[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17682106]Don't think about it that way. Always be optimistic about meeting girls and dating, it helps a lot.[/QUOTE]
You know what? I think I'll do just that. I'll be optimistic! :3
DGG, after reading through this from page one its nice to see some people using the internet still have common sense.
Anywho, alot of scenarios can be put into your own perspective.
1. girls like bad guys, or guys that pay no attention to them. Ok, well if you see a fantastic looking girl who never pays any attention to you your going to think wow if only i could be with THAT. If a girl sees YOU and finds you attractive yet notices that you spend your time doing things you like instead of trying to pick her and her freinds up shes going to become interested.
2.Its really not that hard to see who may be interested and who isnt. A girl that wants to hold a conversation with you may be interested. A girl that is trying to find every excuse to not talk to you well you guys can follow. Anyways in noticing those small things, you pretty much have the fish on the hook, wether you pull to hard and it falls off or you dont pull hard enough is were it gets tricky.
im not following with the 1. 2. thing anymore im just typing,
Play it steady, never act TOO interested, add nice comments sparingly, thus the girl will give you more and more attention trying to get you to say these nice things rather than you just doing it anyways.
Once the stupid game of pickup/getting a girl is over then what happens in the relationship is between you two.
This probably is all common sense but think about how would I act in her shoes, alot of things girls do is fucking ridiculous and we will never understand but we are both human, we both share a similar set of emotions.
[QUOTE=CombineGuru;17659800]Wow thats rape thats not nice[/QUOTE]
Its not rape if at some point they [I]like it.[/I]
Playing hard to get.
This thread already made my day :D
[QUOTE=RichyZ;17683434]homies over hos
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_fzuXQF_wIU[/media]
wow that was optimistic[/QUOTE]
Am I the only white person who loves that show?
[QUOTE=bobste;17659877]girls r dum[/QUOTE]
ur gauy
[QUOTE=bobste;17659877]girls r dum[/QUOTE]
girls arnt dumb guys are
[QUOTE=awesome dude;17691885]girls arnt dumb guys are[/QUOTE]
I'm not dumb!!!!
[QUOTE=Fridgetor;17659774]This isn't in love advice, because I don't need love advice.
Why do girls ignore guys? Seriously. If I wanted to get a girl, I'd make sure that she knows that I liked her, and then go after her. If that doesn't workout, then I'll just find another and repeat the process. With some girls, they just ignore the guys that they like, thinking that it will get them.
This makes no sense to me, why wouldn't you just go out and be nice, instead of pretending they're not even there?[/QUOTE]
Solution [URL=http://www.facepunch.com/forumdisplay.php?f=227]here[/url]
[QUOTE=rieda1589;17661004][img]http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/creepy.png[/img]
Seemed Relevant.[/QUOTE]
Unless you're an uggo.
[QUOTE=HeyMate;17689995]ur gauy[/QUOTE]
ur a girl
[QUOTE=rieda1589;17661004][img]http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/creepy.png[/img]
Seemed Relevant.[/QUOTE]
Wow. That's so true.
[QUOTE=articpenguin;17694157]Wow. That's so true.[/QUOTE]
That's tsundere and tsundere is cute. <3
I'll have to check it out. Made me laugh.
[QUOTE=Jacq O'line;17694162]That's tsundere and tsundere is cute. <3[/QUOTE]
No it isn't, because it's just his thoughts. She didn't do it thus she can't be a person that picks on you and says she hates you whilst in reality likes you. At least not something you can get from that comic strip.
[QUOTE=articpenguin;17694157]Wow. That's so true.[/QUOTE]
To be honest that sums it up. I've had quite a few lately look at me, when i catch their eye they quickly look away. Really, just make sure you have friends in allsorts of places. In my film class, a mate of mine who's a year above me in college told me these two girls i know fancied me, they were sat in the row in front and didn't seem to deny. I thought that was a joke. Then when I went to collect my camera after he was near and said he was serious about what they were saying.
Different girls act differently, some shy and some who really want to get their feelings out.
[QUOTE=The Bees Knees;17689254]Am I the only white person who loves that show?[/QUOTE]
No. No. You totally are not. I fucking LOVE The Boondocks.
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[QUOTE=dgg;17695362]No it isn't, because it's just his thoughts. She didn't do it thus she can't be a person that picks on you and says she hates you whilst in reality likes you. At least not something you can get from that comic strip.[/QUOTE]
Meh, granted, but I think you're analyzing stuff too seriously. It's just a comic!
