The Super Friendly Social and Love Advice Thread v3 - February
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[QUOTE=MakoSkyDub;35888991]I wouldn't even be friends with someone who was religious
That shit is just ignorant[/QUOTE]
wow
[editline]9th May 2012[/editline]
i dunno what religious people are like where you guys live but i went to secondary school with a few people who were pretty staunch protestants and i grew up with those guys and girls for 7 years and i never knew they were religious; they went out and got drunk and had fun just like most other people i knew
i have a very close friend who is a pretty staunch prod but you'd never know. he has never brought up his beliefs or talked to me about religion. actually, i'm not even sure how i found how he's religious in the first place. the only time it ever seems to be mentioned is when people light-heartedly take the piss out of him for it (wait. what's that? it's the atheists who are always being mildly confrontational about someone's beliefs... but not the religious guy? yep that's always what i've seen in my life other than on internet forums)
my grandad goes to church every sunday, sometimes other days of the week. tbh i think it's just a social thing for him because he'd be bored and barely talk to anyone else if he didn't (he gets out of the house very little; he's 86 i think and his legs are bad). if i tell people my grandad is catholic they assume he's a conservative nutjob but he's actually one of the most liberal people i know; he really doesn't read much more into christianity than believing that he should be a fundamentally good person by being nice to others and accepting the beliefs of others. i don't have to keep my relationships or my sex before marriage or my gay friends or anything like that a secret from him. he's the most catholic but also one of the most liberal people i know
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35888946]yeah. the difference is a passive cult, or an aggressive cult.
[editline]10th May 2012[/editline]
they still get together and mindlessly worship an omnipotent being and eat crackers
but we dont have to get into that
[editline]10th May 2012[/editline]
seriously, what the fuck? girl you got some problems
why is every one of your exes abusive
the common denominator is you. you probably hate yourself and are subconsciously attracted to men who mistreat you
or something. because it's not possible to just be that unlucky.[/QUOTE]
wow. thanks a lot.
[editline]9th May 2012[/editline]
I'm actually very nice IRL and try to make everyone happy, but I guess I hate myself so much that I let people walk all over me. You've got me so figured out!
[QUOTE=HookerVomit;35889840]wow. thanks a lot.
[editline]9th May 2012[/editline]
I'm actually very nice IRL and try to make everyone happy, but I guess I hate myself so much that I let people walk all over me. You've got me so figured out![/QUOTE]
i dunno it seems like he hit a nerve
I mean he's right, with your track record of abusive exes, there's one thing that was present in every one of your relationships, and that's you
whatever the problem is, if one exists, it's subconscious, that's why it's not immediately obvious
[QUOTE=Rusty100;35888946]seriously, what the fuck? girl you got some problems
why is every one of your exes abusive
the common denominator is you. you probably hate yourself and are subconsciously attracted to men who mistreat you
or something. because it's not possible to just be that unlucky.[/QUOTE]
i'd say 2 abusive partners could easily be bad luck?? or are there more i dunno the whole story
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35889936]i'd say 2 abusive partners could easily be bad luck?? or are there more i dunno the whole story[/QUOTE]
I've only had two guys to do that to me.
[editline]9th May 2012[/editline]
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35889935]i dunno it seems like he hit a nerve
I mean he's right, with your track record of abusive exes, there's one thing that was present in every one of your relationships, and that's you
whatever the problem is, if one exists, it's subconscious, that's why it's not immediately obvious[/QUOTE]
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i'm just saying it's a possibility and you shouldn't rule it out so quickly
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35890074]i'm just saying it's a possibility and you shouldn't rule it out so quickly[/QUOTE]
I do love getting abused. When I'm in the heat of the moment of casual sex and his angry cock is staring at me, I love when the guy chokes me and slams me hard into a wall and slaps my ass so hard that I bleed. Oh, and when he calls me a filthy whore and smushes my face head first into the floor and rams his dick in me. Bruising the fuck out of my skin, I love it.
I'm having a speech this friday and I'm so nervous. As a bonus, it keeps me from finishing it. :(
I had once a speech infront of like 700 people, with spotlights in my face, everyone was looking at me. I had to present a social project that a few classmates and I did. It was so fucking nervous, believe me. I had to know my speech by heart and it was like 10 minutes or so.
But when I stood there, the spotlights were so bright that I could not even notice the crowd, I spoke in the mic and everything went fine. Just do not try to rush the words out. Be calm and such, yes easy to say but there is not much that you can change.
[QUOTE=HookerVomit;35890124]I do love getting abused. When I'm in the heat of the moment of casual sex and his angry cock is staring at me, I love when the guy chokes me and slams me hard into a wall and slaps my ass so hard that I bleed. Oh, and when he calls me a filthy whore and smushes my face head first into the floor and rams his dick in me. Bruising the fuck out of my skin, I love it.[/QUOTE]
something tells me you don't understand the words "subconscious" or "possibility"
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35890195]something tells me you don't understand the words "subconscious" or "possibility"[/QUOTE]
I do. I'm just ignoring you.
