[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987041]Also, those wondering: I'm 26. It doesn't seem old, but anyone who grew up in the 90's knows that it was a much better time.[/QUOTE]
I'm 27. the 90's were exactly the same as today. i was the one that changed.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987041]
Also, those wondering: I'm 26. It doesn't seem old, but anyone who grew up in the 90's knows that it was a much better time.[/QUOTE]
I wasn't getting laid in the 90s.
(21 years old)
[QUOTE=thisispain;32987078]no i think the fact is you made your life suck ass and now you try to intellectualize it and excuse it by insisting it's not you it's everyone else.
sorry dude, it is you. if everything's shitty it's because you suck. if you don't like anyone and think in order to get friends you have to be a social douchebag that's just you making up excuses for being bitter and socially inept.
if you are so absolutely fine with not being social or whatever why would you be complaining and think everything sucks? you're just making excuses for yourself. the ego comes off of your post and that probably also makes you a terrible person to be around with. who the fuck abandons their friends like that? answer: a shit friend.
you're not the first one to talk that way and you are definitely not the first one to feel miserable about it when it's way too late.
[editline]26th October 2011[/editline]
hipster-hoppers don't exist they can't mingle.[/QUOTE]
They couldn't accept the fact that I didn't have as much free time anymore. Wait until you get older, again. You think you're going to be able to run all the time?
Let me explain something to you, so get ready to send boxes my way.
A high-quality social life doesn't help pay the bills. Me going out 5 times a week is NOT going to keep a roof over my head. I've had a good bit of financial trouble a few years back, as I left my parents and went out on my own when I was 20. All I had with me was my laptop and a few sets of clothes. I realized that my job wasn't paying enough, so I started doing web design. That lead to me getting enough each month to afford rent, keep basic food on the table, and clothes on my back. Meanwhile, my friends were living at home, working part time, and not doing anything with their lives. I didn't want to sit back and sponge off of my parents for years. I didn't want that at all. I wanted to be able to say I got out on my own and did it, and I did. Without a social life.
Am I angry over the fact that I have few friends outside of online friends? Yes. I wish I would have gone out more, but again, I couldn't afford it.
Not to mention, I'm rather socially awkward in real life. Every attempt I have ever made to go out and socialize in the last 2 years has fallen ass backward. People don't get my jokes, don't like what I like, so I figured that I really was meant to be forever alone.
I'm not denying the fact that most of this has to do with me, I just don't like the way the world is around me now. The world is changing but I don't want to change with it.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987140]They couldn't accept the fact that I didn't have as much free time anymore. Wait until you get older, again. You think you're going to be able to run all the time?
Let me explain something to you, so get ready to send boxes my way.
A high-quality social life doesn't help pay the bills. Me going out 5 times a week is NOT going to keep a roof over my head. I've had a good bit of financial trouble a few years back, as I left my parents and went out on my own when I was 20. All I had with me was my laptop and a few sets of clothes. I realized that my job wasn't paying enough, so I started doing web design. That lead to me getting enough each month to afford rent, keep basic food on the table, and clothes on my back. Meanwhile, my friends were living at home, working part time, and not doing anything with their lives. I didn't want to sit back and sponge off of my parents for years. I didn't want that at all. I wanted to be able to say I got out on my own and did it, and I did. Without a social life.
Am I angry over the fact that I have few friends outside of online friends? Yes. I wish I would have gone out more, but again, I couldn't afford it.
Not to mention, I'm rather socially awkward in real life. Every attempt I have ever made to go out and socialize in the last 2 years has fallen ass backward. People don't get my jokes, don't like what I like, so I figured that I really was meant to be forever alone.
I'm not denying the fact that most of this has to do with me, I just don't like the way the world is around me now. The world is changing but I don't want to change with it.[/QUOTE]
you just have to find people who are into the same stuff you are, it's hard but it'll happen. it's hard balancing college and social life but it's possible, just stick at it.
