, order a SoCo and we have a wonderful time. we chat about birthdays, and i let them know that mine was the 30th, the next day, so we stay after midnight and they buy me a birthday double shot of bourbon and another drink.
later we all head back to the station. on the subway we challenge each other to train surfing. we arrive and split ways, I take the train to my town and then walk all the way home 'cause i'm all out of money, haha.
anyway, it was a really great time. we talked a lot, no awkward pauses, lotta laughs, eye contact, and a comfortable amount of physicality (I mean like friendly bumps on the shoulder, etc., until eventually she's pulling me down the street by my hand). by one drink in at the pub we're arms around shoulders taking pictures, she's been leaning her head on me ("i'm tired, haha"), and more hand grabbing. it all feels sincere and well paced.
walking around after and at the station she has an arm around mine. when we split for our trains we have a good hug. we've texted and Facebook messaged, she says she had a really great time and I tell her likewise. blonde friend wants us to head to a karaoke bar next time, and we're both in.[/quote]
it felt like quite a success and I'll be seeing her round campus and when we go into the city again. but the coolest thing?
[b]she's the daughter of the U.N.'s Peruvian diplomat[/b], whose immunity extends to her. if anything could help me relax at a bar, it's knowing that a fucking diplomat's daughter can get us out scott free (most times). what's also nice is that her travelling a lot and having to make friends quickly makes her super confident and forward, so no whining ("tell me I'm pretty"), and a good match for me.
while it is certainly a perk, the diplomat's daughter thing is only one part of her. she also speaks Hindi, has nice skin and short hair, likes similar things to me, and is studying some advanced stuff. I like her.
so i guess I don't really have a question. typing this out kinda help me answer myself. I guess it's just one of those great first dates, you know?
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oh right. okay question: when are first date kisses applicable? is this something way common in the modern dating world that should've happened, or, as I think, is it just fine to keep the lips separate for now when you already have made close physical contact, bonded, enjoyed each other's company, and planned for a second date? I can tell it's mutual without asking blonde friend. so, does it actually mean anything at all?
don't feel obliged to ask questions, we love reading about others' experiences even if there isn't any advice needed!
as for first kisses, it doesn't matter how long you wait as long as you're both comfortable with it, though if you haven't really explicitly stated that you're dating you might want to pay attention to her gestures and judge whether she wants you to kiss her.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;37892868]because i have no school and public transport decided to strike again i am planning to head out and travel the several tens of miles to my gf's house
i am going to get so fucking lost[/QUOTE]
Phone, google maps, car/bike.
Whats the problem?
(Unless you are using the new apple maps)
Alright, I'm gonna introduce myself today. Should I apologize for looking at her in math class yesterday or just ignore it?
well was it a stare or a glance?
Stare, but she caught me looking at her after answering a question, so she probably thinks I was just looking at her to see what she says
[QUOTE=butered_toast;37893894]well was it a stare or a glance?[/QUOTE]
Doesn't matter.
[editline]3rd October 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=ForDaNords;37893930]Stare, but she caught me looking at her after answering a question, so she probably thinks I was just looking at her to see what she says[/QUOTE]
No. Why would you even care?
[QUOTE=DChapsfield;37892700]what are people's opinions on first date etiquette?
my latest experience follows in quote tags because it's kinda long:
it felt like quite a success and I'll be seeing her round campus and when we go into the city again. but the coolest thing?
[b]she's the daughter of the U.N.'s Peruvian diplomat[/b], whose immunity extends to her. if anything could help me relax at a bar, it's knowing that a fucking diplomat's daughter can get us out scott free (most times). what's also nice is that her travelling a lot and having to make friends quickly makes her super confident and forward, so no whining ("tell me I'm pretty"), and a good match for me.
while it is certainly a perk, the diplomat's daughter thing is only one part of her. she also speaks Hindi, has nice skin and short hair, likes similar things to me, and is studying some advanced stuff. I like her.
so i guess I don't really have a question. typing this out kinda help me answer myself. I guess it's just one of those great first dates, you know?
[editline]Edited:[/editline]
oh right. okay question: when are first date kisses applicable? is this something way common in the modern dating world that should've happened, or, as I think, is it just fine to keep the lips separate for now when you already have made close physical contact, bonded, enjoyed each other's company, and planned for a second date? I can tell it's mutual without asking blonde friend. so, does it actually mean anything at all?[/QUOTE]
dude sick make sure to bold that shit so EVERYONE reads it!
[editline]3rd October 2012[/editline]
oh my bad you did sry didnt notice
Breaking news, daughter of incredibly important Peruvian diplomat caught up in scandal involving first date kisses, blames video game forum
there is one way in which bringing up the stare situation can work out well
and that is if you are actually michael cera and she is ellen paige. it is just perfectly awkward and detrimental to any conversation momentum.
oh, I would refrain from staring now too. like just don't do it unless there is absolutely no way she could turn and look. and if she turns in your direction just don't make eye contact. until you've talked enough that you're at a stage of friendship where you can make eye contact regularly, keep looking forward when she turns to you. you'll never risk awkward stares again and the more she turns and doesn't meet your eyes, shell be shown that you're not staring at her, which helps.
[editline]3rd October 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;37894876]dude sick make sure to bold that shit so EVERYONE reads it!
[editline]3rd October 2012[/editline]
oh my bad you did sry didnt notice[/QUOTE]
I actually cannot tell if you're being sarcastic or not??
[QUOTE=ForDaNords;37893930]Stare, but she caught me looking at her after answering a question, so she probably thinks I was just looking at her to see what she says[/QUOTE]
Keep looking at her. Imagining being with her is way better than actually failing to interact with her.
[sp]Not really[/sp]
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