[QUOTE=Doozle;35259530]My girlfriend goes to uni 200 miles away. We normally see eachother every couple of weeks. It can be tough at times, I last saw her on Sunday but it feels like much longer than that.
I think as long as you keep in contact and you both genuinely love eachother it works out. We talk every day, chatted for over an hour last night and spoke for 45 minutes this morning[/QUOTE]
same with me dude, she's at birmingham and i'm in cardiff. It can be difficult at times, but generally I see her every couple of weeks.
It's been 3 weeks now though and she's back tomorrow.
But i'm going to uni in cheltenham this year so we'll only be 45 mins away.
[QUOTE=kevaughan;35256888]I'm not looking for any advice but figured I could just vent this out here and hope i'd feel better about myself afterwards. I simply just need to get this off my chest and I also figured if I type this out that somewhere along the way things would seem a bit more clear to me.
I met this girl recently but already it feels like it's been a while. After I got back from my Christmas break, classes at my university started on the 2nd of Jan so pretty much everyone wasn't in the mood for any studying on that day. It was my first day for Photography class so I met up with this girl that I knew for it was our first time taking a specific bus out of town to college that the photography class was to place in. On our way to the bus stop, this girl approached the two of us and asked us if we were first years and if she could tag along for she was lost. Turns out she was in the same photography class as me, every Tuesday and Thursdays from then on I'd meet up with both my friend and this new girl.
Things were going as usual, I didn't think she was anything special at the time, just another nice girl that's pleasant to have around.
She's dating someone at this time.
I remember asking her for number and a lot of other girl's numbers as well because I figured I'd probably need some connections if one weekend I decided I'd come into the photo studio to catch up one some work I'd have someone with me or help me out.
One weekend I texted her if she wanted me to tag along with her downtown. We had to take pictures of random stuff for an abstract assignment. She said it was cool with her. I remember running late and I had just caught the bus and sat right beside her, didn't talk much to her on the bus though because we were friends but not close friends at that time. This was about 4th week into school. We had an adventure that day lol walking through some interesting parts of town as well as just waltzing into a private school lol I joked around with her all day and it was good times spent with her. From then on we got really close, she'd be the one asking me to hang with her everyday, we'd have basically every meal together on campus and spent a lot of time together. People around started to think we were couples or something but non asked me about it at this time. It was the next week after that i took her out to the museum, we needed to look at some artwork for an essay we had to do. she seemed off that day yet more appreciative of my presence. I was joking around with her as usual but this time she slipped that she just broken up with her boyfriend. She seemed really depressed when she mentioned it and when i asked if everything's going to be okay she said she didn't want to talk about it. So the day went on and i cheered her up :) we spent all day in downtown and met up with a highschool friend of hers. Through the course of the next three weeks we basically became really close friends but I felt a vibe off her that there was something more. we opened up and that was basically where things dropped to the point of no return.
As usual we spent all our time together like couples. Some of my boys on campus were questioning me if something was up between me and her and i'd tell them we were just friends thus far.
Another 3 weeks passed... I noticed she started to grow distant from me. Things started to become hot and cold with her. She'd enjoy spending time with me as usual but then somedays she'd treat me like i was nothing special. I started to speculate if she liked me or not. I grew frustrated.
Valentines day came around and i was planning on getting her flowers and asking her out for dinner, nothing too fancy just time together as usual. That didn't happen... She already had plans with her ex.
She always spends time with her ex downtown every weekend, and for the whole day. I just told myself something was going and expected the worse, i wasn't really too phased by this, I guess you could say I'm use to this... no reason to be jealous since she isn't mine.
But things only got more hot and more cold. Especially this one memorable event. I remember she was going downtown with two of her friends both girls too. I'd be holding her, hugging her from behind and things were going amazing that night. Dinner at a korean bbq place and tons of shopping around, there was a lot of touching and holding between me and her all day and night.
