[QUOTE=Thaard;37952811]Cuz I'm an aspie idiot.
I'll check it out, thanks.[/QUOTE]
I'm an aspie. Or was. I'm playing like fuck on decate. There's hope.
[QUOTE=CAPSMAN!;37952743]Try decate. Less old people. And you can completely filter from age so grandpa/ma can't even see your profile.[/QUOTE]
damn. Most dating sites on these parts are full of sexual perverts and guys holding their dicks in the photos.
[QUOTE=Behemoth_PT;37953063]damn. Most dating sites on these parts are full of sexual perverts and guys holding their dicks in the photos.[/QUOTE]
It's more moderated, only downside is that chicks aren't allowed to upload nudes. But jesus christ, you gotta be stupid to do that.
welp, just deleted every single piece of data and made away with any memoirs i had with my now-ex. facebook, phone, tumblr, every square inch of it.
i feel awful yet liberated. even if this is the umpteenth time i've had my heart crushed, it never really seems to stop aching. feels bad, man.
[QUOTE=Jmir 54;37935011]Oh my god I'm sitting here in the football stadium bathroom in pain taking a dump it feels like there are razor blades embedded in my feces and it is shredding my descending colon every centimeter of the way
[editline]6th October 2012[/editline]
Aside from the pain it's kinda relaxing in here[/QUOTE]
I have Inflammatory Bowel Disease and that's been the past 4 days for me
hardcore
[QUOTE=junker|154;37951469]So I will see my girlfriend in 3 months again and I am already horny as fuck after one week :v: how can I survive this.[/QUOTE]
i have to wait 5 more months
I don't think I could live with not seeing my bf for so long. I get clingy and miss him way too much at just like... a week.
eh i've gotten used to it
with the miracle of technology she can still receive my dumb jokes via SMS
[QUOTE=fairy;37952432]
"it was funny"[/QUOTE]
Yeah No Country For Old Men is an hilarious romantic comedy.
[QUOTE=Cl0cK;37954743]Yeah No Country For Old Men is an hilarious romantic comedy.[/QUOTE]
I'm not your buddy, friend.
[editline]8th October 2012[/editline]
And other HILARIOUS scenes in the blockbuster comedy "No Country For Old Men", when Anton has to go through his [I]difficult task[/I], while everyone tries to get on his good side!
the only thing remotely funny about no country is anton's haircut
you get used to long distance after a while. usually it hurts for a few weeks and then after that you mostly just look forward to the next time you'll see each other
or you break up
[editline]7th October 2012[/editline]
usually the latter
[QUOTE=CAPSMAN!;37952340]I'd rather call it good fuckbuddies and leave it at that, the chance of both being completely cool about it is quite slim.
[editline]7th October 2012[/editline]
wat[/QUOTE]
Chances have nothing to do with an Open Relationship.
I swear if my parents let me bring my desktop to school I wouldn't think about my Ex so
much. I love my friends and basketball but it only works so much
A girl actually took a big interest in me this weekend but it's a big fucking no-no because she's my roommate's girlfriend and she's not really my type physically
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;37954978]
[editline]7th October 2012[/editline]
usually the latter[/QUOTE]
Yep!
when should I let a girl know I'm a medicated manic depressive? I've heard the played out 'time is right' rhetoric before, but I feel like waiting until it's going anywhere serious to go 'oh yeah I'm a loony by the way' is a bit deceptive.
doesn't seem like something you really need to "come out" as, lots of people take medication for something or other and depression is pretty commonly diagnosed these days. if there's something wrong with you that your meds don't cover that could impact your relationship, she probably would've noticed it by now
Don't. Unless it becomes a problem. There's no point in telling her unless it's going to cause issues.
Are you actually bipolar? Or do you just suffer from "normal" depression? If it's the latter, get your shit together and stop being depressed. If it's the former, I hope it doesn't get in the way of your relationship.
[editline]8th October 2012[/editline]
Also, I think I posted about it aaaaages ago... but I went out for a casual drink with a girl once and within about 3 seconds she was telling me how many anti-depressants she was taking and how her life is terrible, almost in tears. A nice drink turned into 3 hours of me psychoanalysing this poor girl, I tried my best to inspire her... but I didn't see her again after that. It was hilariously terrifying, and somewhat tragic.
i'm bipolar and usually i don't tell anyone unless they actually see me doing something bipolar
for example, if i'm quiet for 20 minutes and have a glum expression on my face i do my best to inform people that i'm not depressed because they did something wrong.
[QUOTE=Scotchair;37957545]If it's the latter, get your shit together and stop being depressed.[/QUOTE]
[sub]oh boy, here we go...[/sub]
but strayebyrd, like guy said, it's not something you really need to announce to her. if your medication means your life is manageable then there's no real need to tell her. if things get more serious there may well be a time when it comes up, but until then there's no rush/pressure to inform her.
[QUOTE=Scotchair;37957545]Don't. Unless it becomes a problem. There's no point in telling her unless it's going to cause issues.
