[QUOTE=Bigboy855;35269895]Okay so I asked out a girl today, but she said her parents don't let her go out after the sun sets and I never really got to telling her it would be a date, I just kinda casually asked her to go and never got to it. She told me dinner wouldn't work(a thing my church is having at a restaurant like 30 minutes away). She said that she would go out with me any other time but i'm not sure if she means as friends or more. She seems to be hanging around me more but while talking to her outside in Studio Art she said that she wasn't really looking for boyfriend at the time. In a week our Student Council is meeting at conference and she decided to come(3 day event) because I asked her to. She's hanging around with me more and people keep asking me when we're going to go out. So my question is: Should I ask her out again at conference or sometime sooner or just give up and go for the friend zone or does anyone have any other ideas?[/QUOTE]
If you keep thinking about the set ideas of "friends zone" and "boyfriend" you might not get her. You see you don't put a relationship into specific categories man. One day you can be close friends the next, passionate lovers. It's how you take and handle the situation. If you feel confident enough to have a woman by your side, it will happen. But if you keep thinking you need to be overtly polite with her and take it to a "too-good to women" extreme, you can mess it up.
Just tell her straight that you would like to have a date with her. Nothing serious or fancy, just light and friendly. You two are friends after all. There should be no "friends zone" or "relationship zone." You're humans, act like it. Don't down yourself either. You should be willing to accept the fact that whether she likes you or not, you're going to be ok. You can't just expect a woman to answer a straightforward yes or no and if she says yes you two are suddenly in a whirlwind of love. It just doesn't work that way
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[QUOTE=Insulator;35256020]Two of three of those things in the title will never happen to me, the third better happen soon or ill be hurting[/QUOTE]
Are you me?
Just wanting some advice on a girl.
i was in a swimming competition. I met this girl in this competition.
The swimming element was for two days. After, on the second day, we finished swimming and an hour later we had some gala dinner. After the dinner, the girl I met asked me come to her hotel room (since she flew in). Since the teachers wanted us to be at our rooms by 11 and by the time we got to our rooms it was 10:50, me and this girl made out and did a real quickie of fingering and sex.
After that, when we both diverged back to our own countries, I added her on Facebook and Skype. For the first 5 days after the swimming competition, we talked frequently online, Skyped and Whatsapp each other. However after this period, we are not really talking much. She's staying in a country 2 hours apart from mine. It's a long distance relationship. I love her and I know she loves me too but now she's not talking alot and I'm the one starting conversations. How do I keep this relationship alive?
I know not of human emotions, but that is categorically not love. That's falling on each other in a moment of lust and then starting to build something via messaging. All I can suggest is to just let things progress naturally. Bringing up a flaw in a friendship will only make both parties doubt the entire thing.
I regret losing my virginity. For all of those virgins here, cherish it with someone you love, Your time will come (And so will you). But heed these words, DONT fuck for the sake of losing it.
[QUOTE=Deathhunter;35271126]Just wanting some advice on a girl.
i was in a swimming competition. I met this girl in this competition.
The swimming element was for two days. After, on the second day, we finished swimming and an hour later we had some gala dinner. After the dinner, the girl I met asked me come to her hotel room (since she flew in). Since the teachers wanted us to be at our rooms by 11 and by the time we got to our rooms it was 10:50, me and this girl made out and did a real quickie of fingering and sex.
