Agreed with ear kisses/whispers and shit, goddamn that is the ultimate turn on for me.
Sucking fingers is pretty hot too but for a first date, I'd say just remain wary. Don't invest too much emotion into her because tbh it sounds like she's kinda easy/more interested in just a sexual thing if she let you do that much to her on the first date. I've got nothing against sexual expression and intimacy but y'know, just take it easy so you're not disappointed.
[QUOTE=thisispain;35588898]that's gross.
i'd have to ask for a wet tissue after that.[/QUOTE]
I would count myself lucky as my mates girlfriend's favourite pastime is slipping a finger in his...
Yea.
[QUOTE=JakeAM;35590436]I would count myself lucky as my mates girlfriend's favourite pastime is slipping a finger in his...
Yea.[/QUOTE]
His what, ear?
[QUOTE=JakeAM;35590436]I would count myself lucky as my mates girlfriend's favourite pastime is slipping a finger in his...
Yea.[/QUOTE]
that's far less gross.
[editline]15th April 2012[/editline]
and it's not illegal to say anus.
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35588552]Don't be. [b]You're probably just shy[/b]. I have some REALLY [b]ugly[/b] fucking friends, and they even have girlfriends. It's all about going out there, making friends, and hit on 'em when the time's right.[/QUOTE]
So it's a matter of personality or being good looking??
[QUOTE=GeneralMoosen;35587744]No offense but if you did all that on your first date then she's probably really easy.[/QUOTE]That's a pretty harsh thing to say based entirely on such little information.
[QUOTE=GeneralMoosen;35587744]No offense but if you did all that on your first date then she's probably really easy.
First date: Consists of talking, getting common ground, and learning about each other
Second date: To prove that you want to see each other more and like spending time with her, possible first kiss
Third date: Same shit as the first and second but with definite first kiss.
Also I'm wondering how the people next to you two reacted when they looked over seeing a girl practically devouring some dude's arm.[/QUOTE]
Is she? Because every girl that is "promiscuous" on the first date has to be a slut, it's not humanly possible she's that attracted to a person she'll just feel the urge to follow her instincts. Attraction is not something you choose to have.
Also, there isn't any linear path when it comes to dating. Human relationships are dynamic, and so by abiding to a "certain" order and limiting your actions according to that, you also limit yourself. There's no actual normal, natural or formal rule in a person's mind as to when he/she can have intimacy with a person.
I know this sounds weird, but since I'm an engineer it's REALLY hard to find attractive girls. There aren't any in the engineering school, and they're all in classes I can't get to. What do you guys think I should do? Parties aren't really an option because 1. not really my thing due to the fact that they're rolled five minutes in and 2. I don't want dumb eye candy.
[QUOTE=Allstone;35591206]That's a pretty harsh thing to say based entirely on such little information.[/QUOTE]
Sometimes women just want to get laid too you know
[QUOTE=ewitwins;35591344]I know this sounds weird, but since I'm an engineer it's REALLY hard to find attractive girls. There aren't any in the engineering school, and they're all in classes I can't get to. What do you guys think I should do? Parties aren't really an option because 1. not really my thing due to the fact that they're rolled five minutes in and 2. I don't want dumb eye candy.[/QUOTE]
You [B]must[/B] make more friends,hell when I got into a new group of people I ment like 10 girls.Also make sure you increase your activities such as going to a sport or the gym or whatever you could think of.
Always make sure to have a fine balance between not being desperate and still trying to get the girl.
If you'r too desperate, you will be declared a creep within the week is over
If you don't do anything, chances are you will lose the girl.
Tried both things with my ex-girlfriend. She defintly had a crush on me, though i didn't hit on her at all at first. After that she kinda drifted away, and i became more and more desperate. The relationship ended with me calling her a whore while i was drunk. About a month after this, she asked me out for a walk. Too bad i decided to tell her i had a crush on her, for the first time in our relationship (All the other times i had been drunk).
We both just drifted away after this, and i don't think any of us have feelings for each other anymore.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;35588947]It turns me on when my girlfriend sucks my fingers. (But that isn't on the first date, of course.)[/QUOTE]
i hope i don't get laughed at for this, but i get turned on when my gf sucks on my nipples. it's very tantalizing.
[QUOTE=Seith;35591176]So it's a matter of personality or being good looking??[/QUOTE]
You either have to have an outgoing personality, or you are good-looking. Now of course, you can be shy and ugly and still get a girl, but she's probably ugly too.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=thisispain;35589135][media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NhUTaGJcnBA[/media][/QUOTE]
jesus christ what the fuck
[QUOTE=Sub-Zero;35591481]Sometimes women just want to get laid too you know[/QUOTE]
I'm fine with that, but I read his post as pretty strongly framing it as being a bad thing.
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35591745]
You either have to have an outgoing personality, or you are good-looking. Now of course, you can be shy and ugly and still get a girl, but she's probably ugly too.
[/QUOTE]
I didn't know life was so black and white. So, basically you are saying if I am good looking, I can get most women?
Knowing that it's not even close to the truth, it makes one wonder... What made you come to the conclusion?
[QUOTE=Seith;35591783]I didn't know life was so black and white. So, basically you are saying if I am good looking, I can get most women?
Knowing that it's not even close to the truth, it makes one wonder... What made you come to the conclusion?[/QUOTE]
I never said that, at all. Tell me when I said that. I said it increases your chances. If you're outgoing and good-looking, then yes, most women like that.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
You also have to note that good-looks are very perspective. Except, of course, if you have poor hygiene.
