Women aren't interested in men who are interested in them. simple as that. If you really want to get a girl you have to feign disinterest, this makes them feel like they have to pursue you and justify themselves to you.
You're not old enough yet, OP, to even begin to understand the mind of a woman, and how fucked up it is. I'll spill some information early for you, maybe it will help in the near future. Girls don't like guys that suck up to them and tell them they like them right off the bat, in fact, they will go out of their way to avoid said guys. Girls like a challenge, they like mystery, they love drama, and they love their emotions being played like violins. The best way to get a girl attracted to you, in three easy steps:
1) Make sure you have done your best to make yourself look as good as possible (work out, eat right, shave, do stuff that interests you, don't be a shut-in)
2) Become the type of person that doesn't care about what other people think about them. If you completed step 1 correctly, then you shouldn't have any problems with self-esteem or confidence, cause you feel good about yourself and who you are. Girls like this very, very much.
3) Once you are a confident, in-shape guy with good sense of humor and attitude, the next step is easy: approach and/or start conversations with women that you find attractive, or find pretty. You can ask about anything, as long as it is not weird as shit, and they will respond positively 95% of the time. It helps if you tease them, flirt with them, let them know you are attracted to them without saying it out loud. Get their number as soon as possible, which should be easy now that you know a bit more about them.
If step 3 doesn't work with that particular girl at that particular time, move on to another, and do not let it affect your self-esteem, it is not a big deal AT ALL. Some girls have a lot of emotional baggage and some are just fucking bonkers, it's up to you to find the hot, emotionally stable ones, and then fuck them senseless.
Let this be a warning to you though: while it is guaranteed that you will start attracting members of the opposite sex if you follow those three steps, your life will become much more complicated now that a girl is in it. This is unavoidable, and the best of luck to you in trying to wade through the bog that is a woman's mind, and find love.
P.S. Also, NEVER EVER tell a girl you "love her" or "have feelings for her" before she tells you first. This will put her off, depending on how long you've been seeing each other, and you will be friend-zoned asap. Don't say I didn't warn you.
(This is how I fucked up big time with this chick I really like, I freaked her out by telling her I loved her at the fucking 3 week mark, and she backed off. I slapped myself repeatedly for being a dolt, and now I have to talk to her later today about my feelings because I was an insecure little bitch about it. /rant)
try actually treating girls like people rather than a trophy
Thread is irrelevant to me, most girls my age are dumbfucks. That's why I'm dating someone almost 3 years older than me. :smug:
[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17661214]You're not old enough yet, OP, to even begin to understand the mind of a woman, and how fucked up it is. I'll spill some information early for you, maybe it will help in the near future. Girls don't like guys that suck up to them and tell them they like them right off the bat, in fact, they will go out of their way to avoid said guys. Girls like a challenge, they like mystery, they love drama, and they love their emotions being played like violins. The best way to get a girl attracted to you, in three easy steps:
1) Make sure you have done your best to make yourself look as good as possible (work out, eat right, shave, do stuff that interests you, don't be a shut-in)
2) Become the type of person that doesn't care about what other people think about them. If you completed step 1 correctly, then you shouldn't have any problems with self-esteem or confidence, cause you feel good about yourself and who you are. Girls like this very, very much.
3) Once you are a confident, in-shape guy with good sense of humor and attitude, the next step is easy: approach and/or start conversations with women that you find attractive, or find pretty. You can ask about anything, as long as it is not weird as shit, and they will respond positively 95% of the time. It helps if you tease them, flirt with them, let them know you are attracted to them without saying it out loud. Get their number as soon as possible, which should be easy now that you know a bit more about them.
If step 3 doesn't work with that particular girl at that particular time, move on to another, and do not let it affect your self-esteem, it is not a big deal AT ALL. Some girls have a lot of emotional baggage and some are just fucking bonkers, it's up to you to find the hot, emotionally stable ones, and then fuck them senseless.
Let this be a warning to you though: while it is guaranteed that you will start attracting members of the opposite sex if you follow those three steps, your life will become much more complicated now that a girl is in it. This is unavoidable, and the best of luck to you in trying to wade through the bog that is a woman's mind, and find love.
