How i went from the happiest guy on earth to a waster with a criminal record. - General

Don't kill yourself. Quit drinking so much, quit smoking weed. Those won't help, they'll only make things worse. Look on the bright side, once she moves out of her parent's house, everything will be perfect again and you can keep meeting. [editline]1st February 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Shortyish;27540061]i read it its pretty stupid how you called the mom a "selfless cunt" but thats just me, but other than that, you deserved that girl, and i hope things work out, even though her parents hate you[/QUOTE] That girl deserved him.

I thought this girl would turn out to be a 13 year old emo boy who was confused about his sexuality.

Lol crash and burn.

Be a man. Men hide their feelings, men don't cry, men don't pout. Walk up to their door and give her parents a piece of your mind. Tell them how you don't appreciate the mom spreading lies, tell them how you feel, and that they should deal with it.

Sue the parents for "emotional distress" and such. Take every penny from those fuckers. [editline]2nd February 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Uberman77883;27799425]Be a man. Men hide their feelings, men don't cry, men don't pout. Walk up to their door and give her parents a piece of your mind. Tell them how you don't appreciate the mom spreading lies, tell them how you feel, and that they should deal with it.[/QUOTE] I would knock on the door, have a nice chat with the dad and then ask for the mother. Have a nice cup of tea and explain what happened and apologize. Once their guard is down, headbutt the ugly cunt. [editline]2nd February 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=kinki-bunni;27594845]She just wrote to me on msn.. wow guys.. if you would like i will send it you but its just confused me. she claims i have changed and i scare her. i haven't changed. im still the Jack she fell in love with. im just trying to grow my shell back and not be vulnerable. i know it sounds silly but even if she was telling me all that, it was so nice hearing from her. its been so long.[/QUOTE] That's not the real Amy either. That's her mother being an authoritative cunt using her daughter against you.

[QUOTE=Uberman77883;27799425]Be a man. Men hide their feelings, men don't cry, men don't pout. Walk up to their door and give her parents a piece of your mind. Tell them how you don't appreciate the mom spreading lies, tell them how you feel, and that they should deal with it.[/QUOTE] Most useful advice on this page tbh. And yeah if you can stop drugs and drinking in a heartbeat do it.

[QUOTE=Extroll;27808023]Sue the parents for "emotional distress" and such. Take every penny from those fuckers. [editline]2nd February 2011[/editline] I would knock on the door, have a nice chat with the dad and then ask for the mother. Have a nice cup of tea and explain what happened and apologize. Once their guard is down, headbutt the ugly cunt. [editline]2nd February 2011[/editline] That's not the real Amy either. That's her mother being an authoritative cunt using her daughter against you.[/QUOTE] Are you 12.

Amy's mom sounds like a dickhead

Parents can be really harsh, I had trouble with my ex's parents who decided they hated me and wanted him to break up with me by email and sever all ties with me. They were horrible to the point where they mocked me for being upset when my childhood pet died while I was visiting them, they laughed at me, they bitched about me constantly behind my back and let his sister call me a slut. We were both over 18 but he was totally under his parents' control financially and was too scared to break out and make his own money for some freedom. They kept making threats to sever all ties between us and I lived panicking every time he had to go to his parents' for the holidays because I was never really sure that he'd come back. The thing is, I ended up leaving that relationship. I realised that I wasn't happy being afraid of them threatening me, I was sick of his cowardly attitude towards standing up to them and I didn't want a life dictated by them via my ex. OP, if this girl is genuinely giving her all to try and make it work with you then I wish you both the best of luck. When you are both 18 her parents legally can't do anything, and if she finds a job then money can't be used against her. It would be good for her to have that independance to date who she wants and live life how she wants without them meddling, even if you two didn't work out for some reason. However if she seems hesitant or reluctant then do yourself a favour and get out now. You really don't want a relationship that is shadowed by fears of them cutting you both off from eachother. You don't want to have to deal with them saying horrible things about you, killing your self esteem and making you feel like shit. Don't be a pussy and let people treat you like dirt, I wish I'd realised that sooner.

OP is your second name Giblin?

