• The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=Elements;35849367]I'm asking a girl to prom soon. Is it creepy if I make it treasure-hunt-ish by having little "notes" placed that say like "Eat Breakfast", "Go to Biology", "Enjoy Lunch", etc. etc. about various things she does throughout the day, and then have the last one be "Dig a hole in the sandbox" (the Prom theme is "Down the Rabbit's Hole (alice in wonderland)), where it says something like "Turn Around" and I'll be holding one that says "Say Yes?" and a flower?[/QUOTE] I laughed myself into a coughing fit over this post
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[QUOTE=ewitwins;35859797]I think I'm going to try and sort out some other issues and keep as distracted and busy as possible, at least until grades are posted.[/QUOTE] Well, If worst comes to worst and you don't make it into the college this time around, just remember that there's always next semester/year. Just keep at it and if it's the college you want to go to, work with them at what goals need to be accomplished to get there. You'll get there eventually. My college course work is all kinds of messed up right now. Mostly holding off transferring someplace else for medical reasons (need to get some costly stuff done that I wouldn't be able to deal with on my own, so I'm staying home until its taken care of) So right Now I'm just attending community college. I know what it feels like to miss the mark but you'll get where you want eventually if you just keep at it. Knowledge isn't a race. You've done what you can right now, so just sit back and take your mind off it. If you didn't get the grades you wanted, take the class again. A college will look at your transcripts and see that you took another shot at it (and hopefully got a better grade) and see that in a positive light. It'll show them that you want it. My first year of college [i]sucked[/i].
Welp, so it turns out that the girl I had dated and went prom with (unsurprisingly) was likely dating me purely so she could get a date to prom. While I was aware this was a possibility, hearing it confirmed has severely pissed me off in the worst way possible. At the moment, I simply left a message on her phone (she's been ignoring me) and told her that we needed to talk. Because even if it's true, I want to hear it from her, I'm not that idiotic. This is the second time I've done this. I'm pretty close to flying off the handle. Both the second time I've been in this situation, and the second time I've left a message telling her that we needed to talk. Fuck high school right now.
[QUOTE=OvB;35863777]Well, If worst comes to worst and you don't make it into the college this time around, just remember that there's always next semester/year. Just keep at it and if it's the college you want to go to, work with them at what goals need to be accomplished to get there. You'll get there eventually. My college course work is all kinds of messed up right now. Mostly holding off transferring someplace else for medical reasons (need to get some costly stuff done that I wouldn't be able to deal with on my own, so I'm staying home until its taken care of) So right Now I'm just attending community college. I know what it feels like to miss the mark but you'll get where you want eventually if you just keep at it. Knowledge isn't a race. You've done what you can right now, so just sit back and take your mind off it. If you didn't get the grades you wanted, take the class again. A college will look at your transcripts and see that you took another shot at it (and hopefully got a better grade) and see that in a positive light. It'll show them that you want it. My first year of college [i]sucked[/i].[/QUOTE] I'm definitely starting to think that freshman year needs to be readjusted in colleges in general to provide more support for students and to help them develop a routine for studying and working. I was essentially groping blindly in the dark for how to study for half of my fucking classes. They say that what you learned in high school will carry over, but it's bullshit.
While you keep contemplating on whether or not life/college is fair, while you invest so much of your time doing that, invest 1/10 of it in actually realizing how awesome you are and the effort you gave even though you blindly went through the dark and knew shit when you first got into college.
Fuck, I'm depressed right now. I want to find out if I even have a chance with the girl I mentioned earlier. I don't want to annoy her, though. The possibility that I even have a chance is what keeps me going every day. If I don't, I'm not sure what to do.
[QUOTE=Walker Black;35866053]Fuck, I'm depressed right now. I want to find out if I even have a chance with the girl I mentioned earlier. I don't want to annoy her, though. The possibility that I even have a chance is what keeps me going every day. If I don't, I'm not sure what to do.[/QUOTE] Let me ask you a couple questions: what's better, beating yourself up over the [i]possibility[/i] of a relationship, or accepting rejection and finding someone else? Secondly, are you willing to risk your friendship over this?
