[QUOTE=Downsider;31494669]Why do you confide in Facepunch? 90% chance of getting slaughtered. You're lucky there were nice people on today, or maybe it's the way you worded it. You'll never know, but I expect your post will be bombarded with hate as the lurkers emerge from the depths.[/QUOTE]
Because i wouldn't really care, and i didn't really expect it to be this friendly either, so i guess i caught a lucky break.
[editline]3rd August 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;31494813]The part where you messed up is when you put her on a pedestal and started thinking of her as the only person who could ever be with you, even though she was too good for you.
This makes it near impossible to just ask her out like any normal person would, so you just stick with her for a year making zero moves and giving her zero reason to think you like her, or even develop any feelings for you.
No matter how much you think she is the perfect woman, she is [i]not[/i], and instead of wasting all this time wishing you could be with her, you could have simply asked her out.
The second part where you messed up is when you confessed your undying love for her and told her how long you've felt that way. That's just creepy. You could have simply asked her out. If she says no, you just act like nothing happened, and if she says yes, you would be in the [i]exact[/i] same position as you would be if the confession somehow worked out.
There's never a reason to risk it like that, it's like going all in on a shitty hand of cards in poker.
And the last thing I want to say to you, is that this might be a good thing. Now you have a little experience, and have learned (the hard way) what [i]not[/i] to do when it comes to relationships.
[editline]2nd August 2011[/editline]
Now you can go try again with someone new and this time not fuck up so much.[/QUOTE]
I know how it must've been for her,but the thing is i didn't really care is she said no, i just kind of needed an answer, it's hard to explain :)
[QUOTE=d3450;31494663]Why does the majority facepunch seem to have no luck with women?[/QUOTE] Because we're all fat gross internet nerds with weird fetishes who talk about video games?
I need to ask. What are you going to do? Be friends with her? Or forget her completely?
you should have just asked her out you dumb motherfucker
I asked my crush out to see a movie and she said maybe.
[sp]never heard from her since[/sp]
you'll get over it in a couple days
[QUOTE=SilverDragon619;31494986]I asked my crush out to see a movie and she said maybe.
[/QUOTE]
Well.. at least you know what "Maybe" from a female really means now.
It's sad, I think you should furiously masturbate to her and stalk her, when you're 18 - rape her. It will help you recover. Honestly.
[QUOTE=SilverDragon619;31494986]I asked my crush out to see a movie and she said maybe.
[sp]never heard from her since[/sp][/QUOTE]
Maybe = no
[QUOTE=Kindlinho;31494958]I need to ask. What are you going to do? Be friends with her? Or forget her completely?[/QUOTE]
I'm going home in one week where i have my cousin and friends ready for my birthday as well so i'm going to get drunk as fuck the next month, and maybe start talking with her again, and tell her i'm sorry the way i went at her, and tell her the reasons why this happened.
[QUOTE=DjPebbles;31495086]I'm going home in one week where i have my cousin and friends ready for my birthday as well so i'm going to get drunk as fuck the next month, and maybe start talking with her again, and tell her i'm sorry the way i went at her, and tell her the reasons why this happened. I'm starting to take an interest in men a lot more though[/QUOTE]
Sad truth is, reality can be so cruel. Wishing you luck dude - hope you will not have anymore problems and have a good birthday.
In my opinion just forget telling her the reasons why part. Just go with life normally. You can't force her to like you by making her feel guilty.
Unless you're in college or out of it, having a "lover of my dreams" or a "broken heart" is ridiculous. A lot of your "love" just came from hormones, as well as poor teenage judgement.
You'll be over it in a month or two and realize that persons imperfections and how immature your reasons were for loving her.
All of this means that you'll find a new, better "dream lover" when you age. So chin up, buddy.
[QUOTE=Manfred;31495154]Sad truth is, reality can be so cruel. Wishing you luck dude - hope you will not have anymore problems and have a good birthday.[/QUOTE]
Thanks a lot mate, so do i, just getting 18, so finally i can go do whatever i want when im out. If you know what i'm saying. ;]
I fucked up my first relationship with a girl so badly it ended with me trying suicide (I had been depressed more than 2 years already..) well. I ended up in mental hospital and now i'm just going on with my life again. I don't think I have been with a girl since..