[QUOTE=rieda1589;17661004][img]http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/creepy.png[/img]
Seemed Relevant.[/QUOTE]
Lol, something similiar happened to me in school 3 years ago. But when we finally told each other we liked each other, he moved away :v:
Yeah :(
I've found that many girls like a guy who is a little aggressive and confident. You're a guy. You're the one with more testosterone. You are physically predisposed to take risks and make advances, and women like this. If you are making advances, and the woman does not respond in a positive manner, then she is not interested. Plain and simple. This doesn't mean she doesn't like you, it just means that she is not sexually into you, and you are hopeless to attempt to change that. Women are far more complex creatures than men, and I've learned not to take matters of romance so seriously. Don't let denial get you down. Pick yourself up and try with someone else, and eventually you'll hit with someone who is into you too.
[QUOTE=Jacq O'line;17695596]Meh, granted, but I think you're analyzing stuff too seriously. It's just a comic![/QUOTE]
I always overanalyze stuff. And no, it's not just a comic. Or well it is. But comics are just another form of medium to express onselves and get a point out to the readers. Just like poems, books, movies, and every other medium really.
That strip there contains over 20% of the statements in this thread.
[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17681600]Like it or not, girls below a certain age, I'm thinking around 25 (I don't know, I haven't dated any 20 somethings yet) do classify you as a date-worthy guy (someone whom they might be attracted to), a soon-to-be friend, or an acquaintance (and nothing more). You may not believe me, but it is true. Sure girls change their minds over time, but they always have that initial first-impression of you. That's why first-impressions are so important.[/QUOTE]
And boys do not do this? I mean, I haven't heard of anyone not classifiying the girls they know. This is all done automatically, you don't think over it. You just think to yourself "She's too ugly" or "I don't really want to talk to her" and badam. You got a friend and an acquaintance. Then "I really enjoy talking to her" is a date-worthy-girl, most of the times at least. But you know. Things can change and it's not all that matters.
Just trying to say we ain't different there, and I doubt neither of us actually thinks about it.
[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17681600]Anyway, my point is that the friend-zone does indeed exist. If you do not believe this, you are in denial. Now, not to be confused with just being good friends with a girl from the start, the friend-zone is where you end up if you have expressed your feelings for the girl in question, and she likes you, but not in that special way. Basically, she is not [i]attracted[/i] to you. This is when the guy feels rejected and hopefully moves on, but it is not easy, and it hurts knowing they will never like you as more than a friend. The girl would rather find some self-confident cocky, funny guy who will treat her in the dominating way that girls subconsciously like to be treated.[/QUOTE]
Obviously there is a friend zone. She likes you and wants to be your friend. But she can't see you as the person she'd tolerate being with all the time. It's NOT about the looks, though they can do the impression, so if you've never spent any actual time with her, then you need to do so before confessing or start doing so afterwards if you can manage to do so. Reasons are all from your hobbies being just bizarre for her. You don't share her kind of humor (you're not funny to her). You smell like shit all the time. You're too spontaenous. You're not spontaneous enough. You can't manage to just relax and enjoy the silence. BLABLABLA, the list is long. You're just not her type is usually how it is, and no, it's not worth it to try and adapt to her because that is actually a bit creepy, not comfortable at all, and it's not [I]you[/I]. It's like doing a godmode cheat on a game, it's only fun for a while and it doesn't prove anything.
[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17681600]Now, this does not apply to all girls at all. But it IS universal for all the hot ones, 98% of them. This is because they are so used to being treated nicely and called pretty that it doesn't mean anything to them anymore. Instead, they find guys who tease them, flirt with them, and ignore them because they there is mystery, drama, and excitement (for them) in the chase. It is a challenge, basically. Girls like a challenge.[/QUOTE]
Well as I said earlier. Those 98% hot chicks that are out for the cock. They ARE NOT THAT MANY. They just stand out a lot more. They are everywhere because they make a lot more noise, love to show off more, say a lot of stupid shit that causes attention and rumors, they fucking love parties and go to almost all of them, they love to get wasted and remember jack shit and thus will often be talked about by the ones who are sane and drink enough to have fun and enough to not screw up the whole fucking night.
They simply show off more making them seem to be in a larger quantity than they are.
The actual majority of girls (and boys) are normal, they aren't very different from you other than their hobbies and political and religional stances.
Stop becoming the old complaining about how shit the youth is when it's only a small fraction of them that fuck shit up for the rest.