After that, when we both diverged back to our own countries, I added her on Facebook and Skype. For the first 5 days after the swimming competition, we talked frequently online, Skyped and Whatsapp each other. However after this period, we are not really talking much. She's staying in a country 2 hours apart from mine. It's a long distance relationship. [B]I love her and I know she loves me too[/B] but now she's not talking alot and I'm the one starting conversations. How do I keep this relationship alive?[/QUOTE]
no you don't. you met this girl at a swimming gala and were in her presence for a grand total of 2 days, so no, it' not love.
you may well have strong feelings towards her at the moment, but like KitAlexHarrison said, it's more about lust than anything. in the long term, do you think this is really going to work out, what with you being in countries 2 hours apart. also i don't think a little make out session (with bonus fingering and sex!!) equates to being in a relationship
[editline]24th March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=pakadots;35271171]I regret losing my virginity. For all of those virgins here, cherish it with someone you love, Your time will come (And so will you). But heed these words, DONT fuck for the sake of losing it.[/QUOTE]
but also remember that your first time will probably be shit and if you're expecting it to be the most amazing of all experiences then it likely won't live up to it and you might be left wondering "wow, so that's what all the fuss was about, i don't get it..."
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35269632]feel weird saying this but my gyal has fucking stupid periods like twice a month[/QUOTE]
wtf
[QUOTE=pakadots;35271171]I regret losing my virginity. For all of those virgins here, cherish it with someone you love, Your time will come (And so will you). But heed these words, DONT fuck for the sake of losing it.[/QUOTE]
I completely disagree.
Edit: Unless you fuck some hambeast because you're that desperate. You lose it normally? What the fuck ever. Who cares? It's just virginity. Sure it's a big thing for girls, but it's nothing special.
[QUOTE=H4yd3n;35271229]I completely disagree.
Edit: Unless you fuck some hambeast because you're that desperate. You lose it normally? What the fuck ever. Who cares? It's just virginity. Sure it's a big thing for girls, but it's nothing special.[/QUOTE]
Of course there's no physical difference, but I think it's just the sentiment of losing it with someone you love.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35271289]Of course there's no physical difference, but I think it's just the sentiment of losing it with someone you love.[/QUOTE]
I don't know, I've never had that feeling. I lost it to a girl I cared about at the time, but that didn't change anything.
maybe that's because you didn't experience the feeling of not losing it to someone you care about?
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35271340]maybe that's because you didn't experience the feeling of not losing it to someone you care about?[/QUOTE]
Quite possibly. I just remember only caring about the fact that I got laid. Perhaps he's a bit more of an emotional flower than I am, but the last thing on my mind was who I lost it to besides the fact that she was hot.
Hang on am i reading correctly kid says hes 16 girl is 17 states we have sex tape. People call bs and ask for proof.
Cp?
Calling the fucking feds.
[QUOTE=H4yd3n;35271229]I completely disagree.
Edit: Unless you fuck some hambeast because you're that desperate. You lose it normally? What the fuck ever. Who cares? It's just virginity. Sure it's a big thing for girls, but it's nothing special.[/QUOTE]
The more people you fuck in your life time, the harder it is to connect with someone the next time. Which turns into divorce or a broken marriage down the road.
[QUOTE=H4yd3n;35271358]Quite possibly. I just remember only caring about the fact that I got laid. Perhaps he's a bit more of an emotional flower than I am, but the last thing on my mind was who I lost it to besides the fact that she was hot.[/QUOTE]
Thats what was on my mind too. And thats why im trying to give those that haven't lost it already some advice, that getting laid isnt the biggest thing in the world, and it's worth waiting for and not rushing into, just cus you can and want to get the label off.
Also, yea maybe in highschool admitting you're a virgin is shameful, but you'll find the older you get the rarer they become, and if you find that you're a virgin not due to lack of opportunity but because you respect yourself and your future wife/lover, Well fuck, youre a prized being.
[QUOTE=pakadots;35271476]The more people you fuck in your life time, the harder it is to connect with someone the next time. Which turns into divorce or a broken marriage down the road.
Thats what was on my mind too. And thats why im trying to give those that haven't lost it already some advice, that getting laid isnt the biggest thing in the world, and it's worth waiting for and not rushing into, just cus you can and want to get the label off.