A better argument would be that it is insane to even bother drawing such conclusions on incomplete anecdotal evidence.
It is just as insane as claiming you know EXACTLY why breivik did what he did because you read a tabloid article.
Anyway I need some advice on how to stop being a hermit.
To sum up my life story quite quickly I have not had acquaintances in my town in 4 years I know absolutely nobody.
While I have a couple of friends at school it is 40KM away and to be frank we don't have much in common.
It probably doesn't help that I don't have anyway to be contacted really as I pretty much only have my email account.
My only two hobbies are video games and weightlifting but I am losing interest in both of them and aren't really useful for getting to know anybody.
So how should I go about changing this?
To say religious people are generally different to non religious people is ignorant, my friendship group consists of mostly non-religious people, but we have a fair few Christians, Buddists, Sikh and Pagans and we all get on well, generally ignoring each others personal beliefs. I'm non religious myself, but it helps in life generally to respect peoples beliefs.
I seriously struggle to see how you guys can tolerate anything, not having religious friends? Bit unfair don't you think?
we had a formal debate about religion vs. cults in my psychology class
cults are interesting
[QUOTE=Murky42;35890776]A better argument would be that it is insane to even bother drawing such conclusions on incomplete anecdotal evidence.
It is just as insane as claiming you know EXACTLY why breivik did what he did because you read a tabloid article.
Anyway I need some advice on how to stop being a hermit.
To sum up my life story quite quickly I have not had acquaintances in my town in 4 years I know absolutely nobody.
While I have a couple of friends at school it is 40KM away and to be frank we don't have much in common.
It probably doesn't help that I don't have anyway to be contacted really as I pretty much only have my email account.
My only two hobbies are video games and weightlifting but I am losing interest in both of them and aren't really useful for getting to know anybody.
So how should I go about changing this?[/QUOTE]
If you're at school, volunteer. Also if you can get a job, that's a good way to get to know some people by seeing them every day.
[QUOTE=Murky42;35890776]A better argument would be that it is insane to even bother drawing such conclusions on incomplete anecdotal evidence.
It is just as insane as claiming you know EXACTLY why breivik did what he did because you read a tabloid article.
Anyway I need some advice on how to stop being a hermit.
To sum up my life story quite quickly I have not had acquaintances in my town in 4 years I know absolutely nobody.
While I have a couple of friends at school it is 40KM away and to be frank we don't have much in common.
It probably doesn't help that I don't have anyway to be contacted really as I pretty much only have my email account.
My only two hobbies are video games and weightlifting but I am losing interest in both of them and aren't really useful for getting to know anybody.
So how should I go about changing this?[/QUOTE]
Start talking to people in your classes or work even if you think they're assholes/don't have anything in common. People know people and one connection can lead you to an excuse to talk to hundreds of different people, and you can build a friendship group that way.
It's wierd how some people think having religious friends is so bad. two of my best friends are Christians. The go to church every week pray etc. I have actually gone to church after being invited and such and it is very interesting. Even though they invited me they never forced it on me. I'v have since stopped going because i got bored but it is very interesting to learn what they believe and why they believe it even if you don't believe it yourself. By doing this you can be more tolerent and understand why they act that way.
TLDR: Church friends provide different ways of thinking and being tolerant.
i'm an atheist and really despise religion, but i hate the beliefs, not the believer. i don't isolate people based on their religion, i generally isolate people for being stupid, which seems to be more prevalent in more religious people. i wouldn't go ahead and generalize all christians that way however, my best friend here at tech school is very Christian, but he's also a cynical asshole like myself and is very smart, so we get along pretty well.
[editline]9th May 2012[/editline]
i wouldnt date a religious girl though.
i think we've sufficiently proven how poorly people get along when the issue is brought up. not for any prejudicial reasons, but because of this shit, is why atheists and religious people often aren't together.
I convinced a girl I dated a long time ago to drop her religion and forget about her family traditions.
for some reason some people who stop being religious suddenly realize they're not straight either.
[QUOTE=HookerVomit;35890124]I do love getting abused. When I'm in the heat of the moment of casual sex and his angry cock is staring at me, I love when the guy chokes me and slams me hard into a wall and slaps my ass so hard that I bleed. Oh, and when he calls me a filthy whore and smushes my face head first into the floor and rams his dick in me. Bruising the fuck out of my skin, I love it.[/QUOTE]
What's with throwing shock tactics back at someone who was only trying to help
I mean yeah, I'm sure we all empathise with you about how horrible an abusive partner is, but the issue is more your choice of being with guys like that in the first place
Unless it was completely out of the blue and they were cool beforehand, then you're just unlucky I guess
[QUOTE=HookerVomit;35890124]I do love getting abused. When I'm in the heat of the moment of casual sex and his angry cock is staring at me, I love when the guy chokes me and slams me hard into a wall and slaps my ass so hard that I bleed. Oh, and when he calls me a filthy whore and smushes my face head first into the floor and rams his dick in me. Bruising the fuck out of my skin, I love it.[/QUOTE]
"his angry cock"
how can a penis be angry hookie
[QUOTE=thisispain;35895731]I convinced a girl I dated a long time ago to drop her religion and forget about her family traditions.
for some reason some people who stop being religious suddenly realize they're not straight either.[/QUOTE]
This is something that ive seen happen before ( a lot actually).
