[QUOTE=Bread Dog;34152122]My mate had his first major sexual experience right. We were at a party and blah blah. Next thing I know hes licking her out etc... next day he is horribly diseased. 3 weeks later (Today) we found out he has herpes. He got herpes for christmas... Moral of the story, dont lick out slags :v:[/QUOTE]
Wow that sucks.
I know a girl who made out with a dude on New Year's at a club and ended up breaking out with something around her mouth. We thought it was herpes, but when she went to the doctor he told her it was some super rare disease cannibals get. She made out with a cannibal.
So there's this girl I like. She recently (I think, not exactly sure when, but not too long ago) broke up with her old boyfriend and I, being the dumbass I am, jumped the gun and asked her out to a movie last week. She said she'd be busy that weekend but she could maybe go this weekend, depending on what her dad said. I don't think that she'll make up an excuse not to go with me, but could that be an excuse? Did I go too fast and muck it up forever?
No such thing as a grace period after someone breaks up imo. If she likes you, she'll go out with you regardless of how fresh her old relationship is in her mind. Her giving you a "maybe" might have been her own way of giving herself more time before going out with someone new. Could be just an excuse, but I don't think that's likely. You'll find out soon enough this weekend, but if she says no, it's still probably not because you asked too soon, she just doesn't like you enough.
Alrighty. I'll sort of 're-ask' her again tomorrow to more or less confirm it and post results. Thanks.
the maybe was almost certainly a "no" at least for now
re-ask in a week or two if you really want to, but I doubt she will change her mind
I don't think it was really a no, because I ended up texting the question and she didn't reply for a while so I sent 'So..that's a no?' and she responded 'No! Sorry I didn't text back, I was busy. I can't go this weekend, but maybe next weekend, okay?' or something along those lines. I think the whole 'no!' thing might mean something, y'know?
well, she did offer an alternative date herself, so I dunno
just wait and see what happens, worst case is she doesn't want to go out with you so chill
Tho it could be possible that she said that so it wouldn't be awkward.
You shouldn't rush things, just go with the flow and see what happens.
Goddammit, my girlfriend just broke up with me 5 minutes ago. We'd been going out for 2 months and she was my first. She said she was too busy and she didn't give me the time I deserved and that I didn't understand that she was too busy. It takes me 8 damn years to have a successful relationship and when I finally get one it ends in 2 months. I know I have a future, but damn, life doesn't seem so great anymore.
Yeah that period after break up sucks, you just have to bear with it until you move on.
yeah
I'd recommend getting really drunk, setting your car on fire and driving into her kitchen
honestly there's nothing that comes close to being as cathartic
[QUOTE=antair;34155539]Goddammit, my girlfriend just broke up with me 5 minutes ago. We'd been going out for 2 months and she was my first. She said she was too busy and she didn't give me the time I deserved and that I didn't understand that she was too busy. It takes me 8 damn years to have a successful relationship and when I finally get one it ends in 2 months. I know I have a future, but damn, life doesn't seem so great anymore.[/QUOTE]
You'll feel like this for a bit and then you'll be right back on your feet and probably not even remember why you were with her months from now.
[QUOTE=antair;34155539]Goddammit, my girlfriend just broke up with me 5 minutes ago. We'd been going out for 2 months and she was my first. She said she was too busy and she didn't give me the time I deserved and that I didn't understand that she was too busy. It takes me 8 damn years to have a successful relationship and when I finally get one it ends in 2 months. I know I have a future, but damn, life doesn't seem so great anymore.[/QUOTE]
I was friggin destroyed after my first "real" relationship. Even though it lasted only six months and I was the one to dump her it was a tough spot.
You'll get over it with time. Just chill out and try to keep yourself busy so your mind doesn't get distracted all the time.
[QUOTE=antair;34155539]Goddammit, my girlfriend just broke up with me 5 minutes ago. We'd been going out for 2 months and she was my first. She said she was too busy and she didn't give me the time I deserved and that I didn't understand that she was too busy. It takes me 8 damn years to have a successful relationship and when I finally get one it ends in 2 months. I know I have a future, but damn, life doesn't seem so great anymore.[/QUOTE]
detlef and i have broken up after being together nearly a year i am very sad
[QUOTE=Oxu365;34156629]I was friggin destroyed after my first "real" relationship. Even though it lasted only six months and I was the one to dump her it was a tough spot.
You'll get over it with time. Just chill out and try to keep yourself busy so your mind doesn't get distracted all the time.[/QUOTE]
Good advice, I can recommend this. Sometimes it takes longer and sometimes less time. My first relationship was horrible and I ended it and it was great. But I had one with my recent girlfriend, it ended really bad and I still can't fully cope with it. Even though I am 650 km away from her, it really hurts. I was nearly 3 years with her though.
[QUOTE=Oxu365;34156629]I was friggin destroyed after my first "real" relationship. Even though it lasted only six months and I was the one to dump her it was a tough spot.
