• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=BiigTony;35640218]Oh I left out that part, She's on her period[/QUOTE] it's blowie week
Friend zone is bullshit; been friends with girl I'm with for almost three years now, and it's awesome.
[QUOTE=Evilan;35636839]Slow Talk. You should definitely give this a shot. You basically force yourself to speak more slowly, more slowly than you would ever really talk in a normal conversation (starting out by practicing in your room alone and then moving on towards talking with people close to you). It takes 2-3 weeks to cement the idea in your mind and it takes 6-8 weeks to be able to use it spontaneously. It really helps take the edge off of approaching social situations because when you talk slower you cannot help but be more calm. Not to say you should use slow talk all the time because that would be weird, but it helps you find a healthy medium in conversation that allows you to annunciate as well as talk like a normal human being. Some of the kids in classes I was teaching last year in my first year of being a substitute told me to slow the fuck down when I was presenting, so I took there advice and did this exact thing. I never really felt anxious giving presentations, but I just naturally talked faster because I wanted to get the point across quicker, which in a way fucked over how easy it was to understand what I was saying.[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;35634812]You probably don't speak to people enough Read aloud to yourself in private if you have to, should build your speaking confidence[/QUOTE] [QUOTE=1STrandomman;35631291]What's the worst that could happen? Roll with the punches, and things will be fine.[/QUOTE] Alright, thanks for the advice. I'm just glad that now that I'm back in school, I'm finally making friends and being re-integrated.
[QUOTE=BiigTony;35640218]Oh I left out that part, She's on her period[/QUOTE] Weird that you know your friends' cycles. Go to the party, bring her, get drunk and invite her over. There's no rule that says a girl will not have sex on her period. Some find it unpleasant, some don't mind.
In the wise words of MaverickiB, time to earn those redwings!
[QUOTE=Mlisen14;35643282]Weird that you know your friends' cycles. Go to the party, bring her, get drunk and invite her over. There's no rule that says a girl will not have sex on her period. Some find it unpleasant, some don't mind.[/QUOTE] Mmm, that metallic taste... It's like licking pennies.
[QUOTE=Cow Muffins;35636811] I told her it was a meme, she said it wasn't funny just pathetic.[/QUOTE] I think she has memes down to a tee there
[QUOTE=Godline;35639454]I cant comprehend how bad some people get/are in this thread. edit- Struggle to comprehend.[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://i40.tinypic.com/2uf7d79.png[/IMG]
finally you decided to do something about that
What shit has Godline done in the past of this thread?
Fucked too many bitches
He likes to shit post. Like, nothing helpful at all.
I recently noticed this. When I talk to people, I never stammer or mumble. But when I am tet-a-tet with my girlfriend, I stammer from times to times, you know, like can't pick the decent word for what you wanted to say. What the fuck? How can I fix this nonsense?
This will probably take longer than some other methods, but consider taking choral singing classes. They teach you to over-stress all your consonants and that kind or bleeds over into how you speak. Since I started singing in my school's choir last year I've been much more confident that I'm being understood, and much more confident in my verbal communication in general.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35639160]you honestly just sound incredibly pathetic, and i'd feel bad if you actually listened to our advice or tried to change, but you just ignore us [editline]19th April 2012[/editline] anyway this is perfectly written:[/QUOTE] I'll be honest, I don't have the experience to back this up but the friend-zone seems like something men made up so they can feel victimised when the girl they're interested in doesn't return the favour. Unless it's referring to when a girl keeps a guy around for the ego boost and doesn't really value him at all. That's just called being a bitch.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35646208]This will probably take longer than some other methods, but consider taking choral singing classes. They teach you to over-stress all your consonants and that kind or bleeds over into how you speak. Since I started singing in my school's choir last year I've been much more confident that I'm being understood, and much more confident in my verbal communication in general.[/QUOTE] Ironic how my GF sings in a chorus. But I'm really not into singing. Any more options? Like, really, I speak confidently and clearly to EVERYONE but except when being with her alone. It's driving me nuts.
[QUOTE=Dark RaveN;35646451]Ironic how my GF sings in a chorus. But I'm really not into singing. Any more options? Like, really, I speak confidently and clearly to EVERYONE but except when being with her alone. It's driving me nuts.[/QUOTE] I guess that's due to the fact she actually means something to you; you are afraid to not say the right words and maybe convey something that you don't want to. Relationships (girlfriends and beyond) are about trust, you gotta sit down and start thinking why is it you feel this way. If you naturally speak confidently with people, then obviously it's something with her.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35644549]finally you decided to do something about that[/QUOTE] Has be been posting in here for a while?
yes
[QUOTE=JohnnyMo1;35648204]Has be been posting in here for a while?[/QUOTE] yeah, and people even brought it up that he wasn't allowed to (and i even pm'd you!)
Went to the club again, and got rejected so many times. I only danced with one girl because my friend said something so it was probably a pity dance. Fuck my life. Luckily my friends were getting rejected too so I don't feel too bad. Still sucks being forever alone though.
[QUOTE=thisBrad;35648703]Went to the club again, and got rejected so many times. I only danced with one girl because my friend said something so it was probably a pity dance. Fuck my life. Luckily my friends were getting rejected too so I don't feel too bad. Still sucks being forever alone though.[/QUOTE] At least you have the confidence to ask. Plus, you weren't the only one that got rejected.