Also, yea maybe in highschool admitting you're a virgin is shameful, but you'll find the older you get the rarer they become, and if you find that you're a virgin not due to lack of opportunity but because you respect yourself and your future wife/lover, Well fuck, youre a prized being.[/QUOTE]
Your post is like the broscience of sexual affairs. Got anything to back that up? Cause I don't think that's the case at all. I think as you mature, so does your idea of sex and what it means to a relationship.
It's not the biggest thing in the world, you're right. Which is why there's nothing wrong with losing it. You lose it to a girl you care about? Oh well, you'll probably break up eventually anyway. I didn't have sex so I could get the label off, I had sex because I wanted to. I say, get the experience while you're young and everybody is awkward at sex or else you'll have a hell of a time catching up when you're older.
Well for one its a trust issue, lets say you hook up with a girl and find out she's had sex with 5 different guys before you. Not so big a number eh? I'd trust the cute virgin, or girl that had 1 partner a whole lot more. And there'd be less, Oh shit i bet shes cheating on me going on in my head.
Also, Sex is not just physical. If it were then why does sexual assault effect people much deeper than getting beat up. Bruises heal, but sex is part of the soul, If you're doing it right. snip (That was not needed)
[QUOTE=H4yd3n;35271524]I say, get the experience while you're young and everybody is awkward at sex or else you'll have a hell of a time catching up when you're older.[/QUOTE]
It's not that hard.
I don't mean to be a cunt but it honestly sounds like both of you have little real world experience and you're just spouting your opinions projecting whatever "mature" personality you want to fit into
[QUOTE=Kopimi;35271576]I don't mean to be a cunt but it honestly sounds like both of you have little real world experience and you're just spouting your opinions projecting whatever "mature" personality you want to fit into[/QUOTE]
I don't think either of us were talking much about our own personal sexual experience at all, more of a view debate.
And if my opinions come off as mature to you then im flattered.
[QUOTE=pakadots;35271553]Well for one its a trust issue, lets say you hook up with a girl and find out she's had sex with 5 different guys before you. Not so big a number eh? I'd trust the cute virgin, or girl that had 1 partner a whole lot more. And there'd be less, Oh shit i bet shes cheating on me going on in my head.
Also, Sex is not just physical. If it were then why does sexual assault effect people much deeper than getting beat up. Bruises heal, but sex is part of the soul, If you're doing it right. snip (That was not needed)
It's not that hard.[/QUOTE]
I definitely agree there. It feels weird hooking up with a girl that's had quite a few partners before. I also agree on that too, sex is way more fun when it's not just physical, but the first time is pretty shitty to be honest. Looking back it's almost embarrassing.
And fair enough, but experience is never a bad thing.
[QUOTE=Kopimi;35271576]I don't mean to be a cunt but it honestly sounds like both of you have little real world experience and you're just spouting your opinions projecting whatever "mature" personality you want to fit into[/QUOTE]
I'm talking from personal experience primarily, but also as pakadots stated, we're kind of just discussing our own views on the matter.
[QUOTE=sHiBaN;35269527]If you call yourself a PUA, that's old 2004 stuff man really. It was commercialized from the beginning. It was basically taking the idea of women insecurity by selling them makeup. It's reversed into selling "self-help" books and "seminars" for loser men that ate that stuff up. I have to admit I really did get into that PUA stuff. LIKE REALLY got into it. To which I realized I never needed cheesy techniques or psychological tricks on unsuspecting women. I felt like a fucking rapist in thought. It was a fun psychological study nonetheless but I never let it control my interactions. It was just there to help you realize your real potential. The people who openly call themselves Pick Up Artists are psycho and should be avoided at all costs. [/quote]
As I have said, you are misinformed, or just refusing to comprehend. Either way, I heard that excuse a thousand times; "I don't want to trick chicks, I feel like a rapist" when in reality it's their insecurity that does the talking.
To say I attract women using "psychological tricks on unsuspecting women" is absurd. Do I seem to you like Professor Xavier? The way you think of pickup indicates a lack of experience in the matter. It's not about need, it's beyond that. It's beyond the women themselves.