[QUOTE=Rubs10;31495186]Unless you're in college or out of it, having a "lover of my dreams" or a "broken heart" is ridiculous. A lot of your "love" just came from hormones, as well as poor teenage judgement.
You'll be over it in a month or two and realize that persons imperfections and how immature your reasons were for loving her.
All of this means that you'll find a new, better "dream lover" when you age. So chin up, buddy.[/QUOTE]
In the end of my college years :)
And yes, so i hope mate ;)
Edit: Nigga broke my automerge.
At first I was like :suicide: but then I [img]http://www.facepunch.com/fp/ratings/heart.png[/img]
[QUOTE=rulssi;31495198]I fucked up my first relationship with a girl so badly it ended with me trying suicide (I had been depressed more than 2 years already..) well. I ended up in mental hospital and now i'm just going on with my life again. I don't think I have been with a girl since.. because im so lonely i have been with alot of men tho[/QUOTE]
I'm sorry to hear that, but don't worry you'll find that special someone soon. Even if it is a man, don't be lonely it just depresses you even more knowing you'll die by yourself.
[QUOTE=FalcoLombardi;31495160]In my opinion just forget telling her the reasons why part. Just go with life normally. You can't force her to like you by making her feel guilty.[/QUOTE]
Telling my reasons isn't to make her feel guilty? I know that the only reason that i really had feelings for her was because she accepted me for who i actually was, except of all the others who was cunts, and i didn't dare to tell, because i knew it would ruin my entire reputation, and it in no way would be worth it.
[QUOTE=Manfred;31495233]I'm sorry to hear that, but don't worry you'll find that special someone soon. Even if it is a man, don't be lonely it just depresses you even more knowing you'll die by yourself.[/QUOTE]
Grr, I see what you did there. Id rather be lonely than with a man. I think.. whatever life goes on and shit happens. Was stupid overreacting at the time anyway.
[QUOTE=Max of S2D;31494132]"douchebags: people who are more successful and less awkward than me in relationships"[/QUOTE]
No douchebags: constantly upsetting the girl, mooching money, and cheating on her multiple times. Also, this one is abusive and so was her last one.
Meh, I guess it's easier to date someone you can blame all your problems on.
[QUOTE=OutOfPop;31494051]The girl I like keeps playing these games with me and then going back to dating douchebags, and never even giving me a chance. I've given up completely at this point.[/QUOTE]
Sounds like you're being fucked around with cause you're not man enough to go out and find other girls.
These 'douchebags' are actively seeking girls and 'succeed' whilst you fail continuously groping onto girls who will only ever see you as a friend.
[QUOTE=OutOfPop;31495462]No douchebags: constantly upsetting the girl, mooching money, and cheating on her multiple times. Also, this one is abusive and so was her last one.
Meh, I guess it's easier to date someone you can blame all your problems on.[/QUOTE]
Just because a guy isn't constantly tiptoeing around a girl afraid to hurt her feelings, and just because he has the slightest amount of confidence doesn't make him a douchebag.
Nobody wants to date someone who is scared to do anything wrong, that's just boring.
[QUOTE=FalcoLombardi;31495056]Maybe = no[/QUOTE]
Maybe = Get lost loser
[QUOTE=DjPebbles;31493823]I had a hard time fitting in since i was a gamer.[/QUOTE]
lol
[editline]2nd August 2011[/editline]
[QUOTE=DjPebbles;31495086]i'm going to get drunk as fuck the next month, and maybe start talking with her again, and tell her i'm sorry the way i went at her, and tell her the reasons why this happened.[/QUOTE]
lol
Mate it's nothin big, it's just a case of teenage infatuation. If you fucked her I guarenteed you wouldn't feel the same way. It's not "love"
OP, smoke pot. Cures most shit.
[QUOTE=DjPebbles;31495086]I'm going home in one week where i have my cousin and friends ready for my birthday as well so i'm going to get drunk as fuck the next month, and maybe start talking with her again, and tell her i'm sorry the way i went at her, and tell her the reasons why this happened.[/QUOTE]
I'm tellin you now, don't do that
I know the feeling, brother.
Push through it, it'll make you a stronger person.
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