I don't understand girls who hang out with eachother and insist on taking 100 photo's of them posing.
[QUOTE=Lukeo;35639592]I don't understand girls who hang out with eachother and insist on taking 100 photo's of them posing.[/QUOTE]
hoes gon be hoes
My girlfriend absolutely refuses, under any circumstances, to have pictures taken of her (by me any way). I know she's insecure, but for fuck's sake. You'd think she'd wanna have at least one or two picture of us to remember the time we spend together.
you shouldn't need a picture to remember the time you spend together. don't get hung-up on meaningless shallow things
I don't really [I]need[/I] a picture, but I still want one.
There's a certain respect you show the one you love, so this is kinda' important. It doesn't need immediate attention, but you do want to have saved some memories together on some film, pictures, or something.
i don't. not sure i get the fuss. i know my girlfriend and i love each other, i don't need a photograph to affirm that or to remember good times. and i'm not gonna stare at photos of us to remember [i]~the good old days~~[/i] in the eventuality that we break up
seems insecure
Well, that's pretty much the fundamental reason to take personal photographs of anything: to look back at it and reminisce. That doesn't just apply to relationships.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35640272]i don't. not sure i get the fuss. i know my girlfriend and i love each other, i don't need a photograph to affirm that or to remember good times. and i'm not gonna stare at photos of us to remember [i]~the good old days~~[/i] in the eventuality that we break up
seems insecure[/QUOTE]
It's still nice to have pictures, best pictures are when you're just having a laugh rather than "ooh let's take a picture of us to remember this moment"
[QUOTE=gerbile5;35634474]not sure if sarcastically obvious answer or answer is just very simple.[/QUOTE]
Well, I think the concept is as simple as that.
Truly I don't know; I've never tried myself, but being direct is more like to get you the most accurate response.
I've been with my girlfriend for the past 7 months but the last month has been all fighting over pointless stuff. I've been getting annoyed at her very easily recently. Also, this other girl which is very cute who I share so many things in common and who I am getting very close to. I don't really know what to do, I love my girlfriend but I'm beginning to really like this new girl. Little help here guys?
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35640272]i don't. not sure i get the fuss. i know my girlfriend and i love each other, i don't need a photograph to affirm that or to remember good times. and i'm not gonna stare at photos of us to remember [i]~the good old days~~[/i] in the eventuality that we break up
seems insecure[/QUOTE]
It's not about having a picture when you break up, it's for when you grow old together and reminisce. You're thinking too small.
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;35641867]Talk to your girlfriend, resolve problems together, "Okay here's what we need to do..", yay happiness[/QUOTE]
Honestly my feelings are fading somewhat with her.
[QUOTE=Masterofkills09;35641889]Honestly my feelings are fading somewhat with her.[/QUOTE]
Doesn't matter. [I]Talk to her.[/I]
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35641866]It's not about having a picture when you break up, it's for when you grow old together and reminisce. You're thinking too small.[/QUOTE]
i'd rather think small than embarrassingly big. my whole relationship is founded on nonchalant love - i'm not going to take cute photos with my girlfriend because i think there's a chance we'll last 40 years and then look back at our shit facebook pics haha
[QUOTE=Masterofkills09;35641889]Honestly my feelings are fading somewhat with her.[/QUOTE]
you need to talk to her then. better that you talk out your problems and work it out (or decide it's over) than brood with discontent for a few weeks then break it off in a big blow out.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35642011]i'd rather think small than embarrassingly big. my whole relationship is founded on nonchalant love - i'm not going to take cute photos with my girlfriend because i think there's a chance we'll last 40 years and then look back at our shit facebook pics haha[/QUOTE]
Honestly, I wouldn't call that love, but as long as you two are happy. If you two do last another 40 years, then you'll see why I'm saying this. Memories are important.
[editline]19th April 2012[/editline]
You'll want to preserve them, and your mind sure as hell won't do. It fades. Pictures don't.
Its always good to pay attention.
I remembered that this girl had a soccer game today, the last home game of the year. after hunting down the schedule and realizing that I actually still had time to get there to see it, i floored it downtown and watched her play while chatting with her parents. Halftime comes, and she looks into the stands where her parents are and she said later that she was surprised I was there, and she was also confused as to how I knew there was a game. She forgot that she had told me about it some 2 weeks ago about this game, but was happy to see me regardless.