Few weeks later I remember going out with just her to go shopping for a new cologne since the one i used often ran out. we spent all day together, lunch was on me, dinner was for free (manager felt sorry for making us wait an hour) and then just before we were about to head back home she threw out the idea of a movie. We walked in, not knowing what was good, picked out Project X and damn was it a good movie lol. I remember during the movie i had my hand on my arm rest and she had hers right beside mine. I should've held her hand... Anyways we go back to my place back on res and chill for a bit as always, and i decided to throw another movie on. We cuddled, things were going amazing.
Things only got worse. She grew colder and eventually I asked her out just to see what the deal was. I wasn't upset about the rejection, i was just really disappointed but mostly i felt disrespected. She said there was something there, she liked me back. But she said she's determined to have no relationships. She rants on about how relationships ruin friendships and that things change after breakups no matter how mutual it was. I asked about all the hand holding on the bus rides and cuddling and holding her was all about... I asked if any of that meant something. She said of course and that it was genuine and that she wanted to do those things with me. She mentioned that the night after the movies she could've made out with me right then and there but that wouldn't only confuse her some more for she was still trying to figure things out between her and her ex... She admits to playing me up and i know she feels bad about it. I was her closest friend and she knew me better than anyone else on this campus besides my future roomates. To this day I'm still getting over her but there is progress, I'm not hurt by the fact she didn't want a relationship but the fact that she was such a nice girl how could i let myself be so vulnerable.
Deep inside I'm really pissed off at her. I still am. We're back the way we use to be, always spending time together and looking like couples just by the way we talk and look at each other (apparently... that's what everyone else is telling me) but there just isn't any more "kino" lol no more touching holding or any of that just hugs. I feel distant with her but that's only appropriate.
All my boys back home tell me to ditch this girl. some even say "I told you so from the start man! I knew she was a user the minute I saw her"
On her side she feels like utter shit. She feels as though I can do much better than she and that I deserve someone that'll appreciate me for what I'm worth. Sometimes I guilt trip her accidentally and I can tell it hits her hard. She feels like she's disrespected me as a friend.
I guess what really frustrates me the most is that, when two people have feelings for each other, things should work out right? I guess she's so determined to live a life without another lover that its worth throwing me as a chance away.
Sorry for the long text by the way.[/QUOTE]
That happens man but the best remedy is to find a new girl. Seriously, find a different girl who you can hang out with and get your mind off things. It'll get her jealous no doubt.
[QUOTE=Doozle;35259530]My girlfriend goes to uni 200 miles away. We normally see eachother every couple of weeks. It can be tough at times, I last saw her on Sunday but it feels like much longer than that.
I think as long as you keep in contact and you both genuinely love eachother it works out. We talk every day, chatted for over an hour last night and spoke for 45 minutes this morning[/QUOTE]
This is good to hear. I've been worrying about this a little.
Been in a relationship for about a month now. Prior to that though this girl had suddenly become a really really close friend a few months prior (I never bothered hitting on her though - decided that she was way out of my league so it'd be better to just be happy as friends).
We're very happy but she moves to university in Kent in September... which is like 300 miles from manchester and costs a tonne to get to (on the train). Then she has a year abroad as part of her course in Denmark. she's made jokes and insinuated that we'll stay together but i guess there's nothin for me to do but enjoy the rest of this 7 months or whatever it is and then see what happens
[QUOTE=Seith;35259628]Where have I said, "planning my conversations" ? Even though some people might choose to use already constructed stories and stuff, for a few, it's only a phase.
Again, this is a malformed post. You are assuming on the basis of - nothing.[/QUOTE]
Seith, you do know that PUA shit was only a ploy to make millions for Neil Strauss and his homie, Mystery? Everyone else who is still writing about it is in for the suckers and their money. Shit's 2004 mate. It's all bullshit lol. If you use that in the club, you're sure in for a surprise.
[QUOTE=junker|154;35259152]I always wondered how long people "wait" to have sex with their new partner. It really differs a lot.
Some people say on the second date, sometimes few months. I am together with a girl since a week now and things are already pretty tense.[/QUOTE]
I didn't rush my current relationship. I waited three long months. Why? Cause I wanted to create that intense pressure, that tension. So when it was finally time, she screamed so hard it was like she was falling down a cliff. I felt bad for her upstairs apartment neighbor, knowing him he played Call of Duty really loud to drown out her screams. Explosive orgasm
So, I think my dick will only stay hard with girls that I'm in a relationship with.