EDIT: I said college cause that's what i'm doing, but the same could apply to work too.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987140]They couldn't accept the fact that I didn't have as much free time anymore. Wait until you get older, again. You think you're going to be able to run all the time?[/QUOTE]
i make time for the people i love. it's important and prevents me from being a dickface who posts miserable things on internet forums.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987140]A high-quality social life doesn't help pay the bills.[/QUOTE]
excusing yourself once again. stop that.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987140]Am I angry over the fact that I have few friends outside of online friends? Yes. I wish I would have gone out more, but again, I couldn't afford it.[/QUOTE]
of course you can. you're just socially awkward and don't want to do it.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987140]Not to mention, I'm rather socially awkward in real life. Every attempt I have ever made to go out and socialize in the last 2 years has fallen ass backward. People don't get my jokes, don't like what I like, so I figured that I really was meant to be forever alone.
I'm not denying the fact that most of this has to do with me, I just don't like the way the world is around me now. The world is changing but I don't want to change with it.[/QUOTE]
don't sit on the internet and mope around. there's no point to being angry at all. you have to stop making excuses and get over yourself so you can get on. else you'll regret it and you only get one life so it's not a lesson learned by doing. you have to bloody try and if you don't you can't blame anyone but yourself for the situation you don't like.
[QUOTE=rundevil;32987163]you just have to find people who are into the same stuff you are, it's hard but it'll happen. it's hard balancing college and social life but it's possible, just stick at it.
EDOT: I said college cause that's what i'm doing, but the same could apply to work too.[/QUOTE]
I'm out of college now. I'm working a full-time job at a grocery store, getting about $13 an hour. I'm not going to lie and say I'm completely happy, because I'm not. I do wish there was someone out there with the same interests as me, but I've come to terms that there isn't. I've accepted that some people don't have another half in this world, so it's easier to deal with.
I hold a lot of bitterness over things now. It legitimately upsets me to see, "I don't like books." on Facebook. It upsets me when I see people constantly glued to their phones.
And contrary to what you think, thisispain, I'm not making excuses. Everything I do I've come to accept that it's the way things are. I'm not going to try to change it because after you fail so many times you realize it's just not worth the stress it puts on you.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987199]I'm out of college now. I'm working a full-time job at a grocery store, getting about $13 an hour. I'm not going to lie and say I'm completely happy, because I'm not. I do wish there was someone out there with the same interests as me, but I've come to terms that there isn't. I've accepted that some people don't have another half in this world, so it's easier to deal with.
I hold a lot of bitterness over things now. It legitimately upsets me to see, "I don't like books." on Facebook. It upsets me when I see people constantly glued to their phones.[/QUOTE]
people who existed on the internet also exist in real life you know. if you love books you have to find the people that love books. they exist, especially at your age where everyone fancies themselves as mature.
it's easier to be unhappy and mope around but it does you no good.
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987199]I'm out of college now. I'm working a full-time job at a grocery store, getting about $13 an hour. I'm not going to lie and say I'm completely happy, because I'm not. I do wish there was someone out there with the same interests as me, but I've come to terms that there isn't. I've accepted that some people don't have another half in this world, so it's easier to deal with.
I hold a lot of bitterness over things now. It legitimately upsets me to see, "I don't like books." on Facebook. It upsets me when I see people constantly glued to their phones.[/QUOTE]
I really disagree, I work (mostly voluntarily) as a booking agent for a local venue; and there's so many different groups you have to be able to find people who would would enjoy being in the company of. I grew up in an uptight suburb where everyone played football, was super school minded or you got ignored. The second I got out of high school I started going to punk shows and met TONS of people I get along with and I know call some of my closest friends.
I guess the point of this is, there has to be other people you can befriend, you just have to stick your neck out a bit. Go to an event related to a hobby or passion of yours, and then KEEP GOING. you'll meet people, I promise.
[QUOTE=thisispain;32987028]but you only like it for the cool factor which is totally BS. BBS and IRC fucking suck ass and i used to use them when there wasn't anything better.[/QUOTE]
BBSes suck I'll give you that but IRC is still the best chat protocol out there.
[QUOTE=ButtsexV3;32987266]BBSes suck I'll give you that but IRC is still the best chat protocol out there.[/QUOTE]
it's such a late-1990/early-2000's thing
[QUOTE=CrispexOps;32987199]I'm out of college now. I'm working a full-time job at a grocery store, getting about $13 an hour. I'm not going to lie and say I'm completely happy, because I'm not. I do wish there was someone out there with the same interests as me, but I've come to terms that there isn't. I've accepted that some people don't have another half in this world, so it's easier to deal with.
