Funny as fuck this, but seriously ask anyone your age that you know hell older. What they think of a person who 17/18 dating a 13 year old.
Honestly if you walked past my house and I seen any shit id be out with a bat and calling the police.
Fuck... See I know you guys are probably right, and ive asked several people my age what they think of it. Its just... the people who dont think its fucked are all just as weird as we are. I already told her I couldnt get close to her like that once... god damn I hate doing it but I think I have to tell her again :S
Just break it off dude
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35372448]Fuck... See I know you guys are probably right, and ive asked several people my age what they think of it. Its just... the people who dont think its fucked are all just as weird as we are. I already told her I couldnt get close to her like that once... god damn I hate doing it but I think I have to tell her again :S[/QUOTE]Wait a while, man. If you still want to be with her in a few year's time, it's probably worth picking up again.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35372673]Just break it off dude[/QUOTE]
See I cant do that, I love her way too much. She helped me out of my depression and shes like... more than my best friend. Were not even in a relationship. I dont know what to think. Im going to consult the lion.
Allstone thats probably the best way to deal with the situation, but a few years is so long and its killing me. thats probably whats gunna happen though
there are plenty of people that would have helped you with your depression, she just happened to be the one who did. she's a little girl. and in a few years you're going to be 20 and she's going to be 16 and you're [I]still[/I] going to be on two way different levels and it's [I]still[/I] going to be fucked up if you date her. just let her go. at least don't think of her as anything more than a friend.
and the people who say it's not weird are just as weird as you two are? well obviously, that makes sense. why would you listen to them then?
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35372750]See I cant do that, I love her way too much. She helped me out of my depression and shes like... more than my best friend. Were not even in a relationship. I dont know what to think. Im going to consult the lion.
Allstone thats probably the best way to deal with the situation, but a few years is so long and its killing me. thats probably whats gunna happen though[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35373656]there are plenty of people that would have helped you with your depression, she just happened to be the one who did. she's a little girl. and in a few years you're going to be 20 and she's going to be 16 and you're [I]still[/I] going to be on two way different levels and it's [I]still[/I] going to be fucked up if you date her. just let her go. at least don't think of her as anything more than a friend.[/QUOTE]
As painful as it's most likely going to be, letting her go would be best for both of you in the long run, even though I know the intolerable pain of letting someone you really love go. It's a tough choice and no one should be forced to go through that pain, but clinging on to someone in hopes that things get better is a risky gamble. And gambles tend not to favor the gambler.
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35372750]See I cant do that, I love her way too much. She helped me out of my depression and shes like... more than my best friend. Were not even in a relationship. I dont know what to think. Im going to consult the lion.
Allstone thats probably the best way to deal with the situation, but a few years is so long and its killing me. thats probably whats gunna happen though[/QUOTE]
Wow, it's gotta be awesome being that desperate
just had sex for the first time, oh god she's gonna get pregnant
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35376416]if you're a dumbass and did it without protection then yes
she definitely is[/QUOTE]
If only sex was a definite proof of intelligence...
[QUOTE=Sad.;35376365]just had sex for the first time, oh god she's gonna get pregnant[/QUOTE]
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o[/media]
hahahahaha I cant take any of this seriously. I mean when I do I start to feel like shit. You guys are right on most points but Im not changing shit. Ive gotten some good advice but If she ever regrets being so close to me than it will completely undermine why were friends. Were both complete fools, lifes a joke. Were having fun. If she regrets being friends with me fuck it, it would kill me but thats life.
You acknowledge that it's wrong and say you love her but you want her to regret her time with you?
gg
I would never want her to regret it, but if that happens well fuck it. were having fun, I dont see any other reasons to live. (though they do certainly exist)
You're a dumbass.
Seriously, wtf are you thinking?
have fun being a pedophile for the rest of your life.
I dont know even what im thinking half the time. Call me stupid or halfway retarded. Ive been getting that my whole life, Im not the most mentally stable person. but im sure yall think im crazy by now anyway. Call me whatever you like, I wont hate you for it. I wouldnt quite call myself a pedo.. but I know most of you disagree.
yeah, i figured you'd snap and say something like this. congrats, freak
[editline]31st March 2012[/editline]
p.s. youre a perverted kid bro
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35377889]I wouldnt quite call myself a pedo.. [/QUOTE]
Then explain what you think a pedophile is.