So as she's kicking ass on the field, her mother says that the awards ceremony that she was supposed to go to last Thursday was actually this Thursday and that she was probably gonna bolt here as soon as her coach cycles her off the field. So she intercepts the ball and passes it to another player who then scores their third point (3-0), coach pulls her, and after asking if I can come along for the ceremony her mother let me follow their car there. We get there and the room was very crowded. She was already waiting inside by the time I got there and as I'm standing outside the room with her parents, her mom opens the door and motions me to go inside and stand with this girl on the side of the room. Her parents can't possibly [I]not[/I] see my interest in their daughter, and these actions from her mother seem to suggest she doesn't have an issue with that. Her father hasn't really shown any opinions one way or the other besides a lack of negative response.
Today was a surprise and she rode with me back to the school where their other vehicle was parked. lots of talking and learning, it was nice. Regardless, Saturday movies are still happening and Sunday is too. I think this is going well.
whatever happened to your steampunk nerdy gamer dream girl
[QUOTE=Masterofkills09;35641889]Honestly my feelings are fading somewhat with her.[/QUOTE]
well keeping it to yourself won't help anything, at that point you'll just find things that she does annoying and use them as justification for your feelings fading. the sooner you confront her about the issues, the better.
and you need to understand what you are feeling towards her. you need to be honest, and direct. most importantly [B]do not be accusatory[/B]. I cannot stress this enough. you need to employ [U]straight talk[/U] which is "a person's clear statementof his or her feelings and concerns without accusing, blaming, judging, orridiculing the other person". i'm not sure exactly your problems so i cannot offer any advice past that.
just use this tactic, and be sure to do it sooner rather than later.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35642645]whatever happened to your steampunk nerdy gamer dream girl[/QUOTE]
I find it shallow for people to love another just for something like that. I don't know why, but I always have.
[QUOTE=lil_n00blett;35642645]whatever happened to your steampunk nerdy gamer dream girl[/QUOTE]
[I]That is the steampunk nerdy gamer girl.[/I]
[editline]19th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35642772]I find it shallow for people to love another just for something like that. I don't know why, but I always have.[/QUOTE]
The things stated several pages back were matching surface interests. They help, but they're not the reason I'm interested in her.
I can't really explain why I'm interested in her, I just... [I]am.[/I] It just... [I]feels right.[/I]
We have a lot of basic interests in common, and I'm still looking for more things that we don't have in common. Like sports. And she does camps and such and commonly acts as a camp counselor for the short ones. I'm building a list, see. Cause the last girl I dated that we had so much in common turned out real well. First difference I found between us? She's fucking insane and lies through her teeth about things I kinda need to know about. I'm really hoping that our differences this time around are more... not insane.
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35642422]Honestly, I wouldn't call that love, but as long as you two are happy. If you two do last another 40 years, then you'll see why I'm saying this. Memories are important.
[editline]19th April 2012[/editline]
You'll want to preserve them, and your mind sure as hell won't do. It fades. Pictures don't.[/QUOTE]
You wouldn't call that love because he doesn't want to take pictures of himself kissing his girlfriend? I'd say, it's the other way around; just because you want to preserve something so badly, suggests a weak relationship.
That's like the people who have the urge to celebrate them getting together every month.
[editline]20th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Oicani Gonzales;35643708]To people that think like this, I'm sorry, but that's just not how it works.
I used to dream, like everyone, of a hot, nerdy, redhaired smart incredible and amazing girl, but shit like that doesn't exist, and wanting someone to fit some adjectives is a horrible strategy for finding a good relationship.
My girl is basically the [I]opposite[/I] of who I am, but it's awesome to see how much stuff she's shown me and I liked.[/QUOTE]
How do you know she doesn't exist? It's not like you've been searching for 20 years.
Wow, so I had a crazy night last night.
The girl (if anyone remembers my post) who left me a few days after our awesome date, called me. She said she had been having a weird week and that she was sitting alone on her balcony listening to music. I told her I was coming over. When I arrived, after some small talk and what not, I learned that she and the guy she left me for had broken up (I don't think I mentioned this be we hadn't talked for about a month after she never returned one of my calls) and that she really wasn't too upset by it.
