Depression, anxiety, suicidalism and similar disorders, issues and troubles V3 - Discussion, help an - General

[QUOTE=roxter;40065985]How old are you? 14? Don't hurt yourself.[/QUOTE] Oh yeah and I won't do that. I still have enough sanity left to know not to hurt myself. But this depression is slowly pushing me towards the edge and it feels like there's nothing I can do about it. Another one. I feel too bad about my mom's bf. She keeps yelling at him for every single thing, and he's kinda a friend of mine (maybe just pretending, I don't know) and... yeah. I've mentioned it before, every time someone yells I get a minor panic attack. The most devastating part is the look he gives me when she has stopped yelling, that simple look of pushed back anger and sadness just makes me feel so uneasy.

I fucking can't take this anymore. My ex over steam almost fucking killed himself by slitting his wrists over me I don't fucking understand any of this. I just want to fucking restart everything this is too fucking crazy. I am talking to him now and he says he's in a fucking white room with cameras watching him.

Can anyone tell me what to say to someone suicidal? A friend of mine said she was and I don't know what to say at all.

You can try to convince them otherwise or just leave them alone (unless of course you think that person is seriously considering it rather than just being really depressed in the moment), sometimes I think everyone needs a little time alone. Depends on why though, and honestly sometimes you can just go ahead and do something with friends and convince that person that doing something fun might help

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40078414]I fucking can't take this anymore. My ex over steam almost fucking killed himself by slitting his wrists over me I don't fucking understand any of this. I just want to fucking restart everything this is too fucking crazy. I am talking to him now and he says he's in a fucking white room with cameras watching him.[/QUOTE] He sounds like he's just craving attention. Ignore him and sort your own shit out dude

Depression hitting me like a ton of bricks again...

[QUOTE=Spacewolf;40086412]Can anyone tell me what to say to someone suicidal? A friend of mine said she was and I don't know what to say at all.[/QUOTE] there's nothing to say to someone who is suicidal probably isn't much you can say, but there are good questions you can ask, and they aren't especially hard to think of... i mean if someone states they're suicidal they're probably in a state of mental duress. if they actually mean they're going to kill themselves or not doesn't typically doesn't change this fact. what i'd do is show the person i care, i'd ask them what's wrong and what's making them feel this way. it's also best to do this in person. also spend time with this person either way. again, irl. [QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40078414]I fucking can't take this anymore. My ex over steam almost fucking killed himself by slitting his wrists over me I don't fucking understand any of this. I just want to fucking restart everything this is too fucking crazy. I am talking to him now and he says he's in a fucking white room with cameras watching him.[/QUOTE] this however is the kind of situation where "if you really love them you need to let them go". this person seems extremely co-dependent toward you (that's a pretty bad thing) and more of you is not going to help, it's probably going to make it worse. it probably isn't the best answer to hear but as other people have said... you just gotta stop worrying about this person because there probably isn't much you can do to help.

I've been raging lately, not as in, getting pissy and stomping to my room, i got up, screamed in true rage, and destroyed some shit, and headbutted the wall a few times. All because i got sent home from work, which turned into a massive argument with my mom. I'm wondering if this has anything to do with my nootropic stack. 10mg of Noopept, one choline bitartrate tablet, and a vitamin b complex. I take it daily, but i skipped out today, i suddenly become easy to rage, and a general asshole.

[QUOTE=Spacewolf;40086412]Can anyone tell me what to say to someone suicidal? A friend of mine said she was and I don't know what to say at all.[/QUOTE] Try to not make such a big deal of it... What I mean is, try to calm her down as in saying things will be alright etc, try to not drag in "think of your family" etc. [editline]30th March 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40078414]I fucking can't take this anymore. My ex over steam almost fucking killed himself by slitting his wrists over me I don't fucking understand any of this. I just want to fucking restart everything this is too fucking crazy. I am talking to him now and he says he's in a fucking white room with cameras watching him.[/QUOTE] You can't really do much about it, he'll always feel emotional with you. A friend who he doesn't feel emotional romance for is the only one who can really help him.

[QUOTE=NeoSeeker;40089110]this however is the kind of situation where "if you really love them you need to let them go". this person seems extremely co-dependent toward you (that's a pretty bad thing) and more of you is not going to help, it's probably going to make it worse. it probably isn't the best answer to hear but as other people have said... you just gotta stop worrying about this person because there probably isn't much you can do to help.[/QUOTE] Yeah I keep gently "pushing" him away from me. I tell him that I'm not the guy of guy who is a great lover, I tell him that I'm not the best person in the world to be with, I keep telling him I'm an asshole, ect ect. [QUOTE=Don Ochs;40090565]You can't really do much about it, he'll always feel emotional with you. A friend who he doesn't feel emotional romance for is the only one who can really help him.[/QUOTE] I keep trying to help him not do stupid things. I am that friend who doesn't feel emotional romance.