Just ban this guy already hes a shit troll. N thats coming from me for gods sake.
What shoe's doing is probably a bad idea, but you guys are being pretty fucking harsh about it.
Broke up with my girlfriend ~4 days ago. Handling it (surprisingly) rather well. We've been together for a year and 9 months, pretty much two entire school years (so from around October 2010 to March 2012).
We are pretty much perfect together. Same likes, interests, hobbies. Everything. Not a day went by in school when we'd be apart. If anyone ever saw one without the other, they'd ask what's up. We were an item and got on with everyone at school cause we're so perfect with each other and we both compliment each other's personalities, so we generally cheer people up a hell of a lot!
Anyways, it's been almost two years and I guess it just got too much to handle. Due to her parents (I'm 19 and she's 18, for god's sake), she's not allowed to hang outside of school much. Due to her background (which is a religious one), her parents keep her at home and don't like her hanging out with guys. So, for the past year and 9 months, I've had to cope with the fact I only get to see her at school. I can't take her out to the movies, take her out for dinner - hell, we can't even go to the park at lunchtime when it's sunny because she's too damn scared she'll be found out by family friends or something! I've been living alone for a while now and I would absolutely love if I could make her dinner (I absolutely love cooking) one night and just have a lovely day together. But no.
So, we'd constantly argue. Always about the fact I wanted to be more intimate (she wasn't okay with holding hands / hugging / kissing), always about the fact I wanted us to have more of a [I]relationship[/I]. I busted my balls for her birthday getting everything ready so she had a pretty much perfect day and all I got for it was an awkward hug (she wasn't going to hug me to begin with, I opened my arms for her but she would have rejected me. She only hugged me because everyone was looking...) and a thank you.
Now, don't get me wrong. She isn't a bitch. She's actually a really sweet and caring person. It's just her parents raised her into thinking love is bad mmkay and all this crap. Oh, and she has this big complex about how all guys are bad and just want sex. And she constantly worried about committing to this relationship because she felt it wouldn't work out or we'd break up or whatever.
So. I've lost a really damn good friend. One of the best friends I've ever had in my life. Perhaps I should have just grown a pair and stuck through with this, but it was causing me insane misery. Seriously, being in a relationship where the feelings aren't mutual - and your love is unrequited - really fucks up your head. I'm pretty sure I got some sort of depression problem because of the relationship. From being the most upbeat, cheerful, high-on-life kinda guy, the relationship wore me down and it ended up just being a chore getting through a day whilst trying to be happy.
She was loving, caring and sweet, but at the end of the day, I guess she couldn't provide what I needed from a relationship. At the end of the day, waiting with her at her bus stop, it'd kill me. Knowing I walk home alone and she's at home with her family. I wished she could come home with me or hang out for a while. The stress of not being able to hug her or being rejected was too much.
Should I have ended it? We were arguing on a weekly basis over the same crap. It's like we had one half of the relationship nailed, it was perfect. We spoke about anything and everything and really connected with each other, but the other half - the intimate side of things - was severely lacking. And it kept making me feel inadequate or like I wasn't being as good as I should be. Whenever I'd do something nice (like running home when she's at school studying to knock together a quick fruit salad [mangoes, strawberries, peaches, really delicious] for her, or when she's doing afterschool study, going home and cooking up a spaghetti bolognese and bringing it to school for her) and just be merely "thanked" it kept playing on my conscience that perhaps I wasn't being sweet enough or good enough? It's like all I wanted was to be hugged or kissed for being in love with her and I never got that, so it made me feel as if I wasn't being as in love with her as I should have.
All of this is very confusing, so sorry if it doesn't make sense. Just a lot of shit over these past two years and it's all hard to explain. I regret breaking up with her but I know we can't get back together. I just wish there was a way we could both be happy. I always fulfilled all her needs, yet she only fulfilled half of mine. Was I an asshole for ending it? Even though I broke my back these past two years trying my best to make her happy?
Facepunch :( I feel so crap. I really do love her.
