[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35420753]I'm only making this assumption based on how you've worded what you've wrote but... Where were you at with yourself before you found a girlfriend? If you weren't completely comfortable and happy whilst alone, bringing someone else into the picture is only going to make things a lot worse, especially after the initial, superficial 'honey-moon' period. This is exactly why nobody should ever say, "I need a girlfriend," or, "I'll finally be happy when I find someone," and so on.
However, having someone there for emotional support [i]can[/i] be somewhat beneficial for yourself, and she can help you figure yourself out as well, but the relationship will not be without its hurdles. Not until you've figured out your own insecurities will you be able to provide her with the type of care and affection you probably want to, and having someone else in the picture is really just going to delay and hinder that goal; Feeling jealous, hating her friends, being over protective, these are all indications that you're not that ready for this.
I don't want to say much else in case I'm making a completely false assumption![/QUOTE]
Well to be honest I've been happy with being single and I'm happy with myself and who I am. I have these insecure feelings and I'm filled with anxiety and asthmatic energy and I hate it because I know I shouldn't. I've known who I'm with since preschool and we've seen each other at our low points and high points, she's always been someone who I can talk to and rely on. So the reason I'm confused is why I feel insecure of something I know I should be secure about, and I'm also wondering if anyone else has felt this before and knows what its like and what it did.
Okay, it's official, after having sex for my fifth time I can safely say that I think it's boring. I really don't get why people think it's so great. I'd rather be just playing video-games, or even better, cuddling with my GF.
[editline]3rd April 2012[/editline]
Am I weird?
[QUOTE=Mamok Zalku;35421238]Well to be honest I've been happy with being single and I'm happy with myself and who I am. I have these insecure feelings and I'm filled with anxiety and asthmatic energy and I hate it because I know I shouldn't. I've known who I'm with since preschool and we've seen each other at our low points and high points, she's always been someone who I can talk to and rely on. So the reason I'm confused is why I feel insecure of something I know I should be secure about, and I'm also wondering if anyone else has felt this before and knows what its like and what it did.[/QUOTE]
Hmm that's fair enough dude, in that case it might just be you're afraid of losing her. Did you feel this insecure straight away or has it slowly set in? You might just need to spend more time together and grow more comfortable together in your relationship. When you're feeling over-protective and jealous, you need to examine and try to understand actual causes of these feelings and insecurities, and also try your best not to let them impact negatively on her, yourself, or the relationship as a whole. Talking to her about it as well might set your mind at ease, but I personally think there are deeper issues that need exploring.
I was quite insecure in my last relationship, especially towards the end. For me it was more to do with what I said in my previous reply as well as the girl in question having her own insecurities too. Like I said I just did my best to keep those feelings at bay and instead of projecting them onto her, I tried to understand why I felt the way I did and how I could avoid it. Instead of feeling jealous or protective, for example, I framed it instead as a challenge for myself to develop trust and comfort in her. We often talked about it as well which also helped, but in the end we both just needed to be away from each other to figure our own shit out.
I dunno man, this probably wasn't that helpful but all the best in any case.
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35421385]Okay, it's official, after having sex for my fifth time I can safely say that I think it's boring. I really don't get why people think it's so great. I'd rather be just playing video-games, or even better, cuddling with my GF.
[editline]3rd April 2012[/editline]
Am I weird?[/QUOTE]
You now have to learn to multitask. Pleasure your woman AND achieve something of value!
[QUOTE=gufu;35421447]You now have to learn to multitask. Pleasure your woman AND achieve something of value![/QUOTE]
I got a very nice workout. I eventually got tired after 50 minutes of constant fucking though.
[editline]3rd April 2012[/editline]
She's like seven inches shorter than me so the positions are slightly awkward :v:
I suggest taking up a hobby. Origami seems fitting.
My hands aren't steady, like at all, so that's a no :v:
but holy hell, origami when having sex sounds fucking hilarious
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35421575]My hands aren't steady, like at all, so that's a no :v:
but holy hell, origami when having sex sounds fucking hilarious[/QUOTE]
And then we slow things down for a second while I... fold this crease... on your ass... yeah...
i have hair in all the wrong places. and loads of it.
iv literally got a goddamn afro down there. well, 2. down my crack and on me nuts. and i havent shaved at all. im not entirely sure how you'd tackle ass crack hair, and quite frankly, id rather not junk up my dad's razor with it.
do girls even like that sort of thing? not the butthair. i dont even like that. no one would like that, except the darkest corners of the internet.
does that count for this thread? im not even sure. you guys are going on about origami or something.
totally not gonna regret posting this later
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35421385]Okay, it's official, after having sex for my fifth time I can safely say that I think it's boring. I really don't get why people think it's so great. I'd rather be just playing video-games, or even better, cuddling with my GF.
