How i went from the happiest guy on earth to a waster with a criminal record. - General

What she wants =/= what's in the best interest for her. It's amazing how deep you're willing to dig that denial hole. Another demonstration of extreme infatuation/dependence, you blindly defend how you feel with bullshit rationalizations. So if she told you to leave her alone, you'd do so? Bullshit. Another thing that proves it isn't love is that you're doing what she she says she wants, not what is in the best interest for her. You bring her nothing but problems. You have retarded outbursts (calling her mom a cunt, good job) and violent friends. And you think her parent's prejudices about you aren't justified? You sure as hell didn't do anything to prove them otherwise. If you loved her, you'd realize that she deserves someone that isn't emotionally unstable like you. But you don't, so you're just going to "keep fighting" (romanticized bullshit) because you don't really care about her, you just want to be happy, regardless of what that costs her.

Thanks you just made my weekend all sad. :saddowns:

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28931698]What she wants =/= what's in the best interest for her. It's amazing how deep you're willing to dig that denial hole. Another demonstration of extreme infatuation/dependence, you blindly defend how you feel with bullshit rationalizations. So if she told you to leave her alone, you'd do so? Bullshit. Another thing that proves it isn't love is that you're doing what she she says she wants, not what is in the best interest for her. You bring her nothing but problems. You have retarded outbursts (calling her mom a cunt, good job) and violent friends. And you think her parent's prejudices about you aren't justified? You sure as hell didn't do anything to prove them otherwise. If you loved her, you'd realize that she deserves someone that isn't emotionally unstable like you. But you don't, so you're just going to "keep fighting" (romanticized bullshit) because you don't really care about her, you just want to be happy, regardless of what that costs her.[/QUOTE] Hurr, I'm going to be mature, I don't care if I'm a dick as a side effect. :downs:

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28931698]What she wants =/= what's in the best interest for her. It's amazing how deep you're willing to dig that denial hole. Another demonstration of extreme infatuation/dependence, you blindly defend how you feel with bullshit rationalizations. So if she told you to leave her alone, you'd do so? Bullshit. Another thing that proves it isn't love is that you're doing what she she says she wants, not what is in the best interest for her. You bring her nothing but problems. You have retarded outbursts (calling her mom a cunt, good job) and violent friends. And you think her parent's prejudices about you aren't justified? You sure as hell didn't do anything to prove them otherwise. If you loved her, you'd realize that she deserves someone that isn't emotionally unstable like you. But you don't, so you're just going to "keep fighting" (romanticized bullshit) because you don't really care about her, you just want to be happy, regardless of what that costs her.[/QUOTE] This is a hundread percent right, you live 100 miles away from each other and you emotionally unstable, their are plenty more fish in the see and only a fucking kid, what more would you want from this relationship? Marriage? Kids? Moving in together?

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28931698]What she wants =/= what's in the best interest for her. It's amazing how deep you're willing to dig that denial hole. Another demonstration of extreme infatuation/dependence, you blindly defend how you feel with bullshit rationalizations. So if she told you to leave her alone, you'd do so? Bullshit. Another thing that proves it isn't love is that you're doing what she she says she wants, not what is in the best interest for her. You bring her nothing but problems. You have retarded outbursts (calling her mom a cunt, good job) and violent friends. And you think her parent's prejudices about you aren't justified? You sure as hell didn't do anything to prove them otherwise. If you loved her, you'd realize that she deserves someone that isn't emotionally unstable like you. But you don't, so you're just going to "keep fighting" (romanticized bullshit) because you don't really care about her, you just want to be happy, regardless of what that costs her.[/QUOTE] im not trying to retaliate in any way. if she said leave me a lone i would but she hasn't said that. how dare you say i dont care about her. if you knew the situation properly step by step then you would understand, but you dont. look i am thinking of her, im not doing this for me, she said i make her happy and she has been head fucked ever since, self harming and shit, i cant let that carry on, if it mean me leaving or staying ide do it if it meant she would stop harming herself. this isnt all about me man, i just want her to be happy. and yeah its easy enough to say theres plenty more fish in the sea, but what if you have found the fish you can see your future with and dont see ANY other girl the same way? its different.