EDIT: This post makes me seem selfish. I really am not. I guess that what I pictured as a relationship, didn't turn out how I thought it would. So I figure that's why it didn't work for me. I wanted to have a soul-mate, someone who'd be with me a majority of the time. Heck, I remember when I first moved into the apartment that I'd love to be in a relationship and have my other half stay over some nights. When none of that happened, even after such a long time, and when things as small (but loving) as holding hands or hugging didn't happen, it just screwed up my head. I just kept thinking "This isn't how relationships should be". I just felt like a big kid going around, as if I was 12 again with a girlfriend, not holding hands because we were too small. It wasn't what I was looking for.
So now, I guess I'm just gonna get back into the swing of things. Hopefully if someone else comes along, start a relationship up again. But I don't feel that will happen. I poured my heart and soul into this relationship, and I truly don't think I'll find anyone as perfect for me as she was. But I guess everyone says this, and it's never true. So, do I have that to look forward to? A future relationship with a girl who will make me happier?
Thanks Allstone, and call me anything you want but im not a troll. I know arguing just makes me look more suspicious but I have to say something
you definitely did the right thing by breaking up
i doubt you would have progressed much further than that, and if she wasnt satisfying you, theres no way it would have lasted
Sorry man, sounds rough but I agree. Sometimes its hard to decide whether being close to someone is worth more than their flaws.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35378117]you definitely did the right thing by breaking up
i doubt you would have progressed much further than that, and if she wasnt satisfying you, theres no way it would have lasted[/QUOTE]
Does it get better? I kind of feel like shit. And I'm a huge sap. Well, just a bit of a softie. I feel like I won't ever find anyone as perfect for me as she was again. And it's kind of scary.
I feel like I have to stay with her because she's perfect for me (this is the first long-term, serious relationship I've been in. I changed schools every year due to parents so I never really got the chance to have long-term relationships in the past) and I don't know if someone else will come along who will be perfect as well.
[editline]1st April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35378216]Sorry man, sounds rough but I agree. Sometimes its hard to decide whether being close to someone is worth more than their flaws.[/QUOTE]
Sorry buddy, I don't mean to be rude but I'd rather not get advice from a 17 year old who loves a 13 year old because it's kind of creepy and gives me a weird feeling (and makes me feel dirty).
My little cousin is [I]14[/I] and there is no way in hell I'd even look at her and think of being in a relationship with her. She's mentally still a child.
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35378216]Sorry man, sounds rough but I agree. Sometimes its hard to decide whether being close to someone is worth more than their flaws.[/QUOTE]
what if their flaws include having just hit puberty and not being eligible to vote until the year 2017
If you're having sex with her you are taking advantage of her immaturity and I don't really condone things like that. Realize this relationship won't last. She's going to change so much in the upcoming years.
Take these peoples' advice because continuing seeing her will do more harm then good. You just don't know it yet. That's all i'm going to say to you because if you don't get it now you'll just have to find out the hard way.
that's the worst thing, he's never going to find out anything
they'll stop talking eventually, and this girl will continue living her life, and by the time she's his age, she's probably going to look back at that and remember the weird guy who got her to talk about sex and shit when she was just 13, and she'll probably be ashamed of it. he won't ever realize he did something wrong
[QUOTE=loopoo;35378217]Does it get better? I kind of feel like shit. And I'm a huge sap. Well, just a bit of a softie. I feel like I won't ever find anyone as perfect for me as she was again. And it's kind of scary.
I feel like I have to stay with her because she's perfect for me (this is the first long-term, serious relationship I've been in. I changed schools every year due to parents so I never really got the chance to have long-term relationships in the past) and I don't know if someone else will come along who will be perfect as well.
[editline]1st April 2012[/editline]
Sorry buddy, I don't mean to be rude but I'd rather not get advice from a 17 year old who loves a 13 year old because it's kind of creepy and gives me a weird feeling (and makes me feel dirty).
My little cousin is [I]14[/I] and there is no way in hell I'd even look at her and think of being in a relationship with her. She's mentally still a child.[/QUOTE]
no it never gets better ever!!!
but really thats not a very good way to think about relationships
there was nothing perfect about this girl, and you need to realize that, if you treat her like the perfect woman and try to compare everyone else you meet to her you will only be letting yourself down in the long run
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