Last night was really embarrassing, and this morning too.
I made porn with my gf, and snuck over and had sex with her entire family home asleep. Shes gonna sneak over my house tonight and do it here. This is the most adventurous and risky relationship ever and its a hell of a lot of fun.
[QUOTE=RopaDope;35265811]I made porn with my gf, [B]and snuck over and had sex with her entire family[/B] home asleep. Shes gonna sneak over my house tonight and do it here. This is the most adventurous and risky relationship ever and its a hell of a lot of fun.[/QUOTE]
started to get scared here, but then I understood
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35266008]started to get scared here, but then I understood[/QUOTE]
I dont please explain?
Did he make sex with the girls entire family?
How old are you may I ask?
I'm not being a dick just wondering why you've got to be so sneaky.
[QUOTE=sHiBaN;35262091]Seith, you do know that PUA shit was only a ploy to make millions for Neil Strauss and his homie, Mystery? Everyone else who is still writing about it is in for the suckers and their money. Shit's 2004 mate. It's all bullshit lol. If you use that in the club, you're sure in for a surprise.
[/QUOTE]
Just because something is now commercialized as fuck, doesn't make it's entire purpose and idea plain wrong.
While Mystery and Neil both have provided good information, the way I do pick up is immensely different and more suited towards the middle east. You guys keep repeating this "when you pickup you use constructed, old, 2004 stuff on women and get laid" when it's not even close to the truth and what I claim it's all about.
I'm taking her her for our two year anniversary, because I'm a gentleman and nothing say's "I love you" more than a £21.50/$34.12 steak.
I'm 17 she's 16 but her dad is overly protective and doesn't allow her to leave the house or anything of that nature. So we have to sneak but it's worth it every time. And I meant everyone in the house was sleeping while we were fucking. Protip: she came twice before I did
at this point Im pretty certain everything you've posted in this thread is bullshit
i believe probably everything besides the came twice thing. he needs to figure out the difference between a girl cumming and having an orgasm, and then he can start feeling good about himself
Lately my stool has come out in little spheres instead of logs. Almost like deer poo
[QUOTE=pakadots;35268082]Lately my stool has come out in little spheres instead of logs. Almost like deer poo[/QUOTE]
eat more fiber and drink more water.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35267798]i believe probably everything besides the came twice thing. he needs to figure out the difference between a girl cumming and having an orgasm, and then he can start feeling good about himself[/QUOTE]
Well orgasmed twice sorry, and I can validate all of this but I can't exactly post the video.
[QUOTE=RopaDope;35267455]I'm 17 she's 16 but her dad is overly protective and doesn't allow her to leave the house or anything of that nature. So we have to sneak but it's worth it every time. And I meant everyone in the house was sleeping while we were fucking. Protip: she came twice before I did[/QUOTE]
made my girlfriend cum 20 times i'm totally not a creep for posting this about her* ?D
obviously something is wrong here if you need validation from a bunch of faceless people about the internet, i think you should start opening up about that.
[QUOTE=RopaDope;35268141]Well orgasmed twice sorry, and I can validate all of this but I can't exactly post the video.[/QUOTE]
and why not?
[QUOTE=thisispain;35268162]made my girlfriend cum 20 times i'm totally not a creep for posting this about her* ?D
obviously something is wrong here if you need validation from a bunch of faceless people about the internet, i think you should start opening up about that.[/QUOTE]
I'm just posting about it, it's almost remedial to me. sorry I'll stop if it seems like I'm boasting or something like that.
[editline]23rd March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35268174]and why not?[/QUOTE]
I promised to her it stays with me, and posting it on the Internet isn't the smartest thing.
what part of it is remedial? i want to help you out with something because you're acting like this one friend i had who used to brag all the time about fucking girls to people he didn't even know; it turns out he was actually a closeted gay man and stopped bragging when a man gave it to him hard for real.
ok, she said you could brag about your sex life on the internet, but not post the video?