Freshmen year, i sat next to this guy ive known since 6th grade, he was extremely christian and he knew i was atheist and he kept asking me about why i was atheist. We had religious banters, nothing that was out of control or offensive, I mostly just pointed out incongruence and the dogma of Christianity. He usually had nothing to refute with. Freshmen year rolls by, next year he denounces his religion out of nowhere, and says he is gay, and starts wearing dressings and posting pictures on facebook, diving deep into his homosexuality.
He said that our bantering was a big decision in him thinking twice about his religion. I don't know how i should feel about this. The guy was more relaxed back then. Now he's pissy all the time, bitching about every religion, and how they're "oppressive" and calling straight people "straighties" in an angry fashion...
Ok, need some ideas here:
Going to hang with my prom date on friday, I'm not sure what we're going to other then the fact we are going to go walk in this HUGE park. Shes pretty open to everything, as am I.
[QUOTE=ChestyMcGee;35889619]wow
[editline]9th May 2012[/editline]
i dunno what religious people are like where you guys live but i went to secondary school with a few people who were pretty staunch protestants and i grew up with those guys and girls for 7 years and i never knew they were religious; they went out and got drunk and had fun just like most other people i knew
i have a very close friend who is a pretty staunch prod but you'd never know. he has never brought up his beliefs or talked to me about religion. actually, i'm not even sure how i found how he's religious in the first place. the only time it ever seems to be mentioned is when people light-heartedly take the piss out of him for it (wait. what's that? it's the atheists who are always being mildly confrontational about someone's beliefs... but not the religious guy? yep that's always what i've seen in my life other than on internet forums)
my grandad goes to church every sunday, sometimes other days of the week. tbh i think it's just a social thing for him because he'd be bored and barely talk to anyone else if he didn't (he gets out of the house very little; he's 86 i think and his legs are bad). if i tell people my grandad is catholic they assume he's a conservative nutjob but he's actually one of the most liberal people i know; he really doesn't read much more into christianity than believing that he should be a fundamentally good person by being nice to others and accepting the beliefs of others. i don't have to keep my relationships or my sex before marriage or my gay friends or anything like that a secret from him. he's the most catholic but also one of the most liberal people i know[/QUOTE]
Most people where I grew up were the same, non-practicing catholics, most of whom were agnostic anyway. I still can't respect someone who won't use their head for five minutes and would rather just sheep along with everyone else in their society. It's a huge joke.
Why wouldn't it be the atheists who get prickly about it? I don't see why it would be the religious people, they don't have a fucking leg to stand on. I'm sure they get along best by avoiding thinking about it as much as possible.
I have a friend who goes to youth church as a social thing, even though he conceded to atheism after I talked to him about actual beliefs for like ten minutes. I feel pretty bad for him actually, church is like his entire social circle, so he's pretending to be a devout christian the whole time (religious "casuals" don't go to this youth church thing, I've met some of his church friends and they're horrendous, it really is like a christian cult)
Also I'm absolutely fine with someone practicing religious [i]values[/i]. The problem is the people that take all the metaphors and fables literally. People who go to church and think they're talking to an omnipotent superbeing. Who think that everything is where it is because a "higher power" put it there. It's archaic and fucking childish. The human race has been aware of its origins and how more or less every element of the world around them functions and comprises a whole for many generations. There's no sense in living by fiction anymore. Back when various religions were conceived, it was understandable. People weren't ignorant by choice then, it was just the status quo and deities provided answers. Not that it was a good idea since an ideology like that is so easily abused, as history demonstrates. But now? In the 21st century? The answers are right there on wikipedia. It's ludicrous to think that informed and educated people will still choose ignorance rather than deviate from those around them. It's that kind of mentality that allows things like the holocaust to occur. Religion is outmoded, a holdover from a former age, and in my opinion it has far more potential for harm than good.
when did I stumble into mass debate
[QUOTE=areolop;35896085]Ok, need some ideas here:
Going to hang with my prom date on friday, I'm not sure what we're going to other then the fact we are going to go walk in this HUGE park. Shes pretty open to everything, as am I.[/QUOTE]
When's prom?
[QUOTE=Protocol7;35896205]When's prom?[/QUOTE]
26
[QUOTE=areolop;35896268]26[/QUOTE]
Ah, so a dinner might be out of the question (until a later date of course). Something fun then, is that what you're looking for?
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