[QUOTE=Blazyd;35648769]At least you have the confidence to ask. Plus, you weren't the only one that got rejected.[/QUOTE] Yeah its the only reason why I don't feel like a [I]complete[/I] loser. :v:
I wanted to commend your efforts and then I saw the rest of your post. This is how you choose to look at it; went to the club and got rejected. I only made a successful move with 1 girl, which was probably also a pity-dance. But it ain't so bad because the rest of my friends got rejected as well. FOREVER ALONE I SUCK This is how you should look at it; Went to the club, engaged a number of girls, even got a dance, while all my others friends got rejected. WHO DOES THIS??? I AM SO AWESOME. I learned a lot and I will continue to do so. How is that in any way productive to yourself, when you shoot down your own efforts? That's like me constantly saying "man I have small penis" while having sex with a woman. That's self-defeating, and you better not do the act at all until your fix this pathetic process of thought. This attitude is so embedded in to your head and your friends heads, that when they told you it was a pity dance, you openly accepted the fact. The absurd thing is, besides you accepting that comment, is that you find this a normal pattern of behavior as in "what you did was probably a lucky move, so we can't give you kudos because we feel like shit about ourselves so you should as well" You did great and you should be happy for it. The change of attitude will improve anything you'll ever do.
[QUOTE=thisBrad;35648703]Went to the club again, and got rejected so many times. I only danced with one girl because my friend said something so it was probably a pity dance. Fuck my life. Luckily my friends were getting rejected too so I don't feel too bad. Still sucks being forever alone though.[/QUOTE] Maybe the gals aren't looking for the dude who runs up to each of them one after the other like a puppy Just a thought
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35648590]yeah, and people even brought it up that he wasn't allowed to (and i even pm'd you!)[/QUOTE] I have a pm from you about the sex, girlfriends and shit thread, but not here. Sorry I haven't been following the this thread as much
oh maybe i got the threads mixed up anyway whenever anyone called him out about it he'd either get all defensive or he'd just be an ass about it like "im gonna post in here anyway screw you"
[QUOTE=Seith;35649243]I wanted to commend your efforts and then I saw the rest of your post. You did great and you should be happy for it. The change of attitude will improve anything you'll ever do.[/QUOTE] Lol, funny story actually about me being awful at clubs/picking up social cues. It was my birthday night, I had just turned 18, first night at the clubs ever. Now I love music and dancing and am quite competent at it, but it's only ever been in the context of a music festival or a house party etc as I had always been too young to go out to clubs, so I wasn't really sure of club etiquette. So we get there, feeling pretty buzzed, excited to have fun, etc etc. End up in the middle of the dance floor and I start doing my thing, unaware of the fact that this club in particular had a much more chill dance floor and the crowd generally didn't take too kindly to people swinging their arms/legs around. I get my first hint when I get a tap on the shoulder and two fat chicks put their fingers up at me and point away from the dance floor, so I respond with my own two fingers and start moving away. At this point my friend notices me and is like, "dude have fun and shit but don't try start raving in the middle of the floor, you're going to get into a fight," so he quickly pushes me to the side whilst informing me that numerous guys were staring me down as well. I continue dancing, now with much more space around me at the side of the crowd. A small circle forms around me and everyone's smiling and cheering and shit, all happy days. I notice one girl on the side looking at me and smiling so we eyeball fuck for a while, and I'm thinking, "yeah, this is definitely on." She eventually steps into the circle and starts coming towards me. Okay so right, quick recap, I've never been to a club, never properly danced with a girl, and my only experience with music events are large music festivals or house parties where dancing 'rough' is expected. K so, she steps into the circle and dances with me for a bit, but me being the fucking intoxicated, paranoid moron that I was in the moment, still feeling the vibe from the previous girls/crowd in general, thought the bitch was fucking with me. I legit thought she was mocking how I was dancing or some shit, I have no idea how I was able to miss the cue so badly. I didn't do much about it and continued to dance, until she turns around and starts straight up grinding on me. I'm only able to say this in retrospect of course, because at the time, I actually thought she was trying to push me out of the circle. With her ass. Against my dick. I don't even fucking know. So I'm like, okay fuck this bitch then, and give her a slight push off of me. She immediately spins the fuck around and is like, "Don't you DARE fucking push me you DICK!" so I yell back, "What the fuck is your problem, BITCH?!" At this point shit's about to start getting heated, just as my friend fucking swoops in again and quickly pushes me out of the circle and is like, "just fucking get out dude those guys behind her were literally just about to jump you," the whole time I'm just asking him, "why was that bitch so mad at me, shit!?" Later, he sits me down and tells me he watched the whole situation happen and that she wasn't at all trying to fuck with me and was in fact, trying to grind on me. Felt like the world's biggest retard at that point but I still had a lot of fun that night. A week later, which was last night, I went to a different club (with a better dance-floor), keeping in mind what happened on that night, and ended up dancing with one girl for a while who I knew from high school, as well as two others I met that night! So the moral of the story is, if a girl is grinding against your dick with her ass, on a dancefloor, in a club, she is PROBABLY NOT trying to make fun of you and push you out of the circle. True facts, believe it or not. Fuck, I came here to make an actual post about how my date went today and ended up writing that story lol, too tired for this shit though so I'll post tomorrow, goodnight!
Wow, you acted like a friggen asshole in pretty much every possible sense of assholery. Yelling at women, pushing people around, being obnoxious and aggressive, ignoring the good advice of your friends, and generally acting like a damn brat. Hope you've gotten your shit together since then, but considering it's only been a week, you're probably the last person I'd want to go to a club or bar with.
Uhh, you literally just picked out and exaggerated all the worst parts of the story and completely ignored the part where I said I understood what went wrong and learned from it.
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