Escape to America, begin a part time job and then live the American Dream.

Well, her mother is a bitch. [editline]2nd February 2011[/editline] [QUOTE=Bredirish123;27816711]Escape to America, begin a part time job and then live the American Dream.[/QUOTE] ... Just stop.

Send the parents some flowers or something with a really heartfelt thank you note attached. Be as genuine as possible. Even if her mom pisses you off, stay strong. Be the big guy in the equation. It sounds like her mom is trying to get a rise out of you on purpose, think of it like a test. Don't give in to it no matter what. It may not be to late to try and get her back, considering you both have feelings for each other still. Also, show her this thread. I think it'll make her want you even more.

You want to kill your self over a girl, wow.

wow didn't know this got bumped. not really much to report, but my friend is learning to drive and said when he passes we are going to go down together, and he will let me talk face to face with her parents and her about the whole situation. i will feel safer going up with a friend.

[QUOTE=proch;27817366]Well, her mother is a bitch. [editline]2nd February 2011[/editline] ... Just stop.[/QUOTE] How about... No?

[QUOTE=fredstin22;27831852]Safe from what? If they try to attack you you can report them for assault etc etc.[/QUOTE] Its not just that, its the fact that il feel alot more intimidated if i was on my own no where near my house and knowing everyone in the area hates me. if im with a friend i would be alot more confident.

PM me i will come with you ;)

[QUOTE=Bredirish123;27825165]How about... No?[/QUOTE] Well, if you can't help yourself for being a shitposter... Looking at your last 100 posts, you can't.

Even though Maverick's point comes across really harsh - he couldn't be more right. It's good to have someone and be happy - and it's definitely normal to feel sad like you do - but it's not healthy to base all your hopes and dreams in one person. Especially at your age. Even if the parents hadn't gotten in the way, it's extremely unlikely you guys would have been "together forever". The first thing you need to do is realize that you have your entire life ahead of you - and there are millions of girls out there, many who you'll have even stronger feelings for and who won't put you through the drama you've been through here. Then, you need to realize that it's not a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket, so to speak. She wasn't going to be the girl you ended up forever with. And probably neither will the next one, or the one after that. I have been in a situation very similar to you - only the girl's parents cut all contact as a way to punish her for something she did - They actually liked me. I thought it was the end of the world at the time (I was a lot younger) but I moved on and have dated many girls since, many who I've had even better times with. Point is, nobody expects you to feel great right now - But if you accept that you DO have a future that is filled with happiness, even greater than what you may have felt with Amy, you'll be able to start moving on. And remember - The only person right now who can make you happy is you, not someone else. This is definitely a lot tougher than the average break-up but you WILL get past it. Heck, whenever you're ready to hop back on the horse and meet someone new, you should try OKcupid or something. You already met one girl online so I could see it working for you. If you ever need anybody to talk to I'm criminalpanda on steam or Clayfang on AIM. Or you can PM me. It might not seem like it - but you're gonna be alright buddy, I promise.

wow guys.. i just got sacked from my job.. now i actually have nothing to my name.i dont know how the fuck im going to pay for my phone contract now.. looks like its off to the job centre again, brill! [editline]7th February 2011[/editline] Thanks milktoast, that was really meaningful. i think im starting to picture the future without her now, i keep telling myself in my head "shes just a girl". there are many many other girls out there, and if im lucky i will meet one who is like amy, only with less psycho parents. but i stick to what i said, im still going down there to get things sorted face to face, i dont want to get rid of all hope yet.

If you're under 18 its cool your criminal record will be removed and don't go down and see her parents man. Some things are just meant to be and by not accepting that you can cause yourself more harm than originally.

[QUOTE=Gareth;27918494]If you're under 18 its cool your criminal record will be removed and don't go down and see her parents man. Some things are just meant to be and by not accepting that you can cause yourself more harm than originally.[/QUOTE] i want to hear her say its over, not her parents.

Kinki, can I have the link to the FP Meet up video? Really hope you get through this, dude.

