[QUOTE=dmillerw;35668948]Posted this about three months ago, and it's still something that confuses me.
How is one supposed to know when it's real and when it's just a lack of experience. How is one supposed to know if it's too soon or not? I mentioned this to her earlier, and apparently she's been having the same issue. Is five and a half months too soon? Am I just going insane? I'm just terribly confused and can't really figure out what my head is trying to tell me.[/QUOTE]
There's no timer for things like this... If you love her, you love her. If she feels the same, then looks like you two love birds are in love. Enjoy it.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;35668948]Posted this about three months ago, and it's still something that confuses me.
How is one supposed to know when it's real and when it's just a lack of experience. How is one supposed to know if it's too soon or not? I mentioned this to her earlier, and apparently she's been having the same issue. Is five and a half months too soon? Am I just going insane? I'm just terribly confused and can't really figure out what my head is trying to tell me.[/QUOTE]
No one is going to qualify love for you - it's just a thing people say that they feel. Look to the top of the page, clearly Chesty McGee and Forgotten Kane have completely different ideas of love. If you feel strongly that you love her, you probably do. There's no prescribed time, or else there would be songs about that 129th day of the relationship when you fall in love.
That said, people in this thread mostly say wait until you know that the honeymoon period is over before declaring troo-luv.
How long would most say the honeymoon period lasts, and what is it exactly?
-Thanks Seith, thanks Autumn, you're both right-
To sum it up. My girl had rebound sex with a guy during our rough patch. I was angry she talked to him still and didn't know they had sex. I find out a months into our relationship of being back together. Angry that she lied to me about it. Seith told me to grow up and that's what I am going to do. Autumn told me that it was just rebound sex and that it meant nothing to her so that brings comfort to me.
So basically the lesson is don't let the little things ruin a good relationship. Get mad then get over it. Thanks Facepunch. Sorry I was an asshat last night.
I'm not sure how many women you've slept with, but the way you think is twisted (and even childish);
Firstly, dick size doesn't matter. Even if you had a 40 inch missile, she could still like someone with a 5.5inch cock. Sex is only 10%~ about thrusting your penis.
Secondly, in order to get rid of your anger you need to feel complete.
I realize she had already cheated on you in the past and you probably haven't let go of it. But, from the information provided you are the only one making a scene, while she seems to genuinely lose interest in you, due to that.
You chose to actively care whether she's chating with someone, supposedly "sexually intimidating". It's all in your head; whether it's true or not, getting agitated about that would produce nothing, but rather the other way around (Being calm and nonchalant).
The woman is in a relationship with you, she's yours. While it's scary to think she might not be faithful, there's nothing you can do about it. Limiting her, would only make her want more just as would a child being deprived out of precious computer time. Actively remove those negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. Whether this relationship turns haywire or not, it's not something you control right now, so there's no reason to go nuts and start comparing your sexual competence to a guy whose had sex with your woman in the past.
To sum, it's your choice whether to be angry or not. You can't change the past, but only structure the future. Letting your emotions loose is always far worse than being calm.
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do you not also think that maybe she lied because (at the time) it was going to save a lot of potential hassle? if she'd come outright and admitted it when you first asked her, maybe you'd have thought twice about getting back together, so at the time it was much easier just to brush it off with a little lie and forget about it.
and by the sounds of it it was pretty much just sex, little to no emotional attachment, and a week after you broke up. rebound anyone?
i can see why you'd find it upsetting, but you can't stay angry with her and if i'm honest a little bit of rebound sex is nothing to feel too threatened by. it's not a nice feeling but it happens, so just don't waste your time thinking about it too much and getting wound up.
[QUOTE=Autumn;35670319]do you not also think that maybe she lied because (at the time) it was going to save a lot of potential hassle? if she'd come outright and admitted it when you first asked her, maybe you'd have thought twice about getting back together, so at the time it was much easier just to brush it off with a little lie and forget about it.
and by the sounds of it it was pretty much just sex, little to no emotional attachment, and a week after you broke up. rebound anyone?
i can see why you'd find it upsetting, but you can't stay angry with her and if i'm honest a little bit of rebound sex is nothing to feel too threatened by. it's not a nice feeling but it happens, so just don't waste your time thinking about it too much and getting wound up.[/QUOTE]
Thank you. Thank you very much. I never really thought of it that way, but I'd hug you right now if I could. Thank you.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;35669857]How long would most say the honeymoon period lasts, and what is it exactly?[/QUOTE]
Re-post due to page peasant.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;35670410]Re-post due to page peasant.[/QUOTE]
If that was directed at me. We're past the honeymoon phase. Yes I will admit I needed some help with this and I just received it, but do not mistake my words, I love my girl, and that's why I seeked some help. We might not be in the "honeymoon" phase, but we are in love. We've been together for 5-6 years now, and it's not always easy, but damn it if I don't love her.
[QUOTE=Daddy-of-war;35670429]If that was directed at me. We're past the honeymoon phase. Yes I will admit I needed some help with this and I just received it, but do not mistake my words, I love my girl, and that's why I seeked some help. We might not be in the "honeymoon" phase, but we are in love. We've been together for 5-6 years now, and it's not always easy, but damn it if I don't love her.[/QUOTE]
Wasn't directed at you. My bad.
[editline]22nd April 2012[/editline]
Related to my post on the previous page.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;35670410]Re-post due to page peasant.[/QUOTE]
It's just the rose-tinted glasses stage of the relationship where she could fart at you and it would be adorable. You just see the partner as faultless and you probably won't argue or even really vocally disagree about things that much. It's called the honeymoon period because, like a honeymoon, it doesn't reflect what the real deal is like. Some relationships fall apart after that time and other stay together, but generally slow down.
