I'm facing a legal / emotional dilemma, need some perspective - General

[QUOTE=Stopper;17943316]I presume you are older than 18. Buy a pistol. Even if he is your brother, you can always shoot someone to disable him (leg, arm, joints). But you should turn him in. If he stays, he is a danger not only to you, but to everyone else.[/QUOTE] Let me assume that the OP lives within the US. First of all: you have to be 21 or older to legally purchase a pistol. Secondly: you never, [b]EVER[/b] shoot someone to disable/incapacitate them. When you shoot at somebody you only do it when it's a your life or your assailant's life situation. Not to mention shooting him would not only be emotionally traumatic for him and his family, but his nephew also. If he survives he can take legal action also, claiming that his attacker was trying to make him suffer.

[QUOTE=J Paul;17943712]He's like 23 or something. I'm not quite sure. The mother is in Greensboro. She's not too bright herself, but she does have contact with the kid. They both see him and keep him for an equal amount of time as far as I know.[/QUOTE] HOLY SHIT YOU LIVE NEAR GREENSBORO?! :froggonk: [B]EDIT:[/B] wait, there's like six or seven different greensboros. my bad.

you're in some fucked up shiet man

He sounds like he's only interested in saving his own skin, and from what I hear I’d seriously doubt he'd return the favour and cover your back if the roles had been reversed. People like this are lives takers, they never give you anything back emotionally or physically. He's had his chance, don't let him squander yours as well.

Never lie to the police. If you genuinely believe that doing prison time would sort him out, you already know what to do.

[QUOTE=Scope0;17943710]most. I read the OP and it seems to me he has aleady been given loads of second chances. He'll go to jail and come out a new man that acually thinks about his actions.[/QUOTE] Or he might get killed. If he's never been in prison before then he's not fucked up this badly to recieve a second chance on the level I'm talking about, if he has, prison hasn't reformed him anyway. @OP, keep in mind when he lied to you he was running from the police, he probably didn't want to admit he did it and piss you off since you have the power right now to send him to prison. He came clean in the end and apologised. Lie for him, level this one off. If he makes another mistake after this that should be the one he goes down for.

He'll never learn anything if he's not getting charged for all the bad things he did in his life. Tell the police about your worries.

[QUOTE=J Paul;17943718]That never happens. You obviously don't know anyone who has been to prison.[/QUOTE] Maybe a treatment center is a better option then?

A. Not necessarily out of revenge, but you're legally endangering yourself. Don't forget that he really isn't "family" if he is only around when he needs to use you to get himself out of a spot; I can almost guarantee you that he'll just go back to what he was if you get him out of trouble. It isn't worth the risk.

[QUOTE=Flintz;17943751]He sounds like he's only interested in saving his own skin, and from what I hear I’d seriously doubt he'd return the favour and cover your back if the roles had been reversed. People like this are lives takers, they never give you anything back emotionally or physically. He's had his chance, don't let him squander yours as well.[/QUOTE] Sometimes you need to take to understand what it is to help someone and to redeemed yourself.

I'm sure it's an incredibly hard decision to make, but at the end of the day, you're the one with good morals and standards. He may be your brother, but they way he has treated you isn't worth the risk of getting arrested for lying to the police. If you think he may try to kill you, something like Witness Protection might be an idea to consider. I'm assuming this will also have a big impact on your nephew's life, but I think it's for the best if he is raised by someone decent, even if they aren't his mum/dad.

To all the people jumping the gun and telling OP to send his brother to jail, keep in mind the system isn't perfect. People die in prison, and it doesn't change people in the way the government would like you to believe. Like OP said, it's not all black and white. People do bad things with good intentions. Maybe he's telling the truth. It might be unlikely, but he deserves the benefit of the doubt at least this once IMO, he gets that one for being your brother. Also I wouldn't really mind having this superhuman brother of yours owing you a favour :v:

C) He is a weakling and can't even stand up for himself. To use your name is identity theft and that is a serious crime. Sorry for saying this, and no offense towards you. But fucking asshole pisses me right off.

That's one hell of a choice you will have to take there. I'd go for A) though. I've got the feeling he won't remember that you lied to save his ass for long.

[QUOTE=Conn92;17943823]To all the people jumping the gun and telling OP to send his brother to jail, keep in mind the system isn't perfect. People die in prison, and it doesn't change people in the way the government would like you to believe. Like OP said, it's not all black and white. People do bad things with good intentions. Maybe he's telling the truth. It might be unlikely, but he deserves the benefit of the doubt at least this once IMO, he gets that one for being your brother. Also I wouldn't really mind having this superhuman brother of yours owing you a favour :v:[/QUOTE] He tried to kill the OP when they were young.

Adopt his son

Not turning him in encourages him that his behavior is without consequences. You shouldn't be affected at all (especially legally) because of him. Do the right thing and turn him in to the police. [editline]11:59AM[/editline] Also him putting his son (your nephew) in this stressful environment where he has to run from the police will not help his development. I highly suggest you tell the police. He doesn't exactly sound like a role model, either.

Do A.

[QUOTE=Kazumi;17943886]He tried to kill the OP when they were young.[/QUOTE] I dropped a large rock on my mothers head when I was young intentionally. I'm not evil, people do stupid shit when they're young.

This is assuming you have not turned him in yet. Listen to me, I'm not going to ramble and play batman here, this is serious. If he got away and is not coming back, do not give him up to the police. I'm serious. Opportunity A is basically saying that you and your entire family have a hand in the crime of sheltering a criminal (a wanted one for that matter) in your home. You probably do not want that to happen. Most people here are self righteous and would send anyone to jail who even offends them, listen to reason. Consider what could happen with the people directly or indirectly involved.

C) Your brother sounds dangerous, and you've got you nephew to think of. It would be better for the child if he was taken into care.

There's a saying my father told me a while ago. Do a good deed and it'll come back to you. Think about it.

[QUOTE=CaptainObvious1;17944074]There's a saying my father told me a while ago. Do a good deed and it'll come back to you. Think about it.[/QUOTE] Do a string of bad deeds and they'll come back to you too. Seriously! The child! Do something!

Whatever saves your ass, not his.

B) Just have a serious talk with him, heart to heart. Tell him his your brother still, but if he keeps fucking you over, you can't continue considering him as your brother. Tell him to go far and go away, to mexico and drink tequilas in a bar full of vampires!

Kill him, call the police, say he assaulted you. Seeing as he has quite a criminal record the cops should believe you.

[QUOTE=Conn92;17943989]I dropped a large rock on my mothers head when I was young intentionally. I'm not evil, people do stupid shit when they're young.[/QUOTE] But this man clearly doesn't learn from what he does. He might considering killing someone because he know he can get away with it.

[QUOTE=Conn92;17943823]To all the people jumping the gun and telling OP to send his brother to jail, keep in mind the system isn't perfect. People die in prison, and it doesn't change people in the way the government would like you to believe. Like OP said, it's not all black and white. People do bad things with good intentions. Maybe he's telling the truth. It might be unlikely, but he deserves the benefit of the doubt at least this once IMO, he gets that one for being your brother. Also I wouldn't really mind having this superhuman brother of yours owing you a favour :v:[/QUOTE] Don't you get it ? His brother is screwing with his life.He doesn't have the right to do that damn it.

He tried to [i][b][u]MURDER[/i][/b][/u] you, he should REALLY go to jail.

[QUOTE=Kazumi;17944134]But this man clearly doesn't learn from what he does. He might considering killing someone because he know he can get away with it.[/QUOTE] this is more complicated than that