i wonder when it's appropriate to stop in that situation?
do you just stop once you get sore in your mouth or do you just give up after a certain point?
these are questions that could only be asked on the internet
i mean i'm guessing he was physically turned on (i.e. hard) without being psychologically turned on, since i don't see how he could be "balls deep" in his girlfriend doing all manner of "porn star positions" which "almost blew his hips out" if he didn't have his little pal there to help out!
And I get banned for taking the piss.
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Okay, is it common not to get erect the first time? I can't lie, she's my first Gf and she said she would give me a bj. I've never had my dick touched by another girl for fucks sake. So we're making out, I untie her bra and I suggest it, she says fine. Then for 15 min of making out, feeling her boobs and she even tried to stroke my unerect dick, it didn't do shit. So is this shit common on the first time? I hope so.
Yeah, I couldn't maintain an erection my first two times. Combination of nerves and not being completely comfortable with the girl/situation etc. Give it some time, start things slow, and try not to be caught up in your head so much. Really be in the moment, actually enjoy her company, feel the warmth of her skin, etc etc, and it'll happen eventually. Just don't stress!
[QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35073512]Okay, is it common not to get erect the first time? I can't lie, she's my first Gf and she said she would give me a bj. I've never had my dick touched by another girl for fucks sake. So we're making out, I untie her bra and I suggest it, she says fine. Then for 15 min of making out, feeling her boobs and she even tried to stroke my unerect dick, it didn't do shit. So is this shit common on the first time? I hope so.[/QUOTE]
Yeah it's just nerves. Don't feel embarrassed. I'm sure she'll understand as well, just don't make it more of an issue than it really is.
[QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35073512]Okay, is it common not to get erect the first time? I can't lie, she's my first Gf and she said she would give me a bj. I've never had my dick touched by another girl for fucks sake. So we're making out, I untie her bra and I suggest it, she says fine. Then for 15 min of making out, feeling her boobs and she even tried to stroke my unerect dick, it didn't do shit. So is this shit common on the first time? I hope so.[/QUOTE]
That is quite normal, I had the same. Although it took me longer to get used to it. You just have to be relaxed and do not think to much about all the stuff that is going to happen. Do not focus on anything. You will only make it worse. Let it go.
When it happens, try to laugh it off to lower the tension. Don't get worried about it, cause you'll struggle even more to get it up.
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35074307]Yeah, I couldn't maintain an erection my first two times. Combination of nerves and not being completely comfortable with the girl/situation etc. Give it some time, start things slow, and try not to be caught up in your head so much. Really be in the moment, actually enjoy her company, feel the warmth of her skin, etc etc, and it'll happen eventually. Just don't stress![/QUOTE]
whats up with all this boners arent hard to maintain its much harder to stay/become flaccid!!!
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35076543]whats up with all this boners arent hard to maintain its much harder to stay/become flaccid!!![/QUOTE]
We dont take viagra to help us keep it up when banging 300 pound beached whales. Slight difference.
haha u mad cause bad
[QUOTE=Godline;35057801]And I get banned for taking the piss.
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no, you get banned for being a (mostly) bad poster and threadshitter.
[QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35073512]Okay, is it common not to get erect the first time? I can't lie, she's my first Gf and she said she would give me a bj. I've never had my dick touched by another girl for fucks sake. So we're making out, I untie her bra and I suggest it, she says fine. Then for 15 min of making out, feeling her boobs and she even tried to stroke my unerect dick, it didn't do shit. So is this shit common on the first time? I hope so.[/QUOTE]
although i can't say for sure (since i don't actually have a dick) i've often heard (and occasionally experienced) of guys not being able to get/maintain a boner due to nerves
have a little read here, it might be of some use
[url]http://uk.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/79_love_tip.html[/url]
or it might not! but like others have said, just try to not think about it all too much, relax and try to enjoy it!
[QUOTE=Autumn;35078645]no, you get banned for being a (mostly) bad poster and threadshitter.
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Thread shitter?
Thread its self is shite theres nothing to shit in it.
Ohh so youve experienced a guy not getting it up for you, must have affected your low self esteem pretty badly. Id suggest you go look for a councilor I know it can be traumatic but you just have to pull yourself together. Dont worry you'll get through this eventually.
[QUOTE=Godline;35079484]Ohh so youve experienced a guy not getting it up for you, must have affected your low self esteem pretty badly.[/QUOTE]
not at all actually. if it had, why would i have mentioned it?
but i'll be sure to take the advice from you anyway, since you're such a quality poster!!
[QUOTE=Godline;35079484]Ohh so youve experienced a guy not getting it up for you, must have affected your low self esteem pretty badly. Id suggest you go look for a councilor I know it can be traumatic but you just have to pull yourself together. Dont worry you'll get through this eventually.[/QUOTE]
What a retarded and absolutely unnecessary comment.
[QUOTE=Godline;35079484]Thread shitter?
Thread its self is shite theres nothing to shit in it.
Ohh so youve experienced a guy not getting it up for you, must have affected your low self esteem pretty badly. Id suggest you go look for a councilor I know it can be traumatic but you just have to pull yourself together. Dont worry you'll get through this eventually.[/QUOTE]
Why are you hanging out in a shitty thread then?