After some more talk there was a moment where we were both standing up looking at something, I told her that I really wanted to make a move on her but felt uncomfortable doing so because of her recent break up. She then told me to not feel uncomfortable and to make my move already, so I kissed her. At the end of the night we decided to pick up where we left off, so yeah that happend.
I'm not really sure what to think, I just really like this chick and I want to see where it takes me.
[QUOTE=S31-Syntax;35643102][I]That is the steampunk nerdy gamer girl.[/I]
[editline]19th April 2012[/editline]
The things stated several pages back were matching surface interests. They help, but they're not the reason I'm interested in her.
I can't really explain why I'm interested in her, I just... [I]am.[/I] It just... [I]feels right.[/I][/QUOTE]
That's called love.
[QUOTE=Seith;35645620]You wouldn't call that love because he doesn't want to take pictures of himself kissing his girlfriend? I'd say, it's the other way around; just because you want to preserve something so badly, suggests a weak relationship.
That's like the people who have the urge to celebrate them getting together every month.
[editline]20th April 2012[/editline]
How do you know she doesn't exist? It's not like you've been searching for 20 years.[/QUOTE]
Not about the pictures, silly. It's about his 'nonchalant love', he doesn't look to the future with his current girlfriend. That's called 'friends with benefits' in my book, but I have no right to judge how others conduct their love. It's certainly stronger than what my past GF had for me.
[editline]20th April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=sangara;35646095]Wow, so I had a crazy night last night.
The girl (if anyone remembers my post) who left me a few days after our awesome date, called me. She said she had been having a weird week and that she was sitting alone on her balcony listening to music. I told her I was coming over. When I arrived, after some small talk and what not, I learned that she and the guy she left me for had broken up (I don't think I mentioned this be we hadn't talked for about a month after she never returned one of my calls) and that she really wasn't too upset by it.
After some more talk there was a moment where we were both standing up looking at something, I told her that I really wanted to make a move on her but felt uncomfortable doing so because of her recent break up. She then told me to not feel uncomfortable and to make my move already, so I kissed her. At the end of the night we decided to pick up where we left off, so yeah that happend.
I'm not really sure what to think, I just really like this chick and I want to see where it takes me.[/QUOTE]
Bad idea. If she left you for another guy I wouldn't have trusted her. People like that are quite dishonest.
But then again, I don't know too much of the details of your break-up. But that's my two-cents.
Well we only went on one date, sure it was awesome but I don't really consider one date to justify calling something a relationship. I trust her because she decided not to see me any more, she could have full well led me and this other guy on. I guess I shouldnt have said "left me for another guy" I realize now that is quite misleading.
[QUOTE=ForgottenKane;35642422]Honestly, I wouldn't call that love[/QUOTE]
lol you don't call it love because we don't have to try? because we don't have to take pictures just to remember each other and enjoy each other? because we don't lavish gifts on each other?
you wouldn't call it love. seriously. i have never been so insulted. what a horrible thing to say. our love was born out of a friendship over many many months that suddenly sparked into something more. we didn't 'date'. we didn't approach one another just because we thought the other was sexually attractive. we didn't do it because we wanted a relationship. we did it because we fell in love with the other person for who they were and for the enjoyment that spending time together brought us
i'm sorry that i don't conform to your hollywood ideals of love but maybe i'll take a shit photo tomorrow so i can feel what true love is
fucking hell
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35646556]lol you don't call it love because we don't have to try? because we don't have to take pictures just to remember each other and enjoy each other? because we don't lavish gifts on each other?
you wouldn't call it love. seriously. i have never been so insulted. what a horrible thing to say. our love was born out of a friendship over many many months that suddenly sparked into something more. we didn't 'date'. we didn't approach one another just because we thought the other was sexually attractive. we didn't do it because we wanted a relationship. we did it because we fell in love with the other person for who they were and for the enjoyment that spending time together brought us
i'm sorry that i don't conform to your hollywood ideals of love but maybe i'll take a shit photo tomorrow so i can feel what true love is
fucking hell[/QUOTE]
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ye mate u got me down there lmao
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