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35268366]ok, she said you could brag about your sex life on the internet, but not post the video?[/QUOTE]
For educational purposes, no less!
[QUOTE=Seith;35267382]Just because something is now commercialized as fuck, doesn't make it's entire purpose and idea plain wrong.
While Mystery and Neil both have provided good information, the way I do pick up is immensely different and more suited towards the middle east. You guys keep repeating this "when you pickup you use constructed, old, 2004 stuff on women and get laid" when it's not even close to the truth and what I claim it's all about.[/QUOTE]
If you call yourself a PUA, that's old 2004 stuff man really. It was commercialized from the beginning. It was basically taking the idea of women insecurity by selling them makeup. It's reversed into selling "self-help" books and "seminars" for loser men that ate that stuff up. I have to admit I really did get into that PUA stuff. LIKE REALLY got into it. To which I realized I never needed cheesy techniques or psychological tricks on unsuspecting women. I felt like a fucking rapist in thought. It was a fun psychological study nonetheless but I never let it control my interactions. It was just there to help you realize your real potential. The people who openly call themselves Pick Up Artists are psycho and should be avoided at all costs.
My girlfriend came over this afternoon like yesterday and gave me head again. I think it's cute she gets off on peforming fellatio, but its also irritating. I'd rather get laid but she's having her own good time down there. Might have something to do with her athleticism and healthy appetite. She left early; got frustrated I never got any of that sexytime. It's like our turn on times are reversed. There are times when I'm playing vidya when I notice she's all hot and bothered. There are days when I just really need to get laid and she gives me the cold shoulder like today. ARGHHHHHHHHHH
[QUOTE=sHiBaN;35269527]My girlfriend came over this afternoon like yesterday and gave me head again. I think it's cute she gets off on peforming fellatio, but its also irritating. I'd rather get laid but she's having her own good time down there. She left early; got frustrated I never got any of that sexytime. It's like our turn on times are reversed. There are times when I'm playing vidya when I notice she's all hot and bothered. There are days when I just really need to get laid and she gives me the cold shoulder like today. ARGHHHHHHHHHH[/QUOTE]
complaining about getting head and the girl actually enjoying it. ungrateful son of a wench
[QUOTE=sHiBaN;35269527]My girlfriend came over this afternoon like yesterday and gave me head again. I think it's cute she gets off on peforming fellatio, but its also irritating. I'd rather get laid but she's having her own good time down there[/QUOTE]
this. so this. it's nice she enjoys my pleasure so much but i feel this shit is getting totally one-sided
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35269564]this. so this. it's nice she enjoys my pleasure so much but i feel this shit is getting totally one-sided[/QUOTE]
That feeling bro, that, irritating feeling. I know you man
soo, just tell her how you feel. it isn't hard. I'll go down on my girlfriend, and she'll blow me, but if either of us want to have sex we'll just say it and it's not that hard of a transition to make
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35269609]soo, just tell her how you feel. it isn't hard. I'll go down on my girlfriend, and she'll blow me, but if either of us want to have sex we'll just say it and it's not that hard of a transition to make[/QUOTE]
feel weird saying this but my gyal has fucking stupid periods like twice a month so it's getting ridiculous. having sex really infrequently. the pill will sort this though thankfully
Okay so I asked out a girl today, but she said her parents don't let her go out after the sun sets and I never really got to telling her it would be a date, I just kinda casually asked her to go and never got to it. She told me dinner wouldn't work(a thing my church is having at a restaurant like 30 minutes away). She said that she would go out with me any other time but i'm not sure if she means as friends or more. She seems to be hanging around me more but while talking to her outside in Studio Art she said that she wasn't really looking for boyfriend at the time. In a week our Student Council is meeting at conference and she decided to come(3 day event) because I asked her to. She's hanging around with me more and people keep asking me when we're going to go out. So my question is: Should I ask her out again at conference or sometime sooner or just give up and go for the friend zone or does anyone have any other ideas?
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