I keep trying to help him not do stupid things. I am that friend who doesn't feel emotional romance.[/QUOTE] I mean who [I]he[/I] doesn't feel romantic for.

you might need to lay it down hard and straight... but then again i have no real read on the situation at all as i'm not in it in my own armchair opinion that's what i'd do though. i'm less for sentiment and more for tough love though.

you need to tell him to get help roflburger i told you to stop playing with his emotions for a reason

[QUOTE=Spacewolf;40086412]Can anyone tell me what to say to someone suicidal? A friend of mine said she was and I don't know what to say at all.[/QUOTE] Give her a hug and tell her that you're there for her (if you are), and BE there for her. Even if she's just craving attention, I would say it'd be better to waste an hour than to lose someone.

[QUOTE=Spacewolf;40086412]Can anyone tell me what to say to someone suicidal? A friend of mine said she was and I don't know what to say at all.[/QUOTE] tell her that she should call or talk to people whenever she feels suicidal and that youd be willing to do it if she needed it a lot of suicidal people can cope better when they feel they have a support network, but its also important for her to also get help if she consistently feels suicidal.

[QUOTE=thisispain;40091941]you need to tell him to get help roflburger i told you to stop playing with his emotions for a reason[/QUOTE] This is another guy and jesus fucking christ I'm not playing around with his emotions for fuck sakes. I'm trying to fucking avoid causing him to have a fucking breakdown. He's already getting help from a therapist, doesn't seem to be working for some reason.

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40092130]This is another guy and jesus fucking christ I'm not playing around with his emotions for fuck sakes. I'm trying to fucking avoid causing him to have a fucking breakdown. He's already getting help from a therapist, doesn't seem to be working for some reason.[/QUOTE] you might not be doing it on purpose but hes trying to solicit a response from you and you cant stop him from having a breakdown; you can only do your best to soften the landing. if he really is in a "white room with cameras" then it might be best to say that you cant handle the stress of this situation and you'll talk to him again when he gets better

[QUOTE=NeoSeeker;40091395]you might need to lay it down hard and straight... but then again i have no real read on the situation at all as i'm not in it in my own armchair opinion that's what i'd do though. i'm less for sentiment and more for tough love though.[/QUOTE] I'm not going to let him be in his current state. My conscious will get the better of me. About 5 hours ago, I told him that I really hate it when he says negative things about himself, then he said he's on the verge of tears because he wants to make me happy.

[QUOTE=ROFLBURGER;40092160]I'm not going to let him be in his current state. My conscious will get the better of me. About 5 hours ago, I told him that I really hate it when he says negative things about himself, then he said he's on the verge of tears because he wants to make me happy.[/QUOTE] The fact that you're giving him the attention he seeks will keep him doing it cause he'll still think there is a chance there is something between you two.

Told my depressed friend I was depressed as well. I thought it would tear down a few walls, but then he told me more about his situation and now it feels like I am just some kid who is sad because I dropped my lolipop compared to what happened and is going on with him.

[QUOTE=Confuzzed Otto;40099199]Told my depressed friend I was depressed as well. I thought it would tear down a few walls, but then he told me more about his situation and now it feels like I am just some kid who is sad because I dropped my lolipop compared to what happened and is going on with him.[/QUOTE] When somebody does that (explains why their problems are so much worse than yours), they are trying to help, but not really realizing what they are actually doing. When you go to somebody for help, you don't need to be told that your problems aren't really that bad. If you can't get real help from this person, it's ok to go to somebody else.

Okay I can't stay with my thoughts anymore. I need to keep myself distracted. Nothing to do -> Start to think about stuff -> Only depressing stuff to think about -> Feel bad -> Gradually worse and worse suicidal thoughts coming up

My mum knows about a while back when I cut. She called me weak and told me to get over depression. The girl I had a thing for and have been talking to since november now has a boyfriend, and I'm generally horrible at meeting women... One of my best friends the other day told me he doesn't like dealing with me because I drink to cope and I occasionally ask him of he wants to play a game on steam because I'm so lonely, he isn't talking to me anymore... I feel so hopeless, I was in a terrible relationship for three months that ended in early december, and it was a horrible mistake that ruined my reputation with everyone I know. Now I can't find anyone, I only have one close friend who is losing respect for me because of my drinking and drug use and my other two friends only seem to want to come around for drugs. At school the social worker I've been talking to since January recently learned that they slashed the budget for the school so no longer has a job now, and some other woman I don't know is going to come into the school two days a week and talk to me. There is a girl I see around the school that also talks to the social worker, I really want to approach her but I don't know how and I don't know if I have the confidence to :( I'm falling into the 'at risk' category and I dont know what to do.