Remove that stereotypical way of thought from your head and stop watching cheap VH1 Mystery bullshit.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35271212]wtf[/QUOTE]
sum people are biologically different rusty don't be mean :(((
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35272279]sum people are biologically different rusty don't be mean :((([/QUOTE]
but in seriousness, that is not normal
[QUOTE=Autumn;35272285]but in seriousness, that is not normal[/QUOTE]
i am quite aware of this but i guess it isn't something to worry about
well i'm guessing she's already been to see a doctor about it?
because i would think it would be something to worry about
[QUOTE=pakadots;35271171]I regret losing my virginity. For all of those virgins here, cherish it with someone you love, Your time will come (And so will you). But heed these words, DONT fuck for the sake of losing it.[/QUOTE]
it's not some sacred thing it's just one of (probably) many times you do it
it's really not a big deal
[QUOTE=Deathhunter;35271126]Just wanting some advice on a girl.
i was in a swimming competition. I met this girl in this competition.
The swimming element was for two days. After, on the second day, we finished swimming and an hour later we had some gala dinner. After the dinner, the girl I met asked me come to her hotel room (since she flew in). Since the teachers wanted us to be at our rooms by 11 and by the time we got to our rooms it was 10:50, me and this girl made out and did a real quickie of fingering and sex.
After that, when we both diverged back to our own countries, I added her on Facebook and Skype. For the first 5 days after the swimming competition, we talked frequently online, Skyped and Whatsapp each other. However after this period, we are not really talking much. She's staying in a country 2 hours apart from mine. It's a long distance relationship. I love her and I know she loves me too but now she's not talking alot and I'm the one starting conversations. How do I keep this relationship alive?[/QUOTE]
Not to be an ass, but there's a distinct line between falling in love and being in love.
You fell in love, but you don't love her (yet, but time would perhaps change that). What you have is mostly physical attraction, for now.
[QUOTE=Faren;35272486]it's not some sacred thing it's just one of (probably) many times you do it
it's really not a big deal[/QUOTE]
Subjective. Most people would prefer that their first time be with someone memorable. But to each their own.
[QUOTE=Faren;35272486]it's not some sacred thing it's just one of (probably) many times you do it
it's really not a big deal[/QUOTE]
i agree
there's definitely something nice about losing it to someone that you care about, as opposed to (for example) on a one night stand or something. but people that hold out for years and years saving it for 'the one' i really do think are missing out. your first time is rarely ever that great, and if you've waited several years behind your peers to find the right person and moment then you're gonna be behind in terms of experience, which may well make it more difficult for you when/if you find a new partner who is more experienced than you. you've gotta remember sex isn't just like you pop your cherry and then that's it, that's all sex is... the more you have it the more you learn about what you want, and (hopefully!) what your partner wants and it all just leads to better experiences.
but it is obviously all personal choice and will depend entirely on how you feel on the subject. i can't tell you that losing your virginity isn't that big of a deal, because maybe to you it is. the only thing i hate is when people turn their noses up at people and seem to think that just because they still have their virginity they are somehow better than others who don't. and i'm not saying that's what's happening here, it's just something i quite often come across and it annoys me!
but i've said it before and i'll say it again, sex is a normal factor of most peoples lives, and the longer you hold out waiting, the more you're losing out from a) by not having it b) getting to __ years old without any experience
i am happy that i lost my virginity to someone i didn't give a toss about. i've seen too many people who got into relationships when they were like 14, lost their virginity to that person, and then when it came to the breakup like 5 years later they were social and emotional trainwrecks who couldn't work out how to function without their childhood sweetheart
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35272710]i am happy that i lost my virginity to someone i didn't give a toss about. i've seen too many people who got into relationships when they were like 14, lost their virginity to that person, and then when it came to the breakup like 5 years later they were social and emotional trainwrecks who couldn't work out how to function without their childhood sweetheart[/QUOTE]
Sad, but that too is a path.
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