Its in this thread somewhere in the first pages i think. and thanks man, means alot :)

Maaan your life sucks. I feel sorry for you. But nothing helps with this stuff. I usually stick on some soppy love songs that I would be embarrassed to listen to in public and let them sing how I'm feeling. [media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZybfm4CXos[/media] Cheery songs just make you feel worse.

I know where your coming from, ive been listening to Jamie T a hell of a lot recently, i can really relate to his lyrics and how he sings them. music is playing a big part in this, i dont know where i would be without it, i cant bring myself to listen to that song all the way through though.

I'll just make one comment... Passive resistence and anger management. I don't know how you are doing with anger these days then consider peoples anger from their perspective, and usually you'll find it at least semi-logical at the very least(a mother frightened or her child-a legitatmet instinct, although she acted upon it poorly). And her father, you screamed at his wife who had been warning everybody about how you are an alleged monster. His anger at you, too, is founded upon logic that can be appreciated. You have two parents terribly worried for their daughter. Hate them for it and you get yourself. god. damn. nowhere. Prevent yourself from hating people in the first place and you'll find you only become angry when its appropraite to(unless its a really bad day... Watch yourself then) Understand the worry of parents, turn that on them. If you understand them, you understand what they want/expect to happen and what they expect you to be, avoid any hint of what this is or showing any of it in you. Also, if you accidentally start a fight... Then it'll be a good day to learn to take a punch, because if you don't fight back it will be the biggest blow to their argument and worry you could ever make. Ok, wow meant for that to be like two sentences long. Woops. Screw it I keep thinking of more. Anyways I used to have anger management troubles too, and I found that a few things help: 1. Have something to be proud of that you consider legit, I find when I'm most angry and depressed is when I'm subconsciously putting things like games or bullshit as one of my top things to be proud of. To me, it looks like Amy proved to you that you were somebody who deserved some pride, some love, and I suppose that calmed you down. No use for lashing out to prove yourself when you already feel good and loved.(IDK if you've heard this one before, but it basically means that if you're angry than it might mean you just don't like yourself in some way, when it happens to me it disapears when I set off on a self-improvement project) 2. Already said it, understand it from their perspective. Helps a lot when you can say under the same circumstances you would've done the same 3. Consider things long term, sometimes we get angry to accomplish a goal, when really it would've been much better to stay calm I don't know you. I don't know Amy. I don't know her parents. I don't know what the situation is like, but I do know anger, I do know emotions and I know how to deal with them. Keep a close eye on your emotions, I find that the common relation fo anger to fire is apt. No one ever responds to "OH SHIT ITS A FIRE" with "Just let it vent" People respond to it with "How?!" then try to find out and mitigate the damage. The simple release of anger never helps, but rather asking youself why you are angry and dealing with it acordingly really helps. Again, sorry for the essay(and I know I can be confusing at times when trying to convey things like this), but psycology and problems like... well [I]this[/I] are not easily summed up and delt with. Just know when the rush of angry hormones start pumping and check yourself, you should be fine :) And ps, do understand what most parents think of young love... Not saying you guys are really in love or not, but just emphasizing- understand Amy's parents' worry is not entirely unfounded.

If its been said once, it bears repeating- If you truly care about Amy then you will not give up. If you love her like you say you do then you will not kill yourself. If Amy was able to stand up to her mother and father, stay true to your love, and get thrown out of her own home for loving you, it shows she still loves you and do not insult your memories together by giving up on her. So you lost your job, that's nothing you can't overcome. If you fall on your face you are still moving forward. The world might be against you but it only takes one man to change the world so get off your ass and do it. Between you and Amy's parents it reminds me of the age old question of what happens when an unstoppable force does when it meets an immovable object. Oh my mistake. You can't meet yourself. I know you don't look up to her parents so why are you letting them look down on you? You say you have nothing. That's perfect in this situation. Nothing to lose means nothing but gain. Do you remember the last guy who gave up? Exactly. You don't. You want Amy back right? Well here's some news for you: To want to is to be able to. Impossible is just an excuse. If this didn't motivate you I don't know what the hell will

I fucking hate conservative assholes like that, so fucking close minded. Same with people that refuse to see things like Graffiti as art.