I'm going to quote this again because people didn't seem to read it. Maybe because it's Seith's post and is worded in his unique way, but whatever.
[QUOTE=Seith;38005853]Are you doing this because you want to celebrate for any reason or is this date [i]really[/i] that important to you? I'm asking because I know that if you push something really hard, it ends up exactly the opposite.
I think you should focus on the actual giving rather than the "grandiose" effect you seem to want as a way to symbolise your relationship milestone. Personally, I think, it's all about you and her and not the physical place you are at; I once told one of my partner we're having dinner to celebrate something, she came over, I made dinner and then took out a book. I told her to play along, and we read in turns (it was an erotic book)... 40 mins later we were done having sex and she told me it was brilliant. Simple works if you want to....[/QUOTE]
The dude that said that he read too much into it is just being flippant. Probably just to have a go at Seith, because I can't actually find anything wrong with this post.
First, he has a good point. If you push something too much, it will make it work less (at least in relationships). Then he talks about how you shouldn't do something big just to do something big. It doesn't need to be showy. That can even make people uncomfortable, and forced showiness is even worse.
Making dinner and reading together is possibly not enough, but it's along the right vein. My sister's birthday was the other day and she was complaining about how her boyfriend hadn't made it seem like he cared enough to put forth the effort to do anything. She specifically didn't want anything showy, and didn't particularly want him to spend money or anything. I made her our favorite cookies that my mom used to make. That was the kinda thing that she wanted him to do.
Really you could do anything though, as long as it's something. You could go skinny dipping and fly a kite, or try to cook a new weird meal together. You could go on a date like you did in the beginning- that might come off as sweet. It all depends on the flavor of your relationship. As long as you do something on the day that will mark it in some way, you should be good.
[QUOTE=fear me;38012544]So, a stupid thought (among the rest of them) I've been having is that one of the reasons I'd want to lose my virginity with another virgin, is so it would probably be equally as uncomfortable for both of us.
I'm wondering, is this a selfish sort of thing to think...?[/QUOTE]
sounds even more awkward and uncomfortable to me
My girlfriend cheated on me.
Just thought I'd share.
[QUOTE=tyanet;38013823]My girlfriend cheated on me.
Just thought I'd share.[/QUOTE]
yeah i had an ex who did that to me
sucks doesn't it
My mother is getting married soon, and I'm oddly okay with it.
I can't tell if I'm feeling acceptance or if I'm just in a state of shock :v:
[QUOTE=ewitwins;38013934]My mother is getting married soon, and I'm oddly okay with it.
I can't tell if I'm feeling acceptance or if I'm just in a state of shock :v:[/QUOTE]
Do you expect to hate it?
Because that would be pretty selfish... My dad has remarried twice. I'm okay with it. My mom remarried. I love my stepdad like a family member. I still go eat with him and my half sister as often as we can, even though my mom died a couple years ago.
[editline]13th October 2012[/editline]
Oh, I totally defaulted to thinking that your mom and dad were married at some point, which isn't necessarily for sure. Sorry if I jumped to conclusions and you were born out of wedlock or something. If that were the case, it would still be weird for you to dislike your mom getting married, but still.
I'm so bad at impressing a girl none of the girls at school likes me.
Oh well.
Even though, I take care of my personal hygenie, I use deorderant, and etc.
well you use deorderant so i'm really confused as to why girls don't like you
[QUOTE=thisispain;38015656]well you use deorderant so i'm really confused as to why girls don't like you[/QUOTE]
Everyone in my grade uses it. And they manage to impress girls.
._.
[QUOTE=Swog;38015892]Everyone in my grade uses it. And they manage to impress girls.
._.[/QUOTE]
you have to use axe or it wont work
just like
coat your self in a layer of axe
when your nostrils start to burn you know it's working
[QUOTE=lotusking;38015959]you have to use axe or it wont work
just like
coat your self in a layer of axe
when your nostrils start to burn you know it's working[/QUOTE]
Okay. I'll try to get that. I just have to diminish these two cans of deoderent I have. One in my locker which is a sports one, and one at home I apply every [del]night[/del] morning.
Goddamnit,
uhm
[QUOTE=Swog;38015892]Everyone in my grade uses it. And they manage to impress girls.
._.[/QUOTE]
look i saw some of your other posts
have you considered professional therapy for your depression? it would do you a lot more good than flame-baiting on a forum
[QUOTE=thisispain;38016447]look i saw some of your other posts
have you considered professional therapy for your depression? it would do you a lot more good than flame-baiting on a forum[/QUOTE]
Please, don't bring it up already.
