[QUOTE=Blanketspace;35387639]I broke up with my girlfriend of seven months last week, after some serious thought and realizing that I had a strong level of guilt due to the fact that I was going to turn 17 before she turned 15. When we first met I only knew that she was in the year below, and didn't realize that she was young for her grade and I was old for mine. My friends just kept telling me that it didn't matter and not to think about it, but even though we didn't have sex I realized after about 6 months that I couldn't really get over the age discrepancy.[/QUOTE]
my ex and i started dating when we were i think 14 and 17 (i was 14) and stayed together for about 3 years. ended up breaking up because he didn't mature at all over that period of time. age really doesn't matter, maturity varies a lot between people
i appreciate the kind words guys.
ok since this topic includes shit, i really need some advice
i know this isn't a medical thread but I thought you might be able to help with the social aspects of this
so i have ulcerative colitis, which is basically a shit disease, and when im not in control of it, it basically means i have to poop often, go really suddenly with no control, its painful to go, and its bloody diarrhea when i do go.
recently its been pretty bad and ive had a few accidents for the first time in the last few days (almost shat my pants, went in the shower, etc)
its starting to make me really scared of going out anywhere, its like i live at home. i've even missed a ton of school due to this, and i really dont know what to do
when im out all i can think about is "where's the nearest bathroom, what if I have to go?"
but its second semester of my senior year and I'm missing a lot of stuff that all my friends are going out and doing
i dont know if there's much that anyone here could tell me, but i just need some advice about this
.... go to the doctor?
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35411652].... go to the doctor?[/QUOTE]
hmm wow I have NEVER thought of this idea, not even ONCE!!!
thank you so much for the incredible advice stranger!!!!
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35411652].... go to the doctor?[/QUOTE]
How would he know what he has if he hadn't have already went to the doctor previously?
I had a similar problem for a while, I had this irrational fear of public restrooms which I've since gotten over. Of course, your problem is quite a bit different, but I know how much it can suck always having to know where the nearest restroom is.
Are you on any medication for it, or is it just something that you have to deal with? Maybe changing your diet could help.
tons of meds and stuff, its already pretty restricting because i have to take pills three times a day and do two enemas a day
i mean the medical part of it sucks, but im really looking for advice with the social side
id like to be able to go out and do stuff in between my meds and poops, but im getting really scared of doing anything but sitting near my bathroom
[QUOTE=Guy Mannly;35409725]my ex and i started dating when we were i think 14 and 17 (i was 14) and stayed together for about 3 years. ended up breaking up because he didn't mature at all over that period of time. age really doesn't matter, maturity varies a lot between people[/QUOTE]
I agree, I'm a bit of an old soul for 18, I'm more attracted to older men. Not seriously older, but just mature.
Jesus christ will you guys look at my username before rating me gaybows every time I talk about my love life/anything similar haha
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35411656]hmm wow I have NEVER thought of this idea, not even ONCE!!!
thank you so much for the incredible advice stranger!!!![/QUOTE]
maybe you should have made it clearer in the post that you have done this and for whatever reason you have been unable to solve the problem with meds etc?
it's not uncommon that people ask for advice on facepunch for a self-diagnosed illness that they're too lazy/shy/embarrassed to go to the doctor about
but i'm glad i gave you the chance to be rude and sarcastic. hopefully it has empowered you to feel less awful about your bowel situation
I'm relationship impaired. I have a lot of people who want to date me/take me out, and I always say I've already got plans or I'm busy. I'm so content with being alone. It worries me sometimes.
To be fair, for a disease like that of course he's going to go to the doctor.
If I started bloodily shitting myself without much notice I'd do the same thing.
also stick a tampon up your butt jo
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35411730]maybe you should have made it clearer in the post that you have done this and for whatever reason you have been unable to solve the problem with meds etc?
it's not uncommon that people ask for advice on facepunch for a self-diagnosed illness that they're too lazy/shy/embarrassed to go to the doctor about
but i'm glad i gave you the chance to be rude and sarcastic. hopefully it has empowered you to feel less awful about your bowel situation[/QUOTE]
theres always room for sarcasm from me when people don't read my posts, anytime brother!
Going to take this girl to the botanical gardens thursday. Gonna be sweet.
Oh and if i find out that any of you guys have decided to date a girl for four months and marry her, ill hunt you down. My mormon ex is getting married. They'dated for 4 months, knly meeting each other a month prior. From what her siblings and herself have told me, this is normal. So damn glad i never joined that church. I might be married to that crazy woman if i had. D:
Lol Mormon kids are so repressed, it's amazing how two-faced they become once they come of age, they act completely different around their parents.
So Jo has uncontrollable shits.
Stick to basic social events you know the ones that are certain to have toilets. House parties, cinema trips you know the sort of places you can just say brb going to empty my bowels. Yea id dodge going swimming apparently when you swim your mind shuts off all other thoughts and concentrates on just being able to stay afloat.
Its not like this is it?
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[QUOTE=Godline;35412086]So Jo has uncontrollable shits.
Stick to basic social events you know the ones that are certain to have toilets. House parties, cinema trips you know the sort of places you can just say brb going to empty my bowels. Yea id dodge going swimming apparently when you swim your mind shuts off all other thoughts and concentrates on just being able to stay afloat.
Its not like this is it?
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Hippos are the windshield wipers of the animal kingdom.
I'll try and just be short
I'm moving away to college 6 hours away from home in August and this girl wants to start something and I kind of like her too but were both leaving to different colleges. I don't believe in long distance realtionships working and I want to goto college to totally start anew. No strings attached to home.
Should I have fun now or just blow it off and because it's pointless?