So there is this friend i have, she is a girl that sometimes wants to talk to me and sometimes rather talk to her other friends. I want to talk to her more, it even got to the point where i have to force her to talk to me which i really hate to do that. I only talk to her in one class. We had this one conversation outside of our school, it started off with me starting it off and we talked one minute then she had to go, which looked strange. I really need your help facepunch.
Ever think about asking her out? Worst case scenario she says no. [editline]7th May 2012[/editline] 1000 post celebration time
[QUOTE=Jacinth;35868897]Ever think about asking her out? Worst case scenario she says no. [editline]7th May 2012[/editline] 1000 post celebration time[/QUOTE] She already has a boyfriend so that's out of the question.
I don't get what your issue is.
[QUOTE=GoldenGnome;35869651]I don't get what your issue is.[/QUOTE] I think he wants to talk to her more.
[QUOTE=Jacinth;35869781]I think he wants to talk to her more.[/QUOTE] Exactly but sometimes she just wants to talk to other people while im right next to her I just don't get it.
[QUOTE=doomevil;35869799]Exactly but sometimes she just wants to talk to other people while im right next to her I just don't get it.[/QUOTE] So? I like talking to other people too. Am I missing something? Pull more people into the conversation, it makes it way easier to talk with a bunch of people over one on one.
OH HOLY CRAP [img]http://s14.postimage.org/ksutszqyp/ohthankbabyjesusnowaitididthis.png[/img] BIGGEST RELIEF EVER. If you haven't read the thread earlier, I needed a 2.5 or above to live. I could cry right now. Biggest fucking thing lifted off my shoulders. If I lose scholarship it's not that big a deal because I didn't get much and I can pay my parent's the difference. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] BLERGH
[editline]8th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=ewitwins;35870367]OH HOLY CRAP [IMG]http://s14.postimage.org/ksutszqyp/ohthankbabyjesusnowaitididthis.png[/IMG] BIGGEST RELIEF EVER. If you haven't read the thread earlier, I needed a 2.5 or above to live. I could cry right now. Biggest fucking thing lifted off my shoulders. If I lose scholarship it's not that big a deal because I didn't get much and I can pay my parent's the difference. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] BLERGH[/QUOTE] [IMG]http://i47.tinypic.com/s58r2w.jpg[/IMG]
I work with a girl who really likes me and we ran into each other at the club the other night and were both extremely drunk and we ended up having sex. I'm not interested in her at all but she suddenly became almost obsessed with me and she just asked if I have any interest in her. I don't know what to say without hurting her feelings.
Asking if you are interested in her is an obsessive behavior? You don't how to not hurt her... because you yourself are not comfortable enough to just say it. This is not you being considerate, but you trying to make yourself feel better. Tell it to her face and stop acting like a victim, because she certainly isn't, so stop making her one.
I'm not trying to act like a victim. I'm trying not to hurt someone's feelings, I guess that's arrogant. My bad [editline]ewf[/editline] And asking if I'm interested is not obsessive behaviour, its normal human behaviour. I don't know where you got that idea
[QUOTE=thisBrad;35871421]I'm not trying to act like a victim. I'm trying not to hurt someone's feelings, I guess that's arrogant. My bad [editline]ewf[/editline] And asking if I'm interested is not obsessive behaviour, its normal human behaviour. I don't know where you got that idea[/QUOTE] Arrogance has nothing to do with it. Ask yourself this; why is it important for you to not hurt her feelings?
Because I'm a sensible person and don't like hurting people. Not sure why that's so hard to understand
[QUOTE=thisBrad;35871487]Because I'm a sensible person and don't like hurting people. Not sure why that's so hard to understand[/QUOTE] Good for you, but that's completely unrelated to HOW YOU FEEL but rather to HOW YOU SHOULD FEEL. Answer my question - why is it so important to [i]you[/i], not why it should be important to you.
