Ok, yesterday I was with a girl that i have had a crush on for quite some time now. We were at her place since she doesn't have annoying little siblings. Anyways, we watched a couple of movies while we cuddled and when i was going to go we stood outside her house for a while. I was going t kiss her but I'm to much of a pussy (only done it while drunk, so can't remember shit of how to) yes i know basic kissing but when it comes to making out I just can't. So i kissed her on the cheek and went home. What should i do next time I meet her. Oh and those girl problems i had before, turned out both pf them were sluts I ditched them
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35272356]i am quite aware of this but i guess it isn't something to worry about[/QUOTE]
really because that sounds like something i would seriously worry about
every female gets their period once a month
ur gf gets it twice
oh well whatever lol!!!!!
well she ain't dead yet :pp
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35273307]well she ain't dead yet :pp[/QUOTE]
neither is some one with a brain tumour
until it goes unchecked too long :p
ahahaha holy shit
Well last night was confusing, I went out with a girl and our friends. As one great advice for escaping the friendzone is starting to go out with other girls.
The original plan for the night was that we would then share the bed at our friends place, then it turns out that we don't need to share beds because there was one extra guest bed, then at the bar she meets some dude whom she went out with a long time ago and it ends with us leaving them at his place for the night.
Not to mention that the dude was a near 30 broski whos self confidence could only stand while he was accompanied by his best buddy (or to say "bro").
It ain't bothering me since I didn't have any plans for her. But damn, her apparent lack of standards (when taking into account her looks) sure killed any remote view of romance for her.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35272576]i agree
there's definitely something nice about losing it to someone that you care about, as opposed to (for example) on a one night stand or something. but people that hold out for years and years saving it for 'the one' i really do think are missing out. your first time is rarely ever that great, and if you've waited several years behind your peers to find the right person and moment then you're gonna be behind in terms of experience, which may well make it more difficult for you when/if you find a new partner who is more experienced than you. you've gotta remember sex isn't just like you pop your cherry and then that's it, that's all sex is... the more you have it the more you learn about what you want, and (hopefully!) what your partner wants and it all just leads to better experiences.
but it is obviously all personal choice and will depend entirely on how you feel on the subject. i can't tell you that losing your virginity isn't that big of a deal, because maybe to you it is. the only thing i hate is when people turn their noses up at people and seem to think that just because they still have their virginity they are somehow better than others who don't. and i'm not saying that's what's happening here, it's just something i quite often come across and it annoys me!
but i've said it before and i'll say it again, sex is a normal factor of most peoples lives, and the longer you hold out waiting, the more you're losing out from a) by not having it b) getting to __ years old without any experience[/QUOTE]
lmfao I remember my first time at 16, i remember the distinct feeling afterwards that it wasn't any where near as good as I thought it would be. So yeah that's definitely true that your first time is kind of shit. Subsequent experiences are much better, which is probably directly related to the fact you aren't nervous as shit.
[QUOTE=pakadots;35271553]Bruises heal, but sex is part of the soul[/QUOTE]
deep man
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35273278]really because that sounds like something i would seriously worry about
every female gets their period once a month
ur gf gets it twice
oh well whatever lol!!!!![/QUOTE]I've known some people with fairly odd menstrual cycles. As long as the doctor isn't too bothered about it they shouldn't either.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35268269]what part of it is remedial? i want to help you out with something because you're acting like this one friend i had who used to brag all the time about fucking girls to people he didn't even know; it turns out he was actually a closeted gay man and stopped bragging when a man gave it to him hard for real.[/QUOTE]
dude im fine, I just feel discussing my sex life with people is fun. and its not like any of you can run and tell people. people do it all of the time, usually its to a friend but I cant trust anyone. although if im being a fucking tool i'll just leave, with my "oh so bullshit stories".
please, feel free not to tell us anymore
for a start the majority of what you say borders on being unbelievable, it just sounds like the kind of things that a 16 year old virgin would love to experience and brag about to his friends, with there actually being very little truth (or none at all) in it.
and secondly, this thread is generally where people post problems and come here for advice, or to gauge general opinions on subjects. you appear to only come here to gloat, which helps nothing and no one.
ehh, I use sex, girlfriends, and shit to tell stories too
except usually theyre pretty believable
like how my girlfriend blacked out and her friends let her make out with some guy last night, yeah that's a good story
So the other day I told one of my best friends I liked her, and wanted to take her out sometime. After 2 days of ignoring my texts, she responded with the standard "I value our friendship, I don't want anything with you right now". Lately I feel she's been ignoring me, trying to stay away from me almost. It feels really, really great to be basically ignored after something like this. I'll move on.