[editline]3rd April 2012[/editline]
Am I weird?[/QUOTE]
Is it not stimulating? Are you using a condom? If so, try a different brand. In fact, fuck the condoms that you get from PP. Go buy some thin condoms or one of those "shared pleasure" condoms. Name brand is always better, of course. Also, don't get ribbed, unless you are solely trying to pleasure your girl. They are made thicker so that the ribs won't brake the condom, meaning less sensation for you.
If that isn't the issue, you might want to start getting kinky and not just having "normal" sex. Roleplaying, deviant shit, cosplaying, as long as you are both happy with it, there's nothing wrong with getting a little "weird" in bed.
[editline]4th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=bob4life;35422200]i have hair in all the wrong places. and loads of it.
iv literally got a goddamn afro down there. well, 2. down my crack and on me nuts. and i havent shaved at all. im not entirely sure how you'd tackle ass crack hair, and quite frankly, id rather not junk up my dad's razor with it.
do girls even like that sort of thing? not the butthair. i dont even like that. no one would like that, except the darkest corners of the internet.
does that count for this thread? im not even sure. you guys are going on about origami or something.
totally not gonna regret posting this later[/QUOTE]
Girls generally like a bit of hair on a guy. It's considered masculine. So don't completely shave everything. Get some trimming scissors and trim your nutsack and ass hair. That's what I do, since I like everything looking at least fairly groomed and orderly. It should go without saying to be careful about any sharp object near your junk, though.
Agreed, a little good grooming doesn't hurt.
Go to a store, but a generic razor. If you are afraid of cutting yourself, use soap liberaly.
[editline]4th April 2012[/editline]
Actually, IIRC hair gives a woman some extra stimulation, so it might not be bad to keep hair anyway. But it's not like it won't grow back.
Hahahahaha dude I've got Persian blood so I totally understand the butt-hair. I fucking loathe it but I also don't really know how to deal with it, and my ex actually found it funny in an oddly affectionate way.
I trim my pubes/ball hair often though, I'd suggest doing the same. Also don't use your dad's razor, that's fucking gross. Just grab a pair of clean scissors, lock yourself in the bathroom and go to town.
Just be careful not to uh, miss. That wasn't very fun.
I moved out from the UK to Singapore about 4 months ago, and my girlfriend is still in uni back home.
I miss sex :(
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=-h0IpjnByfs[/media]
gah wat the shit why media tag not working.
Anyway i thought this suits this FRED!
Picked my girlfriend up from the station on sunday evening, went for a drive and a spliff. Ended up having sex in the car, wasn't expecting it, was good. She just kinda climbed aboard. Would do again.
She's sleeping right now so I'm having some internet time
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35421575]My hands aren't steady, like at all, so that's a no :v:
but holy hell, origami when having sex sounds fucking hilarious[/QUOTE]
50 mins of constant fucking? Of course it's gonna be boring when you thrust your rocket like a darn monkey waiting for that 5 seconds of euphoria to happen after you cum.
I'll be honest; I was just like you. I loved having sex, but it was rather dull. I put my rocket inside, thrust, cum. Whoopy, another woman off the checklist. I am such a man.
What makes sex great is the whole relationship; the woman itself, her qualities and her own sexual experiences. Sex is exploring myself each and every time, with each woman giving her experiences and knowledge, while you do the same for her. To me, that's like going to a bakery, and even though I know what bread is made off, how it's done and have tasted it, I still come around each and every time looking for something new to experience. That's sex.
Most men can't relate I suppose and even I couldn't at some point of my life. Now, I can't have enough of it. Every woman is a new challenge and making her and myself enjoy it, because I enjoy enjoying it, is what makes it so great. Well, that's just me. Hard to explain, but maybe it will open up your eyes.
[editline]4th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Dark_Light;35422895]Hahahahaha dude I've got Persian blood so I totally understand the butt-hair. I fucking loathe it but I also don't really know how to deal with it, and my ex actually found it funny in an oddly affectionate way.
I trim my pubes/ball hair often though, I'd suggest doing the same. Also don't use your dad's razor, that's fucking gross. Just grab a pair of clean scissors, lock yourself in the bathroom and go to town.
Just be careful not to uh, miss. That wasn't very fun.[/QUOTE]
Scissors? Shit, that's gonna take him hours. Use the trimmer, saves a lot of time.
Also, butt-hair is common around here. So, it's a natural thing. Men don't shave their asses around here, don't know how it's like in the U.S.
Do you guys shave your asses?
EDIT:
I see some do. ;D
My better half is perfect.
I can't imagine my life without her.
i went on a field trip today and hung out in the park afterwards
nothing bad happened with my poop, but i still couldn't stop thinking about it for the whole time
Augh, the feel when I've read like 30 pages of this thread, and I just want someone to cuddle with.
Well, I'm 16 so I guess I have loads of time to get a girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Ponu;35429344]Augh, the feel when I've read like 30 pages of this thread, and I just want someone to cuddle with.
