[QUOTE=Cureless;35457899]I've never had a date or relationship and the furthest I've gotten with women is a friendly hug from a girl I knew as a kid.
I have no desire to pursue a relationship and I don't want to have sex with anyone.
And I am content with this, I understand that I am an anomaly in this regard. Thought you sure get a lot of interesting reactions from people when they ask you about this sort of subject and you tell them that you've done nothing and want to do nothing.[/QUOTE]
You're probably a demisexual, or some variation of.
[QUOTE=CoalTen;35460582]You're probably a demisexual, or some variation of.[/QUOTE]
[URL="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality"]Asexuality[/URL]
[QUOTE=Methylparaben;35460681][URL="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality"]Asexuality[/URL][/QUOTE]
He never said that he has no sex drive, simply that he doesn't want to have sex. And many asexuals still look for relationships.
[QUOTE=CoalTen;35460812]no sex drive[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE=Cureless;35457899]I don't want to have sex with anyone.[/QUOTE]
Whats the difference?
[editline]07/04[/editline]
I'm not deliberately being argumentative here, I just fail to see any diffrence.
[QUOTE=Methylparaben;35460864]Whats the difference?[/QUOTE]
I assume he still has some semblance of a sex drive, or else he wouldn't have specifically stated "with anyone." But I'm probably just reading into things too deeply.
Bad phraseology on my behalf, and I'm sure Asexuality isn't the case.
I still enjoy porn and basically behave as any other normal person would, I just don't have an outgoing desire to find someone to do things with.
well why not?
I guess it seems unnecessary to me.
I never want to have kids so sex for the purpose of procreation is out of the question. I don't believe it to be a bragging right or something of value as a lot of guys appear to and if I want pleasure, I'm more than capable of taking care of that myself... so why do I need to do that?
it could be autism
you mean sex for the purpose of procreation is out of the question?
it's just a more meaningful way of being intimate with someone you care a lot about that you are attracted to. so if you aren't even interested in dating someone or something, i guess it is pretty useless to you. that and a vagina feels a fair amount better than your hand, but hey.
This is the last place on earth that i thought i would have been asking for advice. But here goes! So , This girl I have been talking to her for going on 3/4 years on webcam, microphone etc etc we have been 'going out' (Its a online thing) So anyway I had arranged to go over to her and stay with her parents over where she lives and then it got to the point of telling my parents... And well, they are pretty much set against it. Trying to force me to stay etc etc. You know the whole parent thing "YOU WILL GET MURDERED" "YOU MIGHT GET RAPED" yadada overprotective stuff. The point is before I 'met' her I didn't care much about relationships I was more of the nerdy gamer guy who everyone knew as smart (im not bragging) but when I met her it like.. Hit me..Like I cant stop thinking about her all the time.. all the soppy stuff etc etc. So yeah I want to go over to her (She lives in america and is 19. I live in the UK and I am 19) What do I do about my parents FP?
you're 19
just go
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35336273]sometimes i forget that a significant portion of facepunch users probably still think asking someone out means asking "will you be my girlfriend?"[/QUOTE]
Shit. I've been doing it wrong then.
hnnngg, jealousy is probably the second worst thing about ldr's.
She has me reading Homestuck now. This might be a while.
[QUOTE=Cureless;35462977]I guess it seems unnecessary to me.
I never want to have kids so sex for the purpose of procreation is out of the question. I don't believe it to be a bragging right or something of value as a lot of guys appear to and if I want pleasure, I'm more than capable of taking care of that myself... so why do I need to do that?[/QUOTE]
sounds more like a defense mechanism than a real reason
unless you actually think sex with a girlfriend is anything like mastrubating, just so you know sex doesn't involve pumping till you're done.
[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;35453295]Its doable, yes, but it all depends on how and why things ended between you.[/QUOTE]
I am going to blame MaverickIB for making me notice how my relationship went. On the other hand, I want to thank him for making me notice how my relationship went. You know something is wrong when it takes you a year to have a french kiss, even though you both consider yourself to be in a relationship. She didn't really like to cuddle actively and overall disliked physical contact. The few times she did seem to enjoy it were rather bewildering to me - I gotten used to her just being completely removed from the concept of enjoying any intimacy. And then, a week or two before the break up, she basically told me that she wasn't interested in the further development of our relationship beyond that. So yeah, basically she was looking for a friendship rather than a full blown relationship. Whenever she was afraid to tell me because she would believe that I'd leave or if she didn't know what a serious relationship is, that I don't know.
We broke apart more or less peacefully (I did get angry after we talked a week after we broke up, but she forgave me that mistake). After 3 months we'd start seeing each other every other week or so. We'd do the same things we did while we were in the relationships (mostly playing games/watching youtube videos). Obviously there wasn't any cuddling any more, but we do usually have a friendly hug before I leave. Actually, surprisingly enough, I haven't really felt unhappy when I was with her, and the whole depression usually set in an hour or two after I got home from her.