[QUOTE=TheBigPal;35276904]So the other day I told one of my best friends I liked her, and wanted to take her out sometime. After 2 days of ignoring my texts, she responded with the standard "I value our friendship, I don't want anything with you right now". Lately I feel she's been ignoring me, trying to stay away from me almost. It feels really, really great to be basically ignored after something like this. I'll move on.[/QUOTE]
First of all you're best friends, there wasn't much of a chance of a relationship, if you liked her from the start you should have asked her out then.
Don't say you like/love/admire a girl, just ask her out.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35276991]First of all you're best friends, there wasn't much of a chance of a relationship, if you liked her from the start you should have asked her out then
Did you confess your feelings or did you ask her out on a date? Always do the latter[/QUOTE]
I asked her out on a date. I wasn't really expecting much, I just had to get it off my chest, I hated not telling her the truth. It was mostly me being misled; at the start of our friendship, she had told a friend of mine she considered me a friend and that was that. A while later, she started talking to me about guys, and how if she doesn't like them at first, she slowly grows to, so I figured I had a bit of a chance. Then she really started growing attached to me lately, so I figured it was the best time. Maybe I was just being overly optimistic half the time. Oh well, it's over with now so it's not that big of a deal anymore.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35273325]neither is some one with a brain tumour
until it goes unchecked too long :p[/QUOTE]
My friend's dad died from a brain tumor recently.
Having sex is like oxygen, you don't think about it as long as you get it.
sometimes I hate my mindset.
[QUOTE=TheBigPal;35277038]I asked her out on a date. I wasn't really expecting much, I just had to get it off my chest, I hated not telling her the truth. It was mostly me being misled; at the start of our friendship, she had told a friend of mine she considered me a friend and that was that. A while later, she started talking to me about guys, and how if she doesn't like them at first, she slowly grows to, so I figured I had a bit of a chance. Then she really started growing attached to me lately, so I figured it was the best time. Maybe I was just being overly optimistic half the time. Oh well, it's over with now so it's not that big of a deal anymore.[/QUOTE]
You were optimistic? So, basically you are saying you don't deserve women, you don't have much to offer? it was just you hoping for? you were following your desires which is exactly what you should have done each and every time.
Learn from this experience, it contains a lot of mistakes to learn from. As far as I can see, it was worthwhile nonetheless.
I got my girlfriend addicted to Monster Hunter 3 on the Wii.
At least she's not a vacuum on my member and begging me constantly over the phone. But now she wants me to go online with her and kill monsters instead. I have the same game and system as well. Pretty uncanny since she was never the video game type, she'd rather design clothing or go work out.
Fuck my life. Those dragons are pretty fucking annoying to kill. If not in the game, in my mind
[QUOTE=Autumn;35272576] i've said it before and i'll say it again, sex is a normal factor of most peoples lives, and the longer you hold out waiting, the more you're losing out from a) by not having it b) getting to __ years old without any experience[/QUOTE]
I believe this nonchalance view of sex is one of the leading causes to broken families and divorce down the road. I heard a good analogy on the subject before.
Your sex life is like tape. Each person you stick it with, you leave a little of yourself behind and eventually it doesn't stick to anyone.
I suppose if you never plan on being a wife or husband it's not something you have to worry about, but for me I Plan On sharing myself with my wife and my wife only. Well besides the few girls I've already been with. If you decide to hold off and wait, you're not doing it for yourself and you're not being snobby, you're doing it for your future spouse.
[QUOTE=pakadots;35278486]I believe this nonchalance view of sex is one of the leading causes to broken families and divorce down the road. I heard a good analogy on the subject before.
Your sex life is like tape. Each person you stick it with, you leave a little of yourself behind and eventually it doesn't stick to anyone.