[QUOTE=PiPBoyV3;17681600]So my bros, what's the best thing to do? Find a smart, funny girl who is naturally beautiful (i.e. doesn't need makeup to look good) and attempt to date her. That's the best you can hope for, in a girl. The "hot" ones usually have bitchy personalities and can easily leave you for another guy if you stop being a challenge, or just can't please them in bed, because that's really all they care about, until they've reached a certain age, then and only then do they start dating "nice" guys.[/QUOTE]
Find a girl you like, don't care about the looks (this of course has a limit, but as long as a girl isn't butt ugly you should give her a chance), find someone you enjoy being with and talk with. Someone you think has interesting things to talk about. Not just, how the weather is and how much she likes/hate school, but stuff that isn't purely chit chat bullshit.
[QUOTE=dudder;17680077]Apparently most girls I know think I would be hot, if it weren't for my long hair. I like my hair long, but I'm probably just going to end up cutting it at some point in the future.[/QUOTE]
All girls are different, but don't count your long hair out as a girl-deterrent. I don't know what your hair looks like, but most of the girls that I've dated admitted to thinking my hair looked cuter when it was long, including my current gf. It is shorter now because I was annoyed with it, but I do kinda regret cutting it now.
[QUOTE=sup n1ck;17686225]DGG, after reading through this from page one its nice to see some people using the internet still have common sense.
Anywho, alot of scenarios can be put into your own perspective.
1. girls like bad guys, or guys that pay no attention to them. Ok, well if you see a fantastic looking girl who never pays any attention to you your going to think wow if only i could be with THAT. If a girl sees YOU and finds you attractive yet notices that you spend your time doing things you like instead of trying to pick her and her freinds up shes going to become interested.
2.Its really not that hard to see who may be interested and who isnt. A girl that wants to hold a conversation with you may be interested. A girl that is trying to find every excuse to not talk to you well you guys can follow. Anyways in noticing those small things, you pretty much have the fish on the hook, wether you pull to hard and it falls off or you dont pull hard enough is were it gets tricky.
im not following with the 1. 2. thing anymore im just typing,
3. Play it steady, never act TOO interested, add nice comments sparingly, thus the girl will give you more and more attention trying to get you to say these nice things rather than you just doing it anyways.
Once the stupid game of pickup/getting a girl is over then what happens in the relationship is between you two.
This probably is all common sense but think about how would I act in her shoes, alot of things girls do is fucking ridiculous and we will never understand but we are both human, we both share a similar set of emotions.[/QUOTE]
Why thank you. I donate a heart to you, probably a heart from a very kind man or woman.
1. Well yeah, if she is attracted to you. Quite the special keyword there. And it just means they are taking the first step because you aren't, but I wouldn't call that a very good way of finding a girl. You shouldn't expect a girl to come to you, that's just wishful thinking unless it has happened many times before. You should always take the step first (this goes for both sexes of course, I hate this whole bullshit about males being the ones that are supposed to take the lead, not saying the opposite doesn't happen but girls expect to be asked out, not to ask.).
2. That's small things? No, that's big obvious things. If someone ignores you all the time you need to be quite stupid not to get the hint. And if someone likes to spend a lot of time talking with you she is obviously interested in you (she wants to know more about you, but it doesn't necessarily mean she wants to be with you. As I've experienced that myself :buddy:).
Small things are things you can't really be sure if it's just a coincidence or not. Turning around when looking at her (I mean, I do this towards other because it's uncomfortable to stare at someone, and man, what are they going to think? Especially if I DON'T LIKE HER <-- Very important factor here, it can happen for both opposite reasons). Being a bit busy or clumsy when you enter into a place she is. generally stuff you can't really take as a hint because that's just overanalyzing shit and is not what you should do. You should rather try to talk to people and get to know them instead of trying to see if someone likes you.
3. Yeah, hard point there. Finding a balance in how you should act. It's a big problem because you can't focus on it, because then you will worry about everything you do which will make it unnatural and cause what you want not to happen.
Biggest tip right there is to try and just be yourself, but try to be a little bit nicer than usual.
Also, I just discovered this guy:
[url=http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove]Dan Savage[/url]
This gay guy is awesome with the sex and relationship advice. I could have used this long ago.
[QUOTE=Bredirish123;17660238]Girls know what we want, we have to work for what we want.[/QUOTE]
There are plenty of girls that aren't like this. I think just ignoring the girls that ignore guys is the best solution.
[QUOTE=yellowoboe;17664432]Doesn't work.[/QUOTE]
works for me :smile:
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