Yeah you're doing this all for her and being totally selfless. [quote]i know what your trying to say but i miss the memories and what we had too much. if i didn't fall in love in the first place i wouldn't feel this shitty.[/quote]Me me me me me. I miss the memories. I feel shitty. Me me me me. Of course you can't see yourself with the other fish, you haven't met them yet, dipshit. I can't see myself with a girl I haven't met yet either, your "hurr I don't see any other the girl the same way so it's meant to be durr" reasoning is borderline retarded. I just hope you know you're going to ruin this girl's life if you're successful in staying with her. If you continue to pursue her despite knowing this, you don't love her for shit. I mean, shit, look at what you've done so far. She's self-harming and everything. Cut your losses and let it go before you make her even worse, god damn, you selfish fuck.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28937015]Yeah you're doing this all for her and being totally selfless. Me me me me me. I miss the memories. I feel shitty. Me me me me. Of course you can't see yourself with the other fish, you haven't met them yet, dipshit. I can't see myself with a girl I haven't met yet either, your "hurr I don't see any other the girl the same way so it's meant to be durr" reasoning is borderline retarded. I just hope you know you're going to ruin this girl's life if you're successful in staying with her. If you continue to pursue her despite knowing this, you don't love her for shit.[/QUOTE] To enforce what he just said. There are 6.8 billion people living on earth and you (a 16 year old kid) think you've found the love of your life, guarantee if it works out how you want it to; she moves out, you get married etc. you will end up getting divorced early-mid 30s (possibly less) as these things (at your age) never last forever, because even if you feel so much for guarantee she doesn't feel the exact same way about you. Everyone has memories in a relationship, everyone misses them, this is the first of many, just stop being so psychotic and move on with your life, get on with school whatever and live with it and you will meet another person that you love the same way in a few months/years. I know this because I've been there done that, don't think your the only one and for the record I'm in a relationship now. [editline]1st April 2011[/editline] I know the story that you said about your grandparents in Ireland or something how they met when they were teens through the split country etc. and are still married today, but you can't live in the fact thats its going to be the same case as what your going through.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28937015]Yeah you're doing this all for her and being totally selfless. Me me me me me. I miss the memories. I feel shitty. Me me me me. Of course you can't see yourself with the other fish, you haven't met them yet, dipshit. I can't see myself with a girl I haven't met yet either, your "hurr I don't see any other the girl the same way so it's meant to be durr" reasoning is borderline retarded. I just hope you know you're going to ruin this girl's life if you're successful in staying with her. If you continue to pursue her despite knowing this, you don't love her for shit. I mean, shit, look at what you've done so far. She's self-harming and everything. Cut your losses and let it go before you make her even worse, god damn, you selfish fuck.[/QUOTE] its not like i intended to make her self harm or hurt her in any way. yeah, i miss the memories and i wouldnt feel this shitty if it never happened. but that single sentence doesnt make me a selfish fuck.. you need to know that every relationship is different. not all relationships crumble to shit, and i know me and her wouldnt be the way we were now if it wasnt for her parents. and if you knew the area i live you would know you wont just meet the love of your life. i dont KNOW im going to ruin her life at all, and you dont know that either. so stop acting like you do. look if you hate this thread so much stop bumping it.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28931698]What she wants =/= what's in the best interest for her. It's amazing how deep you're willing to dig that denial hole. Another demonstration of extreme infatuation/dependence, you blindly defend how you feel with bullshit rationalizations. So if she told you to leave her alone, you'd do so? Bullshit. Another thing that proves it isn't love is that you're doing what she she says she wants, not what is in the best interest for her. You bring her nothing but problems. You have retarded outbursts (calling her mom a cunt, good job) and violent friends. And you think her parent's prejudices about you aren't justified? You sure as hell didn't do anything to prove them otherwise. If you loved her, you'd realize that she deserves someone that isn't emotionally unstable like you. But you don't, so you're just going to "keep fighting" (romanticized bullshit) because you don't really care about her, you just want to be happy, regardless of what that costs her.[/QUOTE] Although I do not disagree with this, at this stage, whilst still being "lovedrunk" I doubt he could accept this at the moment. Long term however, this is how it would have to be. Unless a solution was found.