I suppose if you never plan on being a wife or husband it's not something you have to worry about, but for me I Plan On sharing myself with my wife and my wife only. Well besides the few girls I've already been with. If you decide to hold off and wait, you're not doing it for yourself and you're not being snobby, you're doing it for your future spouse.[/QUOTE]
Lol I can make analogies too. Sex is like tape, it's sticky. Again, where are you coming from and what do you have to back it up? My father had sex with tons of women before he met my mother and they've been happily married for 27 years. I know people who were both virgins when they got married and they end up divorced. I don't see any statistical proof behind it and your reasons don't even make sense. Sex is sex. I don't see past sexual activity playing any significant role on how well a relationship works.
[QUOTE=pakadots;35278486]I suppose if you never plan on being a wife or husband it's not something you have to worry about, but for me I Plan On sharing myself with my wife and my wife only.[/QUOTE]
see, to me that just seems like a very old fashioned view, and one that i can't really make sense of
I was raped.
and again, i agree with H4yd3n
sex can just be sex. it's physical and that's that. yes, sex is normally far more enjoyable when you have an emotional connection with that person already, but don't be so naive as to think that the more people you sleep with the less sex will ever mean to you
[editline]24th March 2012[/editline]
(and i'm really trying not to sound mean here) but i believe you only think that way because you are a virgin
[editline]24th March 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=pakadots;35278486]If you decide to hold off and wait, you're not doing it for yourself and you're not being snobby, you're doing it for your future spouse.[/QUOTE]
and precisely what benefit does this give your future spouse, aside from a greatly inexperienced lover? sounds fab!
You'll finally meet that partner of your dreams, and your first time will consist of struggling to maintain an erection or blowing your load too quickly.
TRUE LOVE
start freaking out when you think your dick's broken because you spent 28 years before you used it
also, you should probably stop masturbating. you know, so that the ejaculation is more special when she makes you do it, because every time you beat off you lose some of your magic to your hand
Pump and dump just
pump and dump
[QUOTE=H4yd3n;35278710]Lol I can make analogies too. Sex is like tape, it's sticky. Again, where are you coming from and what do you have to back it up? My father had sex with tons of women before he met my mother and they've been happily married for 27 years. I know people who were both virgins when they got married and they end up divorced. I don't see any statistical proof behind it and your reasons don't even make sense. Sex is sex. I don't see past sexual activity playing any significant role on how well a relationship works.[/QUOTE]
The only proof I can think of is the sudden openness of sex at the end of the 20th century and the rapidly rising divorce rates.
It seems to me the correlation proves enough that sex is more than a primal instinctual act. And I'm not trying to spout anything as fact. These are solely my opinion.
But then again one could have nothing to do with the other. Maybe it has to do with toothepaste
[QUOTE=pakadots;35279262]The only proof I can think of is the sudden openness of sex at the end of the 20th century and the rapidly rising divorce rates.
It seems to me the correlation proves enough that sex is more than a primal instinctual act. And I'm not trying to spout anything as fact. These are solely my opinion.
But then again one could have nothing to do with the other. Maybe it has to do with toothepaste[/QUOTE]
people started getting divorces because they were unhappy and they stopped caring about what the church wanted for them and started caring about what they wanted in order to be happy. you could probably argue the correlation between the sudden rapid development of digital media in the last 30 years and the fall of the soviet union, but just because they happened simultaneously doesnt mean one was a result of the other
[QUOTE=Autumn;35278804]and again, i agree with H4yd3n
sex can just be sex. it's physical and that's that. yes, sex is normally far more enjoyable when you have an emotional connection with that person already, but don't be so naive as to think that the more people you sleep with the less sex will ever mean to you
[editline]24th March 2012[/editline]
(and i'm really trying not to sound mean here) but i believe you only think that way because you are a virgin
[editline]24th March 2012[/editline]
and precisely what benefit does this give your future spouse, aside from a greatly inexperienced lover? sounds fab![/QUOTE]
Hehe, again my sexual experience gets assuredly dropped in the conversation without me saying anything about it.
And the benefit, for me, would be realizing that my spouse felt i was special enough to be chosen as her partner, and that i can fully trust her, that every time she hugs a guy friend i wouldn't be scared of leaving her in the room with the same guy alone, whereas if i knew she had a plentiful sex history i wouldn't be as sure. and vice versa.
And sex is nothing but a physical act? You guys are dodging my main argument towards the whole thing, if sex is purely physical why does it hurt so badly to find out you've been cheated on, or for children who were sexually abused? Why is all of that so much stronger, and so much more painful than being physically abused, (Not at all trying to deduct from the seriousness of physical abuse)
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