I hold a lot of bitterness over things now. It legitimately upsets me to see, "I don't like books." on Facebook. It upsets me when I see people constantly glued to their phones.
And contrary to what you think, thisispain, I'm not making excuses. Everything I do I've come to accept that it's the way things are. I'm not going to try to change it because after you fail so many times you realize it's just not worth the stress it puts on you.[/QUOTE]
If you're ever in Fort Collins and need someone to hang out with give me a PM.
^^^F yeah, CSU^^^
[QUOTE=Djentleman;32985543]nah old-school nerds did shit like building radios, tinkering with electronics, and getting into areas like engineering from an early age.
[/QUOTE]
I'm just about the most generic nerd you can find.
-3 full size battle bots
-a few >1Watt lasers (that's a really, really big laser)
-my own website
-half a dozen computer games
I'm 17.
...and you know what? I still have friends.
Why? It's because they're also nerds.
We have common interests.
If you don't, then it's only because you've decided for yourself that you shouldn't.
[QUOTE=rundevil;32987251]I really disagree, I work (mostly voluntarily) as a booking agent for a local venue; and there's so many different groups you have to be able to find people who would would enjoy being in the company of. I grew up in an uptight suburb where everyone played football, was super school minded or you got ignored. The second I got out of high school I started going to punk shows and met TONS of people I get along with and I know call some of my closest friends.
I guess the point of this is, there has to be other people you can befriend, you just have to stick your neck out a bit. Go to an event related to a hobby or passion of yours, and then KEEP GOING. you'll meet people, I promise.[/QUOTE]
Well. After reading through what some of you guys had to say, I finally revisited a dating site (I won't go into detail) that I signed up for ages ago. I found someone who thinks the way I did, and sent her a message. Let's hope all goes well. I had a few girlfriends previously, but it ended with them always saying I'm too focused on work. Maybe I'll be able to change some things.
I'm a nerd and I have friends that aren't socially awkward nerds in real life. I don't get the stereotypes associated with being tech savvy.
Well this thread is turning out to be Dramatic
[editline]27th October 2011[/editline]
What am I talking about it's Facepunch.
[QUOTE=Lizurd Man;32987114]I wasn't getting laid in the 90s.
(21 years old)[/QUOTE]
And you're still not getting laid.
It's a bit different for me. All of my close friends have moved away this month and I just started my first year of doing online classes just to try it out compared to Public School. It gives me more free time too. I wish I would've known they were moving before I started or I probably wouldn't have done it this year. Now I'm stuck with not many real friends to hang out with and it's basically the beginning of the school year. I plan on doing these classes and going back for next school year.
I normally talk to them online and play a few games, but it's really not the same anymore. Not sure what to do now that I don't have an easy way to meet new friends. Either way, I'm not a big social person. I like to keep my friends close.
Only three years older than me and OP thinks that makes him an "old-school nerd". I'd make that a good 20 years back to be considered and old-school nerd.
[QUOTE=thisispain;32987279]it's such a late-1990/early-2000's thing[/QUOTE]
actually it's an early 1990 thing but there's a good reason nothing has ever really replaced it. what's the next best thing, AIM chat?
19? you're pretty young
[QUOTE=chimitos;32987370]-a few >1Watt lasers (that's a really, really big laser)[/QUOTE]
all the cool cats use helium-neon lasers
ITT: If you don't agree withor like facebook or twitter You are a hipster.
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the word "Nerd" fills me with a murderous rage
[QUOTE=Zenpod;32990401]the Phrase "Nerd" fills me with a murderous rage[/QUOTE]
That's a word, not a phrase. And OP isn't a full-blown hipster but he's sharing most of the ideals that define hipster. A big one being "it's popular so I hate it."
Calling ones self "pre-facebook" is such a shallow and lazy attempt at coming off unique and brooding.
Judging people on what websites they use it stupid.
So what, I like to use Facebook to stay in touch with friends and family all over the place. Twitter is also good to see what the bands I like are up to.
I bet if you was around when the light bulb was first invented, you would be seen on the streets preaching as to why gas lanterns were better.
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