That is like going to a club and screaming "this place sucks" and then proceeding to go dance.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35078645]although i can't say for sure (since i don't actually have a dick) i've often heard (and occasionally experienced) of guys not being able to get/maintain a boner due to nerves[/QUOTE]
I agree with this comment, I had some issues because I tried to make everything perfect for this girl. I held onto unrealistic beliefs and clichés which always made me nervous. I was unable to really actually focus and I went insane.
My first time was actually on a normal afternoon where my ex-girlfriend came over to get some of her clothes back. When she came I realized how awesome this girl was an simply kissed her and we both undressed eachother and I simply slept with her on my bed with the window and door wide open. No candles or some shit like that.
It was really awesome and spontanous.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35079621]not at all actually. if it had, why would i have mentioned it?
but i'll be sure to take the advice from you anyway, since you're such a quality poster!![/QUOTE]
Cheers I do feel I go out of my way to try my best and contribute to such terrific threads. Perhaps you were seeking closure on the topic, bringing it out into the open and off your chest as such. The need to share it with others to look for common ground? I dont know but its pretty clear it go to you, perhaps more than your willing to admit. Like I said previously if you need help I know a great councilor who uses skype or landline.
Good luck Autumn and remember Sex, girlfriends and shit is here for you.
[QUOTE=junker|154;35079729]What a retarded and absolutely unnecessary comment.[/QUOTE]
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[QUOTE=Godline;35079975]Cheers I do feel I go out of my way to try my best and contribute to such terrific threads. Perhaps you were seeking closure on the topic, bringing it out into the open and off your chest as such. The need to share it with others to look for common ground? I dont know but its pretty clear it go to you, perhaps more than your willing to admit. Like I said previously if you need help I know a great councilor who uses skype or landline.
Good luck Autumn and remember Sex, girlfriends and shit is here for you.[/QUOTE]
Your advice sounds more like arrogant and sarcastic shittalking than any actual informative advice. Doesn't make you look any cool or whitty.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35078645]although i can't say for sure (since i don't actually have a dick) i've often heard (and occasionally experienced) of guys not being able to get/maintain a boner due to nerves
have a little read here, it might be of some use
[url]http://uk.askmen.com/dating/love_tip_60/79_love_tip.html[/url]
or it might not! but like others have said, just try to not think about it all too much, relax and try to enjoy it![/QUOTE]
Thanks actually, that article really helped. Right before we were going to I was kinda paranoid since I was driving around a lot, trying to find a secluded while also keeping in mind about curfew and the fact I almost crashed. I had SATs the next day and just a lot of things were on my mind. Now I don't worry about our relationship since we're even joking about it. But I'm still kinda worried for next time since I promised her in the heat of the moment it wouldn't happen again.
[QUOTE=BLOB Fish Dude;35082224]Thanks actually, that article really helped. Right before we were going to I was kinda paranoid since I was driving around a lot, trying to find a secluded while also keeping in mind about curfew and the fact I almost crashed. I had SATs the next day and just a lot of things were on my mind. Now I don't worry about our relationship since we're even joking about it. But I'm still kinda worried for next time since I promised her in the heat of the moment it wouldn't happen again.[/QUOTE]
Considering this is a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, I'd say you should make yourself feel comfortable; light candles, dim the lights, take your time with the 4play. Feel her skin, follow her breathing patterns, let yourself sink in the moment.
Don't feel rushed to "put it in" as 4play is something even more exciting for the woman, so there's no rush for you to be ready to deliver the goods. When you feel immersed enough, when suddenly it's been 30 mins and you haven't even noticed, I'd say you are immersed and ready to amp it up another level.
[QUOTE=Godline;35078465]We dont take viagra to help us keep it up when banging 300 pound beached whales. Slight difference.[/QUOTE]
me neither!! what a coincidence
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35087781]me neither!! what a coincidence[/QUOTE]
I do :C
It is the curse of my quest.
So me and rusty are the only ones who suffer from having a hardon literally 24/7
i didnt say that
what i meant was when a boner is appropriate, it stays a boner
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35076543]whats up with all this boners arent hard to maintain its much harder to stay/become flaccid!!![/QUOTE]
Because at 16 or whenever, most guys have the idea that sex is the most important thing around and if you suck at it you're a failure. So, naturally you think about it. I had the same thing as those guys, you think about your dick going soft for two seconds and suddenly it's a self fulfilling prophecy.
Obviously it fixes itself when you're more comfortable in the situation. It's like speaking in public and you think about losing your flow and then you do.
First time i had sex i had a boner for a week straight
[QUOTE=Autumn;35079989][img]http://dl.dropbox.com/u/19936378/godline.png[/img][/QUOTE]
Make that into an avatar sized thingy please.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35055960]i mean i'm guessing he was physically turned on (i.e. hard) without being psychologically turned on, since i don't see how he could be "balls deep" in his girlfriend doing all manner of "porn star positions" which "almost blew his hips out" if he didn't have his little pal there to help out![/QUOTE]
yeah pretty much, I don't feel that mindless instinct feeling where you kinda just get taken over and can't think about anything. I mean she was clawing my back and all I could think about was a conversation me and my friend had about angel wings. but I asked her why everything had to be so sexual friday and she told me its because the only way she knows how to keep me with her is by having sex with me. and I swear she kept my condoms, that I left on her dresser for her to throw away, just to keep the scent of my dick. this girl is fucking weird.
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