Are you actually bipolar? Or do you just suffer from "normal" depression? If it's the latter, get your shit together and stop being depressed.[/quote]
[QUOTE=Scotchair;37957545]A nice drink turned into 3 hours of me psychoanalysing this poor girl, I tried my best to inspire her... but I didn't see her again after that.[/QUOTE]
"psychoanalysing" = "oh you're 'depressed'? you know what you should do? GET OVER IT!"
[editline]8th October 2012[/editline]
i just finished writing a shitty essay on dyslexia but i'm tired so i can't read it and nobody else is online so i can't get help aaaaaa
Haha, trust me... I don't want to get into a big depression debate either. As a former depressive though, it really was just a case of getting my shit together.
I'll just tell you what worked for me Strayebyrd, maybe it'll work for you. The best thing I ever done was to stop taking anti-depressants, and started finding better, healthier, more satisfying ways to try and be happy. If you're unhappy, chances are you need to change something in your life. Pills won't change it for you, IMO they're a temporary solution for a long term problem. They just put off depressive moods, instead of dealing with the root of the problem.
The thing that got me out of my rut was finding a passion in life, a reason for living. I now have too many to count! But it probably started with cycling. Exercise is an incredible stress reliever, and it releases all the same chemicals that pills do, except you've got the satisfaction that you got off your ass and dealt with it yourself instead of relying on the doctor. Which is a great feeling! Cycling or walking gives you so much time to just chill out and think, don't take headphones or anything, just.... be. You can just go and get lost and see some pretty amazing things, and reflect. Which is one thing nobody ever does these days, we're too busy texting and stuff most of the time, but if you ever get the time just leave your phone at home and go for a wander. It'll help a lot, trust me.
I also read The Art Of Happiness by HH The Dalai Lama, which opened my eyes a lot. Puts your life in perspective, and helps understand how you should appreciate what you've got without dwelling on the negative parts of life. It spoke a lot about raising your "base level" happiness, and highlighted the fact that temporary happiness (like winning the lottery for example) is fleeting. But the same is also true for sadness (like a death in the family). Eventually we all return to our normal level of happiness, and this book basically tells you how to raise that.
Creative outlets are a great way to grow as well, they give you the chance to shed some baggage and lose yourself in doing something. Whether it's drawing, music, poetry, writing, painting... whatever. I kept a diary for a while which really helped, it forces you to sit down and really think about yourself and what you want to do. When you see it written down on paper it's so much easier to start solving your problems, instead of them just littering your head all day. I wrote a bucket list of stuff to do before I die, and started ticking stuff off it. It motivates me to not have a boring life.
Another thing I started doing was taking a photograph every day, like a photo-diary. Today is day 982. It really inspired me to keep taking cool photos, which makes you do lots of cool things. I can't wait to look back and have a hard copy of my life to see how it's changed. I'll link the video from the first year at the end of this post, and when I watch it I feel like I can actually see myself getting happier.
I'm rambling... sorry! The point is, get motivated and get your shit together :) Being happy is easy enough when you put your mind to it, the trick is to just have fun and go with the flow. Here's that video;
[video=youtube;95j-i_TVC2k]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95j-i_TVC2k[/video]
even though lifestyle can (and often does) contribute to depression, it can be caused by biological factors as well that aren't as easy to control. my mom's family has a history of bipolar disorder/depression and many of my relatives need medication to cope, even though they take excellent care of themselves and have tried to find other ways to cope with it.
even if you've gone through depression and managed to overcome it, the causes are so diverse that it's unfair to assume everyone else can overcome it the same way you did.
Which is why I said "maybe it'll work for you" right at the very beginning... if it doesn't apply to you then fine, I guess you're fucked.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;37928666][URL="http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml"]hi[/URL][/QUOTE]
this is pretty much exactly how i am in every way and now i feel like an idiot
i also feel a lot better
greatest read of my life
a) depression and bipolar disorder are two different things, saying depression is a fake version of bipolar disorder is pretty ignorant
b) i hope you realize the irony in telling someone who has a disorder characterized by a lack of motivation to "get motivated"
My big post wasn't even directed at you man, I don't know if the other guy is bipolar or suffers from depression. I asked him in my first post, so don't say I'm the one being ignorant.
My mistake for trying to help, but what else can I say? If I can help 1/10 people get over depression by talking to them then that's good enough for me. If you don't stop being such a fucking pessimist then you're never going to get over it. I'm done with this conversation. I hope you cheer up one day.
[QUOTE=Scotchair;37957545]Are you actually bipolar? Or do you just suffer from "normal" depression? If it's the latter, get your shit together and stop being depressed.[/QUOTE]
[editline]8th October 2012[/editline]
is slinging personal (and inaccurate) insults one of those hobbies you mentioned that helped you get over your "fake depression that everyone should be able to motivate themselves out of"
when i was younger i thought you could just shape up and end a depression. then i had one. it really isn't. i really tried to shape up several times but doing so doesn't change the things you think and feel. i quit smoking, i got atleast 8 hours o sleep everyday, watched school, ate properly and really tried to be happy and tried to either block out solve everything that didn't make me happy. after a month i didn't really feel different about anything and up came the next blow that made me go back to square one. atleast there's boose at square one.
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