[QUOTE=NuclearAnnhilation;35412419]I'll try and just be short
I'm moving away to college 6 hours away from home in August and this girl wants to start something and I kind of like her too but were both leaving to different colleges. I don't believe in long distance realtionships working and I want to goto college to totally start anew. No strings attached to home.
Should I have fun now or just blow it off and because it's pointless?[/QUOTE]
Fun without repercussions is the best fun, you're moving away soon so nothing bad can happen I guess.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35411756]theres always room for sarcasm from me when people don't read my posts, anytime brother![/QUOTE]
.... your post didn't say anything about having been to the doctor and having tried prescribed medication for your embarrassing condition??
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[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35411701]tons of meds and stuff, its already pretty restricting because i have to take pills three times a day and do two enemas a day
i mean the medical part of it sucks, but im really looking for advice with the social side
id like to be able to go out and do stuff in between my meds and poops, but im getting really scared of doing anything but sitting near my bathroom[/QUOTE]
One of my friends has something like this. Well he has a host of problems but this is one of them. At this point in his life he is hardly able to go outside his house. The only place outside his house he can ever go is the skatepark because skating is the only thing that hes ever been seriously happy doing. Get a girlfriend, His girlfriend helps him so much with these issues. I dont know what he would do without her
[QUOTE=SHOE3045;35413059]One of my friends has something like this. Well he has a host of problems but this is one of them. At this point in his life he is hardly able to go outside his house. The only place outside his house he can ever go is the skatepark because skating is the only thing that hes ever been seriously happy doing. Get a girlfriend, His girlfriend helps him so much with these issues. I dont know what he would do without her[/QUOTE]
mate... its not social awkwardness stopping him, its illness. Sure he has medical problems, but not the kind of problems of those people who associate with you.
[QUOTE=CheeserCrice;35414030]mate... its not social awkwardness stopping him, its illness. Sure he has medical problems, but not the kind of problems of those people who associate with you.[/QUOTE]
I know, my mate is like that too. His problems all stem from his illnesses. It kills me to see him like that because hes really an awesome person. You guys probably wont believe it but Im really not as much of a disgusting person as you've all decided I am
[QUOTE=Mr. Bleak;35411840]Lol Mormon kids are so repressed, it's amazing how two-faced they become once they come of age, they act completely different around their parents.[/QUOTE]
Her parents knew each other for a month before they were engaged.
Oh and she and her twin were conceived out of wedlock too.
Intellectually, she's very smart.
Socially? What a fucking child.
[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;35415161]Her parents knew each other for a month before they were engaged.
Oh and she and her twin were conceived out of wedlock too.
Intellectually, she's very smart.
Socially? What a fucking child.[/QUOTE]
That's how it seems to be.
That and there are unofficial arranged marriages. Parents will set their kids up to spend time together just so they'll end up getting married later on. It's so horrible.
So I finally managed to get an actually good girlfriend for once. The thing is even though I have one I've never felt so alone in my entire life and I haven't the slightest idea why. I should be happy but instead what I'm feeling is more along the lines of impotent and stressful, and it is honestly tearing a hole in me how corrupt I feel like I've become or how I will become. I feel jealous when she spends time with others, I'm starting to hate her friends more and more and I'm protective as hell even when I don't mean to be.
But its not like its a bad relationship, we've got plenty in common and plenty of differences, we love spending time together, talking, joking, dining, dating etc. and we're both pleased with each other in every way.
So what the fuck is wrong here?
I'm only making this assumption based on how you've worded what you've wrote but... Where were you at with yourself before you found a girlfriend? If you weren't completely comfortable and happy whilst alone, bringing someone else into the picture is only going to make things a lot worse, especially after the initial, superficial 'honey-moon' period. This is exactly why nobody should ever say, "I need a girlfriend," or, "I'll finally be happy when I find someone," and so on.
However, having someone there for emotional support [i]can[/i] be somewhat beneficial for yourself, and she can help you figure yourself out as well, but the relationship will not be without its hurdles. Not until you've figured out your own insecurities will you be able to provide her with the type of care and affection you probably want to, and having someone else in the picture is really just going to delay and hinder that goal; Feeling jealous, hating her friends, being over protective, these are all indications that you're not that ready for this.
I don't want to say much else in case I'm making a completely false assumption!
[QUOTE=Mamok Zalku;35419277]So I finally managed to get an actually good girlfriend for once. The thing is even though I have one I've never felt so alone in my entire life and I haven't the slightest idea why. I should be happy but instead what I'm feeling is more along the lines of impotent and stressful, and it is honestly tearing a hole in me how corrupt I feel like I've become or how I will become. I feel jealous when she spends time with others, I'm starting to hate her friends more and more and I'm protective as hell even when I don't mean to be.
But its not like its a bad relationship, we've got plenty in common and plenty of differences, we love spending time together, talking, joking, dining, dating etc. and we're both pleased with each other in every way.
So what the fuck is wrong here?[/QUOTE]
Perhaps... because you describe this as "a good girlfriend for once", then you feel more... defensive of it? Jealousy is usually a sign of insecurity though.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35411701]tons of meds and stuff, its already pretty restricting because i have to take pills three times a day and do two enemas a day
i mean the medical part of it sucks, but im really looking for advice with the social side
id like to be able to go out and do stuff in between my meds and poops, but im getting really scared of doing anything but sitting near my bathroom[/QUOTE]
Sounds like you're developing agoraphobia due to your condition.
You're fears are well justified, my best advice is to just stick to your treatment, and keep pressure up on your doctor, so the sooner you get it under the control, the quicker you can start getting out without worrying about it.
Or diaper...
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I already have plans with this girl for thursday.
she just asked if I want to go to the movies with her [I]tomorrow.[/I]
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