The fucking haters will turn this thread upside down worser.
no they won't, i'll protect you babe
seriously though i want to give you a bit of a heads up and say that you don't have to make yourself suffer. there's no point. if you really feel as bad as you suggested in your posts, you should get help before it gets worse.
[QUOTE=fear me;38012544]So, a stupid thought (among the rest of them) I've been having is that one of the reasons I'd want to lose my virginity with another virgin, is so it would probably be equally as uncomfortable for both of us.
I'm wondering, is this a selfish sort of thing to think...?[/QUOTE]
I lost my virginity to my girlfriend who was also a virgin, and... it wasn't great. As in she bled a lot, it hurt for her and yeah... We both knew it would probably be like that so we were okay with it. Advice would be just make sure you're comfortable with your partner; because me and my girlfriend were we were just like "Okay, it'll be better next time, lets just cuddle." :3
It's not selfish though.
[QUOTE=tyanet;38013823]My girlfriend cheated on me.
Just thought I'd share.[/QUOTE]
With who and why?
[QUOTE=Swog;38015602]I'm so bad at impressing a girl none of the girls at school likes me.
Oh well.
Even though, I take care of my personal hygenie, I use deorderant, and etc.[/QUOTE]
Thats like basic stuff that should be done because you like to be clean not to pick up chicks
So... Call me stupid or not but i tried killing myself, and i failed thanks to some random guy.
It was late at night, around Half 12, and i was sitting atop a tree trunk with a noose around my neck, contemplating shit and how i felt, sat there for a good hour or two before somewhere i wouldnt expect anyone to go, and after some time i pushed off and started to hang myself, however unbenounced to me someone was watching me for the same amount of time due to concerns and the moment i did he rushed over and pushed me back up, Saved my life and went round to his for hot chocolate and had a good old chinwag about life.
Yes it was stupid but i dont regret trying, i firmly believe in fate and i was meant to survive this night. didnt get any sleep then did a fucking 10 hour shift.
uuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh, i'm slowly getting over her but the wounds feel large.
Pathetic (That is, if the reason you tried to kill yourself was because of the girl).
I'm not gonna sit here and say how shitty my life has been others have probably had worse. But no it wasnt just that, that was the last step in a life full of depression.
If you do realize that you are depressed, then why don't you start solving that problem by asking for help?
And imagine how ridiculous would it sound if you actually succeeded and died because of the girl. You have to think about your family and friends as well.
[QUOTE=MxOAgentJohnson;38023715]I'm not gonna sit here and say how shitty my life has been others have probably had worse. But no it wasnt just that, that was the last step in a life full of depression.[/QUOTE]
Oh god, just get your shit together, kid. We've all had our first heartbreaks. That's a part of life and you're just throwing it all away over an episode.
Well, it's your funeral.
regardless of what his situation is, the fact that he's feeling badly enough to actually attempt suicide should speak for itself. maybe there are other causes that he hasn't mentioned in his post
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;38024156]regardless of what his situation is, the fact that he's feeling badly enough to actually attempt suicide should speak for itself. maybe there are other causes that he hasn't mentioned in his post[/QUOTE]
yeah, it says "i don't know how to handle emotions and instead resort to very, very bad ideas"
[QUOTE=MxOAgentJohnson;38023715]I'm not gonna sit here and say how shitty my life has been others have probably had worse. But no it wasnt just that, that was the last step in a life full of depression.[/QUOTE]
I've been there and know that feel. It's a rocky road ahead but you'll just chug on and on.
[QUOTE=and;38024212]yeah, it says "i don't know how to handle emotions and instead resort to very, very bad ideas"[/QUOTE]
depression is a chemical imbalance, not just butthurt. clearly he has issues!
Guys please, i know it seems a bit attention whoring what i did but i just explained the situation, i dont want sympathy and i dont want anyone to argue over this.
It's has been things throughout my entire life, the reaosn i bring it up in this chat specifically is because the final nail in the coffin was my girlfriend of three years leaving me.
what are you trying to accomplish by telling someone suicidal that he's pathetic?
[QUOTE=Lick;38024265]depression is a chemical imbalance, not just butthurt. clearly he has issues![/QUOTE]
Depression is many things, it is a cumulative product of social, physical and emotional stimuli. You can't simply point it at being caused by one thing.
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