Yeah, it's apparent he's in a deep stage of denial. He's taken infatuation too far and turned it into a god damn obsession. I feel sorry for the girl.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28937456]Yeah, it's apparent he's in a deep stage of denial. He's taken infatuation too far and turned it into a god damn obsession. I feel sorry for the girl.[/QUOTE] I feel sorry for both

just tell me how im in denial? ive said, if she says leave it i will.

he just explained it to you god damn you're reading selectively

fruits of forbearance, perils of haste.

[QUOTE=kinki-bunni;28937355]its not like i intended to make her self harm or hurt her in any way. yeah, i miss the memories and i wouldnt feel this shitty if it never happened. but that single sentence doesnt make me a selfish fuck.. you need to know that every relationship is different. not all relationships crumble to shit, and i know me and her wouldnt be the way we were now if it wasnt for her parents. and if you knew the area i live you would know you wont just meet the love of your life. i dont KNOW im going to ruin her life at all, and you dont know that either. so stop acting like you do. look if you hate this thread so much stop bumping it.[/QUOTE] What is your whole area full of skanks and you met one respectable woman, fell in love with her and fucked it up?

[QUOTE=ZeroMinus;28946141]What is your whole area full of skanks and you met one respectable woman, fell in love with her and fucked it up?[/QUOTE] what?

Wow, this sucks. Why haven't you told me this on MSN?

This story made me cry....out of my penis.

[QUOTE=ZeroMinus;28946141]What is your whole area full of skanks and you met one respectable woman, fell in love with her and fucked it up?[/QUOTE] I love how he pulled the location card, as if there's absolutely no girls in his entire area (because he totally has met every girl) that aren't bitches and hos. I went to school in the fucking ghetto and fell in love with a wonderful girl there, location doesn't have shit to do with anything.

Maverick you are mean :saddowns: I hope this sorts out man! Sooner or later it will.

The truth hurts sometimes. Filling people with stupid false hope and "hurr everything will get better true love always works durr" and whatnot is nothing but detrimental to the whole situation.

Hey OP, have you heard the saying "bros before hoes"? Seems to me you needs to do 2 things, 1. don't off yourself because apparently you have friends that like you. (willing to beat some ass for you) 2. Start hooking up with random women without the emotional attachment. Hit'em and leave'em. No woman is worth taking your life for Romeo.

[QUOTE=MaverickIB;28950992]I love how he pulled the location card, as if there's absolutely no girls in his entire area (because he totally has met every girl) that aren't bitches and hos. I went to school in the fucking ghetto and fell in love with a wonderful girl there, location doesn't have shit to do with anything.[/QUOTE] the area i live in has the most STI's in the UK. the girls here a gritty, no not all of them but 95% of them are. but its like finding a needle in a haystack.

So you live in an area where everyone has STD's, people are violent and willing to hurt someone just because they upset a friend, and have outbursts where they call people's mothers cunts? And then you get all pissy when the parents don't want their daughter hanging around with someone from an area like that? Not only that, but you're willing to expose the girl to an environment like that just because you looooooove her? See where I'm getting the whole "You're going to ruin her life," thing from?

just because im from this area doesnt make me a violent person. thats what im saying her mum is stereotyping. im not going to expose her to this environment, ide hate myself. look if you want to talk about this add me on msn or something im sick of this thread getting bumped..

this is fucking ridiculous lol i feel pretty bad for the girl, if I had someone that wouldn't let shit go and keep being such a burden on my emotional health it'd be pretty shitty haha

Let it go its probably for the best