Well, I'm 16 so I guess I have loads of time to get a girlfriend.[/QUOTE]
You have less time than you think, once your out of college and uni your prospects drop right off
Got myself a new girlfriend about 2 weeks ago, wayyyyy fitter than my old gf and she is telling my sister that I don't love this new girlfriend and I'm only with her to make her jealous.
Well if that was the case I believe it's working! But it's not, I'm with her because I think she's bloody hot and good banter :v:
Bit mental though..
Shaved all the pubes and the assfro. I just don't like hair in those places. Feels nice. Would recommend.
[QUOTE=joshdasmif;35430036]Got myself a new girlfriend about 2 weeks ago, wayyyyy fitter than my old gf and she is telling my sister that I don't love this new girlfriend and I'm only with her to make her jealous.
Well if that was the case I believe it's working! But it's not, I'm with her because I think she's bloody hot and good banter :v:
Bit mental though..[/QUOTE]
What happened to you, man?
[QUOTE=JohanGS;35430762]What happened to you, man?[/QUOTE]
about a year ago he was shunned from this thread for being a huge asshole
nothing has changed with him
you guys got any idea how to meet people ( especially girls ) for a basement loner like me? I just sit in front of my pc everyday and most of the time i have nothing to do so i just watch some series, while occasionally wishing i had something else to do or something.
[QUOTE=yawmwen;35422298]Is it not stimulating? Are you using a condom? If so, try a different brand. In fact, fuck the condoms that you get from PP. Go buy some thin condoms or one of those "shared pleasure" condoms. Name brand is always better, of course. Also, don't get ribbed, unless you are solely trying to pleasure your girl. They are made thicker so that the ribs won't brake the condom, meaning less sensation for you.
If that isn't the issue, you might want to start getting kinky and not just having "normal" sex. Roleplaying, deviant shit, cosplaying, as long as you are both happy with it, there's nothing wrong with getting a little "weird" in bed.
[editline]4th April 2012[/editline]
Girls generally like a bit of hair on a guy. It's considered masculine. So don't completely shave everything. Get some trimming scissors and trim your nutsack and ass hair. That's what I do, since I like everything looking at least fairly groomed and orderly. It should go without saying to be careful about any sharp object near your junk, though.[/QUOTE]
Turns out I was using ribbed last time, hmm. Will try again tomorrow using something else, I guess.
Those other four times still don't really stand out to me. Oh well, I just love being with my honey :h:
[QUOTE=Xehanort;35432707]you guys got any idea how to meet people ( especially girls ) for a basement loner like me? I just sit in front of my pc everyday and most of the time i have nothing to do so i just watch some series, while occasionally wishing i had something else to do or something.[/QUOTE]
Here's a startling idea; go outside!
[QUOTE=yawmwen;35422298]
If that isn't the issue, you might want to start getting kinky and not just having "normal" sex. Roleplaying, deviant shit, cosplaying, as long as you are both happy with it, there's nothing wrong with getting a little "weird" in bed.[/QUOTE]
I find doggy style to be very romantic and rad
[editline]4th April 2012[/editline]
try that
[QUOTE=Xehanort;35432707]you guys got any idea how to meet people ( especially girls ) for a basement loner like me? I just sit in front of my pc everyday and most of the time i have nothing to do so i just watch some series, while occasionally wishing i had something else to do or something.[/QUOTE]
It might be a good idea to try and go out with any friends you may know, or to explore new things you've wanted to try. Even if they don't turn out exactly as you may have hoped, just having those experiences, and learning to get social can really help out with meeting new people. Having a strong positive energy, and showing you give an effort to care for yourself, but at the same time emitting a confidence to show that you're happy with what you are, will give out what people will be attracted to. Being yourself, but with tact and consideration to others feelings as to not upset.
I used to be very introverted, and would mostly just play games and such, keeping to myself. After graduating though, I realized that there is much more than a room to live in. I started taking up friends offers to go out, and made unlikely friends under other circumstances. I got into going to the gym, hanging out with coworkers, even making friends with my families friends. I just acted the way I normally acted, but around others. Was always polite, but independent, went with whatever was going on at the moment, and things turned out well. I was also proactive on occasion, not just sitting around for something to happen, which can sink you back into that loner lifestyle. Being proactive helped in meeting up with my current boyfriend too, and now I do stuff with him, like going to his sisters parties or playing video games with friends. You don't even have to be in a situation where you are all being intensively social. Asking some friends to go to the movies, for example, is a pretty good way to keep the cool talk to a minimum and still have a great time together. If you don't have many friends to hang out with, think about joining a club or going to local events to meet up with people who have same interests. Coworkers, classmates and other associates are also great candidates.
You really just have to get your foot in the door, and once you do, you give yourself, and other people, an opportunity to grow relationships with each other. People dig people who want to grow, and sometimes, they'll even want to grow with you.
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