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35591823]I never said that, at all. Tell me when I said that. I said it increases your chances. If you're outgoing and good-looking, then yes, most women like that.[/QUOTE]
You never mentioned chances, you just stated it as if it was an absolute thing. You also never mentioned that "good looking" and "outgoing" are qualities needed for most women to be attracted to you, you said either one of them would suffice.
The truth is, it's unrelated to looks.
[QUOTE=Seith;35591855]You never mentioned chances, you just stated it as if it was an absolute thing. You also never mentioned that "good looking" and "outgoing" are qualities needed for most women to be attracted to you, you said either one of them would suffice.
The truth is, it's unrelated to looks.[/QUOTE]
Your pulling words out of my mouth, and:
[quote][B]The truth is, it's unrelated to looks.[/B][/quote]
LOL
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
I've been told on many occasions by many girls that they will refuse to date a guy with certain qualities about their looks.
[editline]16th April 2012[/editline]
I've also been told by my GF, who loves me to death, that if I was really fat she would never have dated me.
So you've been told.... Women also tell me, in Israel, they prefer hairy men, while I dated those girls and I shave myself almost completely.
Sorry to say, but most people don't know what they are looking for. "Good looks" is also a subjective term. As I have mentioned above, some might "not date" a hairy man, while some will. When there are so many factors of superficial beauty, it just loses it's appeal.
What really matter is confidence, and that's in a nut shell. I am glad to see a number of my students - fat and nerdy - get numbers and also date good looking girls.
[QUOTE=Seith;35592030]So you've been told.... Women also tell me, in Israel, they prefer hairy men, while I dated those girls and I shave myself almost completely.[/QUOTE]
If they prefer hairy then that means they like it better. It doesn't mean they'll date exclusively hairy men, so obviously they could date you even if you shave yourself.
Other than that, I quite agree with you, yet ForgottenKane also has truth in what he says.
[QUOTE=eternalflamez;35592210]If they prefer hairy then that means they like it better. It doesn't mean they'll date exclusively hairy men, so obviously they could date you even if you shave yourself.
Other than that, I quite agree with you, yet ForgottenKane also has truth in what he says.[/QUOTE]
My point was; women claim something, yet do otherwise. Looks doesn't matter, even if they consciously think it does.
The only part looks play in relationships, is how much effort you need to put in. By effort I mean, consistency. Good looking people may need less of it, and may be given more attention to, but both, ugly and good looking could fail equally on the first date or even getting her number.
Going to an Italians tomorrow night for my second date, I've booked it all up and I'm paying, been to the place to pickup a menu they do nice food for modest prices and they put on romantic music, the only downside is that I'm paying... beginning to believe single life had its benefits after all
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35592578]really? i guess in america women still want equal rights but not equal priviledges. my gf fucking scams me to prevent me from paying everything, like one time we went out to eat it was only like five bucks so i was like it's ok i'll pay
the crazy cunt didn't say anything and later it turned out she stuffed five euros down my pants while we were making out so she that way paid equally
women man i tells ya[/QUOTE]
Been in relationships that have always gone Dutch before and split everything 50/50 sometimes taking turns, but to be honest this is the first time I've ever seriously had to pay for shit - I mean shes bought some stuff like drinks etc
Me and my girlfriend just pay for each other, say we go into the shop she'll pick us up a few bits and next time I'll pay for her stuff and we'll lend eachother money if the other is short or if we're going out.
When I drive up to see her she'll normally pay for one of our nights out because it costs a lot in petrol.
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35592627]i personally don't mind paying for shit, the only downside is when we eventually split i am always immediately aware how much i paid[/QUOTE]
That's how I've felt in the past, I think its just because were in the dating stage then if we ever get into a relationship then It should have its fair share
[QUOTE=ZeroMinus;35592608]Been in relationships that have always gone Dutch before and split everything 50/50 sometimes taking turns, but to be honest this is the first time I've ever seriously had to pay for shit - I mean shes bought some stuff like drinks etc[/QUOTE]
A relationship gone Dutch?
What does that mean?
I'm Dutch and what is this?
[QUOTE=Yahnich;35592667]i think that is the part of the relationship where you do shit like shit on each others chest[/QUOTE]
Oh I guess that's logical.
[QUOTE=eternalflamez;35592649]A relationship gone Dutch?
What does that mean?
I'm Dutch and what is this?[/QUOTE]
From what I've seen, its when they split it 50/50. I dunno where the term came from, but thats how i've seen it in the past.
Personally I don't agree with it in most cases. Damnit if I'm taking a girl out, I'm paying for it. I'm not gonna invite someone somewhere and make them spend money. She's gotta be real crafty for me to accept her paying for anything when we go out. But if she can pull it off she gets bonus points.
So everyone pays for themselves only, okay thanks.
Now, on dates I pay for the girl, unless she really insists...
But when going out with friends we do indeed each pay for ourselves. I thought this was general practice though?
You'd think it was, but sometimes it just... isn't.
depends on the girl but usually i allow them to make the offer of paying their part first before i say "I WILL PAY FOR THIS WHOLE EVENING BECAUSE I AM A MAN" because a surprising amount of girls hate traditional gentlemanly behaviour - it can be seen as demeaning
when i ask someone out somewhere i don't think of it as "hey would you like for me to pay for you to see a movie/have a meal" but the far more important question of "would you like to spend time with me"
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