[QUOTE=thisBrad;35870943]I work with a girl who really likes me and we ran into each other at the club the other night and were both extremely drunk and we ended up having sex. I'm not interested in her at all but she suddenly became almost obsessed with me and she just asked if I have any interest in her. I don't know what to say without hurting her feelings.[/QUOTE] Just tell it to her straight. Don't be blunt, but be honest. You were drunk (although I'd avoid calling it a "mistake" because she might take that wrong) and that you don't aren't interested in her romantically. If she's an adult she will understand the powers of alcohol and the things a drunk person is capable of. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=thisBrad;35871487]Because I'm a sensible person and don't like hurting people. Not sure why that's so hard to understand[/QUOTE] On that note, if she's a sensible person she'll get over it. Also, as Seith said, you need to do what's best for you. The longer you drag this thing out, the closer you are to hurting her.
I just told you why it's important to me. I don't like hurting people's feelings. Doing so would make me feel bad for hurting them. If I was in their position I wouldn't want my feelings hurt either. I don't understand why you are questioning this. It should be obvious why people don't like hurting other peoples feelings unless you are extremely inconsiderate. [editline].[/editline] Thanks ewitwins Luckily we both admitted that we were drunk and it was a mistake. I've seen this girl get rejected from other guys and she had a hard time but she did get over it. I guess I'll just have to tell her and see what happens. I guess my original question was how can I say it without being blunt?
Honestly, we can't put words in your mouth. We can guide you to the right idea, but in the end you have to word it yourself <:I
"i think you're a great girl but i think its better for both of us if we stay friends" boom
Damn it BlazeFresh we're trying to help people grow here not hand them a "For Dummies" book :v: J/k pretty much what he said, but in your own words.
[QUOTE=BlazeFresh;35871561]"i think you're a great girl but i think its better for both of us if we stay friends" boom[/QUOTE] Pathetic. Here's why; "I think" ; You know what's good for her, yet you give her exactly the opposite of what she wants to hear? Stop being hypocritical. "You're great" ; So that's why you want us to be only friends... Again, stop being hypocritical, it's borderline idiotic. "It's better for the both us to stay friends" ; How is it better??? The only reason I can think off is because you are an ass. This isn't aimed at BlazeFresh, I am only analyzing how absurd that sentence is yet most people choose to use it. The reason I dislike these kind of "kind gestures" is because everybody uses them, suggesting there are no real emotions involved. In fact, it shows exactly the opposite of a person who is sincere and caring for the people around him. [editline]8th May 2012[/editline] [QUOTE=thisBrad;35871526]I just told you why it's important to me. I don't like hurting people's feelings. Doing so would make me feel bad for hurting them. If I was in their position I wouldn't want my feelings hurt either. I don't understand why you are questioning this. It should be obvious why people don't like hurting other peoples feelings unless you are extremely inconsiderate. [editline].[/editline] Thanks ewitwins Luckily we both admitted that we were drunk and it was a mistake. I've seen this girl get rejected from other guys and she had a hard time but she did get over it. I guess I'll just have to tell her and see what happens. I guess my original question was how can I say it without being blunt?[/QUOTE] "How can I say this without being blunt?" is basically "How can I say this without feeling bad?". Did I assume correctly? I'll ask this another way; Why are you afraid of being blunt?
[QUOTE=Seith;35871640]Pathetic. Here's why; "I think" ; You know what's good for her, yet you give her exactly the opposite of what she wants to hear? Stop being hypocritical. "You're great" ; So that's why you want us to be only friends... Again, stop being hypocritical, it's borderline idiotic. "It's better for the both us to stay friends" ; How is it better??? The only reason I can think off is because you are an ass. This isn't aimed at BlazeFresh, I am only analyzing how absurd that sentence is yet most people choose to use it. I'll elaborate further on the subject in 20 mins.[/QUOTE] "I think", as an opinion, entirely subjective, other people may or may not think the same. "You're great", just because people aren't potential love interests, it doesn't necessarily mean they suck and you want to make them know that. "It's better for the both of us to stay friends", sure, this line makes no sense.
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