You'll get over it with time. Just chill out and try to keep yourself busy so your mind doesn't get distracted all the time.[/QUOTE]
My first was after just over a year. Agree completely with you.
I can't imagine breaking up with my current girlfriend right now
sounds soppy but I genuinely want this to last. she's a dorky adorable science nut and at the same time she's cool-headed and responsible, and I really feel I can trust her
Where's maverick? Usually he's all over this thread.
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;34162727]Where's maverick? Usually he's all over this thread.[/QUOTE]
he's permabanned and dead to us, now never speak of him again
I've been busy with work, pfft. Meaningless stuff keeping me away from you my friends! How harsh the universe is sometimes...
Also, I am pleased with the current levels of the comments.
Wait, what happened to get him permabanned? I've only just heard of this. :(
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;34164114]Wait, what happened to get him permabanned? I've only just heard of this. :([/QUOTE]
long story short, he was an ass
read the [url=http://www.facepunch.com/threads/1133771]first few pages of version 1 of BDA's advice thread[/url] to find out why he's not needed and not coming back
What the fuck? I now realize.
But he's ALWAYS been like that. What specifically caused it?
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;34165184]But he's ALWAYS been like that. What specifically caused it?[/QUOTE]
One specifically very violent post.
[QUOTE=Zinayzen;34165184]But he's ALWAYS been like that. What specifically caused it?[/QUOTE]
enough is enough
he had a major rant, with jabs at everybody who uses facepunch, plenty of digs at BDA (who is a very friendly and helpful member) with a whole load of the usual condescension.
it was, as they say, the straw that broke the camel's back
[QUOTE=antair;34155539]Goddammit, my girlfriend just broke up with me 5 minutes ago. We'd been going out for 2 months and she was my first. She said she was too busy and she didn't give me the time I deserved and that I didn't understand that she was too busy. It takes me 8 damn years to have a successful relationship and when I finally get one it ends in 2 months. I know I have a future, but damn, life doesn't seem so great anymore.[/QUOTE]
2 Months is way too quick to be in a serious relationship. 2 months actually the time it takes for the "honeymoon phase" to take effect.
And by honeymoon phase I mean the time you actually can't see anything else rather than your significant other. You talk everyday, you go out everytime you've got available... etc... etc...
At some point, all that slows down, and it looks kinda awkward because you were taken for a big ride and then it just stops. People in this phase usually tend to think that something's wrong.
It's not. It just reaches that level when the other person establishes a connection of trust and doesn't feel the need to "be there" communicating and saying cute things all the time.
Some people get in conflict because of this and normally this is one of the main reasons for 1 or 2 months breakups. It reaches that point where one person starts complaining and trying to find a reason for what's going on, always indirectly accusing the other person of not giving attention.
The good thing is, don't feel bad. You have no reason to feel that way. It was just 2 months and you'll probably look back at this as one more to the list. The breakups that make you suffer like hell are those of 1, 2, 3 years up relationships.
So, don't feel bad. You'll find out that being single is not bad at all. In fact it's a hell of a nice way to build up confidence and follow your own path.
[QUOTE=T00THBRUSH;34153678]So there's this girl I like. She recently (I think, not exactly sure when, but not too long ago) broke up with her old boyfriend and I, being the dumbass I am, jumped the gun and asked her out to a movie last week. She said she'd be busy that weekend but she could maybe go this weekend, depending on what her dad said. I don't think that she'll make up an excuse not to go with me, but could that be an excuse? Did I go too fast and muck it up forever?[/QUOTE]
She offered an alternative date, ask her if she wants to go a specific day once the weekend is approaching.
Regarding the whole honeymoon phase thing...
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Now, another question, since I just read about it on the other thread. The whole "honeymoon phase" thing.
According to that, the whole not really seeing yourself with someone else, and hanging out/talking every day is just a phase. But what if that actually makes sense in your case? For example, I couldn't really see myself with someone else, because so far, she's the only person I've met who I share so many interests with, and the only person who I would really consider, if there WERE other options.
Secondly, the whole talking and hanging out a lot... what if both of you have shitty home lives, and are really the only sources of entertainment and escape to the other person?
Probably a stupid question, but just came to mind...
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I'm pretty sure I just met the Friendzone phase.
sgh
[editline]11th January 2012[/editline]
I have nowhere else to turn to
anonymous strangers
help
There's a girl I know. I thought we've been doing... pretty good? I've known her for about a year, sheepishly asked her once if she wanted to spend some time together over summer...
And I don't know if it was mis-interpreted or something. We've gone to a couple movies together, and I've been to her house countless times to just, chill or whatever
I've been doing this for nearly a year and I feel like nothing's happening. I don't know. She can't be clueless, you'd pretty much have to be retarded to not read my intentions here...
I don't know. She always acts a little odd around me. Always doing the hair twiddling, talks at around 80 MPH, always greets me with this cheeky "hello" whenever she sees me, big smile, big wave...
Is this the dreaded friendzone? If so, it's shit and I rather hate it.
I want to know how to exit.... "this".
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