It's no set amount of time, though a lot of people here have said three months in the past. I'd say that's accurate.
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;35670491]It's just the rose-tinted glasses stage of the relationship where she could fart at you and it would be adorable. You just see the partner as faultless and you probably won't argue or even really vocally disagree about things that much. It's called the honeymoon period because, like a honeymoon, it doesn't reflect what the real deal is like. Some relationships fall apart after that time and other stay together, but generally slow down. It's no set amount of time, though a lot of people here have said three months in the past. I'd say that's accurate.[/QUOTE]
So basically seeing the other person as some supreme god(dess) who could do no wrong, doesn't do a single thing that annoys you, even slightly, and who's every word sounds like the best thing ever?
Yeah, can't say I ever did any of that to begin with, and definitely isn't the case now.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;35670470]Wasn't directed at you. My bad.
[editline]22nd April 2012[/editline]
Related to my post on the previous page.[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry bro. IT's 5:34 am here and I been awake the whole day. I apologize for my hostile attitude. I'm sorry.
[QUOTE=Daddy-of-war;35670534]I'm sorry bro. IT's 5:34 am here and I been awake the whole day. I apologize for my hostile attitude. I'm sorry.[/QUOTE]
Perfectly fine. No worries.
[QUOTE=dmillerw;35670553]Perfectly fine. No worries.[/QUOTE]
Thank you for begin understanding. This helped alot. I guess I needed a kick in the ass. Thanks guys.
I have a girlfriend... she is nice...
but she likes to punch me.
She can be a real bitch sometimes.
[editline]22nd April 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=RenegadeCop;35671893]I'd say its more like you try your hardest to be absolutely perfect, dress nice everyday, and try not to do any bodily functions.
You know your past that when you burp in front of each other and don't give a damn what your hair looks like.[/QUOTE]
My girlfriend and I burp each other's names
And when they pretend to like you, and after all, they just want some favors, oh god :suicide:
why did you snip all your posts
do you not want anyone else to be able to learn from what you said?
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;35670491]It's just the rose-tinted glasses stage of the relationship where she could fart at you and it would be adorable. You just see the partner as faultless and you probably won't argue or even really vocally disagree about things that much. It's called the honeymoon period because, like a honeymoon, it doesn't reflect what the real deal is like. Some relationships fall apart after that time and other stay together, but generally slow down.[/QUOTE]
Huh. My girlfriend used to be [i]more[/i] annoyed at me over stuff, but she wouldn't express it because they were just peeves. She's kinda gotten over them. Well, she says that, but I suppose she could just not be expressing some other stuff. I believe her though.
I only say anything because she thinks just about everything I do is adorable. It's a little weird. Like, completely double standards for me. I usually laugh about it because I certainly don't think my burps are cute. We've been together for seven months or so, so it's possible that we're in some longer honeymoon period. I doubt it though, because we do argue occasionally. And she's angrily broken up with me and taken it back the next day before. That seems like a good sign that w're passed it.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35672275]why did you snip all your posts
do you not want anyone else to be able to learn from what you said?[/QUOTE]I'm guessing they reflected poorly on him.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35672275]why did you snip all your posts
do you not want anyone else to be able to learn from what you said?[/QUOTE]
I figured that it took up to much space and it was handled. I'll make a tl:dr or something. Honestly I was tired and didn't know what I was doing. Like Allstone said they did reflect poorly on me as a man and I guess I was a tad embarrassed.
I didn't believe you guys about gentle biting while making out but I tried it and it seems like she fucking loved it. What else can I do while just making out with a girl to make her enjoy it?
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35672924]I didn't believe you guys about gentle biting while making out but I tried it and it seems like she fucking loved it. What else can I do while just making out with a girl to make her enjoy it?[/QUOTE]
-claps- Yeah!
Rub her sides and back if you aren't already. Alternate between lightly rubbing with the tips of your fingers and firm full hand rubs.
Then find a way to incorporate them all at once.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35672924]I didn't believe you guys about gentle biting while making out but I tried it and it seems like she fucking loved it. What else can I do while just making out with a girl to make her enjoy it?[/QUOTE]
Slow the pace. Prolong the pleasure; when you go for the breasts for example, lick around, breathe hot air...
Dominance is also something many women love; be it slight pulling of the hair while kissing or holding her hands against the ground so she can't move.
But this is only physical stuff, you'll learn it on the way. I also love to use GAI ([url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Guided_affective_imagery[/url])...
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35672924]I didn't believe you guys about gentle biting while making out but I tried it and it seems like she fucking loved it. What else can I do while just making out with a girl to make her enjoy it?[/QUOTE]
Simple one is run your hands through her hair. Maybe it's just my girl, but she loves it, so it's worth a shot.
Neck kisses. I'm yet to meet a girl that would disagree with me.
Stop whilst you're making out with her, pull back a little, then start focusing more on her lips, move to her cheeks, then to her jawbone, then down to her neck. Do that for a while then you can even move to her collar bone, and then... further down, but that's another subject.
Just be slow and passionate about it, tease her with your tongue or light pecks with your lips before kissing her properly. Run your fingers through her hair as well, pull her body against yours, rub your hands down her curves, etc etc. Teasing and building anticipation/tension is basically the ticket when you're with a woman, imo.
I made a girl who liked me not like me by scaring her. And her best friend.
I need a drink.
My friends say I'm moving too fast; I've been dating my girlfriend for almost two weeks and last night they caught me giving her oral. They've been mad at me since.
sod 'em
if you and her both feel ready then nobody else should be trying to stop you
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