P.S. Also, NEVER EVER tell a girl you "love her" or "have feelings for her" before she tells you first. This will put her off, depending on how long you've been seeing each other, and you will be friend-zoned asap. Don't say I didn't warn you.
(This is how I fucked up big time with this chick I really like, I freaked her out by telling her I loved her at the fucking 3 week mark, and she backed off. I slapped myself repeatedly for being a dolt, and now I have to talk to her later today about my feelings because I was an insecure little bitch about it. /rant)[/QUOTE]
Basically you're telling him how to get laid rather than how to get a relationship which is the actual topic here.
Also not all girls are the same. Some prefer it your way, other preferes it straightforward.
And your type of person lies to himself. You're working hard to look good and act good, but "I don't care what others think of me, I just do what I feel like doing". A downright lie right there.
I don't know what makes people think that girls have some gameplan when it comes to men. They're no doubt just as clueless when it comes to attracting people as we are.
And I fucking hate this 'friendzone' bullshit. That's just some shit excuse people use to make themselves feel better about being too insecure to ask a girl out.
[QUOTE=Robbobin;17663296]And I fucking hate this 'friendzone' bullshit. That's just some shit excuse people use to make themselves feel better about being too insecure to ask a girl out.[/QUOTE]
Yupp. It's a place where one lies to oneselves uttering the excuse; "I'm fine like this" because one doesn't want to get hurt by being rejected and have an awkward friend relationship (or no relationship at all) with the person afterwards.
It's a pretty easy excuse to fall into.
[QUOTE=dgg;17663208]Basically you're telling him how to get laid rather than how to get a relationship which is the actual topic here.
Also not all girls are the same. Some prefer it your way, other preferes it straightforward.
And your type of person lies to himself. You're working hard to look good and act good, but "I don't care what others think of me, I just do what I feel like doing". A downright lie right there.[/QUOTE]
No no no, man, you've got it all wrong. This is the most general way to attract girls, and can be applied to everyone. I know there are plenty of guys out there that have gotten into many a relationship without following guidelines at all, but what they have in common is that that they don't have self-esteem or confidence issues. These steps merely help people get out of that rut and feel good about themselves, then things start falling into place. If you're they type of person that blames girls for ignoring you or hate them because they've only done bad to you, then you need to take a step back and look at your situation. That's all I'm saying.
And how the hell am I implying that you should do change yourself just to get laid? I never said that, and I don't believe in that; relationships are the way to go, meaningless sex with strangers is just for temporary pleasure. Also, everyone should stop giving two shits about what everybody else thinks, because it simply doesn't matter; it should be the norm. If you have to lie to yourself to believe this, then you have other problems. You're not lying to yourself at all, you're improving yourself and your self-image for the good. It's not about a charade, it's making yourself a better person.
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[QUOTE=Robbobin;17663296]And I fucking hate this 'friendzone' bullshit. That's just some shit excuse people use to make themselves feel better about being too insecure to ask a girl out.[/QUOTE]
I hope you weren't referring to me when you said that, because I made it clear to this girl that I wanted to date her long before she freaked out. I took a chance, and I got rejected, and it did hurt.
I asked a girl on a date to the movies "just as friends" and we made out for 2 hours in the theatre.
Ahh, good memories. :smug:
[QUOTE=Bredirish123;17660238]Girls know what we want, we have to work for what we want.[/QUOTE]
this
Pffft girls are so last season.
Guys are where it's at.
[QUOTE=rieda1589;17661004][img]http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/creepy.png[/img][/QUOTE]
This pretty much explains it.
[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17663551]No no no, man, you've got it all wrong. This is the most general way to attract girls, and can be applied to everyone. I know there are plenty of guys out there that have gotten into many a relationship without following guidelines at all, but what they have in common is that that they don't have self-esteem or confidence issues. These steps merely help people get out of that rut and feel good about themselves, then things start falling into place. If you're they type of person that blames girls for ignoring you or hate them because they've only done bad to you, then you need to take a step back and look at your situation. That's all I'm saying.
