• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=junker|154;35846744]That is great for you, but I would be like 700 km away from my ex-girlfriend (if I would be still with her today) and I could only return home for a few vacations, which would be like 5 times a year. Besides I cannot simply travel home because it is rather expensive and take to much time, I am busy having exams and studying. That is what I meant. Not being apart for a few days or weeks.[/QUOTE] i'm confused, it seemed like you were implying i'm only apart from my girlfriend a few days or weeks at a time, but i've been away for much more than that
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35851038]the one other thing is that the first nicer choice is a lot smaller and really cliquey, so if I'm trying to branch out and make friends, It's smaller with fewer people even with all my high school friends, I'm pretty sure I'd meet more people going with the second choice [editline]6th May 2012[/editline] to elaborate, I hear that some people who dorm in the first choice end up not getting along that well with the other people in the dorm, while some people get along super great and become best of friends its a hit or miss since there are fewer people[/QUOTE] Sounds to me like you've already made your decision.
uh not really, I still think the first choice looks like an awesome place to live
i'd go for the nice place if you care about that kind of stuff it really makes a difference lived 6 months with two other students in a 5 bedroom apartment - it was okay, but i couldn't stand it in the end because i didn't really like the way it looked and shiz
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35849339]"I'm not like other girls," -girls[/QUOTE] I never said I wasn't like other girls..I just said I'm weird. And I'm a 22 year old woman. Not a 15 year old.
[QUOTE=Jo The Shmo;35851038]the one other thing is that the first nicer choice is a lot smaller and really cliquey, so if I'm trying to branch out and make friends, It's smaller with fewer people even with all my high school friends, I'm pretty sure I'd meet more people going with the second choice [editline]6th May 2012[/editline] to elaborate, I hear that some people who dorm in the first choice end up not getting along that well with the other people in the dorm, while some people get along super great and become best of friends its a hit or miss since there are fewer people[/QUOTE] If it's a hit, then you've made a few really good friends. if it's a miss, then you'll have to go out and meet a lot of new people anyway. sticking with your friends from high school, especially when it's more than 2-3 people, is not the way I'd recommend starting off. you can still see them as often as you want, but you have an option to be more than that.
I know, I was just makin a joke!
well its not like I was planning on sticking only with the high school friends, I just think it would be cool to be in the same building as them the buildings are pretty huge, we probably wouldn't even be on the same floor but if I wasn't in the same building as them, I could never just drop by and say hi, I'd have to be let in by someone from that building
what tips can you give me on not overthinking things?
[QUOTE=Cactusman;35854449]what tips can you give me on not overthinking things?[/QUOTE] What an ironic request.
[QUOTE=Big Dumb American;35854644]What an ironic request.[/QUOTE] Sorry if its ironic but I'm overthinking about this girl.
I've heard someone suggest you direct your thoughts away from yourself and towards her in order to avoid awkwardly overthinking everything you do, but honestly the best thing you can do is just push forward. I'm assuming you haven't made a move, in which case stop waiting around; nothing good will come from putting it off.
hey guys so like theres this girl that i've been really really close friends with since 7th grade, and i've had crazy hardcore feelings for her for a really long time but i didnt think she felt the same way because we were just friends blah blah blah you know the deal well recently i was at her house and we was chilling and talking and shit like we normally do and oh whats this we're making out now okay i'm cool with it and now we are a couple and i'm just really fucking stoked about it and i wanted to make a post thats all dreams come true mane
[QUOTE=1STrandomman;35854756]I've heard someone suggest you direct your thoughts away from yourself and towards her in order to avoid awkwardly overthinking everything you do, but honestly the best thing you can do is just push forward. I'm assuming you haven't made a move, in which case stop waiting around; nothing good will come from putting it off.[/QUOTE] I'm going out with her but I think of the bad outcomes from our relationships, cheers.
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I used to work with a girl who liked me and we had a small thing going until she got another job and we left off kind of on a bad foot. We suddenly stopped talking and haven't talked in almost a year and today she suddenly added me on Facebook. She was pretty pissed when we stopped talking so I don't know why she randomly added me when we haven't talked in almost a year. Also, some guy came into my work who did my oil change a few months ago and was like "hey I did your oil change" and I was like "wow I'm surprised you remembered with the amount of oil changes you do" and he remembered what kind of car I had too. Anyway this guy is super chill and hes been in my store a couple more times since then. I like meeting customers that I can chat with whenever they come in
I feel really uncomfortable in just about any social situation. It takes me a while to be comfortable talking to anyone. This isn't a classic "oh I can't to girls waaah" problem, it's for just about anyone
[QUOTE=Cactusman;35854449]what tips can you give me on not overthinking things?[/QUOTE] i struggle alot with overthinking due to anxiety but my boyfriend taught me this thing where in your mind, whenever you start to overthink something, simply begin to picture a white wall don't focus on anything but the white wall it won't work if you don't focus really hard and then begin to imagine the wall slowly falling apart when you're done, simply think of something else
Guys, I'm shitting bricks here. Long story short, last semester was absolutely horrible and, being my first semester of college, didn't set me off right. This semester I have a 3.2 GPA, but I have to average 2.5 for the semester to get into the Architecture college. I'm right on the edge with a year average of 2.68 with [b]ONE FUCKING CLASS[/b] not having reported their grades yet. If that's anything below a B I'm fucked. I'm so scared.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;35859512]Guys, I'm shitting bricks here. Long story short, last semester was absolutely horrible and, being my first semester of college, didn't set me off right. This semester I have a 3.2 GPA, but I have to average 2.5 for the semester to get into the Architecture college. I'm right on the edge with a year average of 2.68 with [b]ONE FUCKING CLASS[/b] not having reported their grades yet. If that's anything below a B I'm fucked. I'm so scared.[/QUOTE] it's only fear, go with it.