Just some personal advice because I (and most likely most of the people here) can relate to some of that Some things that help me feel a little more confident, I usually try to avoid thinking that I NEED to be with someone. I see people getting out of relationships and immediately starting to look for another person, and that either ends up in them not finding someone and feeling like there's something wrong with themselves. Also, fashion actually helped me feel more confident, too. Not saying you have to go spend all your money in new clothes, but just trying to look good might already make you feel better about yourself, and it helps, honestly. And if you get really into it, then yeah it could really help with girls (we have a fashion thread in FP which also helped me, some people there are a little harsh on their criticism sometimes though) Also, do you have a drug or alcohol problem or is it just that your friend doesn't like how much you do it?

for some reason my extremely dysfunctional family blames all their problems on me, I really can't handle this anymore. if this continues I'm probably gonna kill myself, normally I don't actually talk about my real problems but right now I'm drunk so I don't give a fuck.

[QUOTE=moffe;40100801]for some reason my extremely dysfunctional family blames all their problems on me, I really can't handle this anymore. if this continues I'm probably gonna kill myself, normally I don't actually talk about my real problems but right now I'm drunk so I don't give a fuck.[/QUOTE] If it has become a real issue, bring it up and confront them about it. Ask them why they blame you. Tell them you don't appreciate it. I experienced this issue myself up until early adulthood. Sometimes they do it jokingly, not knowing it hurts the person. Tell them its not fucking funny anymore and it really makes you upset. If they persist in their attitudes, seek another source to talk to. A therapist would be a good alternative if these suicidal thoughts come and go frequently. My personal bit here: I'd keep away from the alcohol. It'd only make tomorrow hurt more.

How the hell do you get over thinking you might have HIV along with 7000 other people because some dentist and his office/whatever decided to do some bad practices and shit, I mean I'm only 18 (19 in July), how do you deal with that? I mean it's a low chance of me getting it, especially since I only saw him once but a lot of people saw it, fucking KIDS have seen him, how do you explain that to your child?? I am sure I will probably test negative but now I'm going to go through the rest of my life wondering if maybe the test didn't work right or something and I am actually positive or whatever, I'm never gonna be considered clean. How do you tell this to a future girlfriend? "Yeah, I thought I had HIV one time" I mean really that would scare a lot of people out. Even if you tested negative and showed them and whatnot there is still always doubt and I wouldn't blame them for doubting. If I have HIV/AIDS, I'm doomed. HIV, still treatable but still bad. Negative is what I'm hoping for but if I test Hepatitis C or B positive, that'll still suck but at least I wont have HIV.

I feel absolutely terrible for the stupidest reason. My character in an RPG lacked agency and was critised for it, I got into a heated argument with the GM and left the game.

[QUOTE=Super_Nova;40102348]How the hell do you get over thinking you might have HIV along with 7000 other people because some dentist and his office/whatever decided to do some bad practices and shit, I mean I'm only 18 (19 in July), how do you deal with that? I mean it's a low chance of me getting it, especially since I only saw him once but a lot of people saw it, fucking KIDS have seen him, how do you explain that to your child?? I am sure I will probably test negative but now I'm going to go through the rest of my life wondering if maybe the test didn't work right or something and I am actually positive or whatever, I'm never gonna be considered clean. How do you tell this to a future girlfriend? "Yeah, I thought I had HIV one time" I mean really that would scare a lot of people out. Even if you tested negative and showed them and whatnot there is still always doubt and I wouldn't blame them for doubting. If I have HIV/AIDS, I'm doomed. HIV, still treatable but still bad. Negative is what I'm hoping for but if I test Hepatitis C or B positive, that'll still suck but at least I wont have HIV.[/QUOTE] There isn't a lot you can do, love. While this news sucks as it isn't even your fault, the only thing you can do is go and get tested and hope for the best. As for other people, like I said, there isn't much you can do for them. While it sounds cynical, it's better to not worry about what everyone else thinks and goes through and go about your own life. You can't influence and change everything about you, especially disease (and more power to you if it inspires you to aim for a cure), but everyone's lives are their own. You've your own to worry about. Go ahead and get tested. Nothing compels you to tell others 'Yeah I thought I had HIV, but turns out I didn't!'. I figure one only shares that information with a potential partner they care much about. You can bet that the dentist responsible is going to lose their license and get sued turbo hard for malpractice. [editline]31st March 2013[/editline] [QUOTE=DiscoInferno;40102538]I feel absolutely terrible for the stupidest reason. My character in an RPG lacked agency and was critised for it, I got into a heated argument with the GM and left the game.[/QUOTE] Someone criticizing another person's RPG character. That person really sounds like a tool. No offense if they're a friend. Don't feel too bad, since it's not exactly a life-changing issue. If you said mean things, it'd be proper to go apologize, but its your decision. In my opinion, I wouldn't let it bum me out too much. Distract yourself with other things and think of other things.

[QUOTE=Vaught;40102543]Someone criticizing another person's RPG character. That person really sounds like a tool. No offense if they're a friend. Don't feel too bad, since it's not exactly a life-changing issue. If you said mean things, it'd be proper to go apologize, but its your decision. In my opinion, I wouldn't let it bum me out too much. Distract yourself with other things and think of other things.[/QUOTE] It was the GM, and they had perfectly valid reasons against me, my character was completely at odds with the story and just had no drive, and I just suck as a player. I don't want to go though.