You know, the entire break up did show me that my life is pretty damn sad. I mean, I didn't make any friends through middle/high school, preferring to keep away from people. My social life is non-existent, and I am not exactly sure how to start one. Hilariously enough, once I basically went away from the only person I ever wanted to be with, and always seeing her as socially-inept, I realized how similar I am to her. Guess, the main difference being, is that I really don't care how my actions are seen by others, well, at least not while I am committing them. I mean, sure, I realize that my actions are rather weird, my words are confusing, and my thought process rather sudden. Oh, and I am a huge dick, especially to people with obvious visual traits (mostly fat people).
So, doctor Facepunch, what does one do to get out of this mess?
(And hey, this post is a nice barebones recollection of my entire problem. Huzzah!)
[editline]7th April 2012[/editline]
Well, okay, the "Bare Bones" is an implication of 3 paragraphs worth of text. Yeah...
[QUOTE=thisispain;35463901]unless you actually think sex with a girlfriend is anything like mastrubating, just so you know sex doesn't involve pumping till you're done.[/QUOTE]
I'm aware, I'm just talking from the perspective of the overall goal of either action.
[QUOTE=Cureless;35465027]I'm aware, I'm just talking from the perspective of the overall goal of either action.[/QUOTE]
Who cares about the goal? It's kinda all about the action itself.
[QUOTE=Cureless;35465027]I'm aware, I'm just talking from the perspective of the overall goal of either action.[/QUOTE]
yeah no the goal isn't pumping till you're done, followed by a lapsing period of shame.
unless you view everything in the concept of outcome in goal, which is silly and weird.
I have never so much as spoken informally to a female before. I don't expect to in my lifetime.
[editline]7th April 2012[/editline]
Oh and since this is Facepunch I'd like to specify that I'm not gay.
[QUOTE=ShnitzelKiller;35465470]I have never so much as spoken informally to a female before. I don't expect to in my lifetime.
[editline]7th April 2012[/editline]
Oh and since this is Facepunch I'd like to specify that I'm not gay.[/QUOTE]
do you live in a monastry? are you a monk?
[QUOTE=thisispain;35465066]yeah no the goal isn't pumping till you're done, followed by a lapsing period of shame.
unless you view everything in the concept of outcome in goal, which is silly and weird.[/QUOTE]
I never said that was my view, I meant the goal in either direction is to climax. But as stated by gufu this is not the case.
So case closed.
This might be a dumb question, but I've been wondering for a little while: Is it normal to have a semi-sexual but entirely platonic relationship with another girl while I have a girlfriend? The former is the latter's best friend, and they mess around with the boob-grabbing every now and again too, and my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind that we tend to talk to each other about sex stuff and play about with each other, but I don't want her to feel I 'like' my friend in that way. What do you guys think?
Well, if your girlfriend doesn't mind, I'd assume that she'll tell you if you go too far.
Shit, I'm so happy - last week I finally got the balls to ask out a girl I had liked for a few months now, yet didn't have much contact due to her being in a lower year then me. And now, about two weeks later, we're together. Goes to prove that a little belief for yourself goes a long way, since I could have done this ages ago.
[QUOTE=Jamsponge;35465663]This might be a dumb question, but I've been wondering for a little while: Is it normal to have a semi-sexual but entirely platonic relationship with another girl while I have a girlfriend? The former is the latter's best friend, and they mess around with the boob-grabbing every now and again too, and my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind that we tend to talk to each other about sex stuff and play about with each other, but I don't want her to feel I 'like' my friend in that way. What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]
i think that it's incredibly risky territory and i wouldn't advise bringing it up in conversation at all. and no, it's not normal to have a semi-sexual but entirely platonic relationship with another girl while you have a girlfriend.
[QUOTE=Methylparaben;35460094]Yeah I think I may try a museum/art thing mixed with a film.
Also my next few days of weather forcast, and it's supposed to get worse.
[IMG]http://i41.tinypic.com/2q03eia.png[/IMG]
And I don't live in Manchester either.
[editline]06/04[/editline]
The tempreture is the killer if it's not raining.[/QUOTE]
Museum or the Zoo is a brilliant idea. Make the date fun, not impressionable.
[QUOTE=Jamsponge;35465663]This might be a dumb question, but I've been wondering for a little while: Is it normal to have a semi-sexual but entirely platonic relationship with another girl while I have a girlfriend? The former is the latter's best friend, and they mess around with the boob-grabbing every now and again too, and my girlfriend doesn't seem to mind that we tend to talk to each other about sex stuff and play about with each other, but I don't want her to feel I 'like' my friend in that way. What do you guys think?[/QUOTE]
not normal, not cool.
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35466831]not normal, not cool.[/QUOTE]
not normal, very cool
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