[QUOTE=pedroion;26504021]Losing someone or something you love is very painful. After a significant loss, you may experience all kinds of difficult and surprising emotions, such as shock, anger, and guilt.
Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up.
While these feelings can be frightening and overwhelming, they are normal reactions to loss. Accepting them as part of the grieving process and allowing yourself to feel what you feel is necessary for healing.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve — but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain.
You can get through it! Grief that is expressed and experienced has a potential for healing that eventually can strengthen and enrich life.
It's a quote, that's it basically
[editline]5th December 2010[/editline]
I once had a patient, she was a mom. Mid-aged, was depressed because her son suicided and she couldn't let him go.
Only thing I said: he's not here anymore, you know that?
She stopped crying, stared at me for 5 minutes in silence, and then smiled.
[I]Thanks, doctor.[/I]
:shobon:[/QUOTE]
This would be the kind of doctor I'd visit if I was completely upset and depressed.
Yeah, death sucks. I think dealing with death at a young age made me able to cope with it a bit better, but no matter what your situation there's really nothing that makes it easy. You just have to deal with it.
My grandmother died last night.
I can't wait until I kick the bucket, I'm going to be a ghost that haunts children. I'll make those little bastards sleep with a nightlight until they turn 30.
TBH, it might not make sense now, but time heals all wounds.
I know what it's like to lose someone close to you, at the end of September, my best friend which I'd known my entire life (he was also my neighbor) passed away to something i rather not say. And right now, I still get upset and shed some tears when i think of him, but it's way better then last month and the month before.
So really, just wait, think of the good memories you and your cat shared.
stop thinking about it.
Try not to think of it
[QUOTE=teh pirate;26504894]Few things can make me cry, but I get a lump in my throat just thinking about anyone I love dying. Especially my grandparents, I love them so much :crying:[/QUOTE]
Worst part is they'll probably die before anyone else you know, grandparents have a habit of doing that. :saddowns:
The depression doesn't strike me on the day of person/pet dieing, I just think of all the good times and carry on. It doesn't hit until I'm near my absolute lowest, which could be years from then. Then it doesn't effect me for days or weeks, but generally months or years.
My best friend's Dad died earlier this year from Cancer. It's been a rough year.
For some odd reason, death in the family has never effected me. I don't know why, and it simply bothers me that I've never mourned the death of a loved one.
-snip-
People find justice. I tend to not think about it. If you're a real man, you'll go confront whoever ran your cat over. At least try to get to the bottom of this.
Walked in on my best friend dead after he shoots himself, dog of 12 years is run over, dog i got to replace him develops brain damage and dies, grandma dies, aunt has terminal cancer. All happened within 3 months.
I'd also like to know how to cope with all of this
I'm just used to it.
Our family has seen so much violence in the form of office shootings, neighborhood double murder suicides, and people in the family dying, I can say I ahve been desensitized.
Call me a cold bastard but when my roommate went missing three days ago, I was more pissed about her not paying the rent and not giving back my headphones more than the fact that SHE IS DEAD.
Taking a scene from Red Dwarf...
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=shs7VQhVvxA[/media]
Just give it time. Soon it just becomes accepted and you move on.
[QUOTE=MIPS;26521088]I'm just used to it.
Our family has seen so much violence in the form of office shootings, neighborhood double murder suicides, and people in the family dying, I can say I ahve been desensitized.
Call me a cold bastard but when my roommate went missing three days ago, I was more pissed about her not paying the rent and not giving back my headphones more than the fact that SHE IS DEAD.
Taking a scene from Red Dwarf...
[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=shs7VQhVvxA[/media][/QUOTE]
Maybe you're a sociopath.
i doubt that photo in op is current can we get a current one
I don't cry during funeral because its part of life. People live and die.
Death is like the victory prize for life
How to cope death?
THEY NEED TO DO WAY INSTAIN DRIVER> WHO KILL THIER TABBYS. BECUSE THESE TABBY CANT FRIGTH BACK
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Keep the one on the right away from furries. It's asking for it.
My great grandmother, who was about to turn 98, died just a few days ago. It was a couple hours after all my immediate family visited her at the hospital. We couldn't communicate or anything, and we knew this was gonna be her last visit.
It's a lot easier to cope when you have people you need to seem brave for, women especially.
Just know that life goes on, it's a continuous process that's out of your control. What happens happens, and be thankful for what you have. :smile:
[QUOTE=Mingebox;26521250]Maybe you're a sociopath.[/QUOTE]
I think I got over that when I got a job.
laugh about it, it's the only way to get over it
I assume that death doesn't happen at all you just become something else. Just think of it as all those dead animals in the past becoming oil you aren't really dead just changed with out a thought process. You have to think of that on an atomic level of course.
[QUOTE=Ray551;26503634]You know what sucks? My grandma died 2 days before my birthday :smith:[/QUOTE]
I know this doesn't really compare, but my dog looks like she's going to have to be put down soon, and my birthday is coming up this week so I'll probably have a very sad birthday.
On topic when my last dog died, I was very sad and distraught for days but after a week or so I just tried to put it out of my mind. It was inevitable and her death was better than living in pain I guess. Fun fact, every time I've had a relationship end, a pet has died in the two months following the breakup.
I just like to think that all my pets are up there in heaven, Somewhere safe
I have lost like 7 cats before, Sad at first, but then you learn to get over it and think that they are somewhere safe
[QUOTE=B1N4RY!;26503159]At least they're animals. Try coping with a deeply loved human dying by your side[/QUOTE]
It would be the exact same for me.
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