And how the hell am I implying that you should do change yourself just to get laid? I never said that, and I don't believe in that; relationships are the way to go, meaningless sex with strangers is just for temporary pleasure. Also, everyone should stop giving two shits about what everybody else thinks, because it simply doesn't matter; it should be the norm. If you have to lie to yourself to believe this, then you have other problems. You're not lying to yourself at all, you're improving yourself and your self-image for the good. It's not about a charade, it's making yourself a better person.[/QUOTE]
That makes more sense. But the way you talked about fucking them senseless, find the hot stable girl, get their phone numbers, talk to everyone you find and shit makes it sound more like "you can now go grab every slut out there because you're such a handsome stud" rather than "You now have an improved image of yourself thanks to working out and eating healthy, you now have a better chance of getting the girl in your dreams".
I completely and fully agree.
[QUOTE=xZippy;17663684]This pretty much explains it.[/QUOTE]
Yepp, we're (girl and boys, you and me) all pussies going around worrying ourselves of everything that could go wrong rather than just do it and think of what could go right.
[QUOTE=dgg;17663711]Yepp, we're (girl and boys, you and me) all pussies going around worrying ourselves of everything that could go wrong rather than just do it and think of what could go right.[/QUOTE]
True, but in some cases, things can go horribly wrong. "Oh my god, that Ken kid asked me out, that kid is so creepy." Then, the days after that, all the girls in that school label you as creepy.
[QUOTE=gamefreek76;17659871]Girls definitely don't ignore guys they like, they just aren't as upfront about it as guys are. They have subtle signals.
For example, they will be staring at you and when you look at them they quickly turn their head or look away.
When you're around them they touch themselves (not sexually, but like rub their arms or fix their clothes or lick their lips).
You just have to pick up small signals like these. You're the man, swallow your pride and ask her out.[/QUOTE]
What does it mean if they whip down their pants and start fingering themselves when they see you then?
:quagmire:
[QUOTE=xZippy;17663852]True, but in some cases, things can go horribly wrong. "Oh my god, that Ken kid asked me out, that kid is so creepy." Then, the days after that, all the girls in that school label you as creepy.[/QUOTE]
Yes they can. But then again, would you really want to date and hang out with a girl who would spread rumors and talk behind your back like that anyway?
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[QUOTE=dookster;17663962]What does it mean if they whip down their pants and start fingering themselves when they see you then?
:quagmire:[/QUOTE]
It means you've become a naked Brad Pitt.
[QUOTE=Fridgetor;17659774]This isn't in love advice, because I don't need love advice.
Why do girls ignore guys? Seriously. If I wanted to get a girl, I'd make sure that she knows that I liked her, and then go after her. If that doesn't workout, then I'll just find another and repeat the process. With some girls, they just ignore the guys that they like, thinking that it will get them.
This makes no sense to me, why wouldn't you just go out and be nice, instead of pretending they're not even there?[/QUOTE]
They are bitches?
What I like to do is act like I don't care.
Then they ask me why I'm ignoring them.
It's better that way.
[QUOTE=xZippy;17663852]True, but in some cases, things can go horribly wrong. "Oh my god, that Ken kid asked me out, that kid is so creepy." Then, the days after that, all the girls in that school label you as creepy.[/QUOTE]
Or just the girls that associate themselves with said girl.
[QUOTE=Doriol;17662541]try actually treating girls like people rather than a trophy[/QUOTE]
whoever rated me disagree is a nerd
[QUOTE=Doriol;17664016]whoever rated me disagree is a nerd[/QUOTE]
How about treating women like the dogs they are....
Most of the ones I know these days are bitches and watch MTV like a pedo with new CP.
There was one who was half normal... then I found out she was a radical feminist.
I won't treat a women with respect until I meet one who will do the same to me.
[QUOTE=rieda1589;17661004][img]http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/creepy.png[/img]
Seemed Relevant.[/QUOTE]
The retarded part is that's probably what she'd do.
Another thing that I really hate, is how most girls aren't really unique. They're all a kind of blend of liking miley cyrus, and eating dick.
[QUOTE=Fridgetor;17664108]Another thing that I really hate, is how most girls aren't really unique. They're all a kind of blend of liking miley cyrus, and eating dick.[/QUOTE]
do you happen to be in high school
because all high school girls fit into a category like that
[QUOTE=Fridgetor;17664108]Another thing that I really hate, is how most girls aren't really unique. They're all a kind of blend of liking miley cyrus, and eating dick.[/QUOTE]
You're digging yourself a deeper pit, boi'.
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