Easy for you to say, I can fully feel ewitwins situation. I had the same.
[QUOTE=Seith;35859607]it's only fear, go with it.[/QUOTE] Go with it? I don't follow.
there is absolutely nothing you can do at this point. worrying won't help, being calm won't help, making futile plans won't help, just do whatever safe in the knowledge that whatever you do, it's not hurting it. if you've got something due then you feel shit jacking off and playing video games, not so now. do whatever because it doesn't matter.
I was in a similar situation. I already failed 2 classes which I can make up for in the summer but I was sure I was going to fail a 3rd class and would be fucked since I wouldn't be able to re take it and I kept worrying about it. Then I realized worrying isn't going to change the mark I receive so I might as well go with the flow and see what happens.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;35859653]Go with it? I don't follow.[/QUOTE] Your fear is reasonable. If you keep resisting it, the faith that [b]might[/b] happen, you will just cause yourself additional pain. I never said it was easier, but the reality is thought = emotions; your emotions are driven from thought and your thought is driven by emotions.
[QUOTE=Devodiere;35859680]there is absolutely nothing you can do at this point. worrying won't help, being calm won't help, making futile plans won't help, just do whatever safe in the knowledge that whatever you do, it's not hurting it. if you've got something due then you feel shit jacking off and playing video games, not so now. do whatever because it doesn't matter.[/QUOTE] His potential future depends on this, one might say "yeah, chill!" but this is far more serious than anything. If you do not feel any fear, then you good for you. But then you aberrate from most people. Although he should chill down a bit, there is not much that one can do after the exam has been written. But fear is fairly normal.
[QUOTE=junker|154;35859765]His potential future depends on this, one might say "yeah, chill!" but this is far more serious than anything. If you do not feel any fear, then you good for you. But then you aberrate from most people. Although he should chill down a bit, there is not much that one can do after the exam has been written. But fear is fairly normal.[/QUOTE] never said it wasn't natural to feel fear, but it's not gonna help or hurt, no need to feel obligated to be scared. if anything i'd say feel fear, let it happen, don't just shut down. if only because it'll let it pass and he can move on to other things while waiting.
I think I'm going to try and sort out some other issues and keep as distracted and busy as possible, at least until grades are posted.
[QUOTE=ewitwins;35859797]I think I'm going to try and sort out some other issues and keep as distracted and busy as possible, at least until grades are posted.[/QUOTE] How did you do in the class? Is it too late to bribe the teacher?
[QUOTE=kevaughan;35849529]So here's some drama I was just informed of since I've been away for university for the past year. There's this dude I [b]knew[/b]... Lets just call him John. First day of school at a new place so called university for him and all that jazz, it was a new experience. He only knew this girl from way back during highschool and that's the only girl he's been accustomed from being around. He's shy and nervous around all other girls thus in terms of his social performance around them, he sure is lacking. John and his bestfriend Kimi meet this girl new girl Emily and from there on Kimi promised to help John to score this new found friend since she is both friends with John and Kimi it should be easy Kimi says... it'll be fun. The dates go on and John's pretty much got this in the bag with the girl. The two of them make an odd couple not gonna lie. It's like seeing a 10 out of 10 girl with a guy that looks like he can only score a 3/10. Eventually (here's the tricky part) someone fucks up. John and Kimi kiss. She says she made the first move but John insists that he's got them both at his knees and says he made her. I guess John's on some kind of power trip right about now. John and Emily become distant and at this point she's looking like some crazy girl friend to everyone else but anyone that was in on the drama knew she was simply fighting for who she loved. She knew no body and basically had no body other than Kimi and John. John and Kimi are basically like fuck buddies at this point and Kimi's excuse for all the hookups sounds something like "special training" cause he was really shy and nervous around girls and Kimi was basically like "use me, practice on me before u do anything with Emily". This goes on for a few weeks but everyone is thinking Kimi and John are now going out. When ever Emily was asked what the fuck was going on she would insist that she was still dating John. One day all hell broke loose. Kimi's bestfriend, Sarah (she's a really small and tiny girl) confronts John and is like "what the fuck are you doing man! wheeling two girls at the same fucking time?". She tries to sort shit out between John, Kimi, and Emily. Though being Kimi's bestfriend, she was biased and wanted John to dump Emily for Kimi. Eventually that happened. But Sarah and John ended up hooking up on the night before she moved away to Europe. That night was crazy. John was feel asleep after work and apparently Sarah kissed him on the lips when he was out cold. When that happened, Emily caught her in the act. So now it is this giant polygon of love. What made it even worse is John and his childhood friend from elementary school was in town for an entire week for some festival right, and she's had a crush on him for the longest time. But John has never viewed this girl as a woman. John being a worker at the fair was taking a break when she approached him and they hung out to catch up and talk and what not. They ended up doing it in a gym storage locker. There was a point in all this where everyone knew what everyone else was doing. John went from that wimp kid that couldn't even talk to girls to being a huge player. I forgot to mention. He also did his "broski's" girl after she went over to his place for some advice on their relationship. So much for Bro code eh?[/QUOTE] I don't know why, but this made me laugh so much This guy you "Knew" is a complete idiot and should realise that this is all going to blow up in his face and he's going to be left with nothing. Tell him to make up